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Thomas Trifoso Obituary

Trifoso, Thomas A.

Age 55 passed away peacefully on October 26, 2015 in Laguna Nigel, California after a long battle with cancer with his sister, Lesley and her family by his side. Tom was the son of Bernard and Patricia Whitlock A. Trifoso. In addition to his parents, Tom is survived by his son and daughter-in-law, Stephen and Samantha Trifoso of Middletown, DE, with son, Lincoln; sisters and brothers-in-law, Michele and Dale Jeffries of Fredericksburg, VA, with daughter, Daniele Yancey with children, Harrison and Dysie; Lesley and Joseph Russell of Laguna Niguel, CA, with children, Jaclyn, Carlianne, Angeline and Joey Russell and many aunts, uncles, cousins and friends. Tom graduated from The Elmira Free Academy and Elmira Business Institute. He was enthusiastic about life. Very friendly and gregarious, he made friends very easily with his great personality. Tom was very proud of his sales career. His last job was with Ashley Furniture in Horseheads. Tom was very successful and was one of their best salesmen. He had a great knowledge of furniture and prided himself on putting the customer first. Tom enjoyed his involvement in the local Mountain Bike Scene, helping young people get free bikes. His real love was music. He had an enormous collection of music and memorabilia including records, cd's and tapes. He was proud of his collection of guitar amps and special effects pedals. His love of guitars started around the age of 13 and started playing in bands by the time he was 15. He started his band "Vaudeville" consisting of Richard Deek Eisenhart, Andy Hilfiger, Ronnie Mengel and Alvan Hill. They rocked the local scene with flash and wild stage antics. He also enjoyed playing at reunions for "Vaudville" for many years afterwards. Tom will be missed by all of the musicians that had the pleasure of knowing, especially his good friend Matt Nagle whom he grew up with and shared his love of music whether in bands or playing in Tom's living room. Tom was an accomplished musician and will be missed by his family and friends. A special thank you to his friend, Kelly Gephart who helped with Tom's care in his final stages of his fight against cancer. Family and Friends are invited to Tom's Mass of Christian Burial at Our Lady of Lourdes Church, Elmira on November 21, 2015 at 10:00 a.m. Interment, with committal prayers, will follow at St. Peter & Paul's Cemetery. In lieu of flowers memorial donations in Tom's name may be directed to, UC Irvine Health Advancement, c/o Trifoso Gifts, 333 City Blvd., West, #605, Orange, CA 92868. Or visit ua-web.uadv.uci.edu/Behnaz Fund.

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Published by Star-Gazette from Oct. 28 to Nov. 15, 2015.

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June Taylor

November 23, 2015

Tom you were definitely one of a kind and you could always manage to make me laugh even on one of my worst days! I am thankful to have known you through all of these years. Even though u moved clear across the country we always made it a point to stay in touch. You were my partner in crime at Ashley Furniture and I will always cherish the special bond we shared. RIP tommy tom tom tom!

Amie Hamlin

November 22, 2015

RIP Tommy. My deepest sympathies to Tommy's family and friends. We had some fun times in high school. He was a good guy!

November 20, 2015

Tommy.. I'm surprised at how so much in our lives crossed paths..knowing many of the same people thru the same places. I looked foreward to every Sunday reading your newest posts about music, places back in the day here in Elmira..sharing many of the same memories, laughing about them..Then realizing...something was off when no post..yet..keeping the faith..until opening the S-G..just lost it..I held out hope it was yet another bump in the road you'd be over . Was great the "tour" thru the new ""apartment" Just so many memories of back in the day..Laughed thinking of how many of us went to see you & the bands play locally..being underage..and now..we're all old enough..Yet a part of all of us never grew old!! May you rest in peace..May your family & friends find peace with the sharing of memories ..Your music will go on ..Say a special Hello & hug to Alva!! Heavan is going to be just a rocking now..Blessings & Prayers to all.Your'e so missed..we'l all one day be together again.

John Stacey

November 19, 2015

Tom, we had some good times together at Tiny Tavern, Westside Tavern with John Keck, Garricks College and Third Streets, I will miss you my dear friend, rest in peace.

Kelly Donahue

November 17, 2015

I could start this by saying, I'll always remember you...but, how could I ever forget you? How could anyone? You have touched the hearts of everyone you have ever met. Such a beautiful person, a treasure, an honor to have known. I, and many others will miss you dearly. Rest in peace my friend.

jason kirk

November 13, 2015

You will be missed my friend.

