CLARK, Barbara Aline (Gurka) Barbara Aline (Gurka) Clark, 62, of East Wakefield Boulevard, Winsted, beloved wife of Harry Richard Clark, died Sunday (September 3, 2006) at Yale-New Haven Hospital. She was born January 15, 1944 in Torrington, daughter of the late Joseph J. and Mildred S. (Hechko) Gurka, and had lived in Yorktown Heights, NY prior to moving to Connecticut fifteen years ago. Barbara was a graduate of Torrington High School, class of 1962, and a member of the Highland Lake Watershed Association and was the heart and soul of Planet Hi-Fi, the family store in Plainville. Besides her husband she is survived by a daughter and son-in-law, Susan Elizabeth and Thomas McNerney of Mahopac, NY; a son and daughter-in-law, Richard A. and Lisa Clark of Torrington; a sister, Judith Bensch of Torrington; two brothers, James Gurka of Canton and Robert Gurka of San Diego, CA; five grandchildren, Tommy, Sean and Jack McNerney and Harry and Emily Clark. There are no calling hours. A memorial service will be celebrated Sunday, September 10, 3 p.m. at the Collinsville Congregational Church, 7 South Street, Collinsville with the Reverend James S. Wheeler officiating. In lieu of flowers memorial donations may be made to the Highland Lake Watershed Association, P.O. Box 1022, Winsted, CT 06098. Vincent Funeral Home, 120 Albany Turnpike, Canton has charge of arrangements.
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Harry Clark
September 3, 2017
Hello Barbara
It has been 11 year since the LORD took you home. I miss you with all my heart and still Kiss your picture every morning saying "Good Morning" and again at night saying "Good Night".
This year has not been the best of years. Richard has a problem with diabetes, but it's now being monitored and controlled. I'm having some medical problems and not sure how this is all going to turn out. At this time the prognosis is not good. Have a couple of doctor appointments this coming week and not looking forward to the results. I continue trying to stay positive but knowing how things are going it's really hard. I'm currently on a 50 foot leash attached to a Oxygen Concentrator 24/7. It is a real pain and hard to leave the house.
It is now time for me to ensure that my matters are in order. You did an outstanding job, now it is my turn. I'm not really happy with my situation, but when the time comes I will be at peace.
My mind is still having trouble wrapping itself around the fact that you're gone. My memories of our time together are my treasures. There are many wonderful memories during our 39 years, 42 days, 22 hours and 40 minutes of our marriage.
The gates of memories will never close
How much I miss you no one knows
Days will pass away into years
As I think about our memories with silent tears.
Your are so very loved and deeply missed, you will live in my heart forever. If only Heaven had visiting hours, I would be there in a heartbeat.
So LORD, take care of Barbara Aline Clark on this special day.
Hold her and give her a kiss for me.
I miss you and will forever Love You
Barbara Aline Clark.
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Harry Clark
September 3, 2016
Barbara Aline Clark - - It is hard to believe it has been 10 years since the LORD has taken you home. You are always in my heart and I think of you every day. The First thing I do in the morning when I get up is kiss your picture and say "Good Morning" and the last thing I do before I go to bed is Kiss your picture and say "Good Night Sweetheart" It is the picture Susan took of us along time ago at the Danbury Mall. Also on the wall is a picture of us from our honeymoon. Plus I have the little framed picture of a butterfly with the following saying. "When someone you love becomes a memory - - the memory becomes a treasure". This was given to me by your sister Judy before she passed away and hangs by my desk and computer, for me to look at and read everyday. I Still have and cherish the recording in my car that you made in the hospital. Whenever I want to hear you sing or hear your voice, I put them in my disk player. Barbara, you are always with me.
As I sit her, all I can think about is how much I Love You and Miss You. We were together for 39 years, 42 days, 22 hours and 40 minutes and you have been gone but will never be forgotten for the past 10 years. So often I would like to go back in my life. Not to change anything, but to feel you in my arms again. You know I loved you yesterday, I Love you still, I always have and I always will.
