Essie Mae Washington-Williams

Essie Mae Washington-Williams

Essie Mae Washington-Williams Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers on Feb. 4, 2013.
COLUMBIA, S.C. (AP) — Essie Mae Washington-Williams, the mixed-race daughter of one-time segregationist Sen. Strom Thurmond who kept her parentage secret for more than 70 years to avoid damaging his political career, has died. She was 87.

Vann Dozier of Leevy's Funeral Home in Columbia said Washington-Williams died Sunday. A cause of death was not given.

Washington-Williams was the daughter of Thurmond and his family's black maid. The identity of her famous father was rumored for decades in political circles and the black community.

But not until after Thurmond's death in 2003 at age 100 did Washington-Williams come forward and say her father was the white man who ran for president on a segregationist platform and served in the U.S. Senate for more than 47 years.

"I am Essie Mae Washington-Williams, and at last I am completely free," Washington-Williams said at a news conference revealing her secret.

She was born in 1925 after Thurmond, then 22, had an affair with a 16-year-old black maid who worked in his family's Edgefield, S.C., home. She spent years as a school teacher in Los Angeles, keeping in touch with her famous father.

While Thurmond never publicly acknowledged his daughter, his family acknowledged her claim after she came forward. She later said Thurmond's widow, Nancy, was "a very wonderful person," and called Strom Thurmond Jr. "very caring, and interested in what's going on with me."

Paul Thurmond, a South Carolina state senator and son of Strom Thurmond, said in an email to The Associated Press, "I was sorry to hear of the passing of Ms. Washington-Williams. She was kind and gracious and I have the greatest respect for her, her life and her legacy."

Washington-Williams was raised by Mary and John Washington in Coatesville, Pa. When she was 13, Mary Washington's sister, Carrie Butler, told Essie Mae that she was her mother.

Washington-Williams met Thurmond for the first time a few years later in a law office in Thurmond's hometown of Edgefield.

"He never called my mother by her name. He didn't verbally acknowledge that I was his child," Washington-Williams wrote in her autobiography, "Dear Senator: A Memoir by the Daughter of Strom Thurmond."

"He didn't ask when I was leaving and didn't invite me to come back. It was like an audience with an important man, a job interview, but not a reunion with a father," she said in the book released January 2005.

It was the first of many visits between Washington-Williams and her father.

He supported her, paying for her to attend then-South Carolina State College at the same time Thurmond was governor. He also helped her later after she was widowed in the 1960s.

"It's not that Strom Thurmond ever swore me to secrecy. He never swore me to anything," she wrote. "He trusted me, and I respected him, and we loved each other in our deeply repressed ways, and that was our social contract."

Washington-Williams watched from afar as Thurmond ran for president as a segregationist for the Dixiecrat Party in 1948, saying "all the laws of Washington and all the bayonets of the army cannot force the Negro race into our theaters, our swimming pools, our schools, our churches, our homes."

Washington-Williams recalled once asking her father about race.

Thurmond defended his beliefs as part of the "culture and custom of the South," she wrote.

"I certainly never did like the idea that he was a segregationist, but there was nothing I could do about it," Washington-Williams said in 2003. "That was his life."

Thurmond later softened his political stance and renounced racism. But he never publicly acknowledged his oldest daughter or the active role he played in her life. Thurmond and his first wife, Jean, were married in 1947; she died in 1960. They had no children. He had four children with his second wife, the former Nancy Moore, whom he married in 1968.

Washington-Williams was left unsettled by her father's death. At her daughter's encouragement she decided to make her story public.

"In a way, my life began at 78, at least my life as who I really was," Washington-Williams wrote. "I may have called it 'closure,' but it was much more like an opening, a very grand opening."

A statue of Thurmond on the Statehouse lawn was originally cast saying he had four children. Thurmond's family agreed to have Washington-Williams' name added.

MEG KINNARD
Associated Press


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Juanita Ali-Smith

July 9, 2025

Don't have any memories read about this awesome lady was born in Hepizah Georgia birth name Juanita Thurmond She was a relative

Rhonda Arnold

February 27, 2017

My heart and prayers are with the family.
Your father, Strom Thurmond was a great
educator and leader.
I contacted him over twenty years ago asking
him to write a letter of encouragement to my
Elementary Math class. He wrote a letter, included
A photo and also took the time to contact me
At school. I admire the love and devotion you
Had for your father.
God Bless

Paula Golden

June 25, 2015

A true solider!! You are a example to all how to live as a child of God. It is amazing to find out history in different ways,,you got your crown.

