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Judith E. Barnes

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Murphy Funeral Homes - Arlington

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Arlington, Virginia

Judith Barnes Obituary

BARNES, JUDITH E.

Of Arlington, VA. On Sunday, June 19, 2005, loving wife of Charles H. Barnes, Sr.; devoted mother of Kathryn E. Rhoade, Charles H. (Terry) Barnes, Jr., Linda J. (Bill) Gibbs, Jack W. (Laurie) Barnes, Janet L. (Mike) Bartnek, Karen L. (Brett) Strykull, and the late Deborah A. Clover; also surviving are 18 grandchildren; eight great-grandchildren; three brothers; and one sister. Services will be held 1:30 p.m., Wednesday, June 22 in the chapel of THE ROBERT J. MURPHY FUNERAL HOME, 4510 wilson Blvd, Arlington, VA. Interment Columbia Gardens. In lieu of flowers, it is suggested that memorial contributions be made in her name to St. Jude Childrens Research Hospital, 501 St. Jude Pl., Memphis, TN. 38105-1905.

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Published by The Washington Post on Jun. 21, 2005.

Memories and Condolences
for Judith Barnes

Sponsored by Linda Jo Gibbs.

57 Entries

Janet Wahl

December 19, 2017

Hi Mom,

It's almost Christmas again. It's never been the same in my heart since you left. How I want to be with you again. Things are exactly like you said they would be. I miss you and love you so much. All my love love. Please let Debbie & Kathy know I like ve them to.

Janet Wahl

September 13, 2017

Dear Mom, I hope you have a wonderful birthday in Heaven. We miss you everyday. I love you so much.

September 5, 2012

Hi nanny I hope you doing well Pray for me I need help now more then ever

Janet Wahl

October 4, 2011

Mom, sitting here still trying to understand why you are not here to guide me in life. I miss you and nothing will ever change how mush I still so desperately need you. I love you so much. One day we will see each other again. Until then, much love.

Janet Wahl

December 17, 2010

Dear Mom,
Your favorite time of the year has come once again. I hope that you, Debbie & Kathy have a wonderful Christmas. I miss all of you so terribly. Love to you all.

Linda Gibbs

April 20, 2008

Mom, it will soon be three years since you went home and I just wanted to come here to this website to tell you that I love you and I miss you just as much as the day you left. Love, Linda

Jack Barnes

September 13, 2006

It was nice to visit you today mom, on your 70th birthday.

Love, Jack

Linda Gibbs

June 13, 2006

Dear Mom,

It will be one year soon, June 19th since you went away. You are always in my thoughts and in my prayers. My heart aches for your laughter, your hugs and that warm, gentle touch that said, "Linda, everything is going to be just fine." I just want to say again, "thank you Mom," for all the love, joy and happiness you gave unconditionally, unselfishly each and every day. I miss you with all my heart and soul. Love, Linda oxoxoxoxo

Janet Bartnek

May 19, 2006

Dear Mom, It will be a year now next month since you had to leave. The tears still come as easily as the day you past and I miss you more each day that goes by. Know that I love and miss you and your memory lives on in all of us. For every ache your still here to make it better and for every joyful moment you are still here to share it. You are always in my heart. Love Always, Janet

Jack Barnes

May 9, 2006

Mom,

I want to wish you a happy mother's day for this Sunday, enjoy your day and know that we all love and miss you very much.

Linda Gibbs

February 6, 2006

Hi Mom,

This guest book and the website that Valerie made in your memory helps us all in our healing process. In our minds and in our hearts we write to you as though you will receive our messages. We believe in our hearts that you see and read each and every one. In my heart...I wish you could reply. I wish there was email in Heaven. We would tie up the network I'm sure. I miss you so very, very much Mom. Some days my chest hurts, it's my heart aching for your voice, your advice, your laughter and your warm touch and hugs. I love you Mommy.

Laurie Barnes

November 24, 2005

Hey, Today will be a day that you will definately be missed. Traditions are hard to change, especially when you have no choice in the matter. We miss you so much. Happy Thanksgiving and thanks for giving us something to be thankful for.

