Edward Gray Obituary
EDWARD R. JR.
On Thursday, January 25, 2007. Beloved husband of Nancy L.; son of Catherine and the late Edward Sr.; father of Edward III, William J. (Kelly), Kimberly A. Coughenour (Neil), Kathy J. Terlecki and Jennifer L. Evans (Joshua); brother of Michael J.; also survived by eight grandchildren and two great- grandchildren. Friends received at the BRUSCO-NAPIER FUNERAL HOME, LTD, Broadway and Shiras Ave. Beechview, Saturday 4-9, Sunday 2-4 and 7-9. Mass in St. Catherine of Siena Church Monday 11am. Ed was a retired City of Pittsburgh Public Works Supervisor.
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Kathy
January 23, 2025
Dad, this week is becoming more difficult with each day. I really wish I could see you again. You were my rock and I miss you terribly. It's coming up on 18 years without you here. I truly hope you know how very proud and grateful I am for everything you represent and for being such an amazing father. Your dedication to and love for your family was extraordinary. You were taken from us way too soon. I pray that you and Billy are together watching over all of us. I love you and miss you so much it hurts. Until we meet again
Kathy
February 5, 2023
Well Dad, Once again, I find myself desperately wishing for your support, a huge hug and your love. I am doing my best to keep a positive attitude, but sometimes I just can't seem to hold it together. You were my rock, my guide and the one I could always call no matter what. I could really use your support, strength, love and guidance right now. I miss you terribly and love you so very much.
Kathy
February 5, 2023
Well Dad, I find myself desperately wishing for your support, a huge hug and your love. I am doing my best to keep a positive attitude, but sometimes I just can't seem to hold it together. You were my rock, my guide and the one I could always call no matter what. I could really use your support, strength, love and guidance right now. I miss you terribly and love you so very much.
Jennifer Evans
August 11, 2020
Missing my Dad right now. Dad - I wish you were here so much. There are so many things I'd love to talk with you about or share with you. The kids are so big -- I hate that they have grown up without you. I talk about you as often as possible so they "know" you, but it's no substitute for you.
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Vince Caporizzo
March 16, 2018
I worked with Ed at the City of Pgh,drank many beers with him too.
Ed
January 25, 2017
10 Years today and I still miss you like it was the first day. It has been really hard not having you around to talk to or have a few beers and going hunting with. Things in this family have not been the same without you in all of our lives. Love ya Dad
chuck redmond
January 21, 2016
Miss you uncle ed!
Kim
April 25, 2013
Dad,
I miss you so much. I could really use your advice right now. That is just one of many reason I wish you were still here with us. I know you are with us in spirit but to talk to or to get a hug and tell me everything will be just fine is what I really need. I love you and miss you so very much.
I love my Daddy!
Jennifer Evans
January 25, 2013
I wish you were here.
I feel like there are so many things I want to share with you. So many conversations and laughs that we didn't get to have together. I am glad for all the ones we did have, though. That is how I will always remember you -- smiling, laughing, full of love and compassion, but honest and forthright.
You weren't one to mince words, and you always stood your ground. I respect you so much for that and I'm glad I'm the same way. Even if we didn't always agree with each other, I think we always understood where the other was coming from. I feel like that resolve and ingereity that I have was truly a gift from you -- along with my sense of humor. :)
It's funny -- I find myself saying or doing things that you always did. It shocks me sometimes at first, but then I just have to laugh - it's proof that you're always a part of me and I am an extension of you. We all are. I love that.
I am sad that the kids didn't get to enjoy nearly enough time with you in their lives. Really, none of us got enough times, but we at least are old enough to have such wonderful memories but they were so little. I promise we will keep sharing those stories and memories with them. They absolutely know what a great man their Pap was.
I know you're watching over us all the time. I know you're celebrating with us, cheering us on, and keeping us calm in the times that we need it. I know that when I think things through that you're guiding me in my thoughts, actions, and decisions. I hear your voice in my head all the time -- warning me, cheering me on, or comforting me.
I'm so thankful for your voice, your legacy, all of the memories, our family, and for you. Every single day.
I love you. I miss you.
Ed
January 25, 2013
Well another year has passed and whoever says it gets easier they are wrong it will never be easier.. Your family misses you more and more every day. There are to many days I wish I could pick up the phone to talk to you about things a son talks to his dad about. I miss you dad .
