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Kathy Worthington Obituary

Kathy Worthington 1950 ~ 2007 Kathy Worthington was born Oct. 20, 1950 in Salt Lake City, Utah. She died at her home in Taylorsville on February 22, 2007. The fourth child of six, Kathy grew up in Utah, Arizona and California. Kathy loved school and loved to learn about the world. She discovered her love of languages at the University of Utah. Never one to do anything halfway, Kathy went to Mexico in 1972 to study Spanish. While there, she met and married Rudy Ju rez (later divorced) and had two girls: Rita Lucia (Lucy) and Sonia Cristina (Cristy). Kathy also busied herself helping to build a community for the poor, and taught English for three years. Upon her return to the U.S., Kathy's hands were full raising two children and working full time. In 1989 Kathy came out as a lesbian. She immediately immersed herself in the gay community and soon gained celebrity status via her prominent role as a gay rights activist. She organized women's social and support groups, planned political rallies and was on the board of the Utah Stonewall Center in its early days. She founded the Womyn's Community Newsletter in April of 1991, which was published for four years. This influential publication played a pivotal role in creating a cohesive lesbian community in Utah. In 1992 Kathy's heart was utterly won over by Sara Hamblin, the woman whom Kathy described as her "wife, life partner and best friend." The two participated in political rallies, marched in Washington, and were married at "The Wedding," the huge group union ceremony performed at the 1993 March on Washington for gay rights. Kathy and Sara were legally married in Canada in 2003. In their 14 years together they traveled widely, visiting 17 countries as well as much of the U.S. Sara was diagnosed with breast cancer in 1995. They immediately became experts on the disease. Through their studies and determination, they successfully fought off the disease for 11 years. After a battle with the U.S. Postal Service, her employer from 1986 to her death, Kathy was granted leave in May of 1997 to care for Sara during her cancer treatments, a highly celebrated victory for the gay community. Sara died at home in Taylorsville on February 21, 2006 with Kathy and their family by her side. Kathy's reach extended beyond even her own imagining. Her name is everywhere, from her direct and poignant postings regarding Sara's battle with breast cancer on bcmets.org, to her prominent work in the ex-Mormon community. She was the founder and administrator of the preeminent website providing information on resignation from the Mormon Church, www.mormonnomore.com. Her work in the gay community cannot be overstated. Kathy's generosity reached even further. She agreed to translate for a woman who was shot by her husband. Once, while discussing this series of events, Sara summed up Kathy's irrepressible drive to reach out to others: "Kathy gets confused about words sometimes. Maybe in Spanish the word 'translate' means to take someone under your wing and do everything you possibly can for them, no matter what time of day or night, no matter the distance, no matter the danger. If that's what the word means, then Kathy did an excellent job of 'translating.'" Kathy was a healing and informative force unleashed upon the world. Kathy changed lives, from Sara's, who said she went from being in the closet to "out on the front porch with spot lights turned on," to close friends, to those she never even met through her work in the community and on her websites. Kathy is preceded in death by her wife, Sara Hamblin, their "Big Boy" Chiffy, mother Luella, father Dale and brothers Rick and Allen. She is survived by daughters, Cristy and Lucy, former husband Rudy Ju rez (Ronnie), sister Dolly (Larry), brothers Marty (Gayleen) and Craig (Debra), and her cats Missy and Squeaky. Jude, Dianna, Kathy, Annette, Chuck, Penny, Mandy, Marie and Misty are special friends who were very close to Kathy, and have been especially supportive in this last year. Marilyn knows what comfort she brought to Kathy, and her family is overwhelmed by their appreciation for her. Special thanks to Margie and Alma for their support. Kathy's family extends their thanks to those who loved and followed Kathy through her eventful and influential life. Kathy's wish was to be cremated and her ashes joined with Sara's. The two were never meant to be separated. A memorial for those who wish to celebrate Kathy's life will be held Sunday, March 4, 6-8 p.m. at the I.J. and Jeann‚ Wagner Jewish Community Center at 2 North Medical Drive, SLC; 581-0098. In lieu of flowers, the family requests that donations be made to the Utah Pride Center (www.utahpridecenter.org) or Best Friends Animal Sanctuary (www.bestfriends.org). A tribute to both Kathy and Sara may be found at www.geocities.com/kathywut/homepage.html. "Sometimes I feel downright wealthy," Kathy once said. "We are managing to do so many things that are exciting and fun that I feel very fortunate." Those of us whose lives were touched by Kathy's spirit feel just as fortunate to have known her.

