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Ulysses Connor Obituary
CONNOR Dr. Ulysses John Connor, Jr. Ph.D., J.D., 59 Esteemed Professor, SU Graduate succumbs in DC Transitioned from his earthly existence on April 15, 2008 with his domestic partner of 27 years, Cossimo Crimi by his side. While his loved ones grieve his passing, they celebrate his life and many exemplary achievements. Dr. Connor was born and raised in New Orleans, Louisiana. After completing high school, he received a Master of Arts degree in Political Science from Adelphi University. While working as a Resident Advisor and Graduate assistant to the Dean of the College of Arts and Sciences at Syracuse University, he continued his academic quest at SU College of law, earning a Doctor of Jurisprudence in 1974. Dr. Connor began his life's passion of advocating for the recruitment and retention of students of color in institutions of higher learning. He accepted career opportunities offered by the Office of Student Affairs as Coordinator of Organizations and Programs (1974), and later, as the Director of Student Activities (1975) while still with Syracuse University. He eventually ran as a candidate for the City Council of Syracuse (1979), garnering a close margin of voter support. Dr. Connor then accepted a position offered to him by the University of Maryland College Park (1982). He moved to Washington DC where he and Coss continued to build their life together. While at the University of Maryland, he held several positions which included: Assistant to the vice-chancellor in the Office of Student Affairs (1982); Director of Special Student Support Services (1985); and Assistant to the Dean in the Division of Undergraduate Studies. Dr. Connor remained at The University of Maryland until 1993 when he began his 15-year tenure at Kutztown University in Pennsylvania directing his newly awarded Special Student Support Services Program and as Assistant Professor in the Department of Advisement. He remained relentlessly committed to the support of his students and his programs at Kutztown until his untimely and unexpected death. While at Kutztown, he wore many hats which included: Assistant Professor in the College of Education; Director of Educational Outreach and Retention Programs; Assistant to the Dean for Undergraduate Studies; and pre-law academic advisor to many students. Besides his work at Kutztown, he also held the position of Adjunct Faculty with the Penn State University TRiO Training Institute. His first TRiO Federal Grant program for low income and first generation college students at Kutztown University continued to be extremely successful under his direction, earning the 1999 Noel-Levitz Retention Excellence Award. That same year, Dr. Connor received a grant to begin the Upward Bound Program serving high school students. In 2000, he was awarded a TRiO Dissemination Partnership Grant to aid in the establishment of a Student Support Services Program at Lehigh Carbon Community College. A third TRiO grant was awarded in 2003 to Kutztown University‘s Upward Bound Math/Science Program which also serves high school students. In the same year, Dr. Connor provided new leadership and direction in the reformation of the Kutztown Academic Alliance, a partnership with the Allentown School District. The Academic Alliance serves Allentown School District high school students. In 2006, Dr. Connor received a fourth TRiO grant for Educational Talent Search, a program serving 600 middle and high school students in the Allentown School District. During his 15-year tenure, Dr. Connor brought more than $10,000,000 in grant-funded programs to Kutztown University to serve an underrepresented population of students in higher education. Additional programs in development included a Reading Academic Alliance and an EBEST Program for high school foster care students in conjunction with the Children‘s Home of Reading. Dr. Ulysses took leave from his Kutztown University academic obligations during the fall semester of 2007. He succumbed to liver cancer at Sibley Memorial Hospital in Washington, DC with his beloved life-partner, at his side. In addition to his domestic partner Cossimo Crimi of DC; Dr. Connor is survived by his parents, Ulysses J. Connor, Sr. and Estelle Connor of Florida; siblings, Cheryl (Herbert, Jr.) Wing, Barry (Lynette) Connor, Kerwin (Shamon) Connor and Gerard (Lisa) Connor; the entire Crimi family, Angeline Crimi of Syracuse, Joseph Crimi of Kansas, Victoria Mandarino and Patricia (Tony) Licamele, both of New York; in addition to several nieces and nephews. Dr. Connor was highly respected for his amazing integrity by all that knew him. This loving, wise, honest, and understanding gentleman is missed and loved by all those who touched his life as he unforgettably touched theirs. Dr. Connor was interred in Mt. Olivet Cemetery in New Orleans, LA. April 26, 2008 Donations may be made in his name to The American Cancer Society. Online condolences can be made to: www.washingtonpost.com
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Patricia Licamele
August 27, 2025
You are so missed. Over 17 years and memories flooded. Many missed out on the joy of the real you, very sad. Give my brother a big hug for me. With much
John Crawford
January 1, 2013
When I was 19 and Ulysses was 21, Ulysses and I were assigned to be room mates with one other cadet in US Air Force Officer ROTC summer camp training at Loring AFB up in the northern tip of Maine. It was the summer of 1971.
Ulysses had just gotten his bachelors degree and I was just starting my Junior year of undergrad school at Michigan State. Ulysses was going in to law school, studying at Syracuse and the Air Force was going to help each of us with our college expenses. (I remember making him have a hard time explaining to me why the school mascot was an Orange! To make his point, I also remember him getting our 3rd room mate, Mike Fisher, to grab my legs from below as I was starting to get down from my top bunk so Ulysses could beat the snot out of helpless me with two pillows for about two minutes, too. We laughed for 15 minutes after that.)
After spending two months living with him and Fisher in a tiny room - along with 105 other college students in the whole boot camp program - I really looked up to Ulysses and appreciated his always-calm demeanor, his leadership and his awesome sense of humor. I was also impressed by how fast he learned how to lead our "Bravo Flight" of 25 ROTC cadets in endless marching drills during those first 2 weeks on base, something we all had to master.
When we left Loring on September 1, the three of us especially had promised to stay in touch - but none of us did. Life happened.
I have thought about those guys quite often, and especially Ulysses and Mike, and have wondered what they were doing and if they were ever able to live their dream. I wound up not pursuing a career in the Air Force as a pilot and I have wondered what those guys ever did.
