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Sandra HARDER Obituary

HARDER, Sandra Jean Robinson Sandra Jean Robinson Harder, 63, passed away at her home on Monday, (April 25, 2011). Born in February 1948 to Raymond and Dorothy Robinson, Sandra grew up on the family dairy farm in Hardwick, MA. She graduated from Hardwick High School, where as an outstanding student she won the Bausch and Lomb award for excellence in Math and Science. After her graduation as an education major at University of Massachusetts Amherst, Sandy and her husband, Tony, were married in January 1969. They then moved to Florida, where Sandy worked as an elementary schoolteacher. They moved to Old Saybrook in 1974, where they raised four children. Sandy leaves her devoted husband Tony after 42 years of marriage and is survived by daughter Robin and husband German Dziebel of Natick, MA; daughter Hilary and husband Andrew Hurdis of Ivoryton, CT; daughter Jill Harder and fiancé Ted Hartenstein of Old Saybrook, CT; and son Jeffrey and wife Siobhan Harder of Osterville, MA, as well as her two grandchildren, Elliott Hurdis and Alexandra Dziebel. She is survived by sisters Judith, Bonnie, BettyJo, and brother Raymond. Her extended family includes numerous nieces, nephews, and cousins. Sandy will be remembered by all as a devoted wife, mother and grandmother who cheerfully and eagerly served in civic organizations and at the First Church of Christ in Old Saybrook. She was vice-chairman of the Old Saybrook Board of Education and was elected to four consecutive terms over 16 years. While on the Board, she was instrumental in capital improvements, professional recruitment, and curriculum development, all of which contributed to the outstanding reputation enjoyed by the Old Saybrook School System. Sandy will also be remembered by many for her years of employment as Business Manager of Saybrook Lawn and Power Equipment and more recently as an early childhood educator at My Second Home. Others will remember her as a Girl Scout troop leader, a softball coach, an administrative member of the Old Saybrook chapter of the American Field Service, a former president of the Goodwin School PTO, and a volunteer for numerous school and church committees. In addition to her passions for family, education, and the community, Sandy enjoyed travel. Her journeys included numerous trips across the U.S. and touring Japan, Iceland, England, Scotland, Denmark, Germany, Switzerland, Austria, and Italy. In lieu of flowers donations may be made to the Old Saybrook Education Fund or to the Shoreline Soup kitchen at the First Church of Christ in Old Saybrook. Calling hours will be held from 2 to 5 p.m. (TODAY) Wednesday, (April 27, 2011) at the First Church of Christ (Congregational) in Old Saybrook. The funeral service will be held at First Church on Thursday, (April 28, 2011) at 11 a.m. Please visit www.swanfuneralhomeoldsaybrook.com to leave an online condolence or tribute.

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Published by Hartford Courant on Apr. 27, 2011.

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John Golias

May 16, 2011

Tony, my deepest condolences to you and your family. Sandy was a wonderful person who will be greatly missed. You two were a great couple. I will never forget Sandy's big smile and her loving nature. My prayer are with you both.

Hank Schank

May 4, 2011

Tony, I'm saddened to hear of your loss. I know Sandy was a wonderful lady by all the comments I have read about her here. I wish I could have met her. You have my sympathies and my prayers are with you. Hank Schank, Oklahoma Ciy

Dorothy (Allen) Cebula

May 4, 2011

To the Family of Sandra Harder, please accept my sincere condolence on her passing. I will always remember her from our school days and all the fun we had.

Cindy (Dean) Mason

May 3, 2011

Tony, My sympathies go out to you and your family. Sandy was a special person and you have many fond memories to cherish. I enjoyed Sandy at Hardwick High playing basketball and softball together, parties, proms. Her smile was infectious. She looked great the last time I saw her. My prayers are with you all during this difficult time.

May 2, 2011

Dear Tony and family,

We were so saddened by Sandy's passing. We have many wonderful memories of our time together over the years. She was an exceptional person who will be missed by all who have known her. I still remember going to our first Welcome Wagon/Newcomers meeting together when we were on Windsor Oval. Sandy touched many hearts. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. Bob and Beverly Shultz, Hudson, NH

Tracy Ohr

May 1, 2011

I am so sorry for your loss. My son Cooper attends my Second Home in Old Saybrook. Miss Sandy was a wonderful person and will be greatly missed. All of the kids love her so much. With our deepest sympathy.

Tracy and Cooper Ohr

Monica Moreno

May 1, 2011

I would like to extent my deepest condolences to you. My prayers are with you and you family during this difficult time.

May 1, 2011

Dear Tony and Family,

Please accept my sincere sympathy. Sandy was a wonderful person and she will be truly missed. I always admired her dedication to our community; she gave of herself in so many ways.

You are all in my thoughts and prayers.

Debby Dwyer

Ayako Saito

May 1, 2011

Dear Robin,
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family in your time of grief. I met your mother at your wedding and still remeber how happy she looked during the ceremony and the reception. I keep praying for you and your family so your sorrow will be comforted soon.

Hisashi Okawa

April 30, 2011

I will express my deepest condolences to Robin, German and other family members. I met Sandy-san when Robin and German got married. I was deeply impressed by her openness and big smiles. It will be a great loss to you, but I hope you will cherish good memories you shared with Sandy-san.

Paul&Val Pulchtopek

April 29, 2011

Sandy,everyone who's life you touched, will remember you as the most gracious person they ever met. I've known you and Tony so long you both are the only real true friends I have. I will greive for you but remember you for the rest of my life with fondness,respect and admiration.I'm sure your place in heaven is a special one. You earned it!