Kathy Terlecki
March 24, 2012
Well Dad, this is a time in my life among many others where I could certainly use your words of encouragement and support. Unfortunately, I find myself shutting everything out as I am not sure how to deal with the things going on with me right now. I just wish you were here to hug me and tell me it will all be fine. I miss you and know I will see you again someday. Love and miss you always! Kathy
Bill Gray
January 25, 2012
Dad, It's been 5 years since you were taken from us. I Miss you more now than ever. I wish I would have utilized your knowledge and experience through life, but I didn't cause I knew everything or was to stubborn! Well my life is falling apart and if not for Erica & Billy,And Kelly could not have been a more caring and loving wife! Had it not been for her I would have drifted apart from our whole family! She is what kept me coming around all the time no matter what anyone else may think.Not that I really care what everybody else thinks! I ruined most of my life at least the last 20 years, I was not there when I was loved and cared for during what should've been the best years of my life!I hope what little is left of it I can make the best of it.It is going to be the toughest challenge to date for me.I hope if it's possible your there to help me! I know you saved my life on October 18th 2011 when I was in a car accident there is no other explanation as to why I survived or was not paralyzed and I thank you for that! I also need you now to keep it together! Love You! Always thinking of you!
Ed
January 25, 2012
Another year with out you dad. We all miss you but still love you. We also know that you are watching over us just like you did when you were here.
Ed
October 18, 2010
Miss ya dad
Jim Ellenbogen, Allegheny County Councilman, District 12
September 2, 2010
You should be proud. Your father was a good man, good friend hard worker, and I miss him. G-D Bless Him
Bill Gray
September 1, 2010
Just wanted you to know I am thinking of you on this day! September 1 2010. Happy Birthday! Miss You! But I am sure you are in a better place.Love you!
Bill
Kim Coughenour
August 24, 2010
Love and Miss you always, Dad. Wishing you were here. Thinking about you always.
Love you always,
Kim
Mike Gray
May 31, 2010
In honor of all those who have gone before us. Not a day goes by that thoughts of you fill our heads. Ed, you and Daddy are at the top of the list of the never forgotten. Mike
Mike
January 6, 2010
Hey Ed, I just wanted to say Hi to you. I know they probably don't get the Post Gazette in heaven but you already know the words we write in this guest book. I find myself asking myself What would Ed do? How would Ed handle this or that. I know that somehow you will help us all figure out what we need to know. Keep watching over us and help us through times when things get to be a little too much to handle. Miss you. Love, Your Brother, Mike
Kim Coughenour
November 1, 2009
The holidays are just not the same anymore. I hate to even see them come around. Missing you so much. Wishing you were here with us.
Love you always,
Kim
Bill Gray
October 18, 2009
Just wanted to say Hi! Miss you! Love you!Think of you every moment of every day!
October 18, 2009
Missing you more than any words I could ever say. Still cannot believe your gone. I still cry. Not a day goes by that I don't think about you. I just wish you were still here with us.
I love you ALWAYS.
Love Kim
Kathy Gray-Terlecki
September 2, 2009
Hi Dad, Happy belated birthday. I would never forget you on your birthday or any day! I love you and miss you so much. You are always in my heart and will always be. May you watch over all of us and know you will always be in all of our hearts!
I love you! Love Kathy
Bill Gray
September 1, 2009
Hi Dad! Happy Birthday!
Love you and miss you very much! You never realize how important someone is in your life until they are no longer there. I learned that the hard way and I will never be able to change that. I have to live with that guilt forever,I can't forgive myself no matter how hard I try! I wish I could go back in time, but I can't. I just hope you forgive me for being stupid!
Love Bill
Kathy Terlecki
May 31, 2009
My memories of you will never fade, as you are always in my heart and on my mind. I miss you more each day but hope you are always here with me and all of us. I can not express how much you mean to me and how grateful I am to have had you in my life. You will never know how great you truely were. I only hope my prayers are heard by you as I often talk to you, ask for advice, your guidance and strength to get me through each day. Please know I will never let go and always love you for being the most wonderful person I will ever know. Thank you for being such an incredible father and human being! I love you and miss you terribly. Love forever and always, your daughter, Kathy
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Mike
December 30, 2008
Another Holiday season is here and almost over. I know that in a way you are here with us during what used to be fantastic celebrations and get togethers but it's not the same. The lack of your presence, the silence that used to be filled with your laughter and jokes, have turned these days into just another day. It's not getting any easier to accept the fact that you are not with us. The memories are great but does not ease the loss felt by everybody here. I know you are with us all the time and we will always be watching for signs that you are right alongside us all. I miss you, Love, your brother Mike
Jennifer Evans
July 13, 2008
Hi Daddy,
Just have been thinking about you a lot. I wanted to tell you that all the day littlies and hostas are blooming in the garden so pretty. Thank you so much for helping me with those and you were right -- this was the year they would look amazing. They will always remind me of you and how you were always right, and always beautiful. I miss you so much and love you forever.