TODAY for the first time in 41.5 years, because of the wonders of technology, I decided to start tracking them down, beginning with Ulysses.
I was surprised and kind of excited that my Google search of Ulysses' name (I remembered his full name and that we were both "Jr.s") brought his photo right up on the first pass! It was very sadly linked, however, to this Obituary. I have spent the last couple hours studying it. This has been a surreal experience.
I am glad to learn that Dr. Connors lived the awesome life that he did - I actually had no doubt that he would be a great success at whatever he pursued. I can tell by all of your entries in this Guest Book that he was very, very successful in all the important parts of his life!
I don't know any of you and I did not not stay in touch with Ulysses like we had promised each other we would, but my sympathies are extended to all of you - and especially to Cosimo. I feel blessed that I knew him - if even only for two short months holed up in a remote Air Force Base one summer in our college days, four days of survival training and all.
For those of you who got to know him for a bigger part of his life, you have been truly blessed. He was really an exceptional guy!
Christopher Baselice
October 10, 2012
I knew Dr. Connor when I attended Kutztown university from 1997-2001. He was the reason I graduated. I was shocked to hear the news of his passing. If it wasn't for Dr. Connor I wouldn't be where I am today. I think back to all our talks and how he guided me to the right major and the right classes to take. He was a true friend to me and I will miss him.
Taken by me (Cosimo) Disney California August 2002
Cosimo Crimi
December 31, 2011
Happy New Years 2012 ULYSSES!!!!! To the "bestest" thing (Dr. Ulysses J. Connor, Jr. My domestic partner for 27 EXTRAORDINARY, JOYFUL, LOVE-FILLED years) that The Infinite Invisible blessed my lifes experience with in addition to my wonderful moms, pops, siblings and friends. I could never express my gratitude sufficiently for my remarkable life and those who "I AM" graces to honor me with! This photo literally took several years and dozens of trips to Ulysses's favorite place on earth (Disney) before he would done Micky's ears and allow me to click this pic of him. Taken August 2002 Disney in Cali. (I have water-marked it intentionally). Love all-around & peace, be sill! — at Taken by me (Cosimo) Disney California August 2002.
I'll love you all-ways Ulysses, as you love(d) me! Love, Cosimo
coss crimi
December 25, 2011
Merry Christmas Love of my life!
Love U. All-ways, Cosimo
Fran DeLuca
December 13, 2011
Another year has passed and the loss of you is apparent as it has been since you departed. I looked at the pictures Coss posted remembering when I took the picture of you both with the balloons and smiled! Yes life has gone on but it will never quite be as rich as when you were in it! Miss you, love Fran!
Fran DeLuca
December 13, 2011
Another year has passed and the loss of you is apparent as it has been since you departed. I looked at the pictures Coss posted remembering when I took the picture of you both with the balloons and smiled! Yes life has gone on but it will never quite be as rich as when you were in it! Miss you, love Fran!
December 13, 2011
My thoughts and best wishes are with you today Cos. David and I miss you. XOXO
Ulysses and I (Coss) celebrating one of our many Birthdays together over our 27 years as domestis partners. Mine being Dec. 12, His being Dec. 13,
Cossimo Crimi
December 13, 2011
Happy Birthday Ulysses. You remain the one and only love and light of my life. In every breath I take I thank The Infinite Invisible for the grace and blessing for the joing of our 2 lives as 1 and the most WONDEFUL, JOYOUS LAUGH-FILLED 27 years of my life with you anyone could ever be blessed with, we all-ways could make eachother laugh through thick and thin and I hear you now still whispering your love, light, inspiration and wisdom in my ear each moment...and one of the most sacared blessings of GRACE of all my Ulysses, you never had a single doubt nor did I that WE ADORED one another...NEVER A SINGLE DOUBT. Thank you God, thank you Ulysses ALL-WAYS, your Cosimo ;-]
April 21, 2011
Ulysses, Today marks our 30th anniversary...I thank U. and God for the 27 years of love, laughs, commitment, and security that we shared in this world...and I feel you with me still...all-ways U. are the love and light of my life. Until we meet again in spirit...all my love your Cosimo
Cosimo Crimi
April 15, 2011
Ulysses, Today marks the third anniversary of your physical transition and as all-ways my heart forever belongs to U.. Love Cosimo
Pat Licamele
December 18, 2010
God saw you getting tired and a cure was not to be, so he put his arms around U and whispered come with me. With tearful eyes we watched and saw U slowly pass away. Although we love U dearly we could not make you stay. A golden heart stopped beating, hardworking hands at rest. God broke our hearts to prove to us HE only takes the best. With thoughts of you still, at Christmas.
Coss Crimi
December 13, 2010
Happy Birthday Ulysses...I miss our wonderful shared birthday celebrations with my birthday being yesterday...you know you remain all-ways the love and light of my life...I feel you with me with every breath...I love and adore you still...Love your Cosimo
Coss Crimi
November 25, 2010
Ulysses,
Today (one of our many special days we spent in celebration of our 27 years of life together) as every day of my life I am so thankful and grateful to God and to you for your being a part of every breath I ever take and in every single thought of mine every second of every day...I know you are with me still and sustain me now in every moment in spirit as you have every second of our lives together on this earthly plane as we still embrace each other all-ways! I adore you and forever will. You remain the love and light of my life and soul. I will attempt to live my life to the fullest for us both here in "this world", yet my lonely heart looks forward to the day God calls me home "not of this world" so our spirits can be one in the sphere of heaven as they remain now every moment on earth! I love you... you remain "my stuff"!
Love your Cosimo
Coss Crimi
September 8, 2010
Hello,
If anyone is interested in seeing more candid photos of Ulysses go to face book and type in my name...you'll enjoy the many photos over our 27 years together.