Angela Wallace

April 12, 2015

Rip, thank you for the talk we had. I will also treasured our picture we took together. My dear lady

January 30, 2014

In Loving Memory of Mother Dear
God called you home - 2/3/2013

In our hearts your are loved forever
You are missed in every way
Your life was a blessing to all
Your memory is a treasure
You are loved beyond words
and missed beyond measure
Love always
Your daughter Wanda

Khrystal Suggs

January 20, 2014

I pray Essie Mae is dancing in Heaven full of smiles & happiness! I didn't know Essie Mae though I have upmost respect for a sweet beautiful wonderful woman as I know she was & do what she did.

M. TERRY

March 25, 2013

SUCH A GRAND LADY TO KEEP A SECRET THAT MANY YEARS. COURAGE AND DEVOTION THIS FAITHFUL SERVANT SHOWED.RIP DEAR LADY.MY PRAYERS GO OUT TO THE FAMILY OF DR ESSIE MAE WASHINGTON WILLIAMS.

March 13, 2013

"A Life well lived, a job by a faithful servant, well done - Rest in Peace, I did not know Mrs. Williams personally, I read her story and saw it on the news, I bought her book and read it - she was a beautiful person - on the inside and outside. Hazel Chisholm, Washington, DC

Cindie Watkins

February 15, 2013

Pure courage, strength, and class.

Rest in peace, Madame.

BRUCE A NORRIS

February 12, 2013

PLEASE ACCEPT MY DEEPEST SYMPATHY ON THE LOSS OF SUCH A GRACIOUS LADY. SENATOR THURMOND WAS A GREAT MAN, I WAS CHOSEN AS A BLACK SC 10th GRADER, TO WORK IN HIS US SENATE OFFICE AS A PAGE IN 1982.

Nichelle Eggleston

February 12, 2013

R.I.P from the grand daughter of the late Louise Washington, of Coatesville, PA. I never met you Essie Mae, but my family has told me great stories of growing up with you in the family. I wish that I would have met you at some of the Washington Family reunions. But, I am happy that you and my grandmother will meet again in Heaven. RIP.

Lahoma Cornelius

February 12, 2013

I was at a loss for words to hear of your passing. I pray that you are rejoicing with the Father. I enjoyed my time in her presence. Cause she was so precious and a sweet lady. I will contine to pray for your family.R.I.H.P!! Rest In Heavenly Peace...

karen edgers

February 11, 2013

I remember the day your sweet mother was signing our books it was such a joy to be there and sharing that moment with you, we will never forget it. my God bless each of you keep you.

February 11, 2013

HAPPY ARE THE PEACEABLE,SINCE THEY WILL BE CALLED'SONS OF GOD."..MATT.5:9..SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS..MJ

LINDA JONES

February 11, 2013

May you rest in peace

Robert Randall

February 9, 2013

She was a gracious lady .with much dignity and respect and was a good example of how a person needs to live. May "GOD" keep her loved ones in his care. Respectfully,Robert Randall,Sr.

Elaine McGowens

February 9, 2013

Mrs. Washington-Williams, what are brave woman you were. I have always heard of Sen. Thurmond's black daughter as I live in SC. It was an "open" secret. I am truly sorry to hear of your passing may God bless you and your family. Rest in peace beautiful lady.

Jarrett Edwards

February 9, 2013

Mrs. Washington Williams, was a gracious woman, and a true Southern Lady, I am sorry for your loss.

Yolanda Woods

February 9, 2013

Your grace and dignity is an example to all. Rest well

February 8, 2013

RIP. Amen. In Jesus's Name.

Willene Dansby

February 8, 2013

Heartfelt condolences to the family of Mrs. Essie Mae Washington Williams. She was a beautiful lady. May precious memories sustain you during these hours of bereavement.
Mrs. Willene Dansby

ANGELA WILLIAMS

February 8, 2013

rest in peace, it's over now

February 8, 2013

You are a inspiration to the people of South Carolina as you handle your life.
God bless you as you enter Heaven.God be with your family as they mourn your death. Rebecca Widener Shealey

Penny Williams

February 8, 2013

A beautiful, kind lady despite it all. May her soul live for eternity.

