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December 9, 2023
yesterday it’s been 9 years next year it’ll be 10 it’s hard not having a mom
Gail Pollock
January 10, 2015
I worked with Pam at Fort Knox. She was a really nice person.
Linda Williams
January 6, 2015
Pam & I worked in the same bldg. at Ft Knox. I am stunned and saddened to learn of her sudden passing. We have kept in touch through email and facebook. She had such a kind sweet spirit. I loved hearing about Kim and the cats. Pam will truly be missed. My prayers are with Kim and the family, may God hold you close and give you comfort and peace.

Mary Kayaselcuk
December 31, 2014
Dear Pam,
I will so miss you at the Courthouse. You brightened my day with daily updates about your historic preservation activities, Kim and the kitties.  I admired your courage as you dealt with being a single mother and coped with illness.  Thank you for being my friend.
Amy Russo
December 30, 2014
I am terribly sorry to hear about Pam...I had no idea until Maggie sent me an email overseas. She and I were co girl scout leaders and Kim and Melissa were good friends. Please let me know if there is anything we can do. I would like to have contact information for Kim so that Melissa can write to her...this is awful...I am so sorry. Our thoughts and prayers are with their family, but most of all Kimberly. May God Bless you and give you strengh.
Ruth Piekarska Edlund
December 13, 2014
Pam was a college classmate of mine, and I knew her through the years on our alumnae listserv and reunion. I rejoiced for her when she married and became a mother, and mourned when she was widowed so young. Too soon gone.
T Griffin
December 13, 2014
So sorry to hear about your loss. You know that God and Jesus are in the best position to comfort us when we lose a loved one in death.
Mei Stukes
December 13, 2014
May the light of your kindness shine on always.
Mei Stukes
December 13, 2014
To Pam ' s family: We send our condolence to you on such sad news. We volunteered and worked with Pam as East Hampton Girl Scout Volunteers and truly treasured her as our sister. We are sorry for your loss.
Jen Noon Hess
December 12, 2014
I knew Pam for years through the Bryn Mawr listserv and then kept up with her via Facebook. I always appreciated her wise and fascinating contributions. I rejoiced when she became a mother and mourned at the loss of her husband. Her devotion to her cats was also beautiful to see. My thoughts and prayers are with her daughter especially, and all those who loved Pam. Rest in peace. You will be missed.
Michelle Robertson
December 12, 2014
So very sad to hear this news. She was a lovely lady and so very interesting. Her devotion to Kimberly was very apparent. Prayers for peace to her family.
April Lawrence
December 12, 2014
We are so shocked and saddened to learn about Pam's passing. My daughter was friends with Pam's daughter at Gloria Dei. Pam and I used to have long talks at the soccer field. She was kind and funny, always asked after our children, and was devoted to her daughter. Condolences to all of Pam's family and friends.
Amy Etheridge
December 12, 2014
I am shocked and saddened at Pam's sudden passing. Sincere condolences to all who loved her, I am so sorry for their loss.   
Her daughter, Kimberly, has been a great friend to Kendall and Rowan throughout the years. 
Prayers for her family.
Gary Szymanski
December 12, 2014
Pam did the research and spoke at the dedication of the "Sunray" historic marker last Dec 21st. Our community will always remain grateful for her work and contribution to preserving our history.
Elizabeth Rose
December 12, 2014
I knew Pam from Bryn Mawr, although we never met in person. She was wise, kind, funny, and sincere. She made my life better in so many ways and was a stalwart friend when I was going some rough patches. Her memory will not be extinguished.
Mark Shea
December 12, 2014
Sorry to hear of Pam's passing. I had the honor to work with Pam while at the City of Chesapeake. I admired her devotion to her daughter and to her work with historic preservation.
Susan Rotkis
December 12, 2014
We have known Pam since our kids were in pre-K at Gloria Dei. She was a parent who was always present for our children. We are so saddened to learns of her untimely death and grieve for Kim, Pam's parents, siblings, nieces, nephews and friends. She had many interests and I always enjoyed catching up with her.
Jen Denton
December 12, 2014
We are so sorry to hear of Pam's sudden departure from Earth. We knew Pam from Gloria Dei. Her daughter was my son's classmate. Praying for Pam's family to find peace.
Lauren Johnson
December 11, 2014
Pam was a college classmate of mine and a friend when I lived in the Hampton Roads area. She was a great cook and a witty, intelligent woman. May her memory be for a blessing.
Caroline Kenner
December 11, 2014
Sincere condolences to all who loved her, I am so sorry for your loss. I am shocked and saddened at Pam's sudden passing. We knew one another from Bryn Mawr.
Patti Davis
December 11, 2014
Such a sweet and humble spirit...her smile brought light into the room!
Rebecca Rizvi
December 11, 2014
An awful loss of a bright spirit. She touched many lives for the good.
Dani Mollenkamp
December 11, 2014
Had the extraordinary honor of attending college with Pamela at Bryn Mawr College. I always admired her quiet diligence in academic excellence.
Paul Presenza
December 11, 2014
I am very sorry to hear about Pam's passing. She was a good person who was passionate about historic preservation, and many other causes. Her efforts helped lay the foundations for the protection for Fort Monroe, a National Historic Landmark listed on the Register of Historic Places, and was recently made a National Monument by President Obama. Her family, friends, and colleagues should all be very proud of her many contributions. To all of them I would like to express my warmest sympathies...
Darcy Terry
December 11, 2014
The membership of the Warwick County Historical Society are deeply saddened by Pam's unexpected passing - we all knew she was passionate about her work and always had wonderful bits of knowledge on interesting topics. She brightened our day whenever we saw her - most recently just last Wednesday evening when she presented a program for the Lee Hall Depot friends - she did a fine job with that even though she did not look like she felt well. 
We will miss Pam and we send our best wishes to her daughter, parents and extended family. A very sweet light of kindness has been extinguished and we are all diminished by her loss. With our deepest condolences, we will remember Pam.
Alexis Baker
December 11, 2014
Pam was very devoted to historic preservation as she was with her other missions. As a planner in Chesapeake, I always appreciated her kind attention and assistance. She will be missed by all of us in Chesapeake. We will keep her family in our thoughts and prayers.
December 11, 2014
Pam had a great enthusiasm and talent for history and archaeology which we admired and from which we often benefited. Her presence will certainly be missed in the Tidewater preservation community.
Camille Bowman
December 11, 2014
Pams death comes way too early, and she will be missed by many of us colleagues. Her quiet demeanor led to some wonderful research that she generously shared -- amazing skills and talents. Love and prayers for Pams family, especially Miss Kimberly with whom I shared many hours in the office!
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