Jack Barnes

November 23, 2005

Mom,

I'm jealous cause all the angels get your food and we don't! You and Debbie and the rest of your family up there have a great Thanksgiving...Love Jack

Linda Gibbs

October 18, 2005

Dear Mom,

Tomorrow it will be four months since you went away. Valerie is so right about the memories, and I have so many. Your warm smile and happy to see you eyes, hugs that only you could give, or that soft kiss gently placed to the back of the head. We had so much fun together, so many good times that I will always cherish in my heart. Dad misses you so much but I know you are proud of him, he tries very hard every day to be strong and he watches out for all of us. We went to AC and had a good time, but it wasn't quite right without you. I could see you at the slots, us looking for you when you would wander off...sneaking to a dollar machine (LOL). Great times that I am thankful for. I love you and miss you more than words can describe. Hugs and Kisses.

Valerie Ramirez

October 17, 2005

My Dearest Nanny,

How are you doing up in heaven? I bet is is so relaxing and beautiful there. You are of the finest people Nan and you certainly deserve a heaven like I imagine.

I miss you Nan. I look at your pictures and feel like it must be an impossible dream. I am still, after almost 4 months, in shock that you are no longer here with us. Maybe that is how it will always feel. I hope it gets better. I wish I could see your smiling face. I try really hard to picture you in my mind and remember you doing a certain something. Whether it's adding a $20 to Pink Panther, puting a load of clothes in the washer, loading the dishwasher or marking your bingo card. It doesn't matter what the memory is, as long as I have the memory is the imporant part.

I pray that I will see you again. It will be such a glorious reuniting time. I have no fears now, knowing that you will be waiting for me.

I love you Nanny! Always and Forever!!!

Hugs and Kisses (I'll never forget one of my last kisses from you on the sofa at your house :))

Valerie

Jack Barnes

September 14, 2005

Mom,

I came back to your resting place for your birthday yesterday and I noticed everyone had been there before I had arrived, leaving all the beautiful flowers and cards wishing you a happy birthday. What a beautiful day it was around 90 degrees and not a cloud in the sky! That made it easier for both of us to look upon one another and wish each other a happy birthday...I know those are the little perks you get up there. Mom, tell Debbie we love her and think about her all the time and I know you and her celebrated your birthday in fine fashion.

Love always

Linda Gibbs

September 7, 2005

Dear Mom,

It is written that "All endings are also beginnings. We just don't know it at the time..." I pray that your new beginning and the days into your eternal life are nothing less than glorious. I truly believe with all my heart Mom that you are deserving of all that Heaven has to offer. That those you see again and meet for the first time are blessed to have you amongst them. Mom, anyone can say "I love you," they are just words afterall, what gives these three words meaning is what is shown, what is given, what is shared, and what is vowed, honest and true and most of what is real. Your love included all of these ingredients, which is more evident, more clear today than ever before and I know that is because your ending here on earth is more than my heart can accept at this time. It's all a part of missing you. But, knowing that you have started a new journey free of pain, free of worry, free of fear is how I manage to get up and start a new day without you in sight. I feel you with me in everything I do Mom that is how strong the words "I love you" are because you baked the ingredients deep within my soul and that is a gift you gave me. One that I am forever grateful. I love you Mom. Have a glorious time!

Love, Linda Jo

Laurie Barnes

September 5, 2005

Does Heaven have a phone number?

Mommy went to Heaven,

but I need her here today,

My tummy hurts and I fell down,

I need her right away,

Operator can you tell me how

to find her in this book?

Is heaven in the yellow part,

I don't know where to look.

I think my daddy needs her too,

at night I hear him cry.

I hear him call her name sometimes,

but I really don't know why.

Maybe if I call her,

she will hurry home to me.

Is Heaven very far away,

Is it across the sea?

She's been gone a long, long time

she needs to come home now!

I really need to reach her

I simply don't know how.

Help me find the number please,

is it listed under "Heaven"?

I can't read these big big words,

I am only seven.

I'm sorry operator,

I didn't mean to make you cry,

Is your tummy hurting too,

or is there something in your eye?

If I call my church maybe they will know.

