Richard Adams

Richard Adams

Richard Adams Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers on Dec. 23, 2012.
LOS ANGELES (AP) — Richard Adams, who used both the altar and the courtroom to help begin the push for gay marriage four decades before it reached the center of the national consciousness, has died, his attorney said Sunday.

After a brief illness, Adams died Dec. 17 at age 65 in the Hollywood home he shared with Tony Sullivan, his partner of 43 years, attorney Lavi Soloway told The Associated Press.

"Theirs was a pretty remarkable story," Soloway said in an email. "They were far ahead of their time when they took up the fight to have their legal Colorado marriage recognized by the federal government."

The two men met at a Los Angeles gay bar called "The Closet" in 1971.

In 1975, they heard about a rogue county clerk in Boulder, Colorado, named Clela Rorex, a pioneer in her own right, who decided she would give marriage licenses to gay couples after learning from the district attorney's office that nothing in Colorado law expressly forbade it.

Rorex's office became what The New York Times soon after called "a mini-Nevada for homosexual couples."

Among the first six couples to take advantage were Adams and Sullivan, who traveled to Colorado, had a ceremony at the First Unitarian Church of Denver and were granted a license from Rorex, before the state's attorney general ordered her to stop giving them to gay couples.

Their primary motivation in marrying was to get permanent U.S. residency status for Sullivan, an Australian, and they promptly put in an application with what was then called the Immigration and Naturalization Service.

They received a one-sentence denial from the INS that was stunning in its bluntness.

Adams' attempt to have that decision overturned was the first federal lawsuit seeking gay marriage recognition, according to the Advocate magazine and the Los Angeles Times, the first media outlets to report his death.

He took the INS to court in 1979, and over several years in court was met only with rejections.

But the couple became a hot topic, especially as Sullivan's deportation became likely in the mid-1980s, and they appeared on the "Today" show and "The Phil Donahue Show," giving some of the first national attention to gay marriage when it was considered an oddity even by future supporters.

Adams' application for Australian residency was also denied, so the couple spent a year in Europe before returning to the United States and leading a low-profile life in Los Angeles.

But they recently reemerged as their issue finally gained traction in courts and voting booths.

They're the subject of an upcoming documentary, "Limited Partnership." And just two days before Adams' death they were working with Soloway on a challenge to the federal Defense of Marriage Act, one of two laws the U.S. Supreme Court has agreed to review in its upcoming term.

ANDREW DALTON,Associated Press


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Nancy Tschida (Differt)

May 4, 2014

Thinking of you, Richard. One of my fond memories from eighth grade was going to the dance with you. You were so nice and fun-and if course the best limbo dancer there! I'm so sorry for the pain you and Tony had to endure because of ignorance and hatred. I know you have perfect joy now.

Rita Verrico

December 26, 2012

Tony - Aldo I have tried to get in touch with you. We were so sorry to hear of Richard's death. We know how much you will miss him. Please contact us. Rita & Aldo

December 26, 2012

God sees your suffering and will help you. Draw close to him and he will draw close to you. (James 4:8)

Jeff Meulemans and Ivan Hanson

December 25, 2012

Eternal rest grant unto him oh Lord
And let perpetual light shine upon him.
May he rest in peace. AMEN.

December 24, 2012

Thank you for Richard and Tony for all you have done. Isnt it sad that we have to fight so hard for LOVE. God Bless and Tony I am so sorry for your loss.

December 24, 2012

I am sorry for your loss. Take comfort in Jesus' words to Martha after Lazarus' death: Your brother will rise. John 11:23 S.Watson/Ohio

Ivy

December 24, 2012

Thank You for being a light for many. God Bless You and Your Family.

Marie M

December 24, 2012

May the God of comfort be with the family and friends during this time of distress.

Fr. Ramon Flores Jr.

December 24, 2012

May the ligth of God guide your path, the blood of Christ protect you,and the love of God sustain you! Peace,love and strength.

mike owens

December 24, 2012

So very sorry for your loss, i am sorry for the pain that our world of hate must have cause you and your partner, may you rest in peace.

Jay Ellis

December 24, 2012

Thank you for all you did against seemingly impossible obstacles. And thank you, Tony, for being there beside him. My partner and I bless you.

Joe Jordan

December 24, 2012

My sympathies go to your husband during this time of loss. You two made a difference.

G. Johnson

December 24, 2012

May the love of friends and family carry you through your grief.

Ed

December 24, 2012

My condolences to the Adams' for your loss. May you have comfort in prayer at this time of bereavement. Psalms 65:2

William Stevenson-Pizzolato

December 24, 2012

Thanks to you and your husband, my husband and I were wed on October 7, 2010 in New York. THANK YOU for your determination and bravery in the face of hostility and bigotry!

December 23, 2012

May God comfort the family 2 Corin 1:2-4.

December 23, 2012

Thank You for a life well- lived.

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