10 years ago I told you "I Loved You and said Goodbye". I wish I could climb up to Heaven to give you a hug and tell you how much I Love and Miss You. Barbara, I thank you for all the wonderful memories I have and will cherish.
Oh LORD, please take care of my Barbara and give her a kiss for me on her 10th Anniversary with you.
I miss you and forever Love you Barbara Aline Clark
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Harry Richard Clark
September 3, 2015
Barbara Aline Clark, it has been 9 years since the LORD took you home. Can you believe that is 3,285 days and every day I think of you and the wonderful times we had together. There is one thing no one can take away from me and that is the 39 years, 42 days, 22 hours and 40 minutes of wonderful memories. It was great and I thank you every day. Still have the recordings in my car that you made in the hospital and listen to them a lot. The best is what I have on my computer, a short video taken of the day we got married in Collinsville and some video of our reception in New Hartford. I stop every once in a while and listen to the tapes and enjoy hearing your voice. If I want to see you I play the video's on my computer. I do miss you sweetheart and will forever.
I wish with all my heart that you were here with me today so I could hold you in my arms again. I kiss your picture every morning and say "Good Morning" and at night you get a kiss and I say "Good Night".
Each day that passes bring me closer to seeing you in heaven, But I will cherish each day with Susan and Richard until that day comes.
My memories are a treasure from which I will never part. GOD has you in his arms and I have you in my heart.
So please LORD take good care of my Barbara Aline Clark, hold her in your arms and give her a kiss for me on this 9th year anniversary with you.
I LOVE YOU - Barbara Aline Clark
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Harry clark
September 3, 2014
Barbara Aline Clark, it has been 8 years since the LORD has taken you home and I cannot express how much I miss you. Last year I told you I lost my best friend "Udson". This year on June 25th, one year after his death I buried "Udson" at the edge of the downstairs Patio with a stone that reads: "UDSON DOMAIN". He enjoyed sitting at the edge of the patio looking out over the lake. I hope he is with you and everything is alright.
You know I Love You Barbara Aline Clark and I kiss your picture every morning and say " "Good Morning Sweetheart" and every night I kiss your picture and say "Good Night Barbara, I Love You". Sometime I sit outside and look out over the lake and tell the LORD how much I miss you Barbara Aline Clark and that I do not understand why I'm still here because I would rather be with you. We missed our retirement together and that is a sad and tearful thing in my life now, the tears come but that is alright because I have great memories of our time together. I look at the Jet Skis and see us racing from 1st bay to 3rd bay and back again, time after time you would win, we would look at each other and laugh and do it again. I look at the boat and miss us going out on a slow rides around the lake. I may not use the jet skis or boat very much any more but just having them there still means you are here as I daydream of all the good times we had together. I keep the maintenance up on the boat and Rick somehow ensure the Jet Skis are in the water every year for you and me, I'm sure he is not aware but that means so much to me as I sit on the patio and look at them. If they are not running real good, that is alright, they are there for us in our dreams. Barbara, thank you for the 39 years, 42 days, 22 hours and 40 minutes we had together. I have one beautiful memory after another and they are all wonderful treasures.
Barbara, I though of you with love today
But this is nothing new,
I thought of you yesterday and the days before that too.
I think of you in silence and
often speak your name.
All I have now are our memories,
a voice recording and your picture in a frame.
It broke my heart to lose you,
But you didn't go alone sweetheart.
A part of me went with you
The day the LORD took you home.
I miss you and I Love You
Barbara Aline Clark
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Harry Clark
September 3, 2013
Barbara Aline Clark, it is now 12:50 on September 3, 2013 and it has been exactly seven years since the LORD has taken you home. There are no words to describe how much I miss you. I often think back on the 39 years, 42 days, 22 hours an 40 minutes we had together. Oh, how I would love to live that time again and do all the good times over again. As you know and I tell you every year, the disc you made keeps your voice and good memories with me all year. It is one of the best gifts you ever gave me. The three disc are in my car and I listen to them often and today will be a special day to listen to them again.
