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Matthew Mitchell
September 12, 2024
In memory of Karen on this day...
"What you leave behind is not what is engraved in stone monuments but what is woven into the lives of others."
Thucydides
Lisa Hirsch Brooks
September 11, 2024
Sending love to you, Karen. Remembering our weekly Pizza Hut ham sandwiches and goofy times. I know you´re spreading joy to all in Heaven!
Kris Kincaid
September 10, 2024
Remembered. Cherished. Loved. Karen, how I miss you .
Robin Ketchum
September 10, 2024
It is that time again.....I think of you all of the time and wish your family did not have to miss you. I hope you and Peter are reunited. I love you my friend and I miss you every year. I will not stop letting you know how much I love you until I join you.
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Tom Sellen
September 12, 2023
Karen’s legacy of love and compassion lives on.
Matthew Mitchell
September 12, 2023
As I remember Karen’s sweetness, intelligence, and kindness today, this quote by John Simmons seems fitting: “Friends come into our lives and friends leave our lives. But friends never leave our hearts.”
Lisa Hirsch Brooks
September 11, 2023
Remembering and honoring you, Karen. Your kindness, quirkiness, humor and beauty are never forgotten.
-Lisa Hirsch
Michelle Batacan Alexander
September 11, 2023
Always in our hearts Karen. We love you.
Forever.
Kris Kincaid
September 10, 2023
Forgotten? Never. Loved? Always - dearly and deeply. Until I see you again my dear sister...
Robin Ketchum
September 9, 2023
I am still here.....I wish you were also. Miss your smiling face and humor. I will continue to honor you every year until I see you again. Love you, friend.
Kris Kincaid
February 1, 2023
Love you my dear sister. How I miss you. Always. How vivid you are in my mind... and heart. Always.
Matthew Mitchell
September 12, 2022
Remembering Karen, today..." To live in hearts we leave behind is not to die." Thomas Campbell
Robin Ketchum
September 11, 2022
I am thinking of you and your family today. Every year my friend.
Tom Sellen
September 11, 2021
My thoughts are with Karen and her family today
Matthew Mitchell
September 11, 2021
In memory of Karen on this 20th anniversary of the 9-11 tragedy, I would like to share with the person who has lovingly created this memorial space, and with others who knew and loved Karen, these words, apparently written on a headstone in Ireland: "Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal."
Karen Steele
September 11, 2021
My thoughts today are with all of you who knew and loved Karen. May happy memories of your time together bring you peace today.
Robin Ketchum
September 10, 2021
It has been 20 years my friend. I think of you a lot. I am hoping you and Peter are together as I really do not know what is to come after we pass. I love you and you are missed by many......RIP
Kristian Kincaid
September 8, 2021
Remembered. Loved. Cherished.
Michelle Batacan Alexander
September 11, 2020
Love always and Love only, You are
remembered in my heart, Karen, for so many more beautiful and amazing reasons than this tragic day. Always hope and love over hatred and violence. My sister in law eternally. I know that your nieces Sasha and Danielle, and your nephews Kevin and Sean, also still carry you in their hearts.
Love,
Michelle Batacan Alexander
Matthew Mitchell
September 11, 2020
Remembering the loss of dear Karen today, feeling wistful but also heartened by expressions of love and remembrance, I would like to share this quote with her family and other friends:
"Tell your friend that in his death, a part of you dies and goes with him. Wherever he goes, you also go. He will not be alone." Jiddu Krishnamurti.
Robin
September 10, 2020
Dear Karen, It is that time of year again. 19 years is unbelievable. You are missed by many. May God keep you.
Kristian Kincaid
September 9, 2020
Love for you is deep and strong - always. Time passes, but memories of you are vivid. I still see your smile. I still remember your gentle sprit and sharp mind. I still .... love you.
Catharine Van Dorn
September 12, 2019
You will always be remembered for all the things you had done. A friend and classmate. We celebrated our 40th class reunion this year.
Matthew Mitchell
September 11, 2019
It does not seem like 18 years have gone by since Karens passing. Still it feels so immediate and makes you wonder about the phenomenon of time and the numbers we attach to it. There is grief in remembrance but also joy at seeing the comments of people here who hold Karen firmly in their hearts.
Goodbyes are only for those who love with their eyes. Because for those who love with heart and soul there is no such thing as separation. (Rumi)
There is no death. Only a change of worlds. (Chief Seattle, Native American)
Death is not extinguishing the light; it is only putting out the lamp because the dawn has come. (Rabindranath Tagore)
Michelle Batacan Alexander
September 11, 2019
Sending thoughts of love and strength, wrapped in kindness, compassion and more love. Always
Robin Ketchum
September 9, 2019
Once again the day approaches ......It is not only this time of year that I think of you......I think of you often and wish you were still here being your nutty self. I hope you are with Peter.....he missed you too much. Always love you..........
Kristian Kincaid
September 2, 2019
Remembering you, my sister, with deep love and fondness. How could I ever forget your wisdom, grace, kindness, and character ? How could I ever forget ... you. Time passes, wounds resurface, but love wins, always.
