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Dr. John Jesse Carey

1931 - 2017

Dr.  John Jesse Carey obituary, 1931-2017, Tallahassee, AK

John Carey Obituary

Dr. John Jesse Carey

October 13, 1931 - March 2, 2017

Dr. John Jesse Carey, also known affectionately as "Big J" and "Big Papa," passed away peacefully in his sleep in the early morning of March 2, 2017, at Duke Hospice's Hock Family Pavilion in Durham, North Carolina. His health had been steadily declining for several years, but he held on until all five of his daughters could be with him in his final days.

Dr. Carey had a robust and rewarding life of academic, athletic, and professional accomplishments over his 85-year lifetime. Born and raised in Fort Wayne, Indiana, he was the first in his family to go to college, a feat he accomplished in part due to a full football scholarship to Duke University. He graduated Phi Beta Kappa from Duke in 1953 with a double major in history and philosophy. He also served as the defensive captain of the 1952 Duke team which won the championship of the Southern Conference and was named to various All-Southern and All-American teams. In his senior year, he was the recipient of the Robert E. Lee Award which was awarded to the Duke student "who in leadership and scholarship, manly virtues and athletic ability most nearly realizes the standards of the ideal student." He also received the Algernon Sydney Sullivan Award, awarded to the student judged to have rendered the greatest service to the university and the community, and the Thomas Arkle Clark Award of the Alpha Tau Omega fraternity, which is given to the most outstanding ATO undergraduate in the nation.

Following his Duke graduation, he entered the Yale Divinity School and received his B.D. and S.T.M. degrees in 1956 and 1957. He received his Ph.D. from Duke in 1965 and conducted post-doctoral research and work at several institutions around the U.S. and the world. He was a founder of the North American Paul Tillich Society, a member of the American Academy of Religion, and a twenty year consultant to the Southern Association of Colleges and Schools.

Dr. Carey began his career at the University Chaplain at Catawba College in Salisbury, North Carolina. The majority of Dr. Carey's professional career was spent at Florida State University in Tallahassee, Florida, where from 1960 to 1986 he served in a variety of positions including University Chaplain, Professor of Religion, Dean of Students, Vice President for Student Affairs, Chair of the Department of Religion, and Director of Graduate Studies in Religion. Over the course of his career at FSU, he received numerous teaching and service awards. From 1986 to 1988, he served as President of Warren Wilson College in Swannanoa, North Carolina. In 1988, he returned to the academic side of higher education by accepting an appointment as the Pendergrass Professor of Religion at Florida Southern College in Lakeland, Florida. In 1989, he joined the faculty of Agnes Scott College in Decatur, Georgia as the Wallace M. Alston Professor of Bible and Religion and Chair of the Department of Religion. He retired from Agnes Scott in 1999. In 2000, Dr. Carey accepted a post-retirement calling to serve as Interim Pastor of Immanuel Presbyterian Church in Anchorage, Alaska and taught for the Philosophy Department at the University of Alaska-Anchorage. He served Immanuel at different times through 2009.

Over the course of his long and distinguished career, Dr. Carey wrote or edited 12 books and more than 60 scholarly articles. He was an ordained minister of the Presbyterian Church (U.S.A.), and chaired the Presbyterian Committee on Human Sexuality from 1988-1991, an experience which resulted in appearances on the ABC television shows Good Morning America and Nightline. He helped, mentored and encouraged hundreds of students and colleagues over the course of his academic career, and inspired hundreds more with his passionate dedication and leadership in the areas of peace studies, women's issues, and the rights and dignity due to gay and lesbian people. In the words of one of his nephews, he was a lion of a progressive and the hero of many. His family will remember him as a warm-hearted teddy bear of a man who loved dogs, the Florida State Seminoles, all college sports, and ice cream, and had an infinite supply of love, encouragement, support, and good humor. Words cannot capture how much he will be missed.

Dr. Carey is survived by his wife of 47 years, Mary Charlotte McCall of Chapel Hill, North Carolina, and their loving and loyal dog, Pookie; his sister, Mary Louise Whitmore of Cedarburg, Wisconsin; his five daughters, Sarah Kathryn Carey (Chad Hunsaker) of Gainesville, Florida, Marylynn Carey of Tallahassee, Florida, Beth Ann Carey of Tallahassee, Florida, Joanna Carey Cleveland (Sam Cleveland) of Chapel Hill, North Carolina, and Jessica Carey Graham (Jason Graham) of Anchorage, Alaska; and his five grandchildren, to whom he was always known as "Big Papa": Jada Marina Graham (14), Jolie Cay Graham (13), Jersey Meridian Graham (11), John Carey ("Jack") Cleveland (8), and Susanna Elizabeth Cleveland (5). He also is survived by his first wife and longtime friend, Sally Stanback Malloy, of Tallahassee, Florida.

Celebration of Life services will be held at First Presbyterian Church in Tallahassee, Florida on April 22, 2017, and at Immanuel Presbyterian Church in Anchorage, Alaska on June 3, 2017. The family encourages all those who loved and cared about Dr. Carey to honor him by acting with kindness, compassion, and humility to all. Anyone who wishes to do so also may consider donating to an organization that works for the causes that mattered most to him, such as the American Civil Liberties Union, Doctors Without Borders, and the Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals (SPCA).

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Published by Tallahassee Democrat on Mar. 12, 2017.