Angie Way

February 8, 2013

My prayers are with your family. What a beautiful woman

helen pointer

February 8, 2013

well done servant of the messiah

February 8, 2013

RIP..Mrs. Essie Mae Thurmond Washington-Williams

Roy and Norma Johnson

February 8, 2013

Thank you for being such a strong woman but in a quite gentle way. You are an inspiration to all.

MARTHA MEGGETT-HILL

February 8, 2013

RIP. MRS. ESSIE WASHINGTON-WILLIAMS. MAY YOUR FAMILY BE COMFORTED DURING THIS SAD OCCASSION.

Gregory West

February 8, 2013

I want to thank such an exemplary lady who has contributed so much with her courage-more than she would probably ever know. My prayers and thoughts are with her family.

Rochelle Randolph

February 8, 2013

To Wanda and the Williams family.. My heartfelt condolences go out to you and your family...May her precious memories be always in your hearts... Rochelle Randolph... Los Angeles, CA

February 7, 2013

With heartfelt sympathy for your loss-
May God give you comfort during this time-

Peace

McNulty, Reid, Hall, Williams, Davis Families

February 7, 2013

We love you and yours, gracious and beautiful child of God. We will never forget your faithfulness at the extremely emotional time of confession and pouring out your heart to God. You are free.

Kenneth, Estelle, Mark, Michelle & Stephen Ellis

February 7, 2013

Our thoughts and prayers are with your family. God bless you with peace knowing she is in Heaven.

Donna Wood

February 7, 2013

To the Williams Family,
May your hearts soon be filled with wonderful memories of joyful times together as you celebrate a life well-lived. I was proud to know and serve your Mother. She was an exceptional lady. ([email protected])

Eunice Mayo

February 7, 2013

RIP

Gwen Conner

February 7, 2013

Family, may God give you comfort during this time. I never knew your mother but, I was so impressed with her when she came forward with her story. What a gracious woman. God has has added another beautiful rose to his bouquet. Cherish her memories as this will help you heal.

February 7, 2013

Our deepest sympathy to the Williams family on the passing of your dear loved one. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. May the God who gives peace be with all of you.-RO.15:33

Geneva Mc

February 6, 2013

Condolences from the heart. Love

Daysell Chavis

February 6, 2013

With Heartfelt Sympathy. May God Bless the Williams family. I will always cherish her autograph I got when she gave it to me at our "Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc." Reception in Orangeburg. South Carolina.

Nancy McNichol

February 6, 2013

My heartfelt condolences on your loss of such a remarkable woman of substance. Hoping in time you will be comforted by memories and the knowledge of how blessed your family was to have her be your Mother. No doubt God has a special place for her courageous soul.

February 6, 2013

What a wonderful American,my sympathy to the family of Mrs.Essie Washington-Williams.

February 6, 2013

It is our deepest heartfelt sympathy for the loss of our cousin Essie Mae Washington-Williams. As we discovered, who she was to us, it is even more heartretching not to have met her in life. To her family, our cousins, may your mother be forever in your hearts as we too will always remember Essie Mae. God bless you all. Antoinette Butler Stevens (Accokeek, MD)

Angie Geib

February 6, 2013

It was a pleasure to meet and know her the last bit of her life. I am honored to have bent down on the floor to put a shoe on her foot. I will always remember our conversation about "common and uncommon names." I could tell she was a charming lady full of grace even though I knew her only a short time. I am praying for her family, and I'm blessed to have met her!

Lillian Lee

February 6, 2013

Rest in peace Mrs. Washington-Williams.What a lady of truth and grace.

Ms Lue Hagan

February 6, 2013

The Hagan Family of Shively,Kentucky

February 6, 2013

RIP Mrs. Washington-Williams

Concerned Citizen

February 6, 2013

I hope the family can have comfort from the words of Matthew 22:32, which reminds us that God "is a God, not of the dead, but of the living." Giving us a hope of seeing our loved one again in the near future.

