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Charles Vaughn Obituary

November 13, 1953 February 3, 2011 was born as the 7th and final child to Robert Allen and Vera Lorraine Vaughn in Amarillo, Texas. On an unstoppable trajectory, Charles burned an indelible course through the lives of friends, family, and those who had the fortune of being caught in his way. Always industrious, Charles started work early with a paper route in Tulsa, OK where he spent young years and still has many good friends from Marquette grade school and Bishop Kelley high school. When the family moved to Houston, TX, he worked in a Dog Grooming Salon. Then, at 16, while attending St Thomas Academy, he assisted in many a gruesome scene as a surgical tech at Ben Taub Trauma Center which inspired him to soon earn LVN Nursing credentials. In 1972, he accompanied his sister Maggie on his first visit to San Francisco, a city ready to reciprocate all of the fervor, ambition and love that Charles had to offer. He became a Licensed Cosmetologist and 'fluffed' any willing head. Working as an LVN and applying his hair styling skills, Charles supplemented his income while he earned his RN certification at SF City College which spawned a successful and diverse medical career that would last for the rest of his life. Through the SF Nurses' Registry, Charles worked as an RN at many of the SF/Bay Area hospitals where in 1979 Charles met and nursed August Sebastiani and developed a cherished relationship with the Sebastiani family, working for a time at the winery in Sonoma, CA. Charles broadened his Nursing perspective by joining the Traveling Nurses organization and even traveled a bit in 1981with Doctors Without Borders, then squeezed in a personal trip to the Far East in1983 with his dear Traveling Nurse friend, Dan Cox. As the 80's and AIDS consumed Gay communities, Charles entwined his medical skills with activism; attending conferences and promoting the latest AIDS research for better health care of those stricken with the disease, he was a champion in the medical AIDS community. As Charles continued his Nursing career, his indomitable drive devoured a Real Estate License in 1987 and he signed on with BJ Droubi Realty in SF where he was a popular and successful Realtor, being their top producer one year. As he worked both as a Nurse and a Realtor, he ultimately landed a home of his own on Potrero Hill. In 1990, he swapped homes for a year with jewelry-making friends in Cuernavaca, Mexico. He hoped to develop 'El Castilito' as a Tourist Destination, adding yet another amazing adventure to his already bulging list of 'what's next?': Hotel Host. Charles was handsome and cosmopolitan, a charming risk taker. His intellect and wit were as sharp as his tongue. His curiosity and perseverance allowed him to become proficient in sculpture, photography, floral arrangement, upholstery, carpentry, landscaping, interior design and ultimate party host - he loved to show people a great time. His parties were legendary! Charles had the rare gifts of visualization and execution which were synergistically enhanced by Michael Behney, a friend he'd known since the 70's and who became his life partner in 1995 when together they decided to leave the City and head for the hills: Arcata, CA and 8 country acres found by his sister, Andrea, who lived nearby. In 1996, Charles and Michael opened the 'Pottery Farm' on the Arcata square which not only fired the painted pieces of their customers, but expanded commercial exposure for local pottery artisans. They also introduced exotic wares from the wholesale import markets in SF. It was a beautiful store! While operating the store, Charles continued Nursing with the Open Door Community Clinics and various local hospitals; Michael was hired as Arcata's 'Mr. Main Street', organizing annual Civic events - the boys were well connected in their new home where, all along and with immense struggle, they had set about converting their overgrown, mundane acreage into epic beauty by constructing a one-of-a-kind house and grounds which glow with their artistic souls. Michael passed away on February 10th, 2008 and Charles died peacefully February 3rd, 2011 leaving behind siblings Vicki Coble, Mark Vaughn, Andrea Vaughn, Maggie Vaughn, Christine Vaughn, one paternal aunt and innumerable cousins, nieces and nephews. (Charles was pre-deceased by oldest brother Michael Vaughn on February 2nd, 2000). Charles' death was a too-soon tragic loss for us all - but what a thrill to have known him and be uplifted by his love of all things fabulous! Some give it all in one great flame Throwing kisses as they pass Memorial Service for Charles is pending. For those wishing to honor Charles' memory and all he gave us, donations may be made in his name to: Open Door Community Health Centers 670 Ninth Street, Suite 203 Arcata, CA 95521 (707) 826-8633 x5131 Please sign the guest book at www.Times-Standard.com, click obits.