Mommy said when we need help that's

where we should go.

I found the number to my church

tacked up on the wall.

Thank you operator,

I'll give them a call.

Laurie Barnes

September 1, 2005

Judy, Time has gone by so fast but yet the pain of you leaving us is still here. I know you are so proud of your kids. They are watching over each other just like you would want them to. Some need a little more than others right now but you know who they are and I am sure you have sent a guardian angel to watch over them. We miss you. Shelby and Ashley light candles for you in church when we go. Summer is almost over. Soon we will be winterizing the trailer. Another season over - makes me sad. Well, I know we will eventually get past the pain and sadness that we feel. Listen to us in our prayers.

Janet Bartnek

August 28, 2005

Dear Mom,

It's been over 2 months now and I'm waiting for the pain of losing you to subside a little. Nope, not happening yet. Know please that I miss you and wish, hope & pray that when my time comes (hopefully not anytime soon if I can help it Mom so don't worry) I will get to lay my eyes on you. At least one last time. To feel your arms around me giving me that all time famous hug that takes away any kind of hurt and the kiss on the forehead that sooths any imaginable pain away. From a tiny scratch to the biggest heartbreak. I love you and continue to miss you more and more each day. Take care of Debbie because I know she's doing the same for you. Love Always, Janet

Linda Gibbs

August 6, 2005

Dear Mom,

They say is gets easier with time, right now I don't believe that's true. I miss seeing you when I come to visit Dad. It's so hard not to see on the front porch, or coming around the corner from your bedroom. Mom, you left so many, many beautiful memories. God took you home to be at peace and out of pain which I know was best. I would feel this pain a million times over for you never to suffer again. I love you so much and miss you more than words can every express.

Laurie Barnes

July 16, 2005

This morning when the Lord opened a window in Heaven, He saw me,

and he asked: "My child, what is your greatest wish for today?" I responded: "Lord please, take care of the person who is reading this message, their family and their special friends. They deserve it and I love them very much." The love of God is like the ocean, you can see its beginnings but not its end. Angels DO exist, but sometimes they don't have wings, so we call them Friends.

I received this from a Friend and made me think of Judy. So to all who read I pass it on.

Shelby Barnes

July 9, 2005

Nanny,

I think that this site and the one Val made are great ways of getting our feelings out. So here are mine. On June 19 I had just had a sleepover with my friend. We got back from breakfast and there was a message. I could tell something was wrong because we had to rush my friend home. We came as soon as possible and went right away to see you. When I walked in, I was shocked. I felt like I was about to cry because I could see your pain. But later on, I was happy because I knew you were in heaven. After that thought, I realized all the trouble you went through to see everyone before you passed. You are in our prayers and in our mind forever and always. I love you Nanny.

Shelby XOXO

Laurie Barnes

July 8, 2005

Hey Judy... they say time heals all wounds but it seems this one is too deep. I can't swallow back the lump in my throat or the tears in my eyes. It has been almost three weeks since you left us but it feels like it was just yesterday. I really miss you. I miss sitting out on the dock with our fishing poles in the water- just talking and waiting for that big fish to come around. We had some really good times. Remember when you were holding Jack's hand and his legs were split between boat and peer and he ended up falling in. I dont want to go back there without you, but I will because you would have wanted me to. Well, bye for now. Dont stay out fishing too long up there! Love you.

Valerie Ramirez

July 5, 2005

Nanny,

Hello sweetie pie. How are you doing? Yesterday was the 4th of July and as always as of late, it just did not seem to feel quite the same without you there. I bet those fireworks are beautiful when you are watching them from heaven. We all had a great time. I love you Nanny. Wanted to wish you a Happy 4th of July. Love you so much,

Valerie XOXOXOXOXOXOXO

Darryl & Kelly DuBose

June 30, 2005

Thinking of all of you...