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Published by The Salt Lake Tribune from Feb. 28 to Mar. 4, 2007.

Memories and Condolences
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90 Entries

Melissa Waters

March 3, 2019

These two were the most influential people in SLC for our community in the early days,and in my life personally. It's still seems like such an unnecessary loss to us all.

Lois Edler

January 1, 2015

Monte you said it best. Kathy I miss you. You are still a big part of me. And many good memory's. And to the girls I hope all is well

Monte

December 31, 2014

Remembering you today, Kathy. Many years have gone by, but the tremendous impact you had in my life continues. Words can't express the depth of my gratitude. I am committed to spreading your light to others.

Kathy Worthington and her wife Sara Hamblin.

Stuart McDonald

February 23, 2014

Here is the link to a memorial page I created for Kathy Worthington and her wife Sara Hamblin. I includes links to the obituaries of both, with pictures and many links associated with them.

https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=707105659311349&l=ec7355947

February 22, 2014

May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.

Lucy Juarez

May 22, 2007

It's been 3 months and I still miss you so much. I wish so bad that I could have one more day with you to tell you all the things I should have said. I love you and will miss you always.... Lucy

Laura Chris

April 8, 2007

While in Washington D.C. this weekend I picked up The Washington Post and learned of the passing of an icon in our community. I am filled with many emotions as I learn of Kathy's passing today. She and Sara stood up for what they believed to be truth in the gay community, and also the exiting of many ex-mormons. I too chose the same path to leave the church and Kathy gave me support, love, and lots of advice on how to deal with it all and I will be forever grateful to her. As I currently face the loss of my twin daughters I only regret that Kathy will not be here for all of her wonderful advice, but I am sure if I listen carefully I will always and forever hear her words of wisdom! May you rest in peace now that you are back in the arms of the woman you so loved and were devoted to heart and soul. We will miss you my friend.
Laura Chris (Asheville, N.C.)

Melanie Brimhall

March 30, 2007

Death is an inevitable part of life. Some people really fear death, or even more so the death of a loved one because of the intense sorrow they are sure to feel. But the sorrow you feel is only an indicator of the love and joy you have experienced. I have heard it said that the only way to take the sorrow out of death is to take the love out of life.

Jane Whitten

March 28, 2007

I am so sorry for your loss. Kathy was an invaluable source for my leaving the Mormon Church. My life has finally been mine after all those years thanks to Kathy. What a dedicated human being to help others.

Vicki

March 17, 2007

God bless.

Janice Marcus

March 13, 2007

Dear Lucy & Cristy, Your mother served as a leader for so many. She inspired and motivated others to become involved through her energy and passion. For me, she remains an example of how love transcends the confines of our existance on Earth. My prayer is that she has found peace and once again rejoices in the embrace of Sara. Please accept my deepest condolences. Sincerely, Janice Marcus

Heather Bernau

March 11, 2007

When I first met Kathy and Sara they were great leaders to me. They were always supportive, informed and encouraging. I knew almost immediately that we were more than allies, we were friends. I have always been welcome in their home. I was touched by Kathy's ability to always ensure that I knew about resources that were available and to include me in any activities. Kathy's influence changed the direction of many paths in my life. I am sad for our loss and I hope that Lucy and Cristy feel the love surrounding them during this difficult time.

Janice Eberhardt

March 9, 2007

To Kathy’s daughters, family and extended family,

I have just returned from holiday in New Zealand to the sad news of Kathy’s death. My sincere condolences to you. We have all lost a wonderful, generous, and energetic being.

Kathy touched many people’s lives in a good way, helping them give themselves permission to love whoever they love and/or to leave an oppressive church that “hates the sin, but not the sinner.” (But what is an act without actors?) Anyway, Kathy pointed a hell of a lot of “sinners” and oppressed ones to the appropriate exits.

I’ve never seen anyone so proud of the Rainbow Flag as she. Now I have a deeper idea of why she was so proud of it. She truly loved another woman who loved her just as much in return. It was the kind of partnership never meant for a hostile takeover from the cancer that took her Sara.

Kathy Worthington, I am thankful that our paths brought us into each other’s lives. You were my mentor for the printed spark I caught from you, Womyn 4 Women, as well as being a faithful contributor over its two year’s publication. You exemplified the importance of caring and acting upon that concern, of sharing energy with integrity, of doing everything on purpose. Most of all, you have pointed out to me that it’s okay to love someone deeply, dearly and above all, fearlessly.