April 28, 2011

Dianne and I wish to extend our sincere condolences to you and your family. No words can adequately express the depth of our feelings. We will keep you all in our prayers. God bless.

Bill and Dianne Sears

Caspar Schutte

April 28, 2011

Dear Tony:

My deepest sympathy go out to you and your family. These are difficult times for those losing a (long-time) friend, husband or wife with whom they’ve shared many enjoyments, but also found comfort in one another. Despite having known you for a short while, I admire your strength and know you’ll find the courage to continue walking the path of joy with friends, children and grand-children; I look forward to walk along with you. May God look over your well being.
Sincerely,

Seth Robinson

April 27, 2011

Aunt Sandy, I love you and will miss seeing your smile and hearing your laughter. The distance has never diminished my love for you, Tony, and the kids. My heart and my thoughts go out to you.

Judie & Donald Vadnais

April 27, 2011

Tony, Robin, Hilary, Jill, Jeff - I remember when my big brother brought his pretty new girlfriend Sandy to our home - and into our lives more than 47 years ago. I am grateful for her presence in our family. She lived her life with grace and dignity and has now departed in that same manner. In her children, the kind, warm and generous person we knew lives on. We will miss her.

Martha and Chris Manning

April 27, 2011

Dear Jeff and Siobhan,
We are so sorry to hear of Jeff's mothers
passing. Our prayers are with you and your family. We have fond memories of your mother at your wedding.
Love,
Martha and Chris

Pat Williams

April 27, 2011

Tony, So sad to read about Sandy in the Hartford Courant. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and all of the kids. Many happy memories of the babysitting co-op years. Love, Pat and Tony Williams

April 27, 2011

Our deepest sympathy goes out to Miss Sandy's whole family. My daughter knew her through My Second Home. I know she will be deeply missed. Sincerely, Michelle, Liam, Hannah and Aidan Walsh

Wendy Kipfmiller

April 27, 2011

Dear Jeff,
Our hearts go out to you and your family and we're so saddened by your loss. We wish you all the peace and serenity in the world in your time of grieving. Love, Wendy & Matt

David and Sue Costa

April 27, 2011

Our condolences and deepest sympathy to the Harder family. Sandy was one of the most pleasant people we knew in Old Saybrook...she always had a kind and sincere smile for all and her impact on the community will always be remembered...we are very sorry for your loss.

April 27, 2011

Dear Harder Family,
You are all in our hearts and prayers-thank you for sharing Sandy with us. She was an amazing woman.
with love, The Flammang family

April 27, 2011

Sandy was a wonderful person and will be greatly missed.With our deepest sympathy.
Connie and Hal Farrington

Erik DuBois

April 27, 2011

Jill, thoughts and prayers for your Mother. We will be thinking of you and your family this week. Erik, Julie, Dylan and Delaney

Ben Tupman

April 27, 2011

Tony, Robin, Jill, Hilary & Jeff. My thoughts are with you all at this very sad time. Your mom was a wonderful woman who made my stay with you all those years ago so special. You are a wonderful family and your Mom was a huge part of that. You are all in my prayers. Wishing you all love from England.
Ben Tupman

Kathy Stonick

April 27, 2011

Dear Jill,

I am very sorry for your loss, and though it is a difficult time for you now, remember that your mother will always be with you in spirit.

Jim Cultrera

April 27, 2011

Tony:

So sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Colleen Bloom

April 27, 2011

Jill and Family
I met your mother once, last summer, and I could see right away what a warm and loving person she was. My heart goes out to you all. Your mother will live on in each of her children and grandchildren.

Sending love and hugs

Colleen Bloom

April 26, 2011

Sandy, we love you and you will be deeply missed by our family. Sandy was our children's preschool teacher. Both of our kids would love to see Miss Sandy at church and just run up and give her a hug! She was an active member of First Church with us and I was one of Sandy's additional daugthers for the month of January, as she and Tony hosted First Church Coffee Hour of that month. Tony, Hilary, Jill, Robin and Jeff we are keeping you in our prayers. Blessing From, Katie, Leigh, Alexa, and Jonathan Gesick

Jim Tucker

April 26, 2011

Tony and family;

Eileen and I are deeply saddened by your loss. Although I did not have lots of history with her I knew that any one that met her was better off for it-myself included. Eileen has very fond memories of Sandy coming over to the house and picking up her and her sisters when you were in the service- just so the kids might have a place to go and something to do on the farm. Such was the depth of stand out people like Sandy.

God Bless, Jim and Eileen Tucker

April 26, 2011

The Harders have been friends with my family since 1975. My thoughts are with Tony, Robin, Hilary, Jill, and Jeff--sending you all peace and strength. Know that Sandy is right now by your sides as your guardian angels.
Peace,
Karen J Sirico

April 26, 2011

Miss Sandy, as our daughter Erin called her, will be deeply missed. We were fortunate to have known Sandy through My Second Home. She was always so kind and loving with the children, I know Erin loved her. Our thoughts and prayers go out to the family at this time of grief and sadness.
~Kim, Greg & Erin Fiorelli

Alfred Sweeney

April 26, 2011

Sandy, we know that God has already taken you in his arms, and will hold you for eternity. We continue to pray for Tony and your family, for God's grace in understanding His way and His will. Sandy, you and Tony raised your wonderful family in your special way and we are honored to know you. We love you and pray for your well being.
Love, Jackie and Al Sweeney

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