Valerie Ramirez

June 30, 2005

Hi Nanny,

How are you doing up there in heaven, sweetheart? I came to visit your grave the other day and talked to you. I find myself talking to you all of the time. I wake up each morning and kiss a picture of you next to my bed. I know you hear me when I talk to you. Boy Nanny, I miss you so much. I really feel like a piece of my heart is missing. I am so fortunate to have grown up with all my grandparents around. When you are a child, you think they will live forever.... When I became an adult, I still thought you would live forever. I think it is this way because it is impossible to imagine life without them. Well, now I am having to live the impossible and it is so tough. Sometimes, I find myself feeling okay and try to keep myself busy, and then out of no where like a ton of bricks...it hits me. An overwhelming feeling of saddness. Charlie was right Nan.. He said that if we did not love you, we would not miss you. Well, I am missing you so badly and I know that means that there was so much love both ways. I love you Nanny. So much my sweetheart. I better get back to work before I sit right here at my desk and cry me a river.

Love you Nanny,

Talk to you later,

Valerie

Otto/Lois Pociask

June 29, 2005

Why did she leave us?

She had so much life left to live.

With a heart filled with kindness

She had so much love left to give.

Why was she called so early?

it's so hard to understand.

Were all on this earth for a reason

and we leave it at his command.

We'll never forget her charming ways, and her continuous smile.

Just being with her an hour

made life much more worthwhile.

Why did she have to leave us?

We'll never understand

Just why someone so kind and good

Was called to another land.

We'll all have to go on living,

each in their own special way.

She is gone but not forgotten

and , we'll all have to leave someday.

Greg Bagford

June 29, 2005

Linda, Charlie, Jack, and your Family,

How fortunate we are that in our hearts we keep forever the memories of those we love and the times we shared together. May you feel the warm embrace and the loving memories, and hear the happy echoes of the good times you shared together.

With deepest sympathy in your loss.

Leo Breen

June 27, 2005

Unfortunately I never had the pleasure of meeting you, but I know you had to be a wonderful individual. I met a few of your children and interacting with them reflected your warmth and caring attitude.

Keep a watchful eye on all of us and make sure you put a good word in to the boss for all of your friends.

Valerie Ramirez

June 26, 2005

Nanny,

Hi sweetheart..... I am going to use this guest book as part of my therapy. My therapy that helps to heal my broken heart. I also feel like you can read this, so it helps to be able to have somewhere to write to you, because I am not sure that USPS can deliver to heaven. I miss you so much Nanny. It was a week ago that you left this earth, but you will never leave my heart. You will be on my mind always. I hate to have to go back to work tomorrow, but I know a little piece of you will be with me and help me through the day. I hope you are having fun up there and are without pain. I hated to see you in pain. I am so thankful of the time I spent with you in these last weeks and will never forget some of the special moments we had; like when you would smile at me when I rubbed your cheek or the day we were sitting on the couch and you reached over and kissed me...boy, we made Grandaddy jealous... I better get to bed Nan. I love you so much sweetheart.

Talk to you later,

Love you,

Valerie

Dina Marshall

June 25, 2005

My Nanny,

I miss you Nan. There is a huge hole in my heart without you here in my life but you have taught each of us how to mend, to love each other, that family is first....and I will fill that large hole with thoughts of you and my wonderful family. You are in a better place now, no longer struggling. Have fun, play bingo or yahtzee with Mamo. Big hugs to my Mom for me. We will be okay, don't you worry about us! I will always make Nanny's soup in your honor and I promise to carry on the tradition of the tickle train! I miss you My Nanny.

Love, Your Dina Michelle

Linda Gibbs

June 25, 2005

Dear Mom,

Today Andy is getting married to Mavara. I'm so happy for both of them. I'm so proud of the man that he has become. He is a wonderful son and a great father to your great grandchildren, Leila and Kaylani. I know you are going to be watching all of us today and that you will be there, I feel this in my heart. We're going to celebrate and be joyful just as you would want us too. We miss you and love you.