Thank you Kathy.

Janice

March 9, 2007

Deepest sympathies to the families. I knew Kathy and Sara from the newsletter and Stonewall Center. Kathy lended an ear many times with my own coming out and religious issues years ago. Kathy and Sara have impacted many lives all over the world. They are both missed and loved. Peace be with you.

Trudy Jensen

March 9, 2007

The loss of Kathy is a great one! She will surely missed. I went to school with Kathy at Cyprus High many moons ago. My thought and prayers are with her family.

angelika bertrand

March 7, 2007

We are so sorry to hear about the passing of a dear friend, a paver of activism, and a heroe for so many of us. She has moved us, lifted us, educated us. She has been a role model in every way possible. I feel deeply about her passing. I have met and known her personally. Together when we went to Washington D.C March in 1993. I/we have learned a lot from this amazing women. Kathy you're our heroe, we will alway's love you! To the family our deepest sympathy.

Cris M

March 6, 2007

You will be missed. Wishing you peace as you join Sara - together forever.

Jody Bear

March 4, 2007

To Kathy's beautiful girls,
I am so deeply saddened in my heart for myself, for those who knew your mom but mostly for the two of you. I, like many, met Kathy and Sara in the early 90's in the support group and our friendship continued through the years. When I lived out of SLC, Kathy made sure I got a copy of the newsletter so that I could read specifically the "Never a Dull Moment" article and when I did move to the city, I found Kath and Sara to be not only a support but dear dear friends. What an impact and support she created in so many lives. We in the community will truely miss her. But oh, to have found someone in her life to have loved and missed at their departure so much, most of us don't get that chance. My blessings are that God speed her journey to Sara and that she finds the peace and happiness and joy once again in her life. I'll miss ya but you go girl! There are more "never a dull moments ahead for the two of you.
Love The Bear

Debra Paron

March 4, 2007

Kathy was amazing in her endless capacity for friendship (only a small portion of which I was privileged to share during my time in the ex-Mormon movement) and in her passion for life and love. Her memory will continue to inspire others for years to come. Thank you, Kathy! My thoughts are with your friends and family.

sherry burton

March 2, 2007

I met Kathy around 1989-1990. She always amazed me with her ability to keep going when others gave up. She kept the newsletter alive for so many and in doing so, kept our hopes alive. My deepest sympathy to Kathy's loved ones and wishes for a grand reunion for Kathy and Sara.

Bonnie Sutphin

March 2, 2007

I want to express my condolences to Kathy's family. I knew her during the time we both worked for the Postal Service. I knew her family from when I was very young, as I went to school with her Aunt Shirley and was a frequent visitor at the family home in South Salt Lake. Kathy was such a friendly person, and I respected her work for the USPS. I lost contact with her after I retired, but have thought of her often. May she rest in peace knowing that she did a terrific job while she was here on earth and I am sure there is a special place for her spirit on the other side.

Carolyn Harbert

March 2, 2007

On our path we seek to find the solace of another.In the depth of the deapest ocean we find ourselves within,merging into infinite possibilities.Kathy when i am an old woman i will look back and remember all the things you did for the community and how much fun we had at all our social gatherings and support group get togethers.I cant think of anyone who has given so much of herself for the gay community as you did.Ill never forget you i promise. RIP

Darcy K. Butcher

March 2, 2007

I met Kathy 17 years ago. She was an inspiration as well as one of the most loving and giving people I have ever met. She taught people how to live in a place of power, gratitude and happiness. She was a fresh of breath air and taught those who left the LDS church how to find closure and then to live a spiritual life. She seemed to always offer love, acceptance, and encouragment. She lived life and embraced death on her terms. My thoughts are with her family. Rest in peace Kathy and thanks for your wonderful legacy... may it ripple on and on and on. Spirit!

John Lincolne

March 2, 2007

Kathy touched my life throught the Recovery from Mormonism site. We exchanged a few emails and I spoke with her once. I admire her for her courage, strength and love. I was saddened to learn of Sara's passing; I am devestated by Kathy's. I know time and love will ease the loss felt by her family and friends. Just know, that she is mourned even at this great distance.

lisa

March 2, 2007

Kathy & Sara,

I'm sorry that I did not know either of you, but your story has been an inspirational one. You both sound like you such good women, and it seems you changed alot of lives! Congrats to both of you for your achievments in the community, you obviously were loved by many people! It's so hard to see a good person gone...