City Councilor Brenda Pelham

February 6, 2013

Mrs. Essie Mae, a Lady of Grace and Dignity. Rest peacefully in the arms of Jesus. You have fought a good, quiet fight within and your grace carried you through. God's Blessings to your family. You represented our race, again, with dignity and grace.

diana b

February 6, 2013

MAY GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY..what a wonderful women to have lived her life with such dignity.

Sharon Williams

February 6, 2013

May God bless and comfort you in your time of sorrow.

Barbara Elam McLeod

February 6, 2013

My sincere condolences and deepest sympathy to the family. My thoughts and prayers are with during this difficult time.

February 6, 2013

My heartfelt condolences go out to the immediate and extended family of Ms. Essie Mae Washington-Williams. As she has crossed the bar (something we must all do at some point in life) we must accept God's will. Cherish the times you shared with her then loose her and let her go. Respectfully submitted by: Artemus Flagg, Ph. D., LPC - Charlotte, NC

L. Walters

February 6, 2013

Life is not as it should be but will be in the near future. I love this promise God has made; "for I myself know the thoughts that I am thinking towards you, thoughts of peace and not of calamity, to give you a future and a hope" I hope this message with a promise from someone who "cannot lie" comforts you.~(Jeremiah 29:11; Titus 1:2)~

Kimtraila Williams

February 6, 2013

To: Essie Mae Washington Williams.
My heart is reaching out to you,
For what you're going through;
I'm thinking of your family frequently
And praying for your family too.
Let President Barack Obama know that through his email,fax,letter,phone,visit,that Kimtraila has given her sympathy to the loss of the family of Ms. Essie Mae Washington- Williams.

Lee Lail

February 6, 2013

I would like to let the family of Mrs. Williams that they are in my thoughts and prayers at this difficult time. What a remarkable woman, to have gone through all of those years, without revealing the truth as to who her father was. She was a true lady with much class and dignity.

Jacqueline Vann

February 6, 2013

Elaine Mitchell

February 6, 2013

What an incredible strong woman. Although I did not know her personally, reading her book really helped me appreciate what strengths she had and what she endured growing up. What an inspiration. My deep sincerest sympathy to her family. She was certainly a woman of courage who although not publicly acknowledged by her paternal side, she lived her life to the fullest. May the God of Heaven remember you in his book of life.

February 6, 2013

Our condolences goes out to the Washington-Williams. May you "throw your burdens on our Creator and he will sustain you" during your time of grief.

Mary Smith

February 6, 2013

My sincere condoences to the Washington- Williams and Thurmond families. Your loved one will be missed. God reserves a peaceful, united place for all the meek ones (Psalms 37:10, 11; Acts 10:35).

February 6, 2013

My condolences to the Washington-Williams family, God is for us a refuge and strength a help that is readily during distresses. Psalms46:1
Atlanta, Ga.

Micheal L. Nesbitt

February 6, 2013

My sincere condolence to the family of a fellow SCSC Alum..Rest in Peace

Micheal L. Nesbitt
Burbank,CA.

Diane Brzycki

February 6, 2013

God has no care or prejudice of the color of your skin! May you rest in the glory of peace forever! My thoughts and prayers are with the family! Essie Mae is a part of history now, she will be missed!

February 6, 2013

RIP
Clara H. Cabey

February 6, 2013

To a remarkable woman and will continue to be anincredible role model for all. Now she is with God, the Father of all, inclusively.

February 6, 2013

God bless you and yours ~ Rest in peace.

February 6, 2013

Enjoyed visiting with her at assisted living in Irmo where we shared stories of our teaching careers. She was so smart and a keen observer of people. Very forgiving and a good role model.
Beth from Marietta, Ga

C.S

February 6, 2013

May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.

Richard Murphy

February 6, 2013

Surely a woman of courage was she...

B Walker

February 5, 2013

I pray for her family and they be encouraged by her legacy and may her legacy be entered as another piece of missing black history

Olive Marshall

February 5, 2013

What an amazing women. She is so beautiful. God Bless her Family. She will always Live in the Light.

Terralene Hall

February 5, 2013

Giving honor to our Lord gives me great pleasures to sign the book for special woman of love,courage and greatness.God bless her and her family.

T. P.

February 5, 2013

Dear Washington-Williams family, I am so very sorry for your loss. May "the peace of God that excels all thoughts" be with you. Phillipians 4:6, 7.