Jan Ellsworth
March 3, 2019
You were a dear friend, and you remain in the hearts and memories of all who knew you! Be at peace, Karen!
Matthew Mitchell
September 12, 2018
In remembrance of Karen:
Friends come into our lives and friends leave our lives. But friends never leave our hearts. And best friends always get to stay in the best places in our hearts.
John M. Simmons, The Marvelous Journey Home
Karen Steele
September 11, 2018
Wishing peace for Karen's friends and family today.
Michelle Batacan Alexander
September 11, 2018
Love you Karen and remember you every day. I pray that now you and Peter are together in peace and resting in God's Love. Remembering you today and always.
Kristian Kincaid
September 10, 2018
Remembered. Cherished. Loved.
September 10, 2018
Dear Karen,
17 years ago you were stolen from us. I write here every year so you know, somehow, that you are never forgotten. The world was a better place with you in it. I hope that you are with Peter now...he missed you just too much. With love always, Robin. PS NEVER FORGET
September 11, 2017
Remembered
Karen Steele
September 11, 2017
I didn't know Karen, but to me she represents all the goodness that was lost on that day. I will always think of her, and send loving thoughts to her family and friends today.
Matthew Mitchell
September 11, 2017
Karen's sweetness, kindness, intelligence and delicate beauty float gracefully and wistfully in my memory, especially on this day. My heart goes out to family and friends whose lives she touched.
Catharine Van Dorn
September 11, 2017
You will never be forgotten. Your memories live on.
Robin Ketchum
September 10, 2017
Every year til I can no longer do it....I will remember you on this page. I love you my high school buddy......I will never EVER forget you. Love, Robin
Kris Kincaid
September 10, 2017
Remembering you, Karen, and loving you always.
Matthew Mitchell
September 11, 2016
It is hard to believe that the 9-11 attacks took place 15 years ago! Losing Karen has personalized this attack for me, which remains painful despite the passage of time. I have tears in my eyes writing this entry. I was a neighbor and friend of Karen in D.C. We lived in the same apartment building and I used to feed her cat when she traveled. Knowing Karen, it was not surprising to learn that she was on her way to do pro bono work on September 11, 2001. She was very compassionate in addition to being intelligent and beautiful. I want her family to know that she is remembered today. If I were still living in D.C., I would be visit the Pentagon memorial today. In any case, I am grateful to have this virtual space to express my remembrance.
September 11, 2016
Wishing for just one more conversation with you....one more time to hear your laughter....one more anything
Michelle
September 11, 2016
Love, simply love always.
Karen Steele
September 11, 2016
Karen and her family and friends are always in my thoughts on this date.
Robin Ketchum
September 10, 2016
You are still missed by all your friends and family here in Iowa and there in DC. I think of you often and especially now at this time of year.
Matthew Mitchell
September 11, 2015
Remembering Karen today along with her family and friends... She was my neighbor when I lived in DC and such a smart, sweet, sensitive person.
Karen Steele
September 11, 2015
Thinking of Karen and her family and friends today.
michelle
September 11, 2015
Love always
Catharine Van Dorn
September 11, 2015
Never forgotten, always will be remembered. Class of 1979.
Robin Ketchum
September 11, 2015
Miss you every year. I cannot believe it's been 14 years. I will never forget you and this horrible day. Love you always!
September 10, 2015
Remembered fondly. Loved deeply. Never forgotten. I thank God for the time we had.
Del Newberry
July 9, 2015
Each day, I read the remembrances of one person lost on that horrible day that we will never forget. Today I came to Karen's page and find it so very sad, and yet encouraging to me that she was on her way to do something to help humanity. I know the pain of Karen's loss will always be felt by her friends and family, and I pray today for an extra measure of comfort and encouragement to each of you. With much love from Texas.
Catharine Van Dorn
September 12, 2014
September 11th you will never be missed. Your memories live on in how you treated people with kindness. We celebrated 35 years out of high school. Class of 79'
September 11, 2014
Karen: Your memory is cherished and my love for you will never fade. Love conquers all.
September 11, 2014
Remembered
Karen Steele
September 11, 2014
Thinking of Karen and her family and friends today.
Matthew Mitchell
September 11, 2014
Remembering Karen on September 11, 2014, at 9:11 AM California time… She was a dear friend and neighbor when I lived in DC and I recall her beautiful smile, keen insight, kindness and gentleness…Today my thoughts and prayers are with her family and other friends….
Robin Ketchum
September 11, 2014
The day has arrived again and each year and every day we all feel your absence. We missed you at our 35 year high school reunion. We spoke of you. We will never forget, Karen. RIP my dear friend of long ago. I remember you every day of every year. Continued prayers to your family.