Connie Anast

March 2, 2007

There are no words to describe this woman's beauty, drive and amazing ways. Our community will be missing her spirit for a very, very long time, but she's not far away from us. I rejoice that Kathy and Sara are once again together, even at the heartache to us all.

Whenever we stand up for our right to love, Kathy will be there, cheering us on.

May Her Memory Be Eternal.

Angie D

March 2, 2007

I was deeply saddend to hear of Kathy's passing. What little interaction I had with Kathy & Sara was always uplifting. Listening to their adventures, seeing the admiration they felt for each other showed me the other side to the meaning of being "IN LOVE"
Farewell Kathy, say hello to Sara, tell Sara I still think of her. I'll miss you both.

Tom Morse

March 2, 2007

Kathy and Sarah were two wonderful women and I feel blessed to have been able to have met them. They were truely an inspiration to the community and always a pleasure to be near. Kathy emanated love and an energy that I will never forget and my hope is that she is once again with her beloved Sarah.

Merilynn Rowan

March 1, 2007

Kathy was one of the warmest, most sincere people I ever met. As a former Utahn, I had the privilege of being at a number of ex-mormon functions where I got to know her. We cleaned up the highway several times and she made that event memorable just because we got to talk a lot while we were working and enjoy breakfast together when our work was completed. I so admired her dedication and enduring love for her wife and partner, Sara, they're together again as it should be. My heartfelt condolences go out to her family and friends.

Vicki

March 1, 2007

My condolences to Kathy's family and all those who knew and loved her. As a paragraph in the poem "The Dash" says

"He noted that first came the date of her birth, and spoke the following date with tears, But he said what mattered most of all was the "Dash" between those years".

From the entries it is obvious that Kathy made the most of her "dash".

May you rest in peace with your sweet Sara.

Patsy Lynch

March 1, 2007

I had the pleasure of meeting and working with Kathy when she first came to Washington, DC to work for the US Postal service. Through her, I met and have maintained wonderful contacts. I am saddened by her death and my heart goes out to her daughters and their families.

Kathy was passionate about her lfe and it shows by the number of people who have left messages. Kathy is in a better place and with the woman she loved!

Steven Woodward

March 1, 2007

A year ago I posted my thoughts on Sara. I'm so deeply saddened to now be posting my thoughts on Kathy. I met Kathy and Sara through RfM and had dinner with them in Salt Lake City one night when I was here on business. I now live here and enjoyed periodic e-mail exchanges with Kathy. I found Kathy and Sara to be two of the warmest women I've met. To have spent such little time in someone's company but to come away feeling genuine affection for someone is a tribute to their character. Kathy was in short, simply wonderful. I'm glad I met her and my heartfelt sympathies to all who loved her, especially her daughters.

Adam Bass

March 1, 2007

We all stand on Kathy's shoulders. She lifted the Utah Gay and Lesbian Community up. It is upon the firm foundation she and Sara built that this community now sits and from where we will find all our future victories. I consider her a friend, and am deeply saddened by the loss. We'll miss you.

Byron Carr

March 1, 2007

Thank you for your enlightenment and peace you have brought to thousands. May peace be with your loved ones. Byron L. CarrDMD

p.r. banks

March 1, 2007

my association with kathy began in the early 1990's during a very difficult time in my life. i was dealing with the loss of my dear mother and also the recent break-up of a relationship of 6 years. i met kathy through mutual friends and i began attending her women's group at the stonewall center and also started receiving the womyn's newsletter she publised. i loved reading about her and Sara's life through the column ahe wrote in the newsletter. i spent many nights on their couch watching t.v. with them, or playing backyard games or cooking on the grill. it was so cathartic for me to be around them both and feel that someday it might be possible to feel happy again, as they appeared to be, even through all the adversity they faced throguh out their journey here on earth. i will always be grateful for their love and kindness to me during that time in my life, and i know that they are together again on a brand new journey. thank you ladies for your example and the strength you gave to everyone around you...

Alicia Bailey

March 1, 2007

My partner knew Kathy through years of queer activism. Although I had only met Kathy on a few occasions, she had a postive impact on my life through her work with the ex-gay community. Stories of her marriage to Sara should inspire the lesbian community to reach for more fulfilling relationships, to be open to giving and receiving true, unconditional love. I think Kathy's ability to touch the lives of people she hardly knew illustrates what a remarkable women she was. I hope her story motivates others to battle for social change. My thoughts are with those left behind.

