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Neil Grayden Obituary
He leaves his wife of 46 years, Beverly A. (Auger) Grayden; 3 daughters, Lisa J. Smallwood and her husband James of North Chelmsford, Lynn S. Grayden-Labiak and her husband David of Minooka, IL, and Dianne G. May and her husband Doug of Shrewsbury; 5 grandchildren, Britney and Braxton Smallwood, Elizabeth and Victoria May, and Brianna Labiak; a brother, Roy W. Grayden of Nashua, NH; a sister, Joan Stevens of Malvern, PA; his father-in-law, Alec W. Saviano of Webster; nephews and nieces.
Born and raised in Boston, the son of William J. and Eleonora (Chabot) Grayden, he moved to Webster in the early 1950's. He graduated from Saint Louis High School and entered the United States Air Force, serving for 12 years. He obtained his Bachelor of Criminal Justice Degree from Northeastern University in Boston. He lived in Webster from 1972 to 2006, when he moved to South Carolina.
He was an Air Force veteran of the Vietnam War.
Mr. Grayden was a counselor for the Commonwealth of Massachusetts Department of Corrections for 28 years, retiring in 2001.
He was an active member of Saint Louis Church. He helped organize the first annual golf tournament for Saint Louis School. He enjoyed golfing, traveling and reading.
The funeral will be held Friday, December 7, from the Sitkowski & Malboeuf Funeral Home, 340 School Street, with a Mass at 10:00 AM in Saint Louis Church, 14 Lake Street. Burial will be in Calvary Cemetery, Dudley. Calling hours are from 5:00 to 8:00 Thursday, December 6, in the funeral home. Donations in his name may be made to Saint Louis School Endowment Fund, 15 Lake St., Webster, MA 01570.
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Memories and Condolences
for Neil Grayden
Betty Latour
December 21, 2007
I am so sorry for your loss, the last time I talked to Neil he was looking forward to retire in So. Carolina, Just wish he had more time to enjoy his dream.
Guy/Joan Lithwin
December 16, 2007
We did not know Neil that long. But he really loved the Red Sox and our men's breakfast club. Our thoughts and prayers are with you Beverly and family.
Cathy Esposito
December 11, 2007
To the Grayden Family,
Please know I offer my deepest sympathy for your loss. I have known your family for most of my life and I know how difficult this time must be for you. You shall be in my prayers this holiday season and beyond.
Thomas DeNardis
December 10, 2007
My thoughts and prayers are with you Bev and family in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.
I remember Neal when we played Little league baseball a long time ago and then when we played "Jack Benny softball together. He was always kind and a great person. He would always greet me with a big smile.
Paul Brozyna
December 8, 2007
So sorry to hear about my old buddy Neil. Truly a great guy. In the mid 1950's I can recall going up the family driveway on E. Main St.to pick him up for a night of fun. My condolences and prayers are with the Grayden family.
Paul Brozyna
(Ashford, Ct.)
Connie and Beau Endres
December 7, 2007
Bev: Our prayers and thoughts are with you. With deepest sympathy.
marlene/fred paul
December 7, 2007
Dear Bev: We were so sorry to hear about Neil. Our thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.
Joe and Diane Miletti
December 6, 2007
Dearest Bev: There are no words to tell you how devastated we both were to hear of your terrible loss. Neil was and will always be a true friend. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Gerry Wentworth
December 6, 2007
Dear Bev: When I got the news about Neil, I was totally devastated. We all had such a great time when our class got together. It won't be the same. He was a wonderful person, and so full of life.
Lee & Paul Grobski
December 5, 2007
Dear Bev, We are so sorry to lose a wonderful friend and neighbor. Neil will be remembered as a very happy retired person.
Marion & Robbie Ragona
December 5, 2007
Dear Bev & Family, we were so sorry to hear about Neal. We will miss his smiling face. God Bless
Debbie Barbour
December 5, 2007
Bev and Family - my heartfelt condolences.
Kelly (Richard) Chrul
December 5, 2007
Bev and Dianne,
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I feel fortunate to have run into both Neil and Bev at Bingo this past summer after not seeing them for so many years. Neil was a very good and sweet man and brought happiness to all the lives he touched. He will surely be missed.
Mary Migridichian (Heider)
December 5, 2007
Dear Lynn, Mrs. Grayden and family
I am so sorry to hear of your Dad's passing. I have so many fun memories of him during our childhood years when Lynn and I were close friends. He was a man with a great sense of humor and seemed to always be smiling! He leaves a beautiful legacy in his 3 girls and now, as I have read, 5 grandchildren! A great man, a beautiful family - he will be missed. God bless you all, Mary
Tobey Belton
December 5, 2007
To the Grayden Family
I worked with Neil at the Shattuck Hospital in J.P. He is a good man and he will be missed by me and all that he has touched.
God Bless Neil and your family and friends.
Tobey
Paul and Carol Dillon
December 5, 2007
We always enjoyed our conversations at the men's breakfast club, Neil was a big red sox nation fan and a great neighbor. We will truely miss him. Our thoughts and prayers are with Bev and his family .
sincerely
Paul and Carol Dillon
Mary Lynn Aquino
December 5, 2007
The last time we saw Neil was at a "Football Sunday" in our clubhouse. He was watching the televised game and had a big beautiful smile on his face. That is how we will remember him- a happy, very nice wonderful man. Our sympathy goes out to Bev and your whole family. We will miss you Neil. Mary Lynn and Tom
Amy (Houde) Langevin
December 5, 2007
Dianne,
I am so sorry to hear of the loss of your dad. I haven't seen you guys in years but I remember your parents being so sweet. Please share my condolences with your family. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Amy
Mickey & Eileen Sharp
December 5, 2007
We only knew Neil for a short time, we will never forget his smile and kind words.
Lisa Smallwood
December 5, 2007
Goodbye Daddy. Goodbye Grampa!
We love you!
Lisa, Jim, Britney, & Braxton
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