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Elaine Gardner Obituary
Elaine is survived by her loving husband Robert T. Gardner whom she married on May 26, 1962; her children, Robert Jr. and wife Elizabeth of Port Jervis, James of Walton and daughter Suzanne Barr and husband Rob of Newburgh; her nine grandchildren, Alex and Ian Gardner of Port Jervis, James Gardner of Walton, whom she has raised for the last 10 years and who brought tremendous joy to her life, Corinne and Alexis Gardner of Fort Lauderdale, Fla., Robbie, Gage, Gunner and Jessica Barr of Newburgh. Elaine is also survived by her two sisters, Eva Lois Davenport and Dorothy Casey of Columbus, Ga.; her brother James Taylor and wife Ann of Marrietta, Ga.; her very special mother-in-law, Josephine Gardner of Marlboro; her sisters-in-law who brought her strength and love, Dolores "Dee" and Wallace Bedell of Charlottesville, Va., Martha and Donald Mack of Lead, S.D. and Rosemarie Gardner of Marlboro; several nieces, nephews and cousins.
Elaine and Bob lived in Marlboro where they raised their children. Elaine retired from Key Bank as a sales associate in 2000 and began an adventure with her husband by establishing the Trails End Farm in Walton. Elaine showed uncommon strength and grace throughout her illness and quietly guided her family throughout with the love and concern typical of her character. Her family would like to thank the staff on Circle 5, VBMC for their kind and compassionate care. They are angels on earth.
Calling hours will be held Wednesday, Feb. 15 from 2-4 and 7-9 p.m. at The DiDonato Funeral Home, 1290 Route 9W, Marlboro.
A Funeral Service will be held Thursday, Feb. 16 at 11 a.m. at the First Presbyterian Church, West Street, Marlboro.
Memorial contributions may be made in Elaine's name for Melanoma Research, to University of Texas, MD Anderson Cancer Center, PO Box 4486, Houston, TX 77210-4486.
Arrangements were made by The DiDonato Funeral Home.
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Memories and Condolences
for Elaine Gardner
Karen Mack
February 17, 2006
Uncle Bob, Bob, Suzanne & Jim,
I wish that Kyra & I could have been with you this past week. I am so glad we made it to NY last summer. Kyra still talks about making reindeer with Aunt Laine on Ree Ree's deck. We are all better for having had her in our lives. We love you all very much-please know that you are in my thoughts & prayers constantly.
Love,
Karen & Kyra
Elsie Maddox Austin
February 16, 2006
My thoughts race back to the first time I met Elaine in the 6th grade at Johnson Elementary School. So many happy, funny memories over the school years through graduation.
As I told you, Bob, I know one of the best things I've ever done in my life was to help the two of you elope. You hastily agreed.
I always thought I'd get to see her again and I will carry the regret until I see her in heaven.
Make new friends, but keep the old, one is silver and the other gold.
Much love and comfort to her family,
Elsie Maddox Austin
Bob & Pat Trifilo
February 16, 2006
Bob, please accept our deepest condolences to you and all the family. Ms. Laine will be truly missed.
The Neighbors Of Eva Lois Davenport
February 16, 2006
Our Thoughts and Prayers are with all of Elaine's Family
Clay and Angie Taylor
February 15, 2006
God's speed Aunt Elaine. You will be missed but I also know that you will be waiting on each of us a those wonderful gates!
Clay, Angie, Sarah,and Keeley
(Bubba's kid)
Tony DiStefano
February 15, 2006
Bob and Family, My thoughts and prayers are with you. Elaine was a wonderful person and I will miss her.
Tony
Ann Taylor
February 15, 2006
Bob & Children,
James and I are devastated that we have lost our sister and cannot be with you during this time when families need each other so much. She loved her "Bubba" so much. We know that Elaine is with our Father smiling down on all of us and that she will be in our hearts forever. Just know that we are with you all in spirit and our thoughts and prayers. Love to each of you.