Hugs and Kisses...Linda

Janet Bartnek

June 25, 2005

Dear Mom,

It's late Friday night, June 24th. I am sitting here trying to remember and forever absorb everything you have ever tried to teach me so that I can store it in my memory with all the moments of our lives most precious to me. How you taught us to be a family and what that meant. How to love and be there for each other no matter what. To stick together through thick and thin. Family is family you would say. People come and go in your life but FAMILY is forever! How not to judge people but how to love them unconditionally for everything they are, faults and all. You were always there for us no matter what. You loved unconditionally yet never asked for anything in return. You were a wonderful Mother and friend. So many times you helped me with my problems and always made me see there were others out there who's problems were so much more serious then mine that it put mine into perspective. Thank you so much for everything you have done for all of us. I look back at this past year and all the pain you endured and how you fought so bravely to give us what extra precious time you had left on this earth to be with us. You never thought of yourself but of Dad and the rest of us and how we would feel after you past. You were a strong, vibrant woman who's life touched so many others for the better. Now you are in a place where there is no pain or suffering and this is my comfort. You are at peace and I am forever grateful for that. Don't worry about us Mom. You raised us to be strong, independent and loving people who stick together and that's how we will endure this, as family! I will forever love you and be eternally grateful for all the life lessons you have taught me. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I love you Mom, always and forever. Until we meet again please save a spot for me at your table with Mamo, Pampo, Debbie. All my love, Your loving daughter, Janet

Mindy Lipman

June 23, 2005

Nanny,

I miss you so much. It helps a little to know that if I want to see your face, I only have to look at our family. You shine through each and every one of us. I want to say thank you...for helping me with life (anything & everything), for my family, and especially my mother. She's a hoot, as we all know! Even though you can no longer give me advice, you taught Mom your ways, so your wisdom will still come through. I'm very honored to be your granddaughter. Please watch over us until we see you again. I'll bring the hairbrush. I love you Nanny!!!

Granddaughter

Pam Jarrett

June 22, 2005

MAY THERE BE COMFORT THAT YOUR MOTHER'S MEMORY WILL LIVE FOREVER THROUGH EACH AND EVERYONE OF YOU. SHE HELPED MAKE YOU WHO YOU ARE TODAY. LOVING INDIVIDUALS. STICK TOGETHER AS A FAMILY AND YOU WILL MAKE IT THROUGH THIS DIFFICULT TIME. FAMILY IS EVERYTHING! MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS ARE WITH YOU.

Samantha Strykul

June 22, 2005

Nanny,

I hope you have fun in heaven. I miss you very much. I love you.

Love,

Samantha Lea

Karen Strykul

June 22, 2005

Ma,

I sure do love you. I have never understood until now what it was like to feel incomplete. Not having you with me is the hardest thing I have ever had to endure, but if not having you here with me takes away your pain I will get through it and live on until the time comes when I am able to see you again.

I want to thank you for being so loving and gracious. It is because of you and your love I stand here on this earth the lady, wife, and mother I am. I pray that through your heavenly guidance I will continue to grow and become the mother to my children that you were to me.

Your endless love will live in my heart and the hearts of my children forever. Bless you for this eternal gift.

Your Baby Girl

Dianne Mason

June 21, 2005

We are so sorry for the loss of your mother. She was a wonderful person and i know she will be missed by all who knew her. Our thoughts and prayers go out to everyone.

Dianne and Charlie Mason

Helen Oliver

June 21, 2005

Charlie Sr., Kathy, Charlie, Linda, Jack, Janet, Karen, and all of the grand and great-grandchildren:

My deepest sympathy to the family. I'm thinking of all of you at this difficult time.

Love,

Helen

Heather Barnes

June 21, 2005

Nanny,

I love you. I want to thank you for everything that you have done for me and for this family and will continue to do for all of us as your presence will always be with us.

All My Love,

Heather

Michelle Barnes

June 21, 2005

Nanny,

First and foremost I want to say how much you'll be missed, but that you'll never leave my heart or my thoughts. I have to say though, thanks for giving me a great father, and teaching him how to love and treat me. Not quite sure where his looks came from though. (Can you tell he's standing over my shoulder making me write about how great he is?) Haha, I love you Nanny.

Love,

Michelle

Charles Barnes Jr.

June 21, 2005

Mom,

Family was always the most important part of your life and you enstilled that in me. You taught me to love and respect those around me among many other things. Your wisdom and love shaped me into the person I am today, and helped me to reflect it into my children and my family. I'll miss your hugs and kisses, but even though you're not here with me, you'll live on in my heart and everyone else's as well.

