Sgt. Robert Michael Kaulfers

Sgt. Robert Michael Kaulfers

Robert Kaulfers Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers on Oct. 10, 2001.
'Bob Was a Minstrel'
Men and women of the Port Authority of New York and New Jersey, friends and family members: Soon, the famed lyrics of Sgt. Robert M. Kaulfers may be available. These are the tunes you know and love from retirement parties, wedding receptions and slow days on the job. Take it from Sgt. Mark O'Neill: "Bob was a minstrel."

You'll get "The Hat," the famous ode to Officer Mike Barry, set to the tune of the theme from "The Cat in the Hat," and "Carnevale Time," the paean to Lt. Mike Carnevale. And who could forget the tribute to Sgt. Bernard M. Poggioli, a world-renowned expert on runaway children, "I'm Much Taller Than Poggioli"?

Many of the lyrics were found in Sergeant Kaulfers's locker. His wife, Cookie, thinks she may soon be strong enough to go through his papers at home to meet requests for the other songs. "I would hear him in the shower singing and laughing to himself," she remembered.

Sergeant Kaulfers, 49, also found time to study world history, keep the rookies on the right path and raise two children. His friends said he never held a grudge; perhaps the best evidence of that was his 25- year marriage to the girl who beat him in the election for sixth-grade class president.

Profile published in THE NEW YORK TIMES on December 31, 2001.


Sgt. Robert Kaulfers, 49, an officer first

Cookie Kaulfers does not remember her first day at Aldene Elementary School in Roselle Park some 39 years ago.

But the fourth-grader made quite an impression on a little boy who would grow up to be her husband.

"He remembers because I moved from Newark, and he remembers when I started school that day. I was a new person in town with a different name," said Luz "Cookie" Kaulfers of Kenilworth, yesterday. "We've been friends since we were little."

Her husband, Port Authority Police Sgt. Robert Michael Kaulfers, 49, died in the line of duty, having rushed from Hoboken to New York shortly after learning of the Sept. 11 attack on the World Trade Center.

He dashed in to help and has not been heard from since. His body has not been recovered.

"He was wonderful. Everybody loved Bob. He had a sense of humor. He did all the parties for the retired cops, wrote parody songs . . . He was kind of the life of the party," she said.

Sgt. Kaulfers was repeatedly described as a loyal, honest family man and a devoted police officer by those who knew him. He especially took an interest in the new police officers.

"He really related to all the rookies," Cookie Kaulfers said. "He was a cop first. He was always out there doing more and more than he should have. I was always afraid that something would happen.

"You live with that kind of thing your whole life when you're the wife of a police officer," she said. "But I never imagined this."

The Kaulfers, parents of two, recently celebrated their 25th wedding anniversary.

His mother, Julia Kelly Kaulfers of Roselle Park, remembers a "good boy" who loved his family, played football and Little League baseball and decided in his late teens to study criminal justice.

The Port Authority promoted him to sergeant in January 1996. From there he was assigned to the bus terminal in New York City and the PATH train. He began his career at the authority in 1979 as a facility operations agent.

Before that, he was an investigator for the Bergen County Prosecutor's Office's Narcotics Task Force, from 1976 to 1979.

He graduated Trenton State College in 1975.

Besides his wife and mother, Sgt. Kaulfers is survived by two children, Timothy, 22, and Meredith, 18; his father, Arthur; two sisters, Susan Nerbak and Carol Visconti; two brothers, Jack and Edward, and two nieces and four nephews.

A memorial Mass will be held Saturday at 3 p.m. at the Roman Catholic Church of the Assumption in Roselle Park.

The family asks that donations be made to Robert M. Kaulfers Memorial Fund, P.O. Box 252, Kenilworth, N.J. 07033.

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September 12, 2021

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Donna Hardy

September 12, 2021

On Saturday, September 11, 2021, I participated in the 7th annual Tri-Cities 9-11 Memorial Stair Climb hosted at the Bristol Motor Speedway in Bristol, TN. I was honored to carry the picture of Sergeant Robert M. Kaulfers during the climb of 110 stories, an event that memorializes and honors the lives of the brave men and women who made the ultimate sacrifice on that day 20 years ago. At the completion of the climb an honor bell was rung and Sergeant Kaulfers' name was announced to the more than 500 people in attendance. His picture now holds a special place in my home where I am constantly reminded of the courage and bravery of those who responded selflessly and came to the aid of others.
My promise to you......I will never forget.