Love,
Bubba, Ann and family
Joanne Cardillo
February 15, 2006
Bob,
On behalf of the NFA Class of 1960, I want to send our heartfelt sympathy on the loss of your beloved, Elaine. We are happy that we were able to be with the two of you at the 45th class reunion last September. We will remember seeing Elaine with her smiling face and pleasant personality. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
Nona Edwards
February 15, 2006
I went to Columbus Jr. High and Jordan with Elaine. Very thoughtful and kind person. She will be greatly missed. Our prayers are with the family.
renae field ,robison
February 15, 2006
my prayers are with you all,mrs.casey i just lost my sister in september(laura reynolds)that was very hard,but just remember you will see her again,and i wanted to thank you for being such a good friend to my uncle sam,and aunt annette,and my precious mom betty ,we will see them all in heaven,may God compfort each and everyones broken heart. your friend renae.
Chrystal OBeirne
February 15, 2006
I've known Elaine for over 40 years. We had our first babies togeather at St. Luke's Hospital in Newburgh.And after that we had a few more! I'm sorry we lost track of each other over the years. But, we saw Elaine and Bob at a wedding two years ago and it was just like we were when the kids were small-- The good old days! Our prayers are with her family.She will be sorely missed.Love Chrys and Rich
Carolyn (Arnold) Batts
February 15, 2006
Elaine was a classmate of mine at Jordan High School. We shared many good times in our journalism class and writing for the school newspaper. I haven't seen her since we graduated in 1960, but I have never forgotten her--especially her gentleness, and loving ways. I know her family and friends will miss her greatly. You are in my thoughts and prayers during this time.
Judy Groves
February 15, 2006
Bob and family,
I remember Elaine from elementary and high school. She was a lovely, kind person. I know she will be greatly missed. You have my sincere sympathy for your loss.
Judy Whitworth Groves
Kenneth Newman
February 14, 2006
I went to both Jr. High and Jordan High School with Elaine. She was a sweet and beautiful person inside and out. She will be missed.
Misti Hutchison (great niece)
February 14, 2006
Elaine was a very special lady and touched many hearts during her time. She will truly be missed. My thoughts and prayers go out to the rest of the family during this difficult period.
Charlotte (Lane) Bickerstaff
February 14, 2006
It was my honor to personally reconnect with Elaine last year. We graduated high school together in 1960. I found her as I had known her, full of love for her family and the disposition of an angel. I will forever remember her fighting spirit, courage and gentle ways. My heart and prayers go out to her family.
Rosemary Colandrea
February 14, 2006
My deepest sympathy for your loss..
I admired your mother so much whenever we met at Marlboro Elem. School or at Key Bank...She was truly a lady in every sense of the word...I will miss her smile and cheerful disposition.
Julie Dowling Pattillo
February 14, 2006
I remember Elaine from Jordan High School . She was a very sweet girl then, as always. May your family find great comfort in all the many wonderful memories you shared together. My prayer is for comfort and peace to you during this time.
Glory Hamilton
February 14, 2006
Memories of Elaine, our childhood and teenage years together, are very dear. May all who are missing her find peace and comfort.
Steve & Barbara Madrick
February 14, 2006
Bob & Family,
We are very sorry to about your lose. We send our deepest sympathy.
Aline (Southerland) Westbrook
February 14, 2006
Bob and Family - I was a classmate of Elaine's at Columbus Jr. High and at Jordan. She was a very special person even then. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you.
Bob Speirs
February 14, 2006
Bob,
My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Bob Speirs
Bevelon (Johnson) Theriault
February 14, 2006
With deepest sympathy from Jordan High School Class of 1961.
JODY SCHOLZ
February 14, 2006
BOB AND BETSY,
SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT YOUR MOM, I DIDN'T KNOW THAT SHE WAS SICK. PLEASE KNOW THAT WE ARE THINKING ABOUT YOU, AND IF YOU NEED ANYTHING PLEASE GIVE US THE CALL THE NUMBER IS THE SAME.
ALL OUR LOVE
Connie McArthur
February 14, 2006
I knew Elaine in High School. She was a very special person. I know her family will miss her and be strengthened by the memory of her courage.
Bob Paltridge
February 14, 2006
Bob & Family,
Our hearts go out to you all. We all loved Elaine very much. Our lives are better for just knowing her. We shall always remember all of the wonderful times, and all of the fun we had together.
We are sorry that we will be unable to attend the services as we are in Florida, but we will be thinking of you all and praying for all of you.
Elaine & Bob Paltridge
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