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GERALD STECHLER Obituary

STECHLER--Dr. Gerry, died peacefully at home on December 18 after a courageous battle with cancer. Born in New York City in 1928, Gerry graduated from the Bronx High School of Science, University of Chicago, Columbia University (Phi Beta Kappa), and Yale University (Ph.D., Psychology). His career spanned almost 60 years as a researcher, clinician, teacher, and theoretical analyst, with special interests in infant development, the integration of psychoanalysis and family systems, therapist's affects, and couple and family therapy. In 1964 he published a game-changing article in Science showing how anesthesia (specifically ether) given to mothers in the delivery room reduced the newborns' ability to attend to stimuli. The practice of using ether soon stopped. Dr. Stechler was at Boston University School of Medicine for his entire career, as Professor of Psychiatry since 1968, Chairman of the Department of Child Psychiatry for 11 years, and Director of Child and Adolescent Services at Charles River Hospital in Wellesley in the 1980s. He helped to found the Massachusetts Institute for Psychoanalysis and the Psychoanalytic Couple and Family Institute of New England; and was an active member of Division 39 of the American Psychological Association, Couple and Family Therapy and Psychoanalysis. He was a founding member of Temple Emunah in Lexington, MA and served as its second president. Gerry is survived by his wife Toni (Halton) Stechler; daughters Amy Stechler (Bill Patterson) and Nancy Stechler Gawle (Peter); grandchildren Sarah Burns (David McMahon), Lilly Burns, Julia Gawle, and Adam Gawle; great-granddaughter Lyla Quinn McMahon; sister Mildred (Israel) Wolkow; and many nieces and nephews. His first wife Ellen died in 1977. In lieu of flowers, remembrances may be made to Temple Emunah, 9 Piper Rd, Lexington MA 02421.

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Published by New York Times from Dec. 19 to Dec. 20, 2013.

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Bernie Levine

September 27, 2014

Just learned of Gerry's death. What a terrible loss. My most heartfelt condolence to his family, friends and colleagues .
He was such a mensch, kind, warm, funny, down to earth, and a fellow psychologist whom I admired immensely and respected deeply. We went back as far as his arrival at Mass Memorial to work with Dr. Pav.
Goodbye, Gerry.

Dennis Debiak

January 18, 2014

Dear Toni,

I'm at the Division 39 Board meeting right now, and I'm thinking of Gerry and you. I'm also remembering our panel with Deborah Luepnitz at APA years ago.

Gerry was an inspiration to me and I appreciated learning from and working with both him and you.

I'm sending you and your family my deepest sympathies and a big hug.

December 24, 2013

Toni:

I just learned of Gerry's death. My thoughts and condolences are with you. I can share your feelings of grief. Judy and I and you and Gerry all had wonderful times together teaching in Florida. Now Gerry and Judy are both gone.

I am so sorry.
Carl Salzman

May 2008 BIPSI

Sonya Kurzweil

December 23, 2013

Gerry is truly irreplaceable. He healed. He taught. He inspired. I feel blessed to have benefited, like so many others, from his supervision and mentorship, his humor and loyalty, his scientific and scholarly work.

In my last correspondence with Gerry summer 2012, in response to my asking, he shared in an email: “I 'm working hard on recovery, but it's a long way to go.” We may take comfort, that struggle is over and he is resting peacefully.

Laura Mirsky

December 22, 2013

I will always remember Gerry with great fondness for his kindness, wisdom and humor. Gerry and my dad, Allan, worked together at B.U. Med. School, and the Stechlers and Mirskys were inseparable when the kids were growing up in Lexington in the sixties and seventies. We shared everything from Chinese food to sailboats. I will miss him always. Love, Laura

Clo Swidler

December 20, 2013

Gerry was a mentor personally and professionally at Charles River and Community Care........may his memory be a blessing

Victoria Tane

December 20, 2013

I'll miss him -- his kindness, brilliance, humor, and wisdom.

December 20, 2013

Toni and Family:

My dad, Jack Karmazin, and I want to express our deepest sympathies. Gerry was a great man.

Michele Karmazin

Kevin Harding

December 20, 2013

I'll remember Gerry as a man of great kindness and wisdom.

Richard Kadison

December 19, 2013

Gerry,
You epitomized the ideal of a great teacher, a great therapist, and a kind soul. You were a wonderful mentor to me and so many of my peers when we met more than 30 years ago. Thank you for your patience, warmth, and insight. It has been a privilege to have known you.

ted and toni wasserman/greatrex

December 19, 2013

Toni we are so sorry to read the news will be in touch

David Raniere

December 19, 2013

Gerry, you were one of my greatest teachers, relentlessly daring me to use my heart and show up in a real way. You will live on among us.
-David Raniere

John Rosario-Perez

December 19, 2013

Gerry was an amazing person and a pioneer in so many ways. I didn't know him well, but I was touched by his intelligence, warmth, and wisdom.

Roberta B. Cohen

December 19, 2013

Gerry, I always appreciated your honesty, your warmth, your loyalty, and your lack of pretention. I will remember your lovely qualities and you for a long time. Affectionately, Roberta

Virginia Reiber

December 19, 2013

A scholastic mentor, a clinical model, and a kind, warm, brilliant teacher: love and humor as his way of life. Thank you, Dr. Stechler, for your presence and your legacy. Ginger Reiber

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