The Kindred Family

November 23, 2018

We send our thoughts of deep sympathy to your family. Bob touched the lives of many people and will always be remembered.

SSgt Dalton Benedict

September 11, 2018

Even a world away, we remember...Al Dhafra AB, 9/11 Memorial Run 2018

Tom H

September 11, 2018

Today, 09/11/2018, we remember you Bob. We will never forget. Thank you ... Wishing all the best to your family and friends. Much regards.

T. A. Devlin, Jr.

September 11, 2015

We will never forget.

September 11, 2014

Shortly after 9-11, a local embroidery shop started selling hat dedicated to the Firefighters, and Police of New York. The proceeds going to the families, survivors, or a charity that benefited those lost on 9-11. I bought one of each and gave the Firefighters hat to my Mom in honor of my brother who is a Firefighter. I got Sargent Kaulfers of the NYPD. He has ridden in the back of my old Camaro since October of 2001. Every 9-11, he and I share a beer. We just finished this years. Thank you for your sacrifice.

Len Dozois

September 11, 2014

Still in our hearts and minds. We love and miss you.

Crystal Mendez

December 20, 2013

Thank you SGT.Robert M. Kaulfers! Your act of courage will never be forgotten. God bless your family always

September 11, 2013

Remembering and thinking of you on this anniversary of 911. My prayers go out to Cookie and all of Bobby's family,
Cheryl Valenti

Nancy Volpe

September 11, 2013

Went to the Kenilworth Memorial Service today. Listening to the speakers refer to you as a hero and thinking You were a hero long before Sept 11, 2001. God Bless you in Heaven and your family here on Earth!!

Wyatt Clifford

September 11, 2013

Thinking of the Kaulfers family today and discussing Bobby's sacrifice with my students.

Wyatt Clifford (Mrs. Marsili's son)

Leo & Mary Ann Valenti

September 12, 2011

Dear Cookie,
We are so sorry for your loss, He
was one of the nicest people Roselle
Park ever produced. Our thoughts and
prayers are with you and yours.

Len Dozois

September 12, 2011

Dear Cookie,

I only learned today about Bob's sacrifice. I read his profile and I was touched. He was a great kid in H.S. as were you. I moved away when I was 18 and rarely came back. Looks like I missed out on knowing a wonderful person.

My best to you and your children.

Sincerely,

Len "Lenny" Dozois
Class of'70

Mary Lynn Picyk

September 11, 2011

Dear Cookie,
I sit here in London England and am watching the memorial service at Ground Zero. I was at Aldene with you and Bobby. My thoughts are with you and especially your children. I just have images of Bobby at RPHS in Music Man. After reading these messages about Bobby it seems like he was really the 'music man'! God bless you all,

Wyatt Clifford

September 10, 2011

Dear Kaulfers family,

It's 10 years later, and so much has changed. I hope the pain of losing such a wonderful husband and father has become somewhat easier to bear. Bobby died a hero, and I'm sure that he provided comfort to all those around him in those 102 minutes. Whenever I think about September 11 I think about Bobby. Every year, I teach my students about the tragedy and the legacy of that horrible day, and I always mention Bobby's name. Your family is always in my thoughts.

Sincerely,

Wyatt (Mrs. Marsili's son), Elissa, and Tessa Clifford

September 8, 2011

My dear friend Bobby


It has been ten years and i still miss you so much. we were much more than co-workers, we were family, not a day goes by that i don't think of you and the others who were taken from us too soon. I know that you are in heaven leading the angels in song and making everyone laugh...You will always be in my heart until we meet again.

