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Jillian Costello Obituary

Jillian Costello Born December 1, 1987, a Christmas angel for her loving parents, Mary and Jim Costello, and big brothers, James and Kevin, Jillian returned to the loving arms of Jesus and the Blessed Lady on June 24, 2010. She is the beloved granddaughter of Helen Weinkauf. Jill was extremely grateful for the loving and devoted care of her very special Auntie Kathy, Uncle Mark and Morello cousins, Jessica, Mike and John. Jill is the cherished niece of Diane and Mark Germenis, and George, Steven, Greg and Diane Weinkauf; and beloved cousin of Brian and Julie Germenis; Gregory, Stella, Connie and Angela Weinkauf; and Matt Costello. She is survived by the love of her life, Bryce Atkinson, and her devoted lifelong friend, Liz Button. She loved and was loved by numerous friends who enriched her life immeasurably and supported her amazingly as she faced her greatest challenge this past year. A 7th generation San Franciscan, Jill is a proud graduate of St. Brendan School, St. Ignatius College Preparatory and UC Berkeley, where she became a Kappa Kappa Gamma sister. Undeterred by incredible medical demands, Jill graduated from Cal in May, and was coxswain for the Cal Crew Varsity 8, winning the gold at the Pac10 and silver at the NCAA National Championship. Named a Cal Athletic Scholar, Jill received the Joseph M. Kavanaugh Award, presented to the most courageous and inspirational athlete; and the Women's Crew Bettina Bents award for loyalty, proficiency and spirit. Jill was awarded the Pac10 Conference Women's Rowing Athlete of the Year, and named to the Pac10 All-Academic second team. Jill motivated her Cal team with her fight and determination so much that they raced at the Cal-Stanford "Big Row" and the NCAA Championship as "Team Jill". Diagnosed with lung cancer last June, Jill chose to spend her last year living fully, completely, and joyfully. She was an inspiration as she met her challenge with courage, faith and determination. Despite the hardships she faced, Jill taught us to embrace the joy of each day and to celebrate it, so we invite you to wear your favorite color to her services as we celebrate the life of Jill. Jill was extremely grateful to her Team Jill for their complete and loving support, as well as, her KKG sisters, who always held her in their loving arms. Upon graduation, Jill was proud to accept the position of Director of Public Awareness for the Bonnie J. Addario Lung Cancer Foundation. Jill faced cancer as a brave and courageous warrior. But even the greatest warrior finally lays down her weapons. Jillian shared her journey through her CaringBridge journal, and personal messages may be left there: http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/jillcostello Friends may visit after 5:00pm on Tuesday, June 29th and are invited at 7pm to attend A "Celebration of Jill" which will begin with a Rosary at St. Ignatius Church (Parker and Fulton St) and continue with a Funeral Mass there on Wed, June 30, at 1:30pm. Parking available at the Koret Center (Turk and Parker). A reception will follow the mass. In lieu of flowers, Jill's family requests support to the "Jill Costello Scholarship" at St. Ignatius College Preparatory, or her passion, "Team Jill" at the Bonnie J. Addario Lung Cancer Foundation, and invites everyone to the "Jog for Jill" on Sept 12 for lung cancer research.

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Published by San Francisco Chronicle from Jun. 27 to Jun. 29, 2010.

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Nancy and Gordon Polen

June 21, 2023

Miss you sweet angel.

Nancy Polen

June 21, 2020

Think if you often beautiful Jill. You are missed by so many

Will Horsfall, S.I. '73

July 2, 2010

Dear Jim and family,
I am deeply saddened to hear of the loss of your sweet Jillian, and as the father of two daughters, I can't even begin to imagine what you are going through and feeling right now. I read of her very impressive accomplishments at Cal on the crew team (I was an oarsman at Loyola), and of her trip to Lourdes, and found her to be a huge inspiration. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Lisa Payne

July 1, 2010

I will remember Jill fondly as sweet little Jill from Camp Mather. Rest in Peace Jillian.

Ralph & Pam Mapson

June 29, 2010

Her light went out far too soon, but while it burned, it burned exceedingly bright. Jill made a difference, and shall be sorely missed.

Nancy Polen

June 29, 2010

We will remember your strength and your smiling face always.

Gene Dawydiak

June 28, 2010

I never knew Jillian but I have heard so much about her. I was very sad when I found out Jillian had passed on. Even though I never knew Jillian, I felt a connection to her in many ways. My first connection was at Sacred Heart Cathedral Preparatory and I took a prayer and spirituality class. My teacher was very close with Jillian and helped her get through this very tough time. I heard her story from my teacher and learned about how she was doing. We prayer for her almost everyday in that class. I didn't hear about Jillian until my second connection at the SI baccalaureate mass during the homily when Father Walsh mentioned her. I couldn't help but think about her and pray for her. The third connection to Jillian was through a Christian Brother who went to Lourdes with her and that experience to talk with her during the pilgrimage. I am grateful to have known Jillian through a spiritual connection of our church. I know how it feels to go through an illness like this seeing it happen to a loved one. My nonna was diagnosed with lung cancer almost 3 years ago. I had to watch as my nonna declined from her active self. It really affected me. She died eight months after being diagnosed. It was really hard to go through watching that. I understand those who were close to Jillian and how they felt. Jillian's story is that of courage, she is an example to follow in life, she has inspired me for life, and connected to me many ways. Jillian's story shall be remembered forever. My deepest sympathy and prayers go out to Jillian and the Costello family.

June 28, 2010

Jennifer Gilson, San Francisco, California

Nancy McCarthy

June 28, 2010

JIm, Mary, Jimmy and Kevin,
Our lives have been changed for the better because of Jill. She taught us how to be strong and persevere when adversity is staring you in the face. Although Jill is now with the angels, she will forever be etched in our hearts. We have chosen to live by Jill's rules:
Love, Live, Be Grateful, Visualize, Laugh, and most of all to Believe.
Love always,
Dennis, Nancy, Brian, Jimmy and Danny McCarthy

Jody Scott

June 28, 2010

Beautiful Jillian,
You lived a beautiful rich life, even though 22 years is way too short. Many lives will be changed both by your steadfast courage and spirit, and also by your efforts to put an illuminating face to lung cancer. I will walk proudly in September in your honor and give my best effort to help you reach the goal you set! You were an angel on earth and live on as an angel for eternity.

Maryanne Hoburg

June 27, 2010

My heart, so full of gratitude, goes out to you and everyone who ever heard your words or saw your beautiful, determined face. You and what you championed for will not be forgotten by me. You have been, and are, the coxswain for a much bigger boat. God bless you, your family and friends. Thank you! Most sincerely, Maryanne Hoburg

Gina Collins

June 27, 2010

To our dear friend, Jill: It has been an honor to be a part of your life and share in your many accomplishments--what a full life you led in just 22 years! With insurmountable courage and grace, you faced your biggest challenge head on and inspired so many along the way. We will miss you and will honor you always by celebrating all that is good in life.
All our love,
James and Gina

Bonnie Addario

June 27, 2010

While we wait to meet again, sweet angel, we will work feverishly, in your
honor, to find an end to lung cancer. What we do for ourselves dies with us....What we do for others lasts forever. No one person could make that as obvious as you have in your short 22 years. I will cherish just knowing you for all time....... Love, Bonnie Addario

Casey Sternsmith

June 27, 2010

I only knew Jill through Gina Rosaia Collins words, but they were always of someone who was wonderful; a great woman, a true fighter, and someone always with a smile on her face. I am so sorry for your loss.- Casey Sternsmith

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