Andy Critton

March 1, 2007

You will truly be missed and I remember the day I met you! It will be forever in my memory

Michelle Muir

March 1, 2007

Kathy was a formidable woman, as was Sarah. The first time I met Kathy was at a dance, which I am sure she had a hand in organizing. Just her presence in the room was unforgettable, everyone seemed to want her conversation. I had the pleasure of becoming friends with her daughter, Lucy, and from there getting to know Kathy a bit better. Unfortunately I never got to know her very well personally, but I always knew that if something big was going on in the gay community, or with civil rights in general, Kathy would be right there at the front and that made me feel confident in a possitive outcome of any situation.
I would like to add here my sincere condolances to Lucy, we have lost touch but you are in my thoughts.

Mary Elizabeth Mulholland

March 1, 2007

I never had the pleasure of knowing Kathy personally. But her insperation and courage gave me the courage. To do the things I had to do in my life and hope lead me to be an example also. Kathy was a great example to others while she was alive and I know her and Sara are together again I have listed also a poem that I have written and believe this shows the love between to people fully.

True Love

What is true Love,
True love is knowing
when to let go,
True love is knowing
when the person
you love is hurting,
True love is knowing what
is best for the other.

True Love is a wonderful blessing,
True Love is finding
your soul mate,
But it is also knowing
when to release
that person should it not
be good for them.

True love knows no
boundaries of age,
sex, of likes or dislikes.
True love comes from
the joining of
two souls, two minds, two bodies.

This is true unconditional love,
of one person for another.

Copyright ©2006
Mary Elizabeth Mulholland

Mark Swonson

March 1, 2007

Kathy will truly be missed by all who new her wonderful enduring spirit, cheerful smile, and warm heart for all.

Jaime Taylor

March 1, 2007

I have many fond memories that date back to 1990. Kathy and I came out about the same time and shared many experiences together. Kathy wanted the doors opened for the gay community. I remember when we didn't even have support groups. Kathy wanted Utah to know "Gays Are Alive in Utah". Her newsletter did opened the door to those in our community to find activies, support, and friends. A way to connect to others that hadn't been available. She was inspired from the get-go to make a difference in our Utah community. She reached out and let others know they were not alone and here are the resources if you need them. She wrote to share her experiences to make a difference and she did. I wish you both the happiness, love and peace you have been reaching for. Love always.....

N. C.

March 1, 2007

I never knew Kathy personally, but I think she is an amazing woman! May she find some eternal peace with the love of her life and may all her work continue in her name.
Thank you Kathy for your lasting impression. You have touched so many!

Chris

March 1, 2007

I never met Kathy, but her work in the ex-Mormon community was an invaluable resource for me and for so many others. It was truly sad news to hear of her passing. Love and gratitude to Kathy, to her family, and all of her loved ones. Rest in peace, and thank you for the life you lived.

ANTONIA DE LA GUERRA

February 28, 2007

I am stunned to the core by the news of Kathy's passing. And I am so grateful for the 2 1/2 years I spent with her and the girls. So many memories flood my mind. I felt like I had found the family I always wanted. and was heart broken when it was time for us to both move on. Sara was a true blessing for Kathy, and visa versa. They grounded eachother; their love for eachother was truely a blessing. Kathy's walk to the other side will always be a hole in my heart. I prey she finds the peace she deserves. she had such a giving heart. Peace and love be with you dear Kathy. Antonia

ESTHER SCHUBE

February 28, 2007

I FIRST MET SARA AND KATHY WHEN THEY HELD A SUPPORT GROUP FOR WOMEN IN THEIR HOME. I WAS NEWLY ARRIVED FROM TEXAS AND WAS ACCEPTED NOT JUST BY THE GROUP BUT BY THEIR FAMILY. I SPENT MANY HOLIDAYS PLAYING FOOTBALL IN THE BACK YARD, EATING GOOD FOOD, WATCHING GAMES ON TV AND BASKING IN THE LOVE AND COMFORT OF THE HOME THEY CREATED. IF THE EX-MORMON RELIGION HAD SAINTS SHE WOULD CERTAINLY BE NOMINATED FOR SAINTHOOD. THE WORLD IS TRULY A BETTER PLACE BECAUSE SHE WAS IN IT.

Bonnie M.

February 28, 2007

I never met Kathy, however her life touched mine and so many others. I needed some advice on how to resign from the cult I was in, and she helped me with information, a resignation letter, and support. I also appreciate how she was out with her sexuality. That gave me such inspiration to talk about private things in my life. Kathy touched so many lives. I am grateful for her spirit of love.