Our Pap
Kathy Gray - Terlecki
February 24, 2008
The man we know and love. You will never be forgotten.
Kim Coughenour
December 25, 2007
Dad,
We all miss you terribly. The Holidays are just not the same without you. We all love you very very much and miss you. Here's a picture for you for Christmas just to show you how much we all care about you and love you. MERRY CHRISTMAS!! WE LOVE AND MISS YOU!!
Love Always,
From All of Us to YOU
December 8, 2007
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Jenni Evans
September 1, 2007
This used to be such a happy day. Big parties, lots of food, and of course a cake! Lots of laughs and jokes. A great time to be a family.
I'm sad that you're not here for another celebration. But this day will always be important to me. It's now a day for reflection. A time of remembrance. We had of a lot of really wonderful times together and nothing can ever take the smiles away that you've given me for an eternity. I'm still sad, but considermyself so blessed for the time that we did have. It's hard not to smile when I think of you. The tears are there, too, but that's to be expected, right?
I miss you.
I love you.
I'll never forget.
Melissa Gray
July 21, 2007
As I look up to the skies above,
The stars stretch endlessly--
But somehow all those rays of light
Seem dimmer now to me.
As I watch the morning sun appear,
The shadows still don't fade—
As if the brightest light of all
Was somehow swept away.
Though I see the branches swaying,
And watch their dancing leaves--
The echoes carried on the wind
Don't sound the same to me.
As I listen to the morning birds
Sing softly from afar--
It seems to be a mournful tune
That echoes in my heart.
Another day has come again,
As time moves surely on--
But nothing now seems quite the same,
To know that he is gone.
The days and weeks and months ahead
Will never be the same--
Because a treasure beyond words
Can never be replaced.
The loss cannot be measured now,
The void cannot be filled--
And though someday the grief may fade,
His mark will live on still.
For even with my heavy heart,
I know that I've been blessed
To have been one who's life he touched.
Pap, I love you and miss you so much each
and every day.
Kathy Terlecki (Gray)
June 20, 2007
Daddy, I can not seem to get myself together at the moment. I only hope to be able to get better as each day goes by. I have been told that time will make losing you a bit easier, but I don't believe that is the case. We lost you in such a terrible way and so unexpected as well as unexplained. I don't think I will ever get over losing you this way but I will do my best to try to pull myself together for Amber, Michael and Dylan. I know you would not want any of us to just give up on life, and I promise you I will do my best to get better and go on for the sake of my family.
I just can't seem to overcome the pain and emptiness of losing you. I miss you and still need your guidance as well as your love and support. You have always been here for me no matter what, but now I have no idea what to do now when I have such bad days as I have been having. I know in my heart dealing with your loss will never be easier for me, no matter how much time goes by. The only comfort in any of this is knowing I will someday be with you once again and know you will have everything ready for me when I get there. I love you and miss you so much it hurts. You are the most incredible person I have known, and the most important person who has always been here for me thoughout my life. For that I thank you and love you that much more! I pray for you always and hope you are watching over all of us from up above. (I left a Reeses Cup for you because I know how much you love those!)
I love you and miss you and I will never forget all the good times, not so good times and all you have taught me and most of all how much I treasure the memories of us!
With all my love,
Your daughter,
Kathy
Jenni Evans
June 17, 2007
It's Father's day and I'm missing you so badly right now. The wedding was tough yesterday as well. It was hard to hear "What a wonderful World" -- you loved that song and I remember dancing with you at my wedding to it.
I'm trying, Dad. Trying really hard not to get ccaught up in the negatives and to stay positive and keep the good memories up front. But I miss you. Nothing is going to change that.
I'm so lucky to have had such a wonderful father like you and my children are lucky to have had such a wonderful Pap. I know how proud you always were of Josh. You told me so many times what a wonderful Father he is. You were right. He's amazing. You would know -- you were the best Dad ever and set a good examle for us all.
I love you and think about you constantly. Happy Father's Day and thank you.
Kim Coughenour
June 15, 2007
To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say...
but first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above.
Here, there's no more tears of sadness; here is just eternal love.
Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight.
Remember that I'm with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through,
God picked me up and hugged me and He said, "I welcome you."
It's good to have you back again; you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on.
I need you here badly; you're part of my plan.
There's so much that we have to do, to help our mortal man."
God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do.
And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night, the day's chores put to flight.
God and I are closest to you....in the middle of the night.
When you think of my life on earth, and all those loving years
because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry; it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.
I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned.
But if I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is o'er.
I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.
There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb;
but together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too...
that as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.
If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain,
then you can say to God at night......"My day was not in vain."
And now I am contented....that my life has been worthwhile,
knowing as I passed along the way, I made somebody smile.
So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low,
just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go.
When you're walking down the street, and you've got me on your mind;
I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind.
And when it's time for you to go.... from that body to be free,
remember you're not going.....you're coming here to me.
Ruth Ann Mahaffey (author)
©Copyright 1998-2007
Kelly Gray
April 3, 2007
To My Father In Law Ed,
I wanted to tell you I will miss you. Everything is so different now. I'll never forget how we would talk about movies, food, politics, you name it. I will never forget when we played cards, and games, especially Pictionary, I remember laughing so hard while we were all drawing the best we could. Most of all, I will never forget the day you called from work to say how proud you were that I gave birth to Billy. You said you were so happy and you were crying happy tears because you had a grandson to carry on your last name.
I hope my son can make you proud one day and I want you to know that all of us love you and respect the man you were. You were one of a kind, and my husband is so much like you that it will be impossible to ever forget you.
Love Your Daughter In Law,
Kelly
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Kathy Terlecki (Gray)
March 20, 2007
Daddy, I miss you terribly. Not a moment goes by without a thought of you. You have been the most incredible father any child could ask for. God took you too soon, but I know he must have more important plans for you up there. I only hope you know how much you mean to me and everyone who had the honor to know you. Your strength, courage, devotion to your family, commitment to help others and the motivation to be the best possible man that I would have to say I will ever know and makes me feel so honored having you as my father. God blessed me by giving me you, I just can't understand why you had to be taken from me (us) so soon. I still need your guidance and support, and I believe I always will. I know you are still watching over us from above because I know how much your family means to you. You have given me the motivation and guidance to be the person I have become and I thank you for that along with loving me unconditionally throughout my life. I love you and thank you for being my father, actually the best father known to many.
May you soar above us in Heaven like a mighty eagle while your spirit lives on within all of your children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren and all who has had the honor to be a part of your life. I miss you and love you and always will. Forever your little girl so proud of her father, Kathy
March 2, 2007
Heather Gray
February 5, 2007
There are very few people who I can say represent all that you have to everyone who knows you. To everyone in the family, you represent love, patience, pride, determination and respect among so many other things. All of those characteristics have passed on to everyone around you, making this one of the most incredible families I have ever seen. You've touched so many lives, for which you will never be forgotten. Though you were taken away before your time, everyone is so much better for having been blessed with the time we were given with you here. Thank you for being you.
Love Heather
Erica Gray
February 2, 2007
Pap.. We all miss and love you so much. You will never be forgotten. It was so hard to say goodbye, but I know that you are in a better place. We have all had so many great memories of you.. and we will never ever forget them. I love you pap..<3
Bob Harlan (Gurske)
February 2, 2007
To the Gray family:
My deepest condolences. Your Husband and Dad was one of the most wonderful men that I have had the pleasure of knowing. I always will remember his kindness as a neighbor and friend. He has always been kind to my Mom and Dad. He always offered help when my Dad needed it and I always knew that my son, Eli was safe whenever he was at Justin's house and Mr. Gray was watching over them. Your family may have seen more of Eli during the summer than we did! Mr. Gray was a fine man and it is obvious from the quality of family he had. My family and I will miss him greatly. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all. We know that heaven is all the better because he is there. God must have needed another beautiful soul to have called him home.
My Deepest condolences,
Nancy Gray
February 1, 2007
To Ed, My Beloved Husband and My Best Friend. I fell in love with you the moment I met you and that love only became stronger over the 35 years we were together. You were a perfect husband, father and friend and I want to thank you for all the wonderful memories you gave me. Becoming your wife was the proudest moment in my life. You are in my heart and mind forever. I will miss your beautiful smile. Thank you for giving me such a wonderful life.
Eternally Your Loving Wife.
Joshua Evans
January 31, 2007
Ed, You'll be missed. It wasn't your time. Tori misses you a lot too.
