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Jerry Wager Obituary

(News Article) ALLEN PARK, Mich. - Jerry William Wager, a star wrestler at the University of Toledo who went on to coach and also to officiate at the highest levels of the sport he loved, died Friday at Arbor Hospice in Ann Arbor. He was 76.

He was diagnosed with ulcerative colitis last year, had trouble recovering from an operation, and spent roughly a week in hospice care before his death, family members said.

"To him wrestling was more than just a sport in that it taught you to think, it taught you rules, it taught you what you can and cannot do," said his wife Sheila Wager.

His life-long involvement in wrestling began at the YMCA in Toledo, the city where he was born in 1937.

Mr. Wager wrestled at Whitmer High School, and then at the University of Toledo, where he won the Mid-American Conference Championship in 1957. The year before, he also served as an alternate for the U.S. Olympic Greco-Roman wrestling team. He won numerous Ohio State Amateur Athletic Union championships.

He studied health and business and graduated in 1959. Mr. Wager started a wrestling program at the then-named Monroe Catholic Central High School in Monroe after college and eventually moved to Las Vegas in the early 1960s, Mrs. Wager said.

The couple, who were married 56 years, returned regularly to the region, Mrs. Wager said. They returned to Allen Park, Mich., where son Lance Wager lives, in May to be closer to family.

In Nevada, Mr. Wager worked for about 35 years as a probation officer in the juvenile court system. He created a workout room with a mat and bags for the juveniles and encouraged young people to be part of an athletic program.

He launched a successful YMCA wrestling program in Las Vegas and coached numerous championship teams, his wife said.

He officiated both freestyle and Greco-Roman wrestling, and before his retirement from officiating in 1998 he worked meets such as the European Championships and Pan American Championships.

He had the chance to officiate the 1980 Olympic Games in Moscow, but didn't go because of the U.S. boycott. Mrs. Wager said it wasn't difficult for him to turn it down.

"He says if the wrestlers can't go why should I go; the Games are for them - they are not for me," she said.

Among his many honors is an induction into the National Wrestling Hall of Fame for a Lifetime Achievement for Officials award in 2008. He also is a member of the University of Toledo Varsity T Hall of Fame.

"He was hard-driving and tenacious," recalled Dick Torio, a UT wrestler who kept in touch with Mr. Wager.

His father didn't talk a lot about himself, built others up, and had high expectations - of others and himself, Lance Wager said.

"He always expected your best … and always gave you his," his son said.

He is survived by his wife Sheila; sister, Nancy Ridout; sons, Marc and Lance; five grandchildren, and three great-grandchildren.

Visitation will be held at Howe-Peterson Funeral Home in Dearborn, Mich. from 3 to 9 p.m. Wednesday and starting at 5 p.m. Thursday, followed by a 6 p.m. memorial service.

The family suggests tributes to the National Wrestling Hall of Fame, 405 West Hall of Fame Ave., Stillwater, Okla., 74075.

Contact Blade Staff Writer Vanessa McCray at: [email protected] or 419-724-6056, or on Twitter @vanmccray.
Published by The Blade on Nov. 19, 2013.

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Bruce Wilson

December 3, 2013

Jerry Wager- Another great name in Toledo Wrestling!

Dick Wilson's son- Bruce

Dave Keller

November 22, 2013

Sheila, Lance, Marc: Will be praying for you and your family. So glad I saw Jerry at the Varsity T banquet in 2011. I have many memories of the World Cups, and you guys on the mats. Will not ever forget the great times.

Daniel Perkins

November 21, 2013

Sorry for the loss I had the opportunity to have coach Wager while wrestling at YMCA in the late 70's. My first year of working with him I was very raw and didn't know a thing. Under his direction and training that following summer I was the National Greco Heavyweight champion. Thank you for all you have done,and you will be missed. The Y has never been the same since he left,and he touched the lives of many young men Melvin Hicks Maurice Hernandez Tiny Scribbins, Stanley Kline and numerous others. Thank you again and the family is in my prayers. Daniel "Heavy"Perkins

Maurice Hernandez

November 21, 2013

Jerry was a huge influence in my life! Thank you for everything.