Coss
Karl Waldek KU-2002
June 8, 2010
To the family and friends of Dr. Connor
I regret to here of Dr. Connors passing and for your loss. And I'm sorry to have learned of this so late. I don't know if you'll even receive this but it's worth a shot to share... I am a grad of Kutztown Univ. 2002. I met Dr. Connor at my orientation before school even started in 1998. Simply put, during the freshman classes first briefing I realized I was in the wrong sub group for majors and Dr. Connor advised me to see him a month later during the first week of classes. I did. Best thing I've ever followed through on during my short life. Dr. Connor fixed the problem with my major and put me back to where I was supposed to be, in terms of my projected major (undeclared, I had no idea what I wanted to do.) Dr. Connor told me that he would be my advisor at KU for my duration. And he was. Not being a book smart kid at the time he steered me in the right direction. I would consult with him a few times each semester. He told me which professors to take and not, he told which classes to take and not, and he even made it possible for me to select and register for classes before those who had more seniority than I which was incredible! Now mind you, I not from a wealthy family and I'm what I would consider a blue collar guy so a college education for me was like a pot of gold and to graduate in 4 years was a must. With the help of Dr. Connor's assistance I did make in 4 years. I couldn't of done it without his help, period point blank. Now because of him and his help I have a successful career and subsequently a beautiful wife and family. I wish I could of told this all to Dr. Connor in person. He was a great advisor and simply put a Good Man. --I hope you receive this and add it to your memory and good spirits of Dr. Connor. I will never forget him and always appreciate him.
With thankfulness and regret,
Karl
February 28, 2010
So very sorry to hear just now about Ulysses' passing. He was my Resident Adviser at Flint Hall at Syracuse University in 1970-72. I have very fond memories of him. My sorrow is softened somewhat by the fact that he had a long loving relationship with you Cosimo. Sorry for your loss. He was a great guy and the world will miss him.
Eric Halata SU-1974
Summit, NJ
Coss Crimi
January 1, 2010
Ulysses, Happy New Year 2010 to the love of my life... I love you all-ways, (ET) Love, Cosimo
Also, here is further information on making donations to The Dr. Ulysses John Connor, Jr. Memorial Scolarship fund at Holy Family University In Philadelphia, PA:,(His memory will live on forever for the work he devoted his life to!)
All checks and contributions should be made out to Holy Family University clearly indicating that the money is for the Ulysses Connor Jr., Scholarship Fund". All donations should be address to: Dr. Ulysses J. Connor Jr. Scholarship Fund, Development Office, Holy Family University, 9701 Frankford Avenue, Philadelphia, PA 19114-2094
Coss Crimi
December 25, 2009
Merry Christmas Ulysses my love (our 29th)...knowing you are with me all-ways... I do love you for eternity!
Love, Cosimo
Coss Crimi
December 13, 2009
Happy 61st Birthday Ulysses my love. I miss our joint celebrations...mine on the 12th and yours on the 13th. I know that you are still with and within me guiding and healing me in every way now in your spiritual capacity as you had in your physical place in this world. I do and will all-ways love you more than I could every express as you well know/knew. Love your Cosimo...as you (like my mom) used to always call me ;-]
Coss Crimi
November 26, 2009
Ulysses, Another Thanksgiving without your physical presence besides me (our 29th). I'm thankful that the Infinite Invisible within assures me as do you of your eternal presence within me and by my side all-ways!
I love you. Coss
Jason Dewild
November 17, 2009
Dear Coss and family, I was shocked recently hearing the passing of Ulysses. I know you both were like the ying and yang and kept ech other on track. If you need anything Coss please let me know. You help(ed) me so often and so much over the years. PEACE to you and your family.
Love, Jason
Coss Crimi
November 13, 2009
Wonderful news! Thanks to our very good friend and Ulysses co-worker George Colton, Holy Family University of Philadelphia, PA has announced The
Dr.Ulysses J. Connor, Jr. Memorial Award
Dr. Ulysses J. Connor, Jr. Memorial Award is given to students who face serious and persistent environmental and other barriers that interfere with their success in higher education. These awards fulfill Holy Family’s University’s commitment to increase enrollment of a more diverse population to our university community, one that reflects the increasing multi-centralism that is shaping our nation and its commitment to the under-prepared student. These awards recognize the potential for success and are designed to encourage and assist a student to be successful in the higher education setting. The award is named in honor of Ulysses J. Connor, Jr., whose nearly 35 years of service in higher education was always committed to the under-prepared and the under-presented student. To donate to this scholarship please contact HOLY FAMILY UNIVERSITY in Philadelphia Pennsylvania. We all thank you!
karen adams anderson
June 8, 2009
I was shocked to learn of the death of Ulysses. I met him while attending Syracuse University College of Law.We never know what God has in store for us.
Pat Licamele
April 15, 2009
It is a year today that you were called home to glory. It has been a long lonely year for all who knew and loved you. I am so sad that you are not with us Ulysses. Will you ever know how much you mean't to so many? How your presence set us all aglow. How your departure left a hole that can never be filled. You sit with the master carpenter and thats a comfort. Thank you my friend and brother for enriching my life. I will carry the memory of you all the days of my life. I love you.
cosimo crimi
April 15, 2009
Ulysses,
On this the first anniversary of your transition from flesh to sprit (4/15/08), I would like to celebrate our lives together with a very brief photo tribute to our 27 remarkable years...next week will be our 28th.
Ulysses, I want to thank you again as all-ways for your undying love, and devotion to our life long partnership. I was blessed with you sharing your love, smiles, childish and fun loving nature to the fullest with me.
You were both gallant, and gravitas...and you were a wonderful, appreciated addition to my family. and thank you so for allowing your love, integrity, and free fun loving spirit and freedom to embrace my family as easily as you have as they have all embraced you as well over the years.
This year has been a second to second torture without your physical presence, but I do without a doubt clearly feel your presence within me and by my side leading me step by step, as we are truly soul mates and because of this unique fact you have helped me to transmute most of my pain, agony, loss. and loneliness into tremendous gratitude to you and God for the sacred 27 years of love and fun...and that turns the tears to smiles and laughs.
Ulysses we did have a blast! I will all-ways miss your presence, as I know will your students and colleagues who looked to you for guidance, but as I said. I feel you within me guiding me.
