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Sterling Whitener Obituary

Sterling Hegnauer Whitener, who was born in China to missionary parents and lived a life of faith, service, and adventure, died at his home at Friends Homes West in Greensboro on Saturday, Jan. 28, 2017. He was 95. As recounted in his 2013 book, In the Shadow of the Pagoda, Dr. Whitener's love of China and his life growing up during the pre-war years helped to form his passionate personality. He thrived at the Kuling American School located on the mountain of Lushan in Central China. After graduating from Catawba College in Salisbury in 1942, and Yale Divinity School in 1945, his strong desire to serve led him and his bride, Barbara Brown Whitener, back to China in 1946. Forced to leave after the Communist take-over, Dr. Whitener and his family moved to Hong Kong, where they served for 15 years, working with church and government agencies to resettle refugees flooding out of China. On a furlough in 1963-65, he earned a Masters in Social Work from the University of North Carolina in Chapel Hill, and was also awarded an honorary doctorate from Catawba College. Returning to the United States permanently in 1967, Dr. Whitener forged a national reputation by developing an accredited social work program at Livingstone College in Salisbury. He also became a gerontology specialist and undertook consulting as a proponent of Continuing Care Retirement Communities. With Barbara and their six children, he embraced a warm family life while enthusiastically gardening, hiking near their vacation cottage in Blowing Rock, and traveling the world, including ten trips back to China. He retired in 1987, and in 1994 he and Barbara were in the very first cohort of residents at the newly built Friends Homes West in Greensboro. Dr. Whitener is survived by his wife, Barbara, and five children – Chris, Katrina, Kim, Bonnie, and Dana (daughter Karen 1948-2001), ten grandchildren, and nine great-grandchildren. Arrangements: A memorial service will be held at Friends Homes West in the Living Room at 3 p.m., on Thursday, Feb. 2. Memorials: In lieu of flowers, please send contributions to Congregational UCC in Greensboro for their outreach programs, or Middle Fork Greenway Association, c/o Blue Ridge Conservancy.

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Published by Salisbury Post on Jan. 30, 2017.

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Sally Coddington

February 4, 2017

Remembering Mr. Whitener and family with fond memories. The memories of our time together in Hong Kong on Cambridge Road which is very near and dear to my heart. The time we shared together will never be forgotten. My prayers go out to you at this time. May the Lord that Mr whitener faithfully served be sufficient in your time of need.

Prayerfully
Sally (Ng) Coddington
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Brenda Dalton James

February 3, 2017

Thank you for sharing Sterling with me on our weekly trips to choir practice. I will forever remember these special times. Also remember, I am only a phone call away.

Kelly Reynerson

February 2, 2017

I loved the time I was allowed to spend with Sterling and Barbara at the cottage in Blowing Rock. Talking with Sterling always made me feel as though I was in the presence of spirit. He had such a joy for life and all that he experienced. I am a better person because I was allowed time with him.

Cally Rogers-Witte

February 1, 2017

Glory to God for the faithful and outstanding life and ministry of Sterling Whitener, and of course, also, of Barbara! My love to all the family.

Liz Hood

February 1, 2017

Barbara, I was so sorry to hear of Sterling's Homegoing--yet I rejoice for him being in the presence of our Lord! I pray comfort, peace, and strength for you all. As Walter would have said, "Corragio!"

Martha and Jones

January 31, 2017

Oh, we're so sorry he's gone. Barbara, here are hugs. We are out of town and cannot return in time for the service. We will be there in spirit.

Beth & Craig

January 30, 2017

What an accomplished and loving man who indeed left a wonderful world-wide legacy. Honored to have known him. Beth & Craig Weaver, High Country UCC.

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