November 21, 2013

Sheila ,I worked with you at Coulthard , Smith and O'Brien Very sorry to hear of your loss Mike Moore

GALEN GROVES

November 20, 2013

SHEILA I AM SO VERY VERY SORRY TO HEAR OF YOUR FAMILIES LOST.
I NEVER MET JERRY BUT WE HAD FRIENDS IN COMMON. AND I KNOW HE MUST HAD BEEN A GREAT GUY. I KNOW HOW YOU MUST FEEL. GOD BLESS YOU AND THE FAMILY AND YOU ARE IN MY PRAYS.
GALEN

November 20, 2013

To Sheila and the Wager Family:
We remember Jerry with many fond memories and great respect, and we are honored to have known him. Our love and prayers are with you at this time.
--Eric and Doretha Morris

Karen Williams

November 19, 2013

My deepest sympathies to Jerry's wife and family. I worked with him for many years and he will be remembered.

Edward Borla

November 19, 2013

Sheila, Marc, Lance, & Family: Many great memories, everlasting gratitude, & long Saturdays. Jerry was a positive influence on many young aspiring athletes, in particular our son & Cathy's brother, while we were neighbors in Las Vegas. Our thoughts & prayers go out to his family.
Ed & Cathy Borla (Las Vegas)

Barbara Paetzel

November 19, 2013

Sheila sending prayers for you and your family during this difficult time. I know that you will miss your love, but time has a way of healing our broken hearts. I am sure my dear Roger met Jerry with open arms.

Alvin Morris

November 19, 2013

To the family: Our prayers are with you at this time. Jerry was a willing and dedicated employee at juvenile detention in Las Vegas. He will be missed.
Sincerely, Alvin Morris

Alan Pulsipher

November 19, 2013

Jerry Wager was a consumate professional, an inspiration to the youth he befriended, and a friend to all. Since retiring from Juvenile Justice Services, he has been sorely missed. I am pleased to regard Jerry as a friend. Godspeed to his wife and family.

Alan Pulsipher

Big Cam

November 19, 2013

My condolences to the Wager Family, Jerry was truly a wonderful person and I enjoyed working with him for many years. He was comical, loving, stern and full of knowledge. May he rest in peace, Big Cam (Clark County Dept Juvenile Services PO II, Retiered)

November 19, 2013

JERRY AND I WERE CLASSMATES AT WHITMER AND ROOMMATES ON INFAMOUS SENIOR TRIP.I WAS ALSO IN HIS WEIGHT CLASS ON THE WRESTLING TEAM. HE BEAT ME UP TWICE A WEK.REST IN PEACE OLD FRIEND.
RON WILSON CLASS OF 55

Ken Vance

November 19, 2013

Jerry,
I'm sending a prayer to you at your new residence. I had a short experience there but was sent back with some jobs that were unfinished. I hope to see you there when my plan is done here.
I also am sending prayers to the friends and loved ones that you have left behind May they ease the pain of this loss and help them on the rest of their time here.
God be with you!
Ken Vance

Lance Wager

November 19, 2013

To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say...
but first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above.
Here, there's no more tears of sadness; here is just eternal love.

Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight.
Remember that I'm with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through,
God picked me up and hugged me and He said, "I welcome you."

It's good to have you back again; you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on.
I need you here badly; you're part of my plan.
There's so much that we have to do, to help our mortal man.

God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do.
And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night, the day's chores put to flight.
God and I are closest to you....in the middle of the night.

When you think of my life on earth, and all those loving years
because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry; it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.

I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned.
But if I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is o'er.
I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.

There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb;
but together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too...
that as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.

If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain,
then you can say to God at night......"My day was not in vain."
And now I am contented....that my life has been worthwhile,
knowing as I passed along the way, I made somebody smile.

So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low,
just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go.
When you're walking down the street, and you've got me on your mind;
I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind.

And when it's time for you to go.... from that body to be free,
remember you're not going.....you're coming here to me.

Ruth Ann Mahaffey (author)
©Copyright 1998

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