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for HAROLD SELMAN
Steve Howard
August 10, 2025
The years have flown by.
May you Rest In Peace Harold
Jen
August 10, 2024
Dr. Selman, it's because of you I'm still alive. I wasn't certain we'd gell when I first started with you, but you held me together while my insurance got screwed up and reduced my # of mental health visits, you were one of the few that saw the cycles my life holistically & said, "Again? You really can't make this up." I trusted you implicitly. Getting the email with the reminder of your passing, realizing that it falls so close to my 55th bday, realizing that it is officially 20 yrs this November since you helped me stabilize... I hope that , wherever path your soul has traveled in the past 20 yrs, you are at peace. Thank you so much. You touched my life deeply.
Jen
August 10, 2023
Dr. Selman, you are missed. I hope your soul is at rest and you know how much good you did in the world. Thank you for everything that you helped me with, I've been mostly stable for almost 20 years now. Thank you.
Jen Spence
October 30, 2022
Dr. Selman, you saved my life, your med concoction has kept me stead for almost 20 yrs. I miss your humor and your compassion. I'm so lucky to have known you and been helped by you. I hope that, wherever you are, you're doing better. I wish you were still here.
Mitch
August 10, 2022
RIP I think of you often. I miss beating you in pool also.
Ulrika Mc Kenith
August 10, 2021
I will always remember you with a smile, eating your chinese food, egg noodles, late at night when you came home from work.
You told me I should write a book about my life and maybe I will
With Love
Ulrika, your daughters nanny, way back
William Landberg
February 24, 2015
I was a patient of Dr Selman for three years until I went into 'government service'. We stayed in contact via the net and he always expressed his concern for my well being. I was deeply saddened to learn of his passing and think of him often. Good luck my friend.
Jaime Kaplan
December 6, 2014
I was his patient for 12 years until 2012. He got me Social Security Disability, then well enough to get off it and get my master's. On and off disability, through shock treatments, a horrible marriage and an even worse divorce and then, in 2011 I got better. I wrote him an email today to thank him and tell him I'm in my second year of doctoral studies in psychology and I owe my life to him. I owe the love of my life to his unrelenting standards of what to accept from how people treat me. I wanted to thank him, I checked for his email. I wanted his family and girlfriend to know things I realized under his care. I won't cry because he will never be a reason I shed a tear--he always wanted me to be happy and that I shall be with his memory. I hope opening this was not a poor choice of showing how I care, but I want his family to see what I saw in him. It says not to submit original poetry, but I'm a published author of it, and I would like to share with those who loved him what I saw in him. There was so much he could do, it was amazing. Even typing 100 WPM on a typewriter with no errors. It used to fascinate me. I had thought he was the grandiose one in the beginning, then I saw he could back it all up, and there was always more to him--and this is without knowing the specifics of his personal life, but he shone through being just any MD. He was more than a doctor, he was a scientist. He would sit with his hands together by his chin and truly listen--not just to my words. He knew me, like nobody really does. I understand who he was because I've only seen greatness that once.
The Great Divide
The water rushes along the banks
across The Great Divide.
The roar so loud, one cannot hear
me weep and heave and sigh.
You were a stranger in this land,
your brilliance held you apart.
But in you was a fierce loyalty
whose innocence broke my heart.
Through love of you I conquered my fear
of this life and of my reticence.
And I tried to wrap my mind around
a being of such magnificence.
If I could have but one more chance,
I'd come calling at your door.
But the laws of nature have me bereft
as the sky proceeds to pour.
I will try to pass the time, Selman,
on your memory my hopes ride.
And I aspire to find you once again
across The Great Divide.
Thank you, Dr. Selman, for everything, always.
Johnny Ljucovic
August 25, 2013
I can't believe your gone.
Arlene Wolfson
August 22, 2013
II had an appointment with Dr. Selman tonight. Just came back from his office. When the doorman told me he had passed away..I was shocked & still am. He was a friend as well as my therapist for over 13yrs. I will miss him forever.
arlene Wolfson
August 22, 2013
I had an appointment tonight & was shocked & saddened by this unbelievable news, I have been seeing Dr. selman for over 13 years. He was a good friend as well as therapist. I will never forget him!
August 22, 2013
Rest in Peace Doc ...Thanks for all your good advice
Leslie Durham
August 20, 2013
Harold was my first cousin and we grew up together in East Meadow. I have great memories to reflect on. So sad to see him leave but I know he is with my mom, Aunt Lily who adored him! My deepest regrets to his mother, father and brothers, his children and his partner, Ronnie. You are all in my heart.
Normajean Chapman-Buckley
August 20, 2013
Doc, as I used to call him has left a huge hole in my heart and life. You have now joined the ranks of a Guardian Angel. I will miss you, always.
Ron vitello
August 20, 2013
Harold was my billiard student then became a very good friend. I spoke to him last monday 8/12.We :Were to meet this week to play some pool.
I must say my heart is broken to loose a good friend anc my heart goes out the 2 beutiful daughters and his who I never met. Also I can't forget Ronnie.
He was a good man. My heart has been crying all day. I could go on and on.
Harold l know god will take care of you. I will miss our games on the table picked for you. Harold I never fumped a game you beat me,you really did. I love you Harold
Your pool buddy
Ron
Greg K
August 19, 2013
I've learned so much from this man.. He was more than a doctor to me but a friend. Had amazing conversations, truly listened to your problems and analyzed them in a way to help you open your eyes to a different light. I see the light now, thank you so much for all your words!
Hilly Gurley
August 18, 2013
Dr. Selman helped me through so many difficult times, and always had a strong will, a true heart, and an outstanding sense of humor. I will never forget him, and will always be grateful to have known him. My thoughts and prayers go out to all his loved ones; we will never lose sight of his admirable and benevolent spirit. God bless you, Dr. Selman, and THANK YOU..
Ulrika Mc Kenith
August 18, 2013
I will never forget you!! My former boss and friend! With Love //
Mitch Kolpan
August 17, 2013
Harold. I hope you are at peace. You deserve nothing less. My heart goes out to your Ronnie, And the rest of your family. You will be so very missed.
August 17, 2013
A friend, a colleague a drinking buddy in times past. Always a smile on his face, a pleasure to see. I will miss you. Rest in Peace.
Louie Lou
August 16, 2013
Hes the best person i ever met, knowing him for 2 years made me feel like he knew me my whole life! God bless you Doc
I cant believe this is real!!
Myself, Ronnie & Harold...2012
Michael Abreu
August 16, 2013
I miss him. Harold was my closest friend. I'm still in complete shock.
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