Edward R. Gray III
January 30, 2007
Dad not a minute will go by where you will ever be forgotten. All the great memories from signing us up for little league baseball to playing cards on weekends or going hunting, camping, fishing, and especially gathering for birthdays & holidays. You were always there when we needed you no matter what the situation was, you always seemed to come up with the with the right solution whether we liked it or not. You don't even know how proud I am to say your my FATHER, and that I have the honor to have the same name as you! I can only hope that I will be the kind of man you were and always will be in my heart and soul!! I will miss you forever, but I know one day we will be side by side once again upstairs with the big guy in sky.
Mike Gray
January 29, 2007
I lost the best Brother in the world on the 25th of January 2007. The only thing I know for sure is there is a very large hole in many lives. FLY ON FREEBIRD!
Robert Carrozza
January 29, 2007
We had the pleasure of growing up as neighbors to Ed and his family. I always remind my kids of how great life was when i was younger, and Ed was the perfect example of why it was great to grow up in Beechview. As stated before he is not suffering anymore and another Angel is watching over us, finally my dad has someone as crazy and big heart to look over us with. Rest in peace Ed, you will be very, very sorely missed. I can still hear you yelling at me between the houses, " Hey you little sob what are you getting into now? " Damn its a shame the good die young.
Jerry Smith
January 29, 2007
I grew up with Eddy on Bigham Street. Bought my first car from him. A 1949 Plymouth. Sad to see my friends pass but they are in a better place and can pray for us!
Jerry Smith
Amber Terlecki
January 29, 2007
I will always miss you. I love you. I cant wait to share all of the memories with dylan when he gets older.
Kim Coughenour
January 29, 2007
Dad,
I will always love you and miss you dearly. You were the best Dad anyone could ever wish for. I am so glad I had the opportunity to get close with you. You were not only my father but also my best friend. I am going to miss all our talks we use to have and playing cards on the weekends. I am glad you are not suffering anymore, but miss you terribly. May you rest in peace. I Love You.
Your Daughter,
Kim
Tom Thornhill
January 28, 2007
We were so sorry to hear your news. Our deepest sympathies are with the Gray family during this difficult time.
Tom Thornhill & family
Pat Weber
January 28, 2007
To Mike & Family: My thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.
Jennifer Evans
January 28, 2007
Daddy,
While I am so sad to lose you, I am glad you are at peace with God now.
You taught me so many things and have given so much in this world. Your reach was unending -- it always felt like everyone knew you and they ALL loved you. The sound of your laughter could make anyone smile. You stand as a shining example on how to live a fair, honest, and happy life. You knew that life is what you make it, and that we are responsibe for making the best of it. You taugh me that it was important to laugh and have fun, but most of all to take care of your family first. Never a day went by that you did not put us first. We are so blessed to call you Dad. You are always with us and your legacy will never be forgotten.
I hope that I always make you proud and live up to the examples you set for me.
May God's light shine upon you.
All my love,
Jenni
Lisa Shaffer
January 28, 2007
To Aunt Nancy, Katherine, Michael and all 5 of my cousins... Jenni, Kimmy, Kathy, Eddie and Bill:
My deepest sympathies and prayers are with all of you. I'll never forget Uncle Ed's smile and laugh. A beautiful angel has entered into heaven and will live on in your hearts.
I love all of you!
Lisa
Charles O'Leary
January 27, 2007
Our deepest sympathy to the Ed Gray family. I worked in the Public Works department of the City of Pittsburgh with Ed during the 1980s. He was a wonderful guy and will be missed. May he rest in peace. God bless Ed and his family.
Chuck O'Leary and family.
ed fedorchak
January 27, 2007
To Nancy and all the family of Ed.
I am so sorry for your loss. I knew Ed and his father since I was a young boy. Ed didn't fall to far from the tree. Strong, proud, fair and someone who you proud to say was your friend.
I am sad that another good one left us and I'll miss reminiscing everytime I ran into him
My deepest sympathy.
Bill Gray
January 27, 2007
Dad I Miss you very much! I know your at peace now. God Bless You! You will always be in my heart. I love you very much! You were the greatest Dad anyone could have ever asked for! You were the best supporter of your family. You always put us first and you instilled those values in myself. A day will never go by that you will not be thought of! Love Bill
Jim and Patty Ellenbogen
January 27, 2007
Our Deepest Sympathy on the loss of Ed. He was an honorable and stand up guy. Everyone who knew him will surely miss him
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