Melanie Brimhall

February 28, 2007

My family was truly blessed to meet Kathy and Sara and we will miss them both so much. I will never forget the things she taught me and the way she always stood up for her fight. She is the greatest woman I have ever met and I am sorry to have lost touch with her over the last few years. She would always tease me and say if I would convert she would give me a free toaster....I guess I waited too long. I loved all the things she was and she will always be in my heart. I still haven't decided if I want to come out but there's gay pride pictures all over my room and pictures of us at the 2000 March. I will never forget our times with her and Sara. All our love to her family and friends... Skye and Melanie Brimhall

Randy Zarogoza

February 28, 2007

It's been years since we spent time together Kathy, but you've always been in our thoughts! Growing up with you and your sister and brothers; moving from state to state was like an adventure right out of a kid's story book. I'll always remember those good old days!

Your cousin Randy & Family

Stacie s

February 28, 2007

I have only the fondest memories of Kathy&Sarah. I had a great time in DC when We (Utah members) marched. Kathy was a role model for me coming out, she accepted all and I hope all accepted her. May she now be at Peace. God Bless...

Kathy Riser

February 28, 2007

I knew Kathy mostly in 1990 and up until we moved from Utah in '94. The way she jumped right into activism (out of the closet and into the streets) was refreshing and came at a time when the women's community in Salt Lake was in need of a shot of energy. She was tireless in her work and her advocacy, as I can see by reading her websites and the kudos from the many people she helped.
I mostly remember sitting on the couch with Cristy and Lucy, watching tennis or baseball, or playing ball out in the street. Maybe it wasn't ball. Maybe it was bike riding. Anyway, I send my deepest sympathies to Lucy and Cristy, and the rest of the extended family. I had meant to write Kathy six months ago after I had visited her web site and saw the beautiful tribute to Sara, but I never did. I regret that. She is a prime example of how much difference one person can make. We will miss her smile and her voice.
"Sometimes people leave you halfway through the woods,
Do not let it grieve you, no one leaves for good,
You are not alone, no one is alone." Steven Sondheim
Kathy and Sara are together again.
Peace, Kathy Riser

Sandee Trout

February 28, 2007

After a very brief stint as Kathy's manager in the late 80's or early 90's, I was able to get closer to Kathy on a friendship basis. I was honored to be included at Sara and Kathy's commitment ceremony held in Salt Lake City for their friends and close family members. I looked forward to each and every publication that Kathy sent to me. I read with extreme interest special emails that she chose to share with me occasionally whenever there was a "hot" topic related to Alternate Lifestyle issues. I will always remember the pumpkin carving Halloween party she and Sara threw one year. Everyone in attendance had a great time. As time often does, it passes, and people end up going in different directions. I learned of Sara's passing well after-the-fact and felt sad for Kathy but had been out of touch for a while and didn't know how to contact her to express my sympathy. Now I chose to read the Obituary column for some unknown reason and what do I see but Kathy's notification of passing. What a shock! Kathy truly had many diverse interests and was a very passionate and committed person when it came to Sara and to supporting community, state, and national causes. I will miss reading her writings, hearing about her involvement, and watching her in the act of giving to others. Kathy, you definitely left your mark on this world.

Susanna Russell

February 28, 2007

Ghandi challenged us to be the change we want to see in the world. Kathy lived by that creed. Those she helped directly, those she supported indirectly, and the countless families who benefited from her wise counsel and example reaped the benefit of her life. We loved and valued her, we respected her, and we hoped to be somewhat like her.

Her passing is such a loss. . . and especially to her family. As much as we may have all valued and appreciated Kathy, her daughters must say goodbye to a beloved mother. Her brothers and her close friends will feel her loss daily. My sympathy goes out to you. I know all too well the void left when a loved one dies.

I like to picture Sara and Kathy together again, holding hands, seeing new sights, and continuing their inspirational journey on this new leg of their adventure together.

Godspeed, Kathy. I know that some of the healing force that filled you will now comfort those you have left behind. You left the world a better place than you found it, and us poorer with your passing.

Toni Palmer

February 28, 2007

I'd like to send my sympathy to the family of Kathy. I knew her through GLBT activism in the community. Never doubt the impact she made regarding GLBT rights.
She'll be missed.

Cindy

February 28, 2007

Although I didn't know Kathy, I will be forever grateful that she showed me, and gave me hope, that I can happily live the lifestyle I was born to live, even in Salt Lake City.

