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Sally Skinner Behnke

1923 - 2013

Sally Skinner Behnke obituary, 1923-2013, Seattle, WA

BORN

1923

DIED

2013

Sally Behnke Obituary

Sally Skinner Behnke

Sally Skinner Behnke was a leader in the Seattle community and a woman generous with both her time and means. She left us on December 12th, 2013, following complications from a stroke. She was 90 years young.

Sally was born September 21, 1923 in Seattle, Washington, the daughter of Gilbert and Winifred Skinner. She was second of three children. Sally attended St. Nicholas High School. She matriculated to Sweetbriar College in Virginia for two years and then returned to Seattle at the start of World War II where she graduated from the University of Washington in 1944 with a Bachelor of Science Degree. Sally and Robert (Bob) Behnke were married shortly after her graduation. Together the Behnkes raised three sons in Medina, Washington where Bob served as mayor during the 1960s.

Sally had a deep commitment to community service and gave generously of both her time and talents. She followed in the footsteps of both her grandmother and her mother, joining the board of Seattle's Children's Orthopedic Hospital (now Seattle Children's). In 1945, Sally helped establish the Olive Kerry Guild at Seattle

Children's. She would later become

the hospital's Chairman of the Board and lead one of the largest capital campaigns in the organization's history. For her service, Sally was honored with the Penington Award, the highest award bestowed by Children's Hospital.

When Sally's son Ned was diagnosed with a profound hearing loss, she became deeply involved with the Northwest School for Hearing Impaired Children. She would become both a founding board member and President of the school's board. Sally was also involved with Ned's alma mater, the Rochester Institute of Technology, where he received his MFA in painting. She was also supportive of the Hearing, Speech and Deafness Center, ultimately founding the Ned Behnke Preschool at the center.

Sally was a lifelong supporter of the University of Washington, serving as Chair of the Development Fund board, member of the Tyee Board and the UW Foundation board as well as serving on various committees and boards connected with Intercollegiate Athletics and the School of Medicine, in addition to being a member of the UW President's Club. The UW Alumni Association showed its appreciation in 2010 by honoring Sally and Bob, with Bob's brother John F. Behnke, with the prestigious Gates Volunteer Service Award recognizing outstanding volunteer leadership to the university.

Sally was a woman of many "firsts", serving as the first woman on the board of Washington Mutual bank and as the first chairwoman of the Corporate Council for the Arts (now Artsfund). Sally served as a member of the Board of Trustees of the Fred Hutchinson Cancer Research center, taking an active leadership role with their capital campaigns, a role for which she was honored with the Grace Hefferman Arnold Guild Award for Outstanding Service to Fred Hutchinson Cancer Research Center. Sally was also an active fundraiser for the Northwest Aids Foundation (now Lifelong AIDS Alliance) and The Nature Conservancy, as well as serving as a board member.

For her extraordinary dedication to her community, Sally was honored in 2001 with the Isabel Coleman Award for Excellence in Community Service, a prestigious award given by the YWCA of Seattle-King County-Snohomish County reserved for "an individual or organization whose efforts have contributed to enhancing the quality of life in the community." This was one of many honors Sally received during her lifetime.

Sally was a passionate sports fan, supporting our local Seattle teams as well as serving as a board member of the Seattle Super Sonics. She shared this passion for sports with her husband as well as her sons. Sally was a loyal Washington Huskies fan and could often be seen at both Husky football and basketball games in her purple sequin hat. In November 1962, Sally and Bob found themselves in a full spread Sports Illustrated article describing their commute by boat to Husky football games.

Horses were a large part of Sally's life. Sally didn't own a horse until after she was married with children when Bob encouraged her by saying "You've always wanted a horse, and you're not getting any younger. You'd better get out and get one." Sally admired the skill and precision that was required for jumping. She would belong to the American Horse Show Association and rode in horse shows until she was in her early 70's.

Bob and Sally considered Sun Valley their second home and enjoyed all that it had to offer in both Winter and Summer. Each year the Behnke's hosted the annual kickoff party for the Ancient Skiers.