Love you

Cheryl

Karen Shaw

September 11, 2010

To The Kaulfers Family-
Looking back at the entries posted here I discovered I was the first to sign Robert's guest book. I wanted you to know...that 9 years later...I still lift up your family in prayer and remembrance. May God's peace fill your hearts today and always. Karen

Wendy Kuzmick

June 15, 2010

I have just returned from my first visit to NYC. While there I went to 'Ground Zero' and went through the tribute. I purchased one of the memorial bands & the name on mine is Sgt. Robert M. Kaulfers. I just wanted his family to know that I am proud to represent his name and I am so sorry for their loss.

September 11, 2009

My Name is Sra Runzel from Lackland AFB TX. Today I had the opportunity to participate in a remembrance run lasting 9 hrs 11 min. I also had honor to run in remembrance of SGT Robert Kaulfers. Through out these 9 hrs 11mins I took time to think about the name I had on my shirt. When I began to think of your sacrifice, thoughts of your family started to come over me. I would like to thank you sir for your sacrifice and will pray for your family from this day forward.

God Bless,

SrA Runzel

Thomas Howell

May 23, 2009

My Father Richard Howell worked with Robert for all of his career with the Port Authority, we think about the joy Robert brought into our lives everyday. and will continue until we die. He was a wonderful man, and I'm so sad he's not with us anymore. My father is beyond sad, he misses him so bad.
With Love
Thomas and Richard Howell

Brent Jernell

January 3, 2009

My In-laws live in Kenilworth. my life has never been the same since 9-11. I didn't lose anyone that day, except 343 brothers, as I am a firefighter here at home, and a bunch of folks that now I may not know, but have impacted my life, just the same.
Everyday !!
All our love and prayers,
Brent Jernell
WV

Nathan Dowen

September 20, 2008

This man was great and will never be forgoten. He will be loved and missed and will live on forever, not in life, but in spirit in all of us. This man had a good soul and spirit, why him? And why did that evil man do that? Why? We're all the same, flesh, blood, bones, organs. What makes us diffrent? How could a humanbeing do that and laugh, how? We will never forget you Robert, good-bye forever, rest peacefuly, rest in peace. You are a true person of God. Good-bye.

Eileen Starns

September 11, 2008

Never a day goes by that you are not in our prayers and hearts. You are missed beyond words and the jokes and stories that only you could pull off lit up our family with roars of laughter. I love you and miss you very much.

Brian Zygo

August 26, 2007

Words seem inadequate, all I can say is that Sgt. Kaulfers is not and will not be forgotten.

Brian Zygo
Houston, Texas
Formerly of Roselle Park, New Jersey

P Tabbernor

November 23, 2006

In memory....

Kristine

November 2, 2006

As I stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.

Paul Kaye

September 11, 2006

It's been five years and I still have trouble expressing my feelings. But I do know that whenever I begin thinking about Bob and grieving his loss, I always end up remembering some amazing, crazy, usually hilarious situation that he was involved in and that grieving always turns into a celebration of his life. He was truly a gift to all who knew him and I am honored to be his friend.

Patty Bolovschak Gregory

September 11, 2006

Mr and Mrs Kaulfers, Cookie and family,

You have been in my thoughts and prayers for five years. Each time that I have returned to the WTC I have found Bobby's name on the memorial list. I sadly think of you all today and wish that our children could live in the world we all shared with Bobby growing up.

Terri (Suttile) McClain

September 6, 2005

Dearest Cookie and Family -- I only now found out that Bobby had given his life in 9/11. I was on a website pertaining to the class of 1970 reunion and an article on the message board had noted the "tragic loss of Ms. Kaulfer's brother in 9/11". The 9/11 memorial website confirmed the sad and shocking news. Even after all these years, I can remember my young friend with so much joy and promise--and the testimonial to his life is evidence of the man he became! I'm smiling through the tears when reading about "the minstral"--I can still remember his words to "Bad Moon Rising" (there's a bathroom on the right!) My thoughts, prayers, and love are with you now--I cherish all our memories and know that, if at all possible, heaven can only be brighter with Bobby there!