November 5, 2015

Tom was a wonderful friend to me and I always enjoyed working with him at Ashley Furniture. God Bless you Tom and family

Linda L. Coleman

Cindi Coats

November 5, 2015

Your enthusiasm for life will never be forgotten... RIP friend

Renee Archambo

November 5, 2015

RIP Tom.

Cliff Welch

November 5, 2015

Patsy & Bernie
Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.
Cliff and Dorcas Welch

Charlie Reinhart

November 4, 2015

My condolences to the family of Tom. He was a gentle soul with a kind heart. God Bless

Sam Klempner

November 4, 2015

It was a privilege to get to know Tom and his family and he will be missed.

Cheryl Richtmyer

November 3, 2015

You are in my prayer. Tom made EBI fun and enjoyable with his smile and wit.

Joann Barbieri

November 2, 2015

Thoughts and prayers are with you all.
Sincerely,
The Barbieri Family

Charise Covey-Vargo

November 2, 2015

Tommy you will be sorely miss by all of us who knew you, to your family and friends my thoughts and prayers go out to you, may all your fond memories help you during this difficult and sad time.
R.I.P. my friend <3

Terry Mucci

November 2, 2015

I'll see you again my brother, this isn't over! Just the beginning. Tell everyone I said hi. R. I. P. Tom!!!

Sherrie and Sam Pizzo

November 1, 2015

Trifoso family and friends,

Sincere condolences. Tom was a kind person and may he rest in peace. We last saw him at a Counting Crows concert and he was having a great time. We enjoyed his musical talents and he was one of a kind.

Kathy Van Dyke Savsge

November 1, 2015

May the Peace of God's love surround and support the family and friends of their beloved, Tom.

Frank Danna

November 1, 2015

Tom,
I know we only new each other from performing back in New York when I lived there many years ago. Tom, you and your talent as a guitarist will be missed. Hopefully we will meet again in another life my friend.

Joanna Burgess

November 1, 2015

Aunt Pat & Uncle Bernie,
Remembering you with love & prayer at this time of sorrow. Hope that fond memories of Tom will lift you in the times ahead. He will now be at peace.
Love, Joanna, Thad Burgess & your sister, Bertha

Mandi Messinger

November 1, 2015

My condolences to the entire Trifoso family...Fly High with the Angels Tommy....

Mandi Messinger

November 1, 2015

I don't know where to begin...I guess Thank You for making the last 1 1/2 years of my life the best with our talks & dreams....We never got to fulfill our dream of meeting each other...Fate has it we were together here in Elmira all the time, you move to Cali, and we meet on FB...LOL....You're in My heart Always my Sweet Tommy T.....Will love you forever...Heaven has another Angel...til we meet in Heaven...Fly High with the Angels Darlin'....♥

November 1, 2015

Uncle Bernie & Aunt Pat,
Our thoughts & prayers are with your family at this sorrowful time. May good memories & times ease the painful loss of your son.
Joanna, Thad Burgess & your sister, Bertha

Sam & Lawana Trifoso

November 1, 2015

Uncle Bernie, Aunt Pat & family,
Lawana and I were sorry to learn of Tommy's passing. Please know that you are in our thoughts and prayers. We love you all.

Patricia N.

November 1, 2015

R.I.P.Tommy Trifoso.Condolences to your family.

tim

November 1, 2015

Lost a great friend and an awesome musician

Yvonne Madison

October 31, 2015

Sweet dreams Tommy !

October 30, 2015

RIP

Dani and Pat Taylor

October 29, 2015

My deepest sympathies to the family

Much Love to Tommy

Best friends forever

Matthew Nagle

October 29, 2015

Love you as my brother. My world won't be quite the same without you here. We were quite a team, huh old pal? I smile through the tears, thinking of all the time we had shared. I'm going to miss you Tommy.

Jim Farr

October 29, 2015

RIP Tommy. I first saw you play in Vaudeville. Then had the pleasure to get to know you through your time with XOX. I will miss my friend :(

Tom Notartomaso

October 28, 2015

RIP Tommy you're at peace now

Tom Notartomaso

October 28, 2015

RIP Tommy you're at peace now I'm praying for you

Daniel Giammichele

October 28, 2015

Into God's Kingdom you Enter ! Eternal Happiness is yours ! Until we meet again !! Your Friend Always ! Dan.

Dan Page

October 28, 2015

I'll always remember you............

October 28, 2015

I'll always remember you............

Dave Arndt

October 28, 2015

My deepest sympathies to the family and loved ones. I am so sorry.

Daniel Giammichele

October 28, 2015

Into God's Kingdom you Enter! Until we meet again! Your Friend Dan

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