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Mel and Pat Oakes

March 6, 2023

While we sadly lost dear John and dear Sally, we reconnected with the little girls that also enriched our lives at FSU in late 50s and early 60s. We cherish the continued Carey connection and share their sorrow.

a student

November 24, 2019

i met dr. carey as a student in the "introduction to the new testament" course he taught at FSU. he was my most memorable professor. he was kind, promoted discourse, encouraged open-mindedness, and helped me to develop logical thinking and clarity of thought and expression. his many, many acts of compassion in class made an impression on me that i carry with me to this day. perhaps most importantly, he was quick to see the good in his students and share that vision with them.

condolences to his family.

John J. Carey (our dad) with our mom, Sally S. Carey (now Malloy), and their three daughters, Beth Ann (Dad holding Beth); Sarah Kathryn, & Mary Lynn.

Sarah Carey

August 27, 2017

4/1963 Sally Carey, Dick and Sue Berkley, John Carey, Pat Winter holding Mary Lynn Carey, Margaret Weatherford holding Sarah Catherine and a mystery

Mel and Pat Oakes

August 14, 2017

Mel and Pat Oakes

August 14, 2017

My wife and I met at FSU in the Congregational Church group that John started in the Baptist Student Union. His leadership and his elevating religious dialogue was responsible for making it a lifetime changing experience. We kept in touch over the ensuing years. We have wonderful memories of John, Sarah Catherine and Mary Lynn. Our sympathies go out to all the family.

June 3, 2017

Our sincere condolences to the family. Our prayers are as yours, that God provide his care and comfort you each day. - Ps 145:18,19

June 2, 2017

Our sincere condolences to the family. Our prayers are as yours, that God provide his care and comfort you each day. - Ps 145:18,19

Katherine Shelfer

April 14, 2017

John Carey was interested in his students. He cared about our character as much as he cared about our intellectual development. That is both rare and wonderful. But his gentle nature and kind heart are what I will remember most.

N K

April 3, 2017

A wonderful man! RIP!! You were loved greatly by family and friends. Time for your Guardian Angel role! I KNOW you will NAIL IT!!!

Charles Montford

March 20, 2017

I am sad to read of Dr. John Carey's passing. More than my Bible professor, he was my friend when he took charge of the leadership of the Wesley Foundation at FSU in 1960, in the absence of his dear friend and collegue, Austin Hollady, the Director, who was incapacitated by a heart attack. Dr. Carey counseled and preached to hundreds of Methodist students during Austin's recuperation. I still have several of Dr. Carey's sermons to the Wesley students: I will cherish them as long as i live. He was a brilliant scholar!

March 19, 2017

My condolence to you and your family at this time.May you find peace.

Alphonso

March 14, 2017

To the family of Dr. John J. Carey, I am so sorry for your loss. I'm sure you will miss him dearly. Please find comfort in knowing one day we will see our loved ones again. John 6:40. Matthew 5:5.

Karen Lipinczyk

March 14, 2017

Mary Charlotte. To John's evanescent spirit and your perseverance: well done good and faithful servants.

Jessica Heath Quance

March 13, 2017

I remember Dr. Carey fondly as my Religions in a America professor at ASC. He had an ability to make studying religion fascinating and was always available to his students. We all learned so much from him and it is from him that I gained an appreciation for studying different philosophies/ religions. He will be very missed.

Becky

March 13, 2017

My deepest sympathy to the family. May the "God of tender mercies and all comfort" help you through this difficult time -2 cor 1:3.

March 13, 2017

Rest In Peace John...you were an influential force on so many levels and in so many circles. Our hearts and prayers are for you and with your family. Although we did not know you more than a brief time in the grand scheme of life we did and do cherish your acquaintance and friendship--we will keep in touch through your daughters and our grandchildren--Jim and Kay.

Emma Lou Brogdon

March 12, 2017

Dear Beth,

I always felt so honored to be around your Daddy. He was absolutely so very gentle, so loving, he would always thank me for anything I did, such as making him an appointment, greeting him as he walked through the front door, offering him coffee or even water, he had such a sweetness about him. He always treated me with such kindness, always asking about my family, especially my boys, and always sharing how blessed he was and how he adored each of his beautiful girls. Every time I would ask your Daddy about you, before he would say anything, all of a sudden, out of nowhere, he would have the sweetest smile on his face, with such a twinkle in his eyes. I can remember wondering what it would be like to have a Daddy like yours, and would he break into a smile if someone asked about me? Unfortunately, my Daddy died when I was 8 years old so I was always very aware of how other Daddy's treated their Daughter's. I do remember, as if it was yesterday, when I began working in the practice, there was a day the phone was ringing off the hook, a patient was at the front window, trying to interrupt me while I was trying to schedule an appointment for your Daddy's next visit, and out of nowhere, your Daddy ask me if he needed to talk with Dr Hughes about working me so hard? I almost broke down in tears. Honestly, I couldn't believe anyone could be that kind. From that moment on, your Daddy won my heart!!

One of the greatest gifts in my entire lifetime, was being hired by Dr Hughes to be the office manager in his dental practice. From the very first moment, I met some of the most incredible people who would make such an amazing impact on my life. Beth, you, your Daddy, your Mama, Sarah, and Marylynn, have always been so very special to me. No matter, that it has been so many years since I last saw any of you, each of you truly made me a better person and I will always be indebted and grateful for your very precious family.

As I celebrate your Daddy's life, with all of my heart, I thank him for making me feel special, and for always treating me with the upmost respect and appreciation.

Sweet Beth, you are in my thoughts, my prayers, and I truly love you with all of my heart.❤
.

March 11, 2017

GOD BE WITH YOU ALL UNTIL YOU MEET AGAIN IN HEAVEN.
ONE DAY AT A TIME SWEET JESUS.

March 11, 2017

My condolences to the Carey family,may you be touched by God's love as you grieve your loved one...Matt.5:4........~J~nc..

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