Love,

Charlie Jr.

Blaise Wagner

June 21, 2005

....on to heaven with many blessings and prayers!

bill gibbs

June 21, 2005

Hey Old Lady, I've been around over 30 years and have enjoyed every second with you.You were the backbone of your family,the word Judy meant family,you were all about family. I loved taking you and the old man to Atlantic City,it was a joy to see you on the slots. You treated me like I was one of your kids from day one and I love you like your my second mother. And I have to say this you make the best cole slaw in the world.I talk like your still here with me because in my heart your right here with me . I promise to you is to take care of your beautiful daughter Linda and our family forever,and we will do all we can to keep family together,because I know that's what your life was about. Now I will say good-bye and see you latter just like always.Your pain has ended fly away beautiful angel.

love you

your friend Bill

Fran Mahaffey

June 21, 2005

My deepest sympathy to the entire Barnes family. It sould be a comfort to know that she is now in peace and no longer in pain. I now pray for God's peace and comfort for the family.

Carrie Moore

June 21, 2005

Nanny, it has been a rough year for you, but it ended just the way you wanted it to...with your family all around you. We were so blessed to have a grandmother like you. No matter what craziness was happening in our lives, you were always the voice of reason trying to keep everyone together. You will always be in our hearts. Now, go enjoy a Pina Colada with mom! I love you.

Carrie Elizabeth, aka Bootsie

Carol Turner

June 21, 2005

I wish to express my heartfelt sympathy. May God Comfort and Bless the family.

You are in my prayers.

Carol Turner

Laurie Barnes

June 21, 2005

Judy,

Your love flows through all of us and even though you are not with us in body your spirit will remain with us forever.

Love, Laurie

Celie Griffith

June 21, 2005

I am so sorry for your loss. You have my deepest sympathy.

Ashley Barnes

June 21, 2005

Dear Nanny,

I will miss you very much.

Love always,

Ashley

Shelby Barnes

June 21, 2005

Nanny,

I will miss you so much! I know your in a happier place. Keep watching over us because that's what you do best.

Love,

Shelby

Jack Barnes

June 21, 2005

Mom,

Thank you for everything you did for me throughout my life. Only through your guidance and love stands the man you hoped I would be and I truly thank you for that.

In those final moments of your glorious life when you closed your eyes for the last time, I knew you had accomplished your mission on earth and were no longer my mother on earth, but God's child in heaven.

Love forever

Jack

andy gibbs

June 21, 2005

Dear Judles,

Hey nanny, Hope your doing well up there. Of coarse I know your missing me but anyway, I know that now you are in no pain. The only hard thing is the fact that your not there when I come to see you, the way you poked your head around the kitchen wall and, to hear those special words "Hello my Andy." Even though your not here you and your memories will always be in my heart till the day we meet again where we can all together look back at the times we had. So for now my beautiful Judles I'll just say see yah, and I love you and the wonderful devoted woman that you were and always will be.

sincerely with the most love

your Andy!!!

Karen Strykul (daughter)

June 21, 2005

To my loving sisters and brothers:

Let us rejoice in knowing that Mom will always be with us, around us and in us forever. For each of us is a result of her gracious everlasting beauty. My wish is that we continue to learn from her teachings and stick together. Family is family. Family comes first.

Love Always,

Your Little Sister

Valerie Ramirez

June 21, 2005

Forever in my heart....my Nanny. I love you so much Nanny, but can rest now knowing you are no longer in pain. I am not going to say I can't wait to see you again because I know you would not want me to wish my life away. But, I also know and am comforted by the fact that I will definately see you again one day. Until then.......

With all my love.

Linda Gibbs

June 21, 2005

Dear Mom,

I will not say "good-bye" for I know I will see you again. You will live in my heart each and every day. You taught me that life is precious and it is a gift from God, as you were to me. I will be forever grateful that I was blessed with a mother like you who loved me unconditionally and taught me just how precious and beautiful life truly is. Your loving daughter, Linda Jo.

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