I know you will be there to greet me went God calls when my mission here in the flesh is complete and I can join you. I hear and feel you with every breath and beat of my heart. I love U. more then I can ever express!
all my love as all-ways.
Love Cosimo ET ;-]
Ulysses, Vicky, Jonathan, Coss & Jeremy Kansas zoo
April 15, 2009
Ulysses, coss and mom
April 15, 2009
Ulysses and cousin phyllis at Alan Grad!
April 15, 2009
Ulysses excited
April 15, 2009
Mom and Ulysses
April 15, 2009
Ulysses and Joey relaxing
April 15, 2009
Thank you God!
April 15, 2009
Ulysses playing with sparklers on visit to Pat and Tony's in Kansas
April 15, 2009
SOUL MATES
April 15, 2009
More Coss and Ulysses in San Francisco
April 15, 2009
Ulysses and Coss at Alan's High school Grad!
April 15, 2009
Ulysses and Coss union square SanFrancisco
April 15, 2009
Coss and Ulysses on one of their dozen of trips to Disney theme parks over the years!
April 15, 2009
A tribute from the Trio program to Ulysses
April 15, 2009
Ulysses and his some of his devoted students...the devotion was mutual
April 15, 2009
Alan (coss' nephew) holding Ulysses 18 years later!
April 15, 2009
Ulysses Holding Alan at 2 yo in 1981
April 15, 2009
Vicky, Jonathan,Mom, Coss Pat Ulysses late 80's
April 15, 2009
whats so funny? Mom and U. adored each other.
April 15, 2009
What a smile on both mom and Ulysses!
April 15, 2009
Ulysses 1994
April 15, 2009
Ang and Ulysses in DC and dancing up a storm still
April 15, 2009
ang and Ulysses enjoying a snack
April 15, 2009
Ulyses and coss mom Ang. celebrating
April 15, 2009
Ulysses relaxing at Coss's sister Vicky's late 80's
April 15, 2009
Coss' nephew Joey. Coss and Ulysses early 90's
April 15, 2009
Coss' bro Joe, brother n law tony, sisier patty and Ulysses ant nephew Joey wedding
April 15, 2009
Ulysses burning up the dance floor at Joey's wedding 1994
April 15, 2009
Jeremy (Coss' nephew) Alan's (nephew) graduation
April 15, 2009
Ulysses relaxing
April 15, 2009
Ulysses and cousins at sister pats wedding. Coss Ulysses Donna Val in Vagas
April 15, 2009
Ulysses and Coss in Maui
April 15, 2009
Coss, Joey (Coss' Nephew) with Ulysses as groomsmen at Joeys wedding early 90's
April 15, 2009
Ulysses and Coss & Ang (Coss mom and Ulysses!
April 15, 2009
Ulysses in San Francisco
April 15, 2009
Coss and Ulysses
April 15, 2009
Hazel Carrera
April 13, 2009
Dear Dr. Connor,
It's been a year...I think about you always and miss you very much. I wish you were still with us. You meant so much to me. You inspired me. You taught me how to be strong professionally and personally. You led by example. I admired you so much and still do. Things are falling apart at KU...no one can match that passion and love you had for our students (our babies). You did so much for all of us...the students and the staff. I love you and I know you are taking care of your loved ones from heaven. With love always, Hazel
Cosimo Crimi
January 1, 2009
HAPPY NEW YEARS ULYSSES!
Ulysses, My love and blessings to you on this the beginning of the New Year. I have been using your guest book to mark the beginning of hollow events of the first year of my life beginning without us physically at each others side at every turn...to speak to you I heal...I 'm healing in baby steps... reassessing, readjusting, rethinking, (looking within) to reaffirm the spiritual faith that was and IS at the core of our relationship and holds us together still.
I thank you so much Ulysses and I have tremendous gratitude towards God's gift of not only life ITSELF... but our life together...now and eternity. Although, no longer is your physical presence behind me holding me up in any and all occasions as I have been accustomed to for 27 years. I now know your spirit complete with all the qualities that were your gifts in the flesh, your integrity... the man...remain with me...Incorporeal... within my soul...yet now you go before me as the invisible presence as... GOD to make the crooked place straight. I AM still within and know U.are still with me all-ways! I LOVE U. Love, Cosimo
Cosimo Crimi
December 25, 2008
Merry Christmas Ulysses with all my lasting love and devotion all-ways. Cosimo
Cosimo Crimi
December 13, 2008
TO ULYSSES FROM COSIMO ON THE ANNIVERSARY OF HIS 60 TH BIRTHDAY 12/13 /1948!
Ulysses, for almost 3 decades you and I have celebrated our birthdays together being just a day apart. I have been forced to realize that since your transition that life is a gift. You and I Ulysses were undoubtedly blessed with 27 years of love, laughs, security, and companionship unparalleled in many relationships. I honor our partnership daily with every breath I take and will continue to do so until you greet me when God calls. I again want to thank you Ulysses for a remarkable 27 years and to God for gifting us with eachother for so long. Happy 60 th birthday to the love of my life. Ulysses our love IS ALL-WAYS!
Love, Cosimo
Vickie Crimi/Mandarino
December 12, 2008
It has been approx 8 months since the passing of Ulysses Connor. Tomorrow (Dec. 13th) will be his 60th birthday. HAPPY BIRTHDAY Professor Connor -We Love and miss you.Coss,Angie,Joey,Vickie,John,Pat,Tony, Alan and Jonathan
Coss Crimi
November 27, 2008
HAPPY THANKSGIVING ULYSSES! This would have been our 28th together celebrating in our own special way through out the years. From now until December 12 and 13, my birthday and yours was uniquely ours and will remain so forever. Thank you for a truly remarkable life as partners. I love you ever second and will all-ways love you Ulysses, Love Cosimo
Susie Q Kiggins
October 31, 2008
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you, Ulysses. Could there ever be enough thank you's to express the depth of my gratitude to you? We barely knew each other on this plane, yet I feel I knew you still; your commanding presence, your integrity, your character, your ethics, your inner strength, your ideals, your million-watt smile you'd flash when you were at ease...