Charlene Colon-Evans

February 5, 2013

A very realistic woman!!

Sissy Coleman

February 5, 2013

I remeber seeing the inteview on tv years ago. To God be the glory.

Lane Family

February 5, 2013

What an astonishing woman, thank you for your life, now you are safe, with your fathers forever..GOD BLESS this family

Donna Marsh O'Connor

February 5, 2013

Her life was metaphoric of her time and our legacy. I wish only the best for her family, but I know they already have that. With love and respect,

Donna Marsh O'Connor

Abby

February 5, 2013

What a life. To have so much love in ones heart, after facing so much opposition, it's astonishing. Essie Mae was beautiful inside and out. I offer my condolences to her family. Draw comfort in knowing that soon we will be reunited with those we have lost. At that time there will no longer exist racism or suffering of any sort. For "God is not partial,but in every nation the man that fears him and works righteousness is acceptable to him".

February 5, 2013

My condolences to your family during this time of grief. I were touched by what I read. ESSIE MAE will be missed. may the God of comfort help your family to endure.

Miles

February 5, 2013

May God grant you comfort and peace during this difficult time. I wouldn't take nothing to have met this wonderful and accomplished lady. She was wise yet courageous. She was sensitive yet strong.
Bottle your memories of her and keep them close to your heart. Then pull them as you need to and share them with others.

God rest her soul forever more.

MOMMIE'S LAST BIRTHDAY WITH US 12 OCTOBER 2011

RONALD WILLIAMS

February 5, 2013

I'LL SEE YOU IN HEAVEN MOTHER. YOUR EVER LOVING SON RONNIE.

Barbara Marshall

February 5, 2013

Dear Miss Essie Mae.

You've touched so many lives by the life you lead. You've made us stronger, and made us think about what is really important. Family, thank you for sharing her with us.

February 5, 2013

Rest in peace. Jesus has said good job welcome home!

E Williams

February 5, 2013

She was admired and loved by many. Rest now in your heavenly home. God's peace be upon her family.
Burnell-Williams Family, Charleston, SC

G Fortune

February 5, 2013

There is surely a special place in heaven, for someone who carried their cross with such dignity. God Bless.

Allison Jernigan

February 5, 2013

Death Is a Doorway
On the “Wings of Death” the soul take flight Into the land where “There is No Night” for those,who believe with the savior said will rise in glory.
Though they be dead. So death comes to us just to “Open the Door” To the Kingdom of God and Life Evermore.
My prayer goes out to, Essie Mae Washington Williams Family
~Allison Jernigan~

Patricia Poole

February 5, 2013

Condolences

Ms. C

February 5, 2013

Take comfort in knowing that now you have a special guardian angel to watch over you.

Eugene McDougal

February 5, 2013

Growing up with your sons, Julius and Ronnie in Coatesville (Newlinville)) you were well liked and respected by the kids in the neighborhood. I remember you and my mother being very good friends.
May you Rest In Peace.

February 5, 2013

May your hearts soon be filled with wonderful memories of joyful times together as you celebrate a life well lived.

February 5, 2013

To a bold woman rest peace

Min. Michele Seymour

February 5, 2013

Rest in peace dear Lady, Reading about your life was so interesting. I hope now you will have eternal peace because you are dearly loved by our creator. May our Heavenly Father comfort your love ones at this time.

S Tedder

February 5, 2013

Rest in peace to such a brave woman. I read your memoir and simply loved it. May God be with your family at this time.

D.J. WALLACE

February 5, 2013

WHAT A WOMAN!! TO NOT BE BITTER & FULL OF HATRED UNDER THE CIRCUMSTANCES. I HOPE I CAN ONE DAY BE AS FORGIVING AS HER. MAY GOD BLESS YOU DURING THIS PAINFUL TIME. THIS TOO SHALL PASS.

Christine Gibson

February 5, 2013

Family

No heart as big as hers can now be found, she laid it all down for family and now she is in Gods' arms. What a LADY! Thank you for opening many folks eyes.
Sincerely

Emma Jean

February 5, 2013

Take comfort for God has, "put our tears in a skin bottle and written them down in his book."--Ps.56:8
May God give you peace today and the days to come.

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