Leslie Weeks

February 28, 2007

I will miss you Kathy. I know that you and Sara are together now. Its been so hard for you here without her.I will all those loving spirits as well as Sara's to wrap themselves around you and hold you to them. Be at peace. Your friend Les

Tina Schwartz

February 28, 2007

I knew Kathy from working with her at the USPS REC. When I first started work (8 1/2 yrs ago) she was one of the first people to talk to me. She always greeted me with a smile and a friendly "Hi". I have fond memories of going to a rally at the Capital and seeing her at Pride. For a long time she kept me informed on all the current events via her e-mails. She is the kind of woman that easily inspires and deeply impacts other peoples' lives, as she has mine. I was sorry to learn of the death of Sara a year ago and am sad to hear of Kathy's passing. She will be deeply missed.

Chad Spjut

February 28, 2007

Thank you for your service and love for others Kathy. Your efforts and comforting words and advice helped me in my transition out of Mormonism. Your service helped my wife and children so that we could exit Mormonism together as a family. Thank you for your love and service.

Jill Campbell

February 28, 2007

I knew Kathy only through the Recovery from Mormonism board. I wish I had been blessed with the opportunity of knowing her in person. She was a wonderful and selfless person who touched so many lives and gave so much of herself. My very best thoughts go out to those who knew and loved her and whose lives now have that empty spot. Revel in the joy of who she was and what she contributed to this world. Blessings of peace.

Ben Williams

February 28, 2007

There's a giant hole in the heart of the Gay Community of Utah because Kathy has left us. I hope she knew how valued and irreplaceable she was. Keeping waving the flag Kathy we will always be with you.

Gail Scott

February 28, 2007

My heart goes out to Kathy's family for there loss, as well as for the community that she loved.

Lois Edler

February 28, 2007

Kathy,you will be missed by so many. you really helped me figure things out in my younger youth and I myself will always be greatful for your support and being there when I need it most. What you have done for the gay community, the socal's groups, support groups and the pot lucks and so much more. You brought us a long way. with much love, your friend

Shelley Gauthier

February 28, 2007

While I never had the pleasure of meeting Kathy personally, we did exchange emails. She was kind and gracious and more than willing to help anyone who sought out her assistance. Her influence was felt far beyond Utah, and she will be missed very much.

alli givens

February 28, 2007

She forsure is an angel in heaven with all she has done in her life and in the gay/lesbian community. my life will be better because of her!!! gob bless this wonderful family that backed her great life we need more of you in the world, im so sorry for your loss

Helen (Sparta_Exmo)

February 28, 2007

Although I never had the privilege of meeting Kathy in person, I came to know what a warm and generous person she was via numerous emails as she assisted me in my exit from mormonism.

She has touched the lives of countless people throughout the years and will be sorely missed.

Kathy Riser

February 28, 2007

Dear Lucy and Cristy,
Please accept our condolences. Your mother was an extraordinary woman. We worked together on the newsletter, and I spent a lot of time at the house, hanging out. I hope that you may get some comfort in knowing that she is with Sara again, and that her struggles are over. She was an example of what one person can do to make a difference. Take care of each other and yourselves. You are not alone. Love, Kathy and Nancy

patty reagan

February 28, 2007

I have always felt like I received much more credit than I deserved as a community activist when I compared myself to the courageous, unwavering, unselfish commuity activism and service Kathy and her beloved Sara gave. They were always an inspiration and a reminder of how much one person can do and how much there is to do. I valued their friendship and am grateful for their kindness. I find joy in their reunion. I'm sorry to see you go, Kathy.

Amy Bjorge

February 28, 2007

I am so saddened to learn of Kathy's passing. She was a wonderful woman who did so much to help others.
Kathy, you will truly be missed.

Roger Racer

February 28, 2007

I had the pleasure of being invited to a Thnksgiving dinner with Sara and Kathy through my daughter Mandy. I was made to feel welcome and a part of their family, and enjoyed a pleasant time. My heart goes out to Lucy and Cristy and the many others who also cared.

Cynthia Lane

February 28, 2007

Please accept my deepest sympathy, I knew both Kathy and Sara and they were kind, wonderful people who helped me, counseled me and inspired me. I am sure they are back together again, just how they always knew it should be.

Wendy Reynolds

February 28, 2007

What a wonderful and selfless woman Kathy was. A great example for many. This is a heartbreaking loss.