I know of the glowing accolades heaped on your many, clearly well-deserved professional accomplishments. They are exemplary by any standards. You tirelessly fought the good fight to help your students realize their full potential, unhindered by society, prejudice and ignorant stereotypes. Your zeal and tenacity were unparalleled as you sought to free all who needed your help and guidance. That must be why you threw yourself so ferociously into your cause to help others.
Then you met the man who would change your life completely, your polar opposite. Your soul was drawn to this free spirit who embraced life and chose to live it freely and openly, welcoming all his path had to offer, thirsting for knowledge, searching for direction on his mission to live life to its fullest - yes, the "Bohemian" to your "Suit" - your perfect complement - my best friend Coss. You gave him focus and stability and a tower of strength to lean on when he grew tired from his quest. He gave you acceptance, unconditional love and the freedom to express who you truly were while encouraging your inner child to emerge. You nurtured and encouraged each other to become the incredible men you grew to be.
There was no time in the many, many years I've known him that you were not a constant presence in his life. You gave him the direction he needed; you direct him even now, helping him to fulfill the goal he was destined for. His gift to impart peace brings solace to those who seek it. Your tutelage throughout the 27 years you lived together taught him how to share his light and to bring comfort to those who ask.
So again, I thank you for the man who walked among us, profoundly touching all he encountered along his way. You left your footprints for the lost to follow. Your personal strength, integrity and compassion well mark the way. Your ability to instill your values in others was a great gift you shared freely and unselfishly with your students, friends and family...especially with my friend Coss. He is best friend to many, but in his heart, dear Ulysses, you are the best friend he's ever had - still. His once-in-a-lifetime-forever love, his partner in life, his other half. There will be no other to take your place in his heart and he will be yours to hold in his heart until you join each other again on the other side.
We'll sorely miss your physical presence each day we're on this earth as you continue to touch us from beyond. Thank you, dear Ulysses. We love you. Rest well.
Aishah Jones
October 14, 2008
Dear Coss,
I am deeply sorry for your loss of Ulysses. I have only had the pleasure of meeting you recently. However, I am truly saddened that I never had the pleasure of meeting Ulysses.
Ulysses and Coss celebrating our Birthdays!
Coss Crimi
October 1, 2008
To Ulysses from Cosimo.
Ulysses, for 27 years you have been the love and light of my life. I miss every second of your physical presence by my side, yet I know you remain with me still... all-ways...guiding, advising, and protecting me. You were there for me all-ways, every day... every second, no matter what... you never let me down. You had more inner strength and integrity then anyone I ever knew or could wish to know, and the degree of your love and integrity has never wavered over all our years together. You were a tower of strength not only to me, but for all who came to know you. Your devotion to our relationship, our families and friends, and your students... is a testament to the man you were and the man that I became.
We made each other the men we became...at times you saved me from myself in order to sustain our unity... which is a treasure to us both. The spiritual strength you gained through me you reciprocated time and time again, and your spirit continues to do so. The turbulent times only brought our hearts and souls closer as one and sealed the bond between us for eternity ...laughing and loving each other through all that came our way, because together as a team we never failed to land on our feet still laughing, loving, sharing and living our lives in the moment as to not miss a second of God's blessing. You taught me so much. How to be strong in the face of adversity, as you faced it every day of your life and you never complained, you only became stronger and more focused and determined to win the wars that were waged against you or those you loved and cared and tended for. Our hearts belong to each other.
You never cared about personal acknowledgment...your pride remained an invisible shield that upheld all your values and beliefs that you fought so valiantly for over the years. Our partnership, our family members, friends, your many students, and staff, have gained in so many, many ways through your arduous struggles to garner fairness, equality, and opportunity for all, and the fruits of your efforts have rippled beyond any measure of your own personal gain to a broader spectrum that indeed affects the lives of all...now and forever...for your life and work was for the betterment of all through the realization that each individual regardless of race, color, creed, sex or position in life can have a sweeping harmonious effect on the world as a whole as you have, and all of us, family and friends, your students are a testiment to your labor and will remain so as our lives flourish abundantly in the spirit of equity as the invisible yet recognizable fragrance of your soul established within us remains as a tribute not only to you Ulysses, but to the further nurturing of the truth in us all that you forever strived for.
It has taken me months to get the point where I could place an entry in this guest book. There are endless words of love and adoration I can express to you, but all the love I have for you I never kept secret from you or anyone else. As you would say; "You have to mark your territory ", and I did with you, and U. were mine to love and cherish and shall remain so all-ways. I love everything about you, and everything you ever did over all our years together only endeared you more and more to me. Your smiles, your gestures, your chuckles, your wise-cracks, your hearty laugh and childlike charm culminated to create the genuine heart that I was fortunate enough to be blessed with sharing. Our hearts became one. As a couple we were like the sun and the rain. We complemented each other, you smiled, I laughed... you inhaled, I exhaled...you the suit and me the bohemian, a work of God's art. I miss your breath. We became a couple in spirit and soul. We became one and will forever remain so Ulysses. There is so much I could offer to you here in words, but I have done that in life with you daily, with every moment through deed and emotion. The rest will remain personal and therefore sacred between and us and God.
Ulysses if I live an eternity I could never hope or dream to find a love as the one we share. You remain my guiding light even now. And I know you are..."The invisible presence that goes before me to make the crooked place straight", as in life so in spirit. Ulysses, I thank God and you for the gift and joy of trust and faith it took in sharing your life with me, my family and our friends, and I will continue to hold your heart on earth as you hold my hand in heaven. Our love remains All-ways!
With my devotion, Ulysses I love youendlessly. Love, Cosimo x0x0x0x0 Ulysses I had to had the hugs as I always have.
