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Mary Tompkins Obituary
Mary B. Tompkins, 92, passed away after a long battle with lung disease. Mary was a resident of Windsor Vallejo Care Center for the past 1 1/2 years.
Mary was a second generation Vallejoan, born to Mary Lyon Boss and Albert Boss.
She attended St. Vincent Elementary School and graduated from St. Vincent Ferrer High School, class of 1936. Mary worked at Maid of California from 1937 to 1944.
In 1944, she married Grant Tompkins with whom she had seven children.
In 1963, Mary went to work for Bank of America where she built many lifelong friendships with co-workers and customers, retiring in 1979.
Mary was always smiling, she enjoyed life and her family. We will miss her smiling face.
She was preceded in death by brothers, Robert Boss and William Boss; son, Steven Tompkins; and husband, Grant Tompkins.
She is survived by her children, Robert (Judy Turnbull) Tompkins of Oakland, Jean (Jim) Nelson of Scottsdale, Ariz., Lee Ann (Darryl) Baker of Vallejo, Donna Tompkins of Vallejo, Thomas (Sandy) Tompkins of Salinas, JoAnn (Renee Karnes) Tompkins of Rescue. She is also survived by seven grandchildren, Ben Stonefire, Dan (Tiffany) Nelson, Brad (Colleen) Nelson, Ellen (Trevor) Valdez, Steven (Shirley) Baker, Kelli Tompkins and Amy Tompkins; 12 great-grandchildren; nephew, John (Holly) Boss; nieces, Katie (George) Hudgins and Sister Patricia Boss; and her cousin, Tutti Lyon.
We would like to thank Windsor Vallejo Care Center and Asera Care Hospice for all the wonderful care and love Mary received.
In lieu of flowers, Mary would like donations to the Steven Tompkins Memorial Scholarship Fund at St. Patrick's-St. Vincent's High School, 1500 Benicia Road, Vallejo, CA 94591, (707) 644-4425.
Arrangements are being made by Colonial Chapels, 1000 Redwood St., Vallejo.
A memorial service will be held at 1 p.m. today, April 29, at the Chapel.
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Memories and Condolences
for Mary Tompkins
Katie O'Leary-Watson
May 16, 2011
To the Tompkins family,
You are an honor to your mother's memory. She has raised so many wonderful children and I am grateful to have known her and you. You have such a special place in my heart. With much love, prayers and respect,
Katie
May 5, 2011
Donna and family, what a special person your mom was. Rene and I send our best and know that your Mothers Day will be one of many rewarding memories. Bill Bullock (Cobb Ca)
Jim Gibbons
May 3, 2011
Tompkins family,
I am deeply sorry for your loss.
Janice (DeBenedetti) Miller
May 3, 2011
I worked with Mary in the 70's at Bank of America. We were vault tellers together and there wasn't a day that went by that wasn't full of laughter. My fondest memories with her are when we dressed up for Halloween at the bank. Mary was fantastic at creating and sewing costumes. There wasn't a single year she and her team didn't get first place!! My personal favorites were the Coors can, the Tin-man, and let's not forget - the Flying Nun!!!
Mary's smile was contagious and I'll always remember her for that!
May 1, 2011
My Mother and Mary graduated from High School together. My mother passed away about 12 years ago. She would want me to sign this as She loved her high school days and her friends.
My mother Ellen V. Johnson nee Hayes would love that I sent this note to Mary's family. Mary was at Ellen last birthday party when Ellen was 80 and at her Memorial the following year. Thank you Mary for always being a friend to my Mother through all the years. Judith M. Johnson
Jim Nelson
May 1, 2011
I can't imagine having a better mother-in-law. Mary and I were buddies for almost 45 years and she will always be in my heart.
J Sherwin
April 29, 2011
My thoughts and prayers are with you. I remember Mary's bright smile and cheerful personality; I worked with her at the Bank of America in 1966-67.
Timothy Ward
April 28, 2011
My condolences to all the Tompkins family .My prayers are with you in this time of loss.
Yvonne Healy
April 28, 2011
To all of Mary's relatives, you are in my thoughts and prayers during this time of loss.
April 27, 2011
To all the Tompkins family, I was sorry to read about your mom. I Remember what a great laugh she had. My condolences to you all.Carolyn Souza Dion
Maryanne Swinehart
April 27, 2011
Dear Tompkins Family, I will always remember your mom's sweet smile that lit up her whole face. When my mom was dying...Mary came in to her room, touched her face, and brought such comfort and strength to her with her kind and wise words. They are now together in Heaven free from pain and suffering and happy once again. Love Always, Maryanne, Gary, Paul and Michael
Carol K Kilby
April 27, 2011
Sweet Mary........
So uncomplaining, good sense of humor and loved crab! I enjoyed every moment of my friendship with Mary. Although I really didn't get to know her until late in her life, it was a special gift to know her and share monthly lunches with her. What a treasure. Alas my time with her was too brief and I shall dearly miss her. Mary, I can see your beautiful smiling face which will always be with me and in my heart. I am gratified that you are now with your loved ones and our dear Lord forever and ever.
With love
Carol Kilby
Terry Curtola
April 26, 2011
To the Tompkins Family;
I was so sorry to hear of your Mother's passing, she was my contact at Bank of America, when we owned Terry's Restaurants, for so many years and we remained friends after she retired. She was a wonderful lady and a great friend. Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this time.
Kenneth Knight
April 26, 2011
To the Tompkins Family, Mary will truly be missed by all that had the honor to know her and your family. My prayers and thoughts will be with all of you in this time of sorrow, and just take comfort in knowing that she is at a better place with all that had passed before her. Brenda Knight, Casey Marie and Nathan Knight Sparks, Nevada
Cathleen Woodson
April 26, 2011
LeeAnn, Donna, Tommy, Joann, Jean and Bob. . . Thinking of your Mom today and all of you. Mary's great smile and laugh will always remain with us. We're glad she's not suffering anymore and we know she is completely whole and happy now! It's been such a privilege for us to be included "as family" with all of you. Your Mom's greatest legacy is EACH OF YOU and that is something to really celebrate!!! From our hearts to yours. . .love always, Cathy and Dan
Virginia Such
April 26, 2011
I worked with Mary at the Bank of America. She made working days "fun days". With great love and respect I say farewell to an old friend. "Mary will not rest in peace, until the tears of her loved ones cease".
Rita Donato
April 26, 2011
To the Tompkins Family,
Your Mom was a great lady. She always had a smile on her face. I enjoyed the days at BofA with her. We were all like family. She will be greatly missed by all her friends as well as her family. Our prayers and thoughts are with all of you.. Rita Donato
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