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Mary Hogaboom Stanley died on April 24, 2013, at the age of 101 at Davis Health Care Center in Wilmington. She was born on May 31, 1911, to George Edward and Mary Mayerhoff Hogaboom in Vicksburg, Mississippi. While growing up in Mississippi and visiting the Tropics, she rode horses, which she liked since "the horse did all the work." Mary graduated from All Saints Episcopal High School and Junior College in Vicksburg. After each graduation, she visited her brother's and sister's families in Honduras and Panama. She met her husband, Bill Stanley, when both of them were working for the federal government in Washington, D.C. They married in 1938 at Christ Church in Alexandria, Virginia, moving to Wilmington in 1944. Mary traveled extensively throughout the Mediterranean and Europe, as well as to Egypt, Australia, Russia, and more with her husband. They were married for more than 40 years until Bill died in 1984.
Nearly all of Mary's family members, daughters and great-grandchildren included, called her Grand-mère (French for grandmother)-a name that stuck for some 50 years. Grand-mère was the Queen of Bridge and crossword puzzles, as well as a history buff with a penchant for English history. One of Grand-mère's favorite authors was Jane Austen, and she watched the five-hour version of Pride & Prejudice with her daughters, granddaughter, and great-granddaughter more than two dozen times. She loved the TV show Jeopardy and even met and chatted with Alec Trebec one year at a Garden Club Tour opening. A witty conversationalist, she endeared listeners with her Mississippi drawl with a touch of coastal North Carolina brogue.
Grand-mère lived in Wilmington for almost 70 years. She enjoyed playing cards all her life and loved living at Plantation Village, a retirement home, where for almost 20 years, long dinners with good friends were a daily pleasure. It was also at Plantation Village that Grand-mère gleefully darted around in her red scooter, usually turned up to top speed. Aside from world traveling and reading, her pleasures included gardening, flower arranging, skilled sewing (tailoring and smocking), and knitting, especially Irish knit and ski sweaters. She was a long-time member of the First Presbyterian Church, Stamp Defiance Chapter-NSDAR, Lord Clarendon Chapter-NSDAC and the Carolina Yacht Club on Wrightsville Beach, where she and Bill often had a drink upstairs on the sound-facing porch with friends and where years later she enjoyed her lively 85th-birthday bash.
Grand-mère loved Calabash-style seafood, pecans, shortbread cookies, and sardines or smoked oysters on saltines with a glass of gingerale. She particularly liked her family to bring her a ham biscuit from Hardee's when they visited. She only tolerated extra salty, cured ham and felt sorry for poor imitations. A month before her 101st birthday, she downed a basket of fried pickles (the first she'd ever tasted) and a pint of ale by herself at her grandson John's wedding rehearsal dinner in Wilmington. Grand-mère died a month short of her 102nd birthday.
She was preceded in death by her daughter, Augusta Stanley Dingeldein; her husband, William Martin Stanley; her parents, Mary and Brig. Gen. George Hogaboom, Mississippi National Guard; her brothers: Henry Hogaboom; Gen. Robert Hogaboom, USMC; Reece Hogaboom; Capt. William Hogaboom, USMC; and her sister, Wilma H. Block-who lived to be almost 104 and whom Grand-mère joked she was trying to outlive. She leaves her daughter Martha Stanley Cole (husband Jim) of Springfield, VA; grandchildren, Amy Doyle of Texarkana, TX, James Stanley Cole (wife Sarah) of Richmond, VA, and John Martin Cole (wife Katherine) of Silver Spring, MD; and great-grandchildren, Hannah Doyle of Asheville, NC, and Jamie Braddock Cole of Richmond, VA.
Grand-mère was extremely fond of her nurses and aides at Davis Nursing Home. The family wishes to give special thanks to the many nurses and staff who were so caring to Mary and suggests memorial gifts be made to Davis Health Care Center, 1011 Porters Neck Road, Wilmington, NC, 28411, or Lower Cape Fear Hospice, 2222 South 17th Street, Wilmington, NC, 28401. There will be a memorial service on May 13 at 2:00 at the Kenan Chapel of the First Presbyterian Church in Wilmington. Grand-mère will be interred in the Stanley Cemetery in Dublin, GA, in a private service.
Condolences may be sent to the family at www.andrewsmortuary.com
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Published in the Wilmington Star-News from Apr. 28 to Apr. 29, 2013