Angela Crimi
September 28, 2008
To Ulysses and my son Cosimo,
Thank you both. Ulysses your were like my very own son! The smile on your beautiful face trumpeted the beauty in your heart. I will remember your charm, wit, intelligence and discipline, and for taking such excellent care of my son all of these years, I love you. I know at times he can be a handful, but you both completed each other and everyone that knew you both sensed this! You told me also that you and Cosimo had made each other the men you were, and that in itself God’s light shines brightly! Most of all we will miss your love.
I remember all the wonderful holidays and family events that you were and will remains still a part of. Dinning with you on several, dozens of occasions and dancing with you on a few. You and Cosimo as grooms men at nephew Joey’s wedding, all the stories, the laughs and the smiles over the years will remain a part of all of those you touched with your presence. I thank you so very much Ulysses for sharing yourself with my family and showing your capacity to love and be loved by all, and especially with Cosimo.
Cosimo, I thank you too for sharing such a adoring and such a significant part of your life with your family and friends. The trust you both had. We are all blessed by the sharing that is gifted unto us, and knowing you both together was an a treat, a sharing of a special gift from God!. I thank you both for sharing each other as freely as you did.
Ulysses your appearance may have transcended this earth, as will us all, yet your spirit remains with all that ever shared your company. Until God’s greets and rejoins us all. Peace be with you, and your mother and family have my sincerest love and condolences.
Love, Angie Crimi
Tom Jennings
September 10, 2008
Dear Coss and family, Coss I'm so sorry to hear of the passing of Ulysses. I just heard recently. I can't imagine the grief and pain you and your family are going through. I know how close you and Ulysses were and how much Ulysses loved and adored you and was loved by your family and friends.
I know how reserved Ulysses was, but as time went on Ulysses loosened up and would talk more and more about his relationship with you and how you were the source of his spiritual growth and strength through the almost 30 years of your partnership.
I know this is a time of sorrow, but Coss feel blessed by the true love you both shared for so many years, more then many other couples can say, and find comfort in all the years of memories. So many fun ones as I recall he told me, you would got him to do things he usually would never think of doing like taking his picture in mouse ears at Disneyland comes to mind. He knew how much that pleased you. He loved you and adored you also!
I'm sure you don't need anyone to tell you that, and I know that as time passes the emptiness you now feel will be replaced with the blessings of God's wonders.
God bless you and your family.
If there is any thing I can ever do, please let me know.
Tom Jennings
Pat Licamele
August 31, 2008
First to my brother Coss, This weekend as you know is a sad time. Every year you and Ulysses would be spending it with us as you did so many times over the years. What can I say to you? How sorry I am that you lost the person who mean't the most to you in life. God has a plan for all of us. I know it is not easy to accept his way. I am so grateful that Ulysses wanted to see me when he was ill. I had a chance to talk to him. I told him something that Grampa told me years before. "God can do one of two things when its our time, he can heal the body or heal the soul" It was the first time in 27 years he put his hand up to his forhead and started to cry. You know how much I loved him. He was another brother to me. Thank you for sharing your years together with your family. When I had lost faith in God and was at the base of the mountain looking up broke and hungry, there you were with Ulysses at my home in Flordia to rescue me for that brief moment. He not wanting to leave me there alone showed what kind of person he was. My mind is flooded with nearly 30 years of memories. To many to mention. God has some plan for your life. I know you don't see it yet. But to watch two people you loved the most in life suffer the same fate takes compassion and strenght. You don't even realize you have it. Your life will never be the same but your memories of Ulysses and your 27years together will last FOREVER. If people could understand that by coming together family and friends sharing stories, loving each other, they would know who Ulysses really was and the loss would be easier to bear knowing that he loved, and was loved. Not only was he a professor, doctor, son, brother, friend, but a kind, funny, compassionate man with a kid like spirit that will go on in our hearts always. I love you my irish, (although we are Italian) twin. I will always be here for you.
Second, To the connor family especially his mom. Thank you. He was loved so much. And he will be missed by all who's life he touch. Life has changed for many but it goes on by loving caring and sharing with those that he love. My sincere sympathy to his family.
Rosanne King
August 28, 2008
Dear Coss and Family, So sorry for
your loss. Keep him in your heart forever.
Steve Tober
August 22, 2008
Ulysses and I were resident advisors together back in 1971-72, in Lawrinson dormitory at Syracuse University. We were also classmates in the Law School class of 1974. My wife and I were shocked to recently read of his untimely death (he had befriended my girlfriend Sue back then as well, now my wife of some 34+ years). When I returned to campus last May to give the law school commencement speech I located our composite graduation picture in the hall, and stood there fondly recalling many great moments with Ulysses as I studied his and all of the other frozen-in-time pictures. Little can I imagine that even then he had already left us at such an early age. Ulysses was an individual filled with life; his smile, his presence, and his grace defined him, and attracted others to him. Years had allowed us to slip away, and to move on to other responsibilities and careers, but memories will always be there. Our deepest sympathies go out to his family, and to those that he loved. He was a remarkable individual who touched the lives of many.
Tristan Colton
August 14, 2008
Ulysses was my dads' boss. I remember when I was a kid, I used to think that Ulysses was the coolest adult ever. I always used to enjoy seeing him on my dads' business trips. I remember the one time he was at New Orleans with me and my family. He showed me the coolest things there and that's something i'll always remember.
Chip DeLine
August 13, 2008
I was so sorry to hear about Ulysses's passing. My sympathies to his family and close friends. Ulysses hired me at SU in 1974. I reported to him as Associate Director of Student Activites until 1981 when we both left SU. Ulysses had more charisma than anyone I have ever met. That smile, his intelligence and just the way he conducted himself with pride and confidence. The students at SU loved him. While easy going and fun loving, he had extremely high standards - especially for those activites that impacted students' lives. I attended many conferences with Ulysses over the years. In New Orleans, he invited me to his parent's house for "real" southern cooking. His passing reminds me how fragile life is. I have so many fond memories of the seven year's I worked with him.
Sue
August 11, 2008
Ulysses,
I am so grateful for the memories in the time I have known you and Coss.