Lesley Prillman

December 13, 2004

Dear Cookie and family: I'm a flight attendant for United Airlines. I recently flew with Robert's cousin, Michael, who is a pilot for United. Michael wears a bracelet in honor of Robert's memory. Michael discovered I may be headed to Iraq, and in a touching moment, he gave Robert's bracelet to me. Although I didn't know Robert, a part of him will always be with me. I want you to know you and your family will be in my thoughts every day I look at this bracelet.

Nicole Ardolino

December 5, 2003

I was just thinking about 9/11, as I often do.

So I decided to check out this site. I recall someone telling me that someone's father that I went to High School with passed away. Then I recalled who it was. It was Tim Kaulfers. It was weird, because I just live one town away, and I didn't even know until about a year ago. I went to Dayton with Tim. I just wanted to say that you're all in my prayers, and I am so sorry. God Bless you and your family.

Holly Nelson (Linsenmann)

September 11, 2003

Dear Cookie and family:

I also just found this website today. I was so sorry to hear about Bobby. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family constantly. I lost track of everyone after high school (Class of 1970) but I have wonderful memories of you and Bobby. What a brave man he must have been to try to save people on that horrible day. I'm proud to have known him.

Sal & Joan LoBue

September 11, 2003

Dear Kaulfers Family,



Our prayers are with you on this day and will always be.

Toni Johnson

September 11, 2003

Dear Cookie & Children,

I just wanted to let you know that I was thinking of you and your family on this anniversary day. The void in your heart can never be repaired but I pray that in time you can think only of the happy times and all the reasons Bob gave you to smile. Love, Toni

Nancy Hanos

September 11, 2003

My thoughts our with you and your family on this day.

Nancy Hanos(Janet's sister)

Lt.George Leather

September 11, 2003

Sgt.R. Kaulfers "Jim Bob"-We miss you at this time most of all. Your annual faulty pro football forecasts. (The Browns are never going to win)Your announcing skills at the annual "Shield of Dreams" Softball Tournament.Your social commentary at Gatorfest.Your uncanny ability to point out the truly absurd aspects in our line of work,particularly as it related to contact with the local "PATHONIANS"is legendary.Our retirement parties sorely miss your wit and sarcasm.The softball team is not the same without your weekly critiques on our efforts.When we need laugh's and a few yuk's is when we miss you most of all.Your friends and co-workers at Path will never forget you. Rest in Peace

Janis Flynn

May 7, 2003

Cookie:



Believe it our not I just saw this today almost 2 years later. My heart goes out to you and your children even though we haven't seen or spoken to each other in over 25 years. I'm working right outside of Trenton State and drive on roads we used to take and so I think of the TSC days often. It doesn't surprise me that KO (Bobby) died trying to help others.



Take care , love Veed

Marsha Hussung

September 13, 2002

To the family of Bob Kaulfers



On Sept. 11, 2002, at 8:46 a.m. I sang the Mozart Requiem in honor and memory of Bob Kaulfers. I am a singer in St. Louis and participated in the Rolling Requim, where choirs all across the country met in quiet halls to sing the glorious music of Mozart, so appropriate for this day of anniverary and rememberance. We were each given the nametag of a person who died on 9-11, and I was given Bob's. How appropriate, I thought after finding this site and learning something about Bob as a person, that he loved to sing!



It was indeed an honor for me to honor Bob in this small way. I have his name on my desk now where I can look at it everyday and remember his great sacrifice, and the sacrifice you have made by his loss. May God hold you in His hands.

robert fischer

September 11, 2002

To the Kaulfers family

I remember seeing missing flyers of Michael, where I used to buy my paper on the way to work. I was hoping they would find him. It is a tragedy that he was lost as many other people were. I also live in Kenilworth, and although I was not directly effected I still feel some type of loss. I am sure as hard as it may be, you will have the will power and strength to carry on, knowing that he was helping others and that he had saved many lives.

