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Mary Valach Obituary
She was born in New Orleans, La., March 18, 1964, daughter of the late Richard and Phyllis Bolner. Mary Frances grew up in Metairie, La. with a love of music, great food and friends. She has been a resident of Mystic for the past 18 years. Ten of those years were spent as an employee of General Dynamics Electric Boat in Groton.
Although her home was in Connecticut, her heart was always in the "Big Easy" New Orleans. She shared the zest and hospitality from the roots of her heritage. Mary was a great mother, sister, aunt and friend. She will truly be missed.
Mary is survived by her beautiful daughter, Alexandra Julia Valach; sister, Stephanie (Bolner) Tupper of New London; and brother, Rick Bolner and wife, Robin, of Austin, Texas.
She will be memoralized Monday, Aug. 13, 2012, at Dinoto Funeral Home, 17 Pearl St., Mystic. A service will start at 6 p.m. with visitation until 8 p.m.
In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to CT Animal House, P.O. Box 343, Waterford, CT 06385.
To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.
Memories and Condolences
for Mary Valach
Tami Nori
August 1, 2024
You remain a bright light in my heart...love and miss you!!
Rick Bolner
August 1, 2023
Mare, miss you and still think of you. Rick
Danielle Cook
August 1, 2022
Think about you often; miss you!
Tami Nori
August 1, 2021
Remembering you always Mary! You are truly missed...your sunshine is seen in Alex as she has grown into a beautiful young lady!!
Danielle Cook
August 1, 2020
Olivia and I think and talk about you often; reminiscing about all of the times we spent together. We miss you! And Alex.....she has grown into a beautiful (inside and out) young woman, everything and more you would have wanted and wished for her (but I'm sure you already know that) XOXO
Sandra Avery
August 15, 2012
To Mary's loved ones - Thoughts & prayers are with you all. May she rest in peace.
Uncle Phil
August 15, 2012
I'm so so sorry.
Greg Albares
August 14, 2012
I loved Mary Frances very much. Will always keep her deep in my heart. My cousin was a special kind of person.You could talk to her about anything. She will be missed dearly.
August 14, 2012
My sweet baby sister,
The ceremony last night was perfect. You would have been so proud. All of your family and friends were there to bid you farewell and to thank you for all of the great times you shared with them. Don't worry about Alex, Steve is a great dad and he will take care of her.
Best of all, I know I will see you again at the gathering together. My comfort is in God's promise to me. But we talked about all of His love to you and you knew that you were His and have eternal life. Until then...
I will always love you,
Steph
Suzanne F. Wentzell
August 13, 2012
To Steve, Alex and Mary's family, I am deeply sorry for your loss. What a shock. I loved Mary dearly and she will be sorely missed. Take comfort in the fact that she is in a better place watching over us. I'm sorry I cannot be there for the memorial service today. Y'all are in my thoughts and prayers at this sad time.
Kevin F
August 11, 2012
Mary - because of her I am kinder, more giving, more accepting, more forgiving, more appreciative, more loving -- and even funnier. She will be deeply missed by all who knew her. Stephanie and Rick, I extend my deepest and most solemn condolences to you and hope you are comforted in knowing Mary is now united in heaven with your mom and dad, and all other loved ones. God bless you.
Maureen Roush
August 10, 2012
Chuck and I want to send our deepest condolences to Steve, Alex and Mary's family. Mary was a terrific person, what a terrible loss. You are all in our thoughts.
Donna Muller-Montenegro
August 9, 2012
To Mary's Family, Please accept my deepest sympathy for your loss. Mary and I worked together at Ralph and Kacoos and my goodness did we have fun. I met my husband one night when I was with her. I even had her jeans on that I borrowed that night. I truly miss and love Mary.
Kellie Dobard
August 9, 2012
I feel blessed just to have known Mary. I saw her about 4 months ago when she popped into "Aunt Doris and Uncle Charlie's house" where I now work. I am so glad that we got a chance to hug and laugh together. I will always cherish all of the times that the "Sturgis Street Kids" spent together. Please know that Mary, the Bolner and Valach families will always be in my heart and prayers.
frank obuchowski
August 8, 2012
why Mary....God bless your sweet soul.
Brenda Hollis
August 8, 2012
Although I have only known Mary for a short time, it was easy to see she was a very lovely lady! I always enjoyed our casual chats and her visits to the tanning salon with Alex and her niece. My thoughts and prayers go out to her family. With deepest sympathy.
August 8, 2012
Mary and I dated a couple/three times back in the early '90s. I met her when she worked at the Mystic Hilton. She was pretty within. I'm so sorry to see this...God bless her soul.
Tami and Tony Nori
August 8, 2012
Alex, Steph, Rick, Cadi, and Steve
Our special thoughts and prayers during this difficult time. Mary brightened the room, her smile will always be remembered. She will always have a special place in our hearts.
Trudy Ehrich
August 8, 2012
A week ago today I lost a friend of over 40 years whom I considered a sister. Mary, I miss your voice, your laughter, your texts during Saints games "Who Dat" and your loving friendship. I will see you again one day but until then know that you will always hold a special place in my heart. Alex, Steph, Cadi, Rick and Robin - please know that you are all in my heart and that you had an amazing mom/sister/aunt. Please call or email me if you need anything at all. Love you all. Trudy
Susan Henne
August 8, 2012
Steph, I am so sorry for your loss.
Linda Donahue
August 8, 2012
To Mary's Family,
Our hearts and prayers go out to you during this difficult time. We are truly sorry for your loss.
Linda, Brian, Jack, Kevin, Liam, and Maggie Donahue
August 7, 2012
Steph, Rick and family, Mary and your whole family are in our prayers. I know we are far away in miles, but if there is anything we can do for you during this difficult time, please let us know.
Faye and Dennis
August 7, 2012
The Haydel family would like to offer our sincere sympathy to the family. Our prayers and thoughts are with you at this difficult time. Paul & Donna Haydel
Rick Bolner
August 7, 2012
Mare, I'll love you forever, and miss you even longer.
Your brother,
Rick
August 7, 2012
To Mary's Family,
I worked with Mary at Electric Boat. She was a pleasure to know and always told stories about N'Orleans. She will be missed. Angela Bogert
Danielle Cook
August 7, 2012
Alex, Steve and family, we are so sorry for your loss. Mary was like a 2nd Mom to Olivia and a good friend to my entire family (Nonni included). We've all enjoyed (and will continue to remember) the precious time we were able spend with Mary (i.e., trip to NYC, Boston, softball games, etc.). Please let us know if there is anything we can do to help during this difficult time. Mary - rest in peace; you will be greatly missed! Kevin, Danielle and Olivia
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