Sally is survived by her sons, Carl G. Behnke (Renee) and John S. Behnke (Shari); grandchildren, Marisa Behnke (Corey Ginsberg), Zane Behnke (Alison), Merrill Behnke (Ryan Broms) and Drew Behnke (Chloe); great-grandchildren, Quinn, Channing, Weston and Logan; sister, Nancy Nordhoff (Lynn Hays).

Sally was predeceased by her husband, Robert Joseph Behnke, her son, Robert Edward (Ned) Behnke and her brother, David Edward Skinner II.

A memorial service will be held January 10, 2014 at 2:00 p.m. at St. Mark's Cathedral, Seattle. A reception will follow at the Sunset Club, Seattle.

Sally's family wishes to thank all nurses who cared for her during her last few months; Sally Muchai, Lily Saini, Cedar Hyde, Sheila Pascua and Linda Nygard.

In lieu of flowers, donations in Sally's memory may be made to Seattle Cancer Care Alliance.

To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.

Published by The Seattle Times from Dec. 18 to Dec. 22, 2013.

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Leslie S Green Foley

December 12, 2025

Rereading Sally's obit, it's just amazing all she did.

Leslie Green Foley

December 12, 2021

So many fond memories growing up with the Behnke kids. Sally and my Mother Marilyn McKay Green had a love for horses and were at St. Nick together. My brother Bill and sister Linda did some early schooling for the deaf with Ned a wonderful talented friend. I remember wonderful 4th of July's at the Behnke Bainbridge home. Also my Dad Levis would make a regular every other week trip to the Behnke's for a game of Gin Rummy. Sally is gone but I have many memories.

Cathi Hatch

December 26, 2013

Dear Carl, Renee & Family~
My love and sincere sympathy to each of you. Sally has always been one of my community role models I have revered. She was the first recipient of the Junior League of Seattle Dorothy Stimson Bullitt Award for a lifetime of volunteer leadership in 1989. I was in the audience that day and was so pleased to follow in her footsteps 15 years later and receive the same award. I will so miss seeing her at our annual luncheon for past DSB recipients. She could light up a room with her warmth and her generous smile and I know that I am just one of many who will miss her.

With my condolences,

Melody Fleckenstein

December 22, 2013

When I moved here from New York almost 30 years ago, and wanted to resume riding, Sally leased me one of her wonderful retired hunters at Evergreen Equestrian Center, and we enjoyed many rides together. She made me feel very welcome to the area, and was always generous with her time and horses. The equestrian community has lost a wonderful member.

Wendy Kay

December 22, 2013

Dear Carl and Family:
I send my condolences to you and your entire family on the passing on of your beloved Mother. I remember her from my youth and how inspirational she was to me way back then! I cannot think of a more generous person with her time and talent than your Mother exhibited. May God bless you all at this sad time.

Ann Silver

December 21, 2013

As a childhood friend of Ned Behnke, I'm glad I had the opportunity to know Sally over the years. She and my mother had two things in common: raising a deaf child and encouraging us to excel in art. My condolences to John and Shari as well as the rest of the Behnke clan.

Leslie Green Foley

December 21, 2013

I have wonderful childhood memory's of jumping off the dock with my brother and sister, Linda and Bill and swimming with Ned. Sally was much loved by our family.

Tony Volchok

December 20, 2013

Dear Behnke Family,
I am so sorry for your loss. Your mom was a very nice lady and was always spoken highly of by my parents . My prayers go out to all of you.

December 20, 2013

To the family.
I am sorry for your loss. May the God of all comfort grant you peace in your time of grief.

Barbara Courtney

December 19, 2013

Sally was a class act -- generous, thoughtful, direct. I am sad to hear of her passing.

December 19, 2013

I'm very sorry for your loss. Wishing you peace to bring comfort, courage to face the days ahead, and loving memories to forever hold in your hands. May God continue to comfort your family (Psalms 9:9,10).

Mary Rolland

December 19, 2013

I am forever grateful for having Sally in my life. She was my friend, my mentor, and always gratious, generous, and kind, and so supportive of whatever I chose to do in my life. I will remember Sally for her strength and determination to make each day a day to remember. And that she did. Her memory was sharp as a tack for all of her 90+ years. She is on a new journey now, but I am sure she will still be watching over the Washington Huskies and the Seattle Seahawks, with a smile.

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