Bob Fischer

Debbie Wade

September 5, 2002

Dear Mrs Kaulfers,I am sorry about the loss of your husband I am sure he was a great man . I know that you are wonderful person , and a great teacher .My son Brendan Wade was in your class a few years ago .My prayers are with you ,and your chrildren now that it is almost a year I hope that life is starting to get a little better. May god bless you all. Debbie Wade

VAN VITALE

September 3, 2002

DEAR COOKIE,TIM AND MER, WE JUST WANTED YOU TO KNOW THAT WE ARE THINKING OF YOU GUYS EACH AND EVERY DAY. OUR LOVE GOES OUT TO YOU ALL.WE KNOW THAT WITH THIS ANN. OF ONE YEAR COMMING UP SOON THAT ALOT OF PEOPLE WILL BE THINKING OF YOU ALL. OUR THOUGHTS OF BOBBY ARE STILL SO FRESH IN OUR HEARTS,HE WILL NEVER BE FORGOTTEN. ALL OUR LOVE ALWAYS AND FOREVER MAY GOD BLESS YOU ALL LOVE THE VITALES

Donna Demers

August 7, 2002

Kaulfers' Family,



I found this website tonite and I'm so glad I looked under the initial K. I am so sorry for your loss and hope and pray that you can find peace. My brother, who resides in Roselle Park, NJ, informed me that our "cousin" Bob died in this tragedy. You see, my maiden name is Kaulfers, and although I didn't know Bob personally, feel that we lost a part of our family. My grandfather was Harry. I will pray for Bob and his family always. We will never forget how senseless Sept. 11th was and how many lives it took. God Bless You.

May The Peace of The Lord Always be with you.

Luann Albanese

May 30, 2002

To the Kaulfers Family,

I am so very sorry for your loss. I attended Roselle Park High School and was three years behind Bob. I knew Susan. My parents and I wish to extend our sincere sympathies and prayers to you all.

Angie Campbell

May 2, 2002

**********GOD BLESS YOU**********

Wyatt Clifford-Marsili

April 25, 2002

Dear Meredith & Family,



I only see a few people from home have signed this guest book. I hope that you guys check it every once in awhile. I'm sure that my Mom, Dad, and Emmett would write something if they could find this page. I just want you guys to know that I've been pulling for you the whole way. I've got my PAPD hat up here at school in Massachusetts and I wear it all the time. People ask me what it stands for, and I always tell them to make sure they remember. I know you'll all get through this, and I just want you to know that my family and I are always here...especially my mom, but you already knew that. So Meredith, if you need to talk or if you need anything, don't hesistate to email me.



With Love,

Wyatt Clifford (Mrs. Marsili's son)

and the Marsili Family.

Meg Heekin

April 16, 2002

Thank You for your legacy and sacrifice. I never knew you but my husband who is a Port Authority Sgt. wears your remembrance band and prays for you. I am sure that one day we will all be together and will understand the events of 9/11 but until then, know that you are honored and your memory lives on. Earth lost that day and heaven surely gained another angel. God Bless!!!!

February 11, 2002

DEAR GOD SHINE YOUR LIGHT ON THIS WONDERFUL HERO SGT.ROBERT MICHAEL KAULFERS AND MAY HIS SOUL REST IN PEACE WITH GOD AND HIS ANGELS..GOD BLESS HIS FAMILY AND FRIENDS.GOD BLESS AMERICA AND NEW YORK AND MAY WE NEVER FORGET 9/11/01..MAY GOD AND ST.MICHAEL GREET HIM AT THE GATES OF HEAVEN AND MAY HE SING WITH THE ANGELS..AMEN.

jordan edelheit

February 8, 2002

Dear Kaulfers Family,

Even though I had never met Robert, it seems as if he could have been my best friend. I know that he loved singing. I love singing, too. It is still so hard to believe that he has passed away, but now I hope that he is in a better place. I was assigned a special hero for a project we are doing at school. We had to write a poem to honor the heroes of the September 11th tragedy.



Robert M. Kaulfers - Policeman 49

He loved to sing

Not thinking of himself, he rushed to save others.

To me, "M" stand for "Miracle Person".

What a hero!