Your smiles, your laughter and your sense of humor, and your thoughtfullness, will never be forgotten. I will always remember the special gift that I received from you and Coss, that was truely a surprise! You've touched a lot of lives, and inspired many. You once told me never give up and to stand up for what I believe in. I will miss you. My heart goes out to Coss and his family and to Ulysses's family.
Amy Trumbauer
August 11, 2008
To the Crimi and Connor families:
The words expressed in this past Sunday's papers were long over due in this area. So far, I do not think a day has gone by that I do not mention or think of Dr. Connor. He is greatly missed. I don't know that any one person will ever know the countless lives that he impacted. I considered him my mentor over the past 6 or 7 years and I am grateful for the time that I was able to work with him. I thank all of you for your hospitality in New Orleans, allowing me to share in your grief as I dealt with my own. My prayers and thoughts continue to be with you all as each new day passes.
August 10, 2008
I hope Dr. Connor died knowing how much he helped so many young people. I attended Kutztown University, and he did so much to inspire me and help me through some of the toughest times in College. Thank you Dr. Connor.
Sue
August 10, 2008
Such a well-told life story for an amazing man. Thank you for sharing Dr. Connor's achievements with the readership, too! I did not know him, but I really wish I did! My sympathies go out to the extended Connor and Crimi families.
Heidi Schultz
August 10, 2008
One of the things I will miss most is his bright smile and chuckle as we traded anecdotes and shook our heads at the goofballs at the bar. He was one of my favorite people to share a drink with, even though mine was a soda (his was a Bud and cuervo).
He definitely was a true partner in the deepest sense. You supported each other through better or worse, and there were some really tough times. Plus, he drove your butt around town for over a decade ;).
We're all lucky that he was in our lives.
Love and Peace,
Heidi Schultz
malcom Roader
August 10, 2008
Remember
Remember me when I am gone away,
Gone far away into the silent land;
When you can no more hold me by the hand,
Nor I half turn to go yet turning stay.
Remember me when no more day by day
You tell me of our future that you plann'd:
Only remember me; you understand
It will be late to counsel then or pray.
Yet if you should forget me for a while
And afterwards remember, do not grieve:
For if the darkness and corruption leave
A vestige of the thoughts that once I had,
Better by far you should forget and smile
Than that you should remember and be sad.
By Christina Rossetti
The Poetry Foundation
Marsha Beilman & Family
July 10, 2008
Dear Coss & Connor Family:
It has taken us so long to come to terms with the departure of our best friend of many years. We love Ulysses (UnCal) more than words can say. Though all of our hearts are heavy from the loss of UnCal, we must firmly believe that we now have an angel to watch over us, as well as an advocate for us in heaven. There are no words that can be said to underscore the joy UnCal brought to our lives. Thanks Coss for sharing your best friend with so many, so unselfishly. God Bless us all in our mourning! Soar UnCal, you are free from all the burdens of life.
Pat licamele
June 18, 2008
I thought Ulysses's family and friends who may not have seen this wonderful tribute to him should have the chance to do so.
http://www.paeopp.org/Dr.%20Conner%20Memorial.htm
George and Cindy Colton
June 17, 2008
Memories of Ulysses J. Connor Jr.
By
George M. and Cindy Colton
We knew Ulysses Connor for approximately sixteen years. George and Ulysses both began working at Kutztown University in October of 1993. Ulysses was a very private man but over the course of sixteen years we got to know him very well. He was one of our very best friends.
When it came to the students Ulysses worked with… he clearly was not a business man. Budget had no meaning to him. All that mattered was that the students he worked with got the services they needed to be academically successful. This philosophy often put him at odds with Kutztown University administration. George once asked him why he continued to maintain this philosophy given all the hassles this caused him with university administration. He explained, “George, it’s because of my mother. I remember her going down to school each day advocating for what I needed as a student to be successful. It’s the lease I can do for my students.” One of Ulysses goals, which he never saw come to fruition, was to create a college/university scholarship in his mother’s name for the under-represented student.
Ulysses loved “the fight.” Sometimes we think he lived for correcting “injustices”. He was an advocator, system changer and doer. Whether it was advocating for the needs of “his students”, fighting an injustice on campus, going after the IRS (and he is the only person we know who won), or fighting his cancer. Clearly, Ulysses J. Connor, Jr. did not “go quietly into that good night.”
We were once in New Orleans with him at a conference. Both he and George were presenting. (Ulysses and George presented often and co-wrote many articles). We were all in the French Quarter one night with both our sons. Sitting on a bench was a rather large, rotund man with a white beard and long white hair. Ulysses looked at our two sons who were quite young at the time, pointed to this man and whispered, “Look, there’s Santa Clause”. Our sons’ eyes widened as they looked at this man and Ulysses continued, “Don’t you know this is where Santa comes to vacation in the summer.” Every time we visited the French Quarter that trip our sons we had to go see if Santa was still sitting on his bench. To this day we still joke about how Santa spends his summer vacation in New Orleans.
Ulysses loved life! He had a zest for life and tried to enjoy every minute of it. The best memories we have of him is spending time with him and Coss. Whether it was sitting by the pool having drinks, doing aerobic exercise in the pool, getting interior designing ideas from Ulysses, sitting by the ocean, going to dinner and mistakenly ordering a hundred dollar appetizer, celebrating my son’s twenty-first birthday at “LIPS” in NYC, or just hanging out… we loved being with him. He lightened our day, helped us get though the “good times” and the “bad times”. He was always there for us. He was more than a friend. As my youngest son (now eighteen) put it, “He was more than a friend, dad. I knew him since I was five years old [actually two years old]. He was family”.
We miss him. We wish he were still here with us and will never forget our “family member” and what he brought to our lives.
Alex Bicker
June 17, 2008
Dear Coss and Family, we were shocked and very sad to hear of Ulysses passing. we had been away for several months and were curious as to why we had no replies to any of our emails to either of you.