I had a sad year this year I lost my best friend. I told you about him last year. His name was Udson. On June 24, 2013, I had to put him to sleep. He was not only my best friend, he was my companion, my protector, my buddy and he would always comfort me when I was sad or hurting. He was with me for about six years and during that time he was right by my side about 99 percent of the time, he would never and I mean never let me out of his sight. He loved the lake just like you did, he would sit on the lawn and look out over the lake and as I would call it "HIS DOMAIN" for hours and not missing a single thing. Oh, god I miss him so much. If you see him, Please take care of him for me until I get there
Barbara I would like to thank you for all of the wonderful memories and wish with all of my heart that I could hold you in my arms again.....
When Someone You Love
Becomes A Memory, The Memory
Becomes A Treasure
Oh, LORD please take care of my Barbara and give her a kiss for me on this Anniversary with you....
I miss you and will forever Love You
Barbara Aline Clark
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Harry Clark
September 3, 2012
Barbara Aline Clark it has been six years since the LORD needed a special angel and called you home. The disc you made during your last week are with me all the time. I listen to them all the time and after six years I can hear your voice any time and enjoy listening to you sing your songs. It is the greatest gift you could of given me. I Love You Barbara Aline Clark and miss you every day. I say "Good Morning" to you every morning and "Good Night Barbara" and kiss your picture every night. Barbara we had a lot of great years together. I will always cherish every moment of our 39 years, 42 days, 22 hours and 40 minutes we had together. Thank You for each and every second. Barbara I miss you and would give anything to have you back by my side. I have retired now and this is the time we talked about, dreamed of and planned on. I'm so sorry we did not have this time together. Many times I sit outside on the deck or swing and think of how it would be together and not having anything special to do but to live and enjoy our precious time together. Not having you here is very hard and lonely at times. It very interesting when I'm lonely, having a hard time and sad, Udson my dog will come up to and somehow I think he knows and will start to comfort me. Barbara, he really knows you, I talk to him a lot about all the good times we had together. He is a very smart dog and we love each other very much. I know you would love him also........
You are so very loved and deeply missed Barbara Aline Clark, you will live in my heart forever.
LORD, please take care of my wonderful wife and your special angel today and every day.
So Until we are together again,
I LOVE YOU - - Barbara Aline Clark
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Susan McNerney
February 6, 2012
Hi Mom!!!
It has been a while since I wrote and I thought its never to late so here I am!!! There is not a day that goes by that I dont think about you Mom!! I love you very much!!! Today is Tommys 15th Birthday and I was doing alot of thinking about the day he was born and how you were there the whole day to help me out!! I will never forget that Mom!!! You are and always will be the best Mom ever!!!!! Tommy is growing up to be a very handsome young man!! You would be very proud of him and all he does for other people!! We talk about you often and he remembers so much it puts a really big smile on my face!! Sean and Jack are doing great too and they are growing so fast as well!!! Time flies when you are having fun!!!! You always said that :) Thinking of you always and Happy Birthday to your first Grandson Tommy!!!!! Love Susan oxoxoxoxoxxo
Harry Clark
September 3, 2011
Well Barbara Aline Clark it is now 12:40 on September 3, 2011 and it has been five years since the LORD took you home. Sweetheart I think of you every day and kiss your picture in the hall in the morning and at night when I say "Good Night Barbara". There are no word to how much I miss you and I thank the LORD for the time we spent together. WOW - 39 years, 42 days, 22 hours and 40 minutes of memories that I will forever remember. Somethings I just sit outside on the swing looking out over the lake and close my eyes. I can see you sitting beside me and other times you are in the water having a wonderful time. I still have the disc we made of you during your last week here with me and I listen to them all the time, so I can hear your voice any time and it always make me smile when I listen to you sing and hear some of the stories. It is so wonderful that I can hear your voice again and again and again like you are right here. The disc are my most treasured possession. Barbara I will Love you forever and a day. so please LORD take care of Barbara Aline Clark for me and hold her with loving care.