Jordan Edelheit - age 9

Cincinnati, Ohio

[email protected]

Frank Daliani

January 30, 2002

To Bobby's wife and two children,

Hi, we have met before but, I am a senior at hillsborough Highschool and my uncle is Seargent Martin Duane. My uncle and Bobby were best friends and i went to yankee gasmes with Bobby and would see him a lot when i visited my uncle over the years at either the Trade Centers or wherever they were stationed and I had become friends with him myself and loved him very much. He was a great man and we would bust my uncle a lot too and joke around whenever we seen each other. We had good times. Although he is gone and not physically here he is always in my heart and Ill miss him greatly as i know you all do too. I have a picture of me, Bobby, and my uncle in my room on my mirror when we were at the Devils parade at the arena after they won the cup. My uncle has a copy of it also. I remember meeting you there Cookie but it was a while ago. I kno who he was and what kind of person he was and he will always be with us no matter where we go and i will never forget him for the rest of my life.

With all my love to all of you,



Frank Daliani

Deb Spell

January 30, 2002

To the Kaulfers family,



I know your pain and sorrow is great and for that my family and I pray for your healing. Bob's ability to make everyone around him laugh was truly a gift. I am proud and honored to have known him. His spirit will forever be an inspiration to all who met him. “If tears could build a stairway, and memories a lane, I’d walk right up to heaven and bring you home again.” God bless you.

Annette Kurdilla-Deering

January 11, 2002

To Robert's family and friends,

When someone so full of life and love is taken from us we all feel it; we all mourn, we all cry. But in life and in love, memories eventually take over where tears once were and fill in the places in our broken hearts so we can find peace again. Peace be with you all.

SANDRA FINNEGAN

December 30, 2001

MAY GOD BLESS THE FAMILY OF ROBERT KAULFERS.MY HUSBAND IS A PORT AUTHORITY POLICE OFFICER WHO WAS INJURED ON SEPT.11TH. I KNOW FROM MANY YEARS OF MY HUSBAND WORKING WITH HIM WHAT A RESPECTED MAN HE WAS,WHEN THEY WORKED TOGETHER HE WOULD HAVE MY HUSBAND CALL ME AND HE WOULD GET ON THE PHONE WITH ME AND JOKE AROUND ABOUT MY HUSBAND, I NEVER DID GET TO MEET HIM BUT I KNOW HE IS ON MY HUSBANDS MIND NIGHT AND DAY. MAY GOD BLESS HIS FAMILY HE IS A TRUE HERO WHO IS SADLY MISSED.

Teresa Jahn

December 28, 2001

We thank Robert for his dedication of protecting others as a policeman. Such dedication comes with a warm and caring heart. We are deeply sorry for your loss of Robert. May his courage, life and love live on in those who love him and in those who have been helped by him. Our hearts cry with you.

America Cries

We see your sorrow-

and our hearts cry....

We can not erase your pain

but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-

-the American people-

are beside you.

We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,

the strength that gives you courage,

and the words to lighten your spirits.

And when we are left speechless

may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts

to ease your sorrow.

May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-

-the American people-

face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn

Dixon, IL

Tracy O'Sullivan

December 21, 2001

Dear Tim and Family,

Please know that you are in the thoughts and prayers of many as we all struggle to deal with life after September 11. May God Bless you and bring you some peace and comfort this holiday and throughout the new year.

Sincerely,

Tracy O'Sullivan

marilyn schelhause

December 11, 2001

To The Family & Friends of Robert Kaulfers. Just as randomly as Robert was taken from you, I was given my Mercy Band with his name on it. May you find comfort knowing that Robert is and will be thought of daily and will never be forgotten! God bless you and grant you Peace. Marilyn Schelhause Albuquerque, NM

Judith Corley

November 12, 2001

To the family of Robert Kaulfers,

I went to a local shop carrying the Mercy Bands. I begin to open boxes and read names. When I opened the box with the Robert's name, I began to cry. For whatever reason, I knew his was the name I should wear. I will pray every day for you and for him. My deepest sympathy in the loss of your loved one. Judy Corley

Karen Shaw

November 5, 2001

To the Kaulfer Family-

I recently purchased a Mercy Band inscribed with Robert Kaulfer's name. I wanted you to know I am praying daily- not only for him but for his family as well. I hope you know that you are not alone in your grief. I pray God will be with you at this time of need. May God Bless you and comfort you.

In His name, Karen Shaw

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