Arnold Astels

February 28, 2007

Her web site was extremely helpful in resigning from the mormon church. She will certainly be missed.

MaryEtta Chase

February 28, 2007

Dear Lucy and Family of Kathy,
I heard of your Mothers passing just this morning. I am very sad. One of the hardest things I have ever faced was when my Mother left this world – my heart aches for you. Time and Love were the two elements that gave comfort to me – this I wish for you at this very difficult time. I enjoyed your Mother’s company for a short time through friends and good times – she was something. All the memories I will cherish and Her life will be a reminder to me to strive to be the best person I can be with courage and wisdom.
May time be kind as Love surrounds you and your family.

Dan Marcum

February 28, 2007

Kathy, deeply touched many lives--including mine--even though we may not have met her personally. She struggled for justice and equality with great passion and energy. Like a stone cast into a pond, the waves that Kathy made will continue through the universe and the lives that she touched. Our best tribute to Kathy is to continue the work that she so nobly advanced. Peace, Kathy.

Arza Evans

February 28, 2007

Kathy will be greatly missed at our ExMormon Foundation Conference this year. She has always been so friendly,courageous, and full of integrity. There are very few people of such quality in this world.It was such a privilege to know and love her.

Susie

February 28, 2007

A very courageous woman. She will be missed. A special thanks for all she has done for others, particularly, her kind help dealing with my process leaving the Mormon Church. She has been a beacon in the dark for many!

Jeff Freedman

February 28, 2007

I remember when I first moved to Utah in 1990, Kathy was one of the first people to make me feel very welcomed. Her passion and commitment in everything that she did was inspirational. Even when I moved away it was nice to hear from her from time to time. She had an incredible spirit that truly motivated a lot of people. She was a true “Pioneer” for our Community and will be missed. Thank you Kathy!

William Wilson

February 28, 2007

Kathy was a great help to many people. She will be sorely missed.

Cody, Sunshine, and Max Burke

February 28, 2007

Our thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.

Vicki

February 28, 2007

I am a nurse for long term care. I worked 16 years in SLC and frequently looking at the obits to see if any that I had cared for passed on. I thought I recognized the name and read this obit. Or should I call it a tribute. I am feeling uplifted and renewed and to think I never knew the woman. Thank you and may you find peace and comfort at this time.

Vera Carter

February 28, 2007

I never actually knew Kathy, except for a brief email conversation when she was helping me with resigning from the Mormon church. I know she has touched many lives. The world is a better place for having had her in it.

Steven Clark

February 28, 2007

This vibrant eloquent woman will be missed. She opened her home and heart to many in the Ex-Mormon movement. She was the driving force in a demonstration on Main Street in SLC that prevented Thomas Murphy, and LDS anthropologist from being excommunicated by the Mormon Church. She was a calming yet stabilizing voice for her causes.
I hope Kathy and Sara have now found the peace they sought.

Kathy Riordan

February 28, 2007

Kathy's life touched countless others. May she be forever blessed by it, and may she rest with the angels.

Joelyn Stewart

February 28, 2007

Together again. These two shared more life and love than most. Peace be with the family.

Tina

February 28, 2007

Although I only met Kathy a few times many years ago, she had a great impact on my life. May God bless this wonderful woman!

Alexandra

February 28, 2007

I never actually knew Kathy, but feel as if I knew her well from her many writings. RIP Kathy and I pray that you have been reunited with your beloved Sara.

on_my_way_out_2

February 28, 2007

I never met Kathy however, her efforts in assisting my family and I during our resignation from the Lds church was invaluable. I owe a debt of gratitde to her and will be forever thankful. Thank you Kathy! You and your efforts will be missed.

Melissa Waters

February 28, 2007

I met Kathy and Sara when I was at a crossroads in my life 15 years ago. Only now can I see how meeting Kathy helped me beyond a confused, guilt ridden place to live, love and be happy with who I am. I know she touched literally thousands of other people in a similar way. No one can ever fill her shoes. I am thankful I met both Kathy and her loving partner Sara, and thankful for the gifts they so willingly gave us all.

April Foreman

February 28, 2007

I never met Kathy personally. I just exchanged a few emails and a package. That was all that was necessary for her to transform my life. I cannot express the powerful and positive impact she had on my life, and because of that on the lives of my children, especially my daughter. She will not be raised mormon with the same oppression I experienced as a girl.

Cynthia Jensen

February 28, 2007

She will be missed. Her kindness, courage and knowledge that she shared helped me and my family.

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