So LORD, if roses grow in Heaven
LORD please pick a bunch for me
Place them in Barbars's arms
And tell her they are from me
Tell her how I Love her and miss her
And when she turns to smile
Please place a kiss upon her cheek
And hold her for a while
Because remembering her is easy
I do it everyday
But there's an ache within my Heart
That will never go away......
I Love You Barbara Aline Clark
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Harry Richard Clark
September 3, 2010
Barbara Aline Clark, it is now 12:40 and it has been four years since the LORD took you home. I miss you every minute of every day and I will always Love You with all my heart. Yes - - I still have the recordings you made in the hospital and I still listen to them. I love hearing your voice. The recordings are one of my greatest treasures.
I've completed the Lake House as I promised you I would, it took a while but it was a hard project to start without you. I still have the garage to re-do and I will do that next year. I'm sure you have looked at it and I hope you are pleased with the way it turned out. I sit outside most every morning on the lower patio for a few minutes before I leave for work and look out over the Lake and think of all the good times we had together with the many wonderful memories and now many silent tears. The Lake is not the same without you Barbara...... I miss you so much. There is one thing no one can take away from me and that is 39 years, 42 days, 22 hours and 40 minutes of wonderful memories and I Thank You. I wish with all my heart that I had you here in my arms again, I do say "Good Night" to you every night and I hope you hear me. Oh please LORD take care of my Barbara and give her a kiss for me on her Anniversay with you.
Barbara - - My Greatest Wish:
If I could have one lifetime wish
One dream that could come true
I would pray with all my heart
For yesterday and You
To see your face
To watch you smile
To sit with you
To be together the same old way.
That would be my greatest Wish Today.
I miss you and I Love You
Barbara Aline Clark
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Susan McNerney
September 5, 2009
Hi Mom!!!! I miss you so much!!! There are so many things I would love to talk to you about, just seeing your smiley face would make everything better!!!! Since you left me I have had such an amazing realationship with Dad!!!! You told me to look after him and I do everyday with a phone call!!! I only missed one phone call since you went to God and I felt really bad about that but you know Dad he was so forgiving about that!!! Your grandchildren are doing great they are getting so big!!! Tommy starting 7th grade, Sean starting 4th grade and Jack starting 1st grade!!!! I can't believe how much time has gone by since you left but there is not a day that goes by that I don't think of my beautiful mom!!!!! When I was away I found myself near a piano and I started to play and all I was thinking was how much you LOVED to hear me play!!!!!! One day I will get a piano and I will make sure I play loud enough for you to hear!!!! Thank you for being such a great Mom!!!!! I love you very much and you are never far from my thoughts!!!! Dad is doing a Great Job with the lake house and it is almost done!!!! You would love everything he had done to it!!!! He even had some of the old floor put in to bring you in the new house!!!! It is beautiful just like you!!!! You would be very proud of Dad!!!! He said he wanted me to help with the kitchen and I was so happy because you and I talked alot about that and I felt as though I was a part of you and Dads dream!!!!! Thank you Mom!!!! I love you always & forever!!!!
Love, Susan
September 3, 2009
Barbara Aline Clark
WOW - Barbara today it has been three years since GOD needed a special angel and called you home. I just want to tell you how much I miss you, I still have the recordings you did in the hospital in my car and listen to them often. Hearing you voice and reliving that last week we had together is one of my greatest joys. Barbara we had a lot of wonderful years together and I have 39 years, 42 Days, 22 hours and 40 miutes of wonderful memories because wherever a beautiful soul has been, there is a trail of beautiful memories and I thank you for every one of them.
So until we are together again
I'll be loving you always
Not just for an hour
Not for a day
Not for just a year
But Always
Your are so very loved and deeply missed, your live in my heart forever.
So GOD take care of her on this special day. Hold her and give her a kiss from me.
I miss and Love you -
Barbara Aline Clark
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Harry Richard Clark
July 22, 2009
Hello Barbara Aline Clark
Happy Anniversary ! !