Coss, again...we are all over come with grief and sadness and can't imagine your pain and sorrow at this time ...as being friends of you both for several years, we know the close, loving and comitted partnership you shared with each-other for the 20 odd years together. Our family enjoyed ever moment we spent with you both from the day we met...I hope that you and your family find comfort in all the wonderful memories you all have shared, the wonderful gatherings and outtings, holidays and trips we enjoyed over the years. I will never forget the joy that it brought to me seeing the child like play that your devoted love towards each-other brought to us all...you both together made us all (my family as well as yours Im sure) laugh like the children we really all are at heart ...during those times we could simply forget out troubles and just share in constant fun and laughter. We will all miss the trips he so enjoyed to Disney with you by his side. If there is anything that we can ever do to ease your pain at this time please let us know. and I hope that you have no objections if I at some time post some of the photos that were have on our many social events (I hope you also post some of the hundreds of photo that you both shared with us)...Ulysses was a child at heart and we all knew Coss... it was you that allowed this to be brought out in him and flow freely with out any restraint....and we know the depth of his love and admiration he had for you. Your love for him was always evident. Please know we are always in our thoughts, hearts and prayers and we will all meet up again in time with U. and continue to laugh. Our love to you from us all of us. Alex amd Marie and family.
Eric Stuber
June 12, 2008
Dr. Connor was a great advisor, friend, and person. He was a very important individual in my life. He always offered me encouragement and support. I loved Dr. C, my family loved Dr. C, and we considered him an Uncle. I was closer to him than my own uncles. I will always remember Dr. Connor as a positive person with great character. I do miss him a great deal but I know he is fine. One day I will see him again.
Eric Stuber
jonathan palumbo
May 10, 2008
uncle u. i am so sorry i could not make it to d.c. when you were in the hospital. i have so many wonderful memories of you and uncle cos when you came to syracuse. all the times you came and stayed with aunt patty
and uncle tony. especially fair time. thank you for helping me through the tough times with you e/mails and phone calls. i will never forget your words of wisdom to me. i will never forget you and was very proud to call you uncle. love you lots
alan mandarino
May 8, 2008
uncle u......im not very good at words so all i can really say is that you will always be remember by me and always be in my heart
Mark Esposito
May 2, 2008
Dear Dr. Connor
I image this note is more for your family, to express what I am sure they already know. That is how special of a man you were. You were a great source of encouragement all throughout my college career and the years since. You had a way of seeing the good in people that others did not see at the time. The hidden potential in people. I know I am becoming the great man God called me to be today because of you. When very few people said I could do it, you never for one second doubted I would be even more than I ever dreamed. I have reflected many times on the talks we had on the phone and in your office at Kutztown and know how those words have helped mold who I am. I just hope some day I may touch at least half as many lives in my life time as you have in your short time here. I know you would be proud of the suit I wear today. God bless you Dr. Connor and I pray that God may comfort your family as they have lost a great man.
Joseph Crimi
May 1, 2008
Ulysses, Thank you for being a part of our family and sharing your love and friendship with all of us over the years. You will be missed more than you ever imagined.
Frances DeLuca
April 29, 2008
Ulysses My Dear Friend,
How blessed are we who have had the priviledge to have had "U" in our lives - touched by your wisdom; your keen understanding of people; your laughter and wonderful smile, your zest for life; your countless kindnesses but especially to have been so blessed to have been LOVED by such a wonderful man!!!
Thank-you for all of our sight seeing tours; for the numerous brunches; sharing the feasts you,Coss and I would shop for and then I would cook for my MEN and for the hours of conversation & laughter (whether in DC; PA or Syracuse) they were the best!!!!
Ulysses I am a better person thanks to you. Thank-you for loving me but especially thank-you for loving Coss (my best friend)!!! You both could finish each others sentences; you both played good cop bad cop well (you and Coss know what I mean); you both completed each other ... and a part of ME!! Life can never ever be the same for the VOID is so enormous!! I will take care of Coss as you know!!!! Coss, Patti, Vicki and I are forces to be reckoned with-you taught us well-we will help him when he needs us to.
Thank-you babe....these words cannot even touch the blanket of emotions that are running through me from love to loss. I am thankful for our last conversation, our tears, our laughter; our last hug and kiss.
As I close this I want to add how proud I am of all you accomplished you left LARGE shoes to fill and as those who love you read this know- NO ONE will ever fill them we can only live by your example. My Love Always- I will see you again my friend...Fran
Scott Blair
April 28, 2008
Dr. Connor, I and your family from Kutztown will miss you greatly. I am forever blessed for the time I was able to spend with you as your graduate assistant at Kutztown. I learned so much from you, for you were such a tremendous role model for me as a growing professional. Your laugh, smile, and caring attitude will always be with me. If it wasn't for you taking a chance in believing in me, I probably would not be where I am today. Thank you so much for everything.
Melissa Mason
April 28, 2008
To the family, thank you. I thank you from the bottom of my heart because each and everyone of you, in your own way helped shape Dr. Connor to be the mentor and guiding force in my academic career that he came to be. However positive or negative, however long or fleeting, your presence helped him in various ways and thus helped him to help me and again, I thank you.
Dr. Connor you were and still are someone who shapes whom I have yet to become. Thank you, Dr. Connor, I miss you more than you probably ever understood.
Christopher Bryant
April 28, 2008
Thank you Dr. Connor for helping me become a man. You counseled me when I needed it. You were my compass, giving me direction when I was lost and confused. You taught me how to confront things. How to be a man a principle and integrity. You helped me see the world as an educationed black man. Thank you for being there when I needed you. You will always be my mentor. I will pass along everything that I have learned.
Christopher A. Bryant
Reading, PA
Pat Licamele
April 26, 2008
To my brother in christ... Thank you for being exactly who you were and for sharing your adult life with me and my family. Your family CAN be proud of how you lived your short time on earth. Your laugh, your smile, your love for candie apples and M&M will be remembered all the days of my life. I love you Ulysses. See you at the east gate of heaven one day.
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