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Published by Times-Standard on Feb. 23, 2011.

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J Bethke

March 8, 2011

Our Darling Chaz,
Thank you for carrying this family thru our darkest hour.You may have not known that this time was your greatest gift ever.
When I think of you, I will always remember the words of Sojourney Truth:

"I am not going to die, I am going Home like a shooting star..."

The Bethke Family

Dan

March 4, 2011

There was a wonderful ad campaign from the 70's...Hollywood royalty dripping in fur, artfully photographed by Avedon. Since his passing, I can't think of Charles without it coming to mind. It was titled, "What becomes a legend most?"
I would answer the ability to keep a friendship fresh for three decades, the willingness to share a lifetime of experience, a true generosity, both of spirit and of things material and the talent for telling the truth, when asked, no matter how brutal, but always with kindness and a positive spin.
Charles, you were a Diva, in the best sense of the word. You are sincerely appreciated, my dear, and much missed.
If there is a Heaven, I am sure it is even more beautiful for your being there. Don't forget to knife crease the pillows.

Melinda

March 3, 2011

I'll miss Charles' sweet spirit. I knew the moment I met him he was a special angel on loan to Arcata from somewhere amazing. Bless him, and his family. It is comforting to know he and Michael are together again. Blessed be, Charles.

March 1, 2011

Charles was a very loving and caring person. He was an inspiration to many and a great friend of all. He had a full and wonderful life and will be dearly missed. We love you Charles and will see you again.

Paula Rhude

February 28, 2011

I worked with Charles at Eureka Community Clinic and looked forward to seeing him everyday--his always cheerful demeanor and thoughtful ways. He took good care of patients and staff, and brought us Dahlias! He was a wonderful person.
My heart goes out to his family and loved ones.

Sister Fawn D'Amen aka Michael Weiss

February 25, 2011

Charles was one of the first people I met after moving to Fieldbrook in 2003. Then we had the wonderful opportunity to work together in the local HIV field. He had such a passion for people living with HIV. He brought to the table a constant real sense of humor that sometimes caused those who didn't know him to blush. He holds a very special place in my heart as he and Michael opened their home to us (The Eureka Sisters of Perpetual Indulgence) to host our celebration party for our groups formal exequatur into the worldwide order of Sisters...He threw SOME Parties! Charles I will miss our long chats. You challenged my thinking and brought joy to my life. Much love to you as you join the nuns and loved ones of the above.

Steven Rhodes

February 24, 2011

Dear Andrea, Always Blessed for the Introduction's with the Boy's, Charles & Michael. Great Gift's to our Circles and Community. From San Francisco to Essex Lane, Your Spirits and Passion Lived ON... Thank;s Boy's...It was a Journey filled with Love, Passion and Giving...~~~ Stell

Angel Clark

February 23, 2011

Thank you Charles for being a great teacher and mentor to all. Thank you for giving me the opportunity to meet and get to know all the wonderful people who love you. You and your laugh are greatly missed.

Marie Campbell

February 23, 2011

I had the pleasure of working with Charles & he was one of the most caring persons I ever met. His enthusiasm for life, for nursing, and for making others laugh is what I'll remember him for. My heartfelt sympathies go out to his family & friends.

February 23, 2011

Charles, we'll all miss your lopsided sense of humor. Your boundless energy will help heal us all. Jan Joki, Willow Creek, California

Brandi Beeman

February 23, 2011

Charles was a lovely person who made being around him a pleasure. He will be greatly missed by everyone who knew him. Love and Condolences to all of his loved ones.

Charles L. Vaughn

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Todd Larsen

February 23, 2011

Charles, we will miss you dearly. It's daunting to drive past Essex Lane each night and think of your beautiful home at Tilted Acres no longer with Michael and you filling it with joy. Todd

February 23, 2011

Charles helped me through a difficult time of unknowing, when I was exposed to hiv and hep c though a needle stick. He was very supportive, and made sure that every avenue was taken in my course of treatments and blood draws ect. He was kind and made me feel at ease. Thankfully, I was not exposed, and I thank charles for his support and for educating me. He will be missed.

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