Today is our Anniversary and I miss you very very much. How I would love to be with you today, it would be so great. So many times I just sit and think of all the times we had together.
WOW! 39 Years,42 Days,22 Hours and 40 minutes.
It was wonderful being with you and loving you with all my heart. As you know I speak to the LORD a lot and ask him for his help. I'm working on the Lake House and making our dream come true. I still have the package where you wrote "Do Not Open Until The New House Is Done" and that's what will happen. Barbara I do love you with all my heart and do you know it has been two years and 321 days since GOD has called you home. Time goes on without you Barbara and the days turn into years. Each moment holds a memory and many silent tears. So for your Anniversary I will ask the LORD for the following favor:
If roses grow in Heaven,
LORD please pick a bunch for me
Place them in Barbara's arms
And tell her they are from me
Tell her I love her and miss her
And when she turns to smile
Place a kiss upon her cheek
And hold her for a while.
Because remembering her is essy
I do it every day
But there's an ache within my Heart
That will never go away
I Love You Sweetheart
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Rick Clark
December 17, 2008
Christmas 09' is apon us and thoughts of u mom are on the minds of many. I think of you much during the times when we should especially be together. Another season without you brings us that much closer to being together again.
I miss u mom.
Harry Clark
July 22, 2008
Today is our 42 Wedding Anniversany and I miss you very much.
Today should have been a very special day for us. I sure miss you and wish you were here, to help me Celebrate our day. Nothing is the same since you left me, you can believe one thing, you will always be missed every Day, Hour, Minute and Second. There are times things get so hard for me that I ask GOD to give me the strength to go on. You are my bell that rings. The years I spent with you were wonderful. No one could have asked for a better Wife, Mother, Sister and Grandmother than you. You will always be by my side, My Strength, My Hero, My Wife.
Barbara Aline Clark - - - I Love You.
My dearest sweetheart, I will love you forever and a day.
If tears could build a stairway,
and memories a lane,
I'd walk right up to Heaven
and bring you home again.
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Richard Clark
July 22, 2008
Today is July 22, 2008 and would of been our 42 Wedding Anniversary.
Today should have been a very special day for us. I sure miss you and wish you were here, to help me Celebrate our day. Nothing is the same since you left me, you can believe one thing, you will always be missed every day, hour, minute and Second. There are times things get so hard for me that I ask GOD to give me the strength to go on. You are my bell that rings. The Years I spent with you were wonderful. No one could have asked for a better wife, Mother, Sister and Grandmother than you. You will always be by my side, My strength, My Hero, My Wife. Barbara Aline Clark - - I Love You. My dearest sweetheart, I will love you forever and a day.
If tears could build a stairway,
and memories a Lane,
I'd walk right up to Heaven
and bring you home again.
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Harry Richard Clark
Susan Mahopac
February 13, 2008
Wow it is been almost a year since I last wrote in this beauitful book that the love of your life keeps up with! I miss you so much Mom, I can't believe how long it has been since I last saw your happy face!!!
And what a beautiful face you have!! All your grandchildren are doing so well!!! Tommy just turned 11, Sean is turning 8 and Jack will be 5 very soon!!!! Wow they are getting so big!!!! They miss you too and we talk about what a wonderful grandmother you are!!!!! I am doing good I just miss you so much but I got to tell you, Daddy and I talk everyday and we are closer then we have ever been!!!! I thought that would put a smile on your face!!! I love you very much Mom and Happy Valentine's Day!!!!
Love Susan
Susan McNerney
April 5, 2007
My Mom my beauitful Mom, I think of you all the time! There is not a day that goes by that I don't think about you. I miss you so much. Now you have your beauitful sister there with you. Aunt Judy will be missed very much but we know she is in good hands. We love you Aunt Judy very, very much!!!! Your grandchildren are all doing very well and ask about you often. They will never forget you Mom!!!! One day I was having a bad day and the kids were giving me a hard time, I was driving somewhere and when I got to a stoplight I saw a parked car with a license plate that said
"You got2 Laugh" I thought of you at that very moment and thought wow that is what my Mom would say!!!!! I cried but then I got in a better mood and soon we were all laughing!! Thank you Mom for always being there for me!!!!!
Richard Clark
January 23, 2007
Mom, my mother, my friend,my coworker and partner. I miss you. There is not a day that goes by, not a night i look into the sky i dont think about you, and how you have formed the man i am. I see you smile and laugh like only you could. How i will always have you in my heart no matter where you are. How my kids and there children will always know that you loved them as we never forget. Rest in peace mom, the heavens are a better place now and the world will forever be at a loss without you here. 4ever, Rick
Linea Erickson
September 14, 2006
To the Whole Family,
I remember the time that Mary called to invite me up for dinner. I tried to make an excuse because I knew the house was bulging with people already and she said "you haven't got a damn thing to do so come up with Carl". I did! And, I have felt like family ever since. My mind overflows with wonderful memories from the time the 3 little Terrell boys were little to the get-togethers at 13 Colony, Greg and Gail's, your home before you moved to Winsted and more than one place at Highland Lake. Barbara was always so pleasant and made every effort to be sure everyone was having a good time. When Carl took your neighbor's mailbox down, it was Barbara who assured me that all was well. She even agreed to teach me to ride the jetski. I chickened out.
I am sorry that I was not able to honor her by being at her service, but a virus that I had would not have been welcomed.
Please know that all of you are in my thoughts and prayers.
You are a major part of my extended family.
With much love, Lin
Brigitte Cegielski
September 9, 2006
Mrs. Clark was a personality like no other. She had the ability to make you laugh or smile with her carefree way of looking at things. I know she will be missed at the family gathering's at Tom and Sue's house...but she will never be forgotten, the memory of her is to strong to be. She will be missed by lots ~ but they will keep her memory alive....always. Many thoughts and prayers to her family and friends for their loss.
Dolores McNerney
September 8, 2006
Barbara was a loving grandmother, her grandchildren will miss her dearly. She always had a smile on her face, and always made you smile. She wil be missed very much by all of her family and friends.
Beverly & Stuart Hunter
September 8, 2006
Barbara was such a great addition to our family. Everyone loved to be in her company because it was such a happy place to be!
She will be sorely missed by everyone she touched. Her family will not be the same without her!
So many folks loved you, Barbara. You left behind so many wonderful and happy memories for all.
God Bless you and watch over us all
with your beautiful laughter. Keep scooting around on your wave runner.
Our sympathy to all of her family. Our hearts go out to each of you.
Stu and Bev Hunter
Susan McNerney
September 7, 2006
My beautiful Mom, she was and always will be there for me. Mom always looked for the good in everyone she meet and always put a smile on everyone's face. It's funny, no matter how busy my life is by taking care of my 3 beautiful children; Tommy, Sean, and Jack (Mom's loving grandchildren) and always going and going sometimes it seems like there is no time to stop. My Mom would say to me, "Susan these are the 'BEST' times of your life" Mom is right as mothers always are! I love you Mom, very, very much!! You will forever be in my life!
Love your daughter,
Susan
Lisa Remsen
September 7, 2006
Our prayers are with Barbara and her family. We are sorry for you loss. And will remember the times we were able to spend with her. As she shared your cottage and family with us.
Lisa, Richard and Victoria Remsen
September 6, 2006
Barbara was upbeat and friendly - and seemed to live her life without a care in the world. We will miss her smiles and laughter. Our best wishes and thoughts go out to Rich and all of her family. All your frineds at Jo-Di's.
Judith Bensch
September 5, 2006
Barbara was such a delight for the family. There are countless memories of Barbara, always ready to, out of no where, decide to sing a song, or to do a little dance, or place a funny red nose on her face, just to make people laugh. Barbara always enjoyed a "natural high" and know I speak for everyone that she will be so sincerely missed. Thank you Barbara! All my love, sister Judy.
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