Jen Kincaid
September 10, 2014
My dear sister-in-law, Karen, was a true kindred spirit, and we had some wonderful times together. But this year, I keep remembering the Labor Day before the tragedy, when my three-year-old son was on the front lawn with an orange popsicle in one hand and the phone in the other having a private conversation with his Aunt Karen. I think of the gifts he had picked out for her for her birthday that year, and how sad he was that he couldn't give them to her. We all feel her loss immensely but look forward to seeing her again one day.
S J. Friscia III
April 14, 2014
In memory
With Honor & Respect.
Karen Steele
September 12, 2013
I wrote about Karen on Facebook yesterday and posted her picture, as I have every year since 2001. I'm so sorry she's not here, she seems like she had a lot to give to the world. Peace and Love to her family and friends.
Stacey D'Amico
September 11, 2013
We were never able to meet but I feel like I know you. Your family speaks of you often. Your great niece was born just a couple weeks after you were taken from us and we gave her your name. Josh makes sure to tell her all about you. Your legacy will live on in all that knew and loved you.
Robin Ketchum
September 11, 2013
It's that time again. I continue to think of you every year and not just at this date. But I have vowed to be here every year and right to you and tell you that you are missed. Love you forever my friend.
Alyssa Sackett
May 28, 2013
Reading these fill my eyes with tears...taken so young...I will never forget that aweful day...where I was when I found out...we miss you today and always..your sisters and brothers ...your neices and nephews...and of course your peter...you will never be forgotten aunt karen...
December 3, 2012
To The Family,
Its been a little over 11 years but the horrific day of 9/11 will always remain a painful memory. I only knew a few of the 9/11 victims and Ms. Kincaid was not one of them. Because I did not know her does not mean that I didn't care. I sympathize with all families who lost their loved ones at the hands of evil terorists. May the Almighty give you the comfort that you need to continue. Please accept my deepest condolences in the passing of Ms. Karen Kincaid.
Sincerely,
Mr. Terry of NC
Catharine Van Dorn
September 13, 2012
Karen's memory lives on in each person she touched. I graduated from High School with Karen. Karen was a kind, loving, sweet individual she helped people and would not say a bad word about a person.
September 11, 2012
You are always in my heart.
September 11, 2012
Eleven years ago I chose to remember you on this anniversary. Although a stranger to me, you remind me not only of what was lost that day, but also to live every day with passion and compassion. RIP Karen, he will not be destroying any more lives.
~ Karen Steele
September 11, 2012
I'm here again...and thinking of you with tears in my eyes.....rest in peace my friend........I will always love you! I will never forget....I will be here every year for as long as i live.
Janet Ernest
September 8, 2012
An angel on Earth, now an angel on the other side. I never stop thinking about Karen, and I am still so sad that we lost someone as special as she was in such a tragic way. It is a comfort and a testament to her unique character that she continues to be an inspiration to me, and to so many. God bless.
Karen Steele
September 11, 2011
Peace to Karen and her loved ones. I did not know you, but I always think of you on this day.
September 11, 2011
I think of you often and long to see that sweet sweet smile.
Joëlle Tschopp
September 8, 2011
"La vie est un sommeil, l'amour en est le rêve,
Et vous aurez vécu, si vous avez aimé."
With my deepest sympathy and my thoughts to her relatives.
Robin Ketchum
September 7, 2011
I woke, a normal day
tuned in TV
the normal swayed.
Nothing would be the same
Terror is the blame.
Disbelief filled the air
It seems nobody was spared.
the pain the agony the fear
we lost those we hold dear.
we unite
we cry
we remember
always...every year.
NEVER FORGET
we love you and miss you........God Bless Karen and her family.
Catharine Van Dorn
September 6, 2011
Karen's memory live on in many people she touched over the year. How she treated people with respect for who they are. My prayer go out to the ones close to her. A classmate and friend.
tom sellen
August 31, 2011
Always in my heart.
Karen Steele
September 11, 2010
I didn't know Karen, but 9 years ago I chose her as the person I would think of on this date. My thoughts are with her family and friends today.
John Cimko
September 10, 2010
It was my privilege to know Karen during her time at the Federal Communications Commission. She was a talented and dedicated attorney, and a kind and caring person. I cannot imagine the pain that Karen's loss has caused her family, but I hope they have found some measure of peace.
Brenda Weston
September 10, 2010
I was a high school classmate of Karen's and I remember her as being sweet and quiet. I just wanted to say my heart goes out to her family, to honor her, and to say she is remembered.
Robin Ketchum
September 10, 2010
I will never forget......
Jaime Ryan
September 10, 2010
hy heart aches over the loss of Karen Kincaid. My we all remember what a wonderful person she is as well as all she represents. May her family find comfort in knowing they are not alone and america will never forget the sacrifices made.
Lisa Christianson
September 9, 2010
The years don't make it easier and the pain I am sure is just as fresh as that fateful day. I am sure Karen's friends and family miss her constantly. I miss her as a fellow American. I will never forget. My condolences to Karen's loved ones.
Karen Steele
September 13, 2009
Whenever I think of the tragedy of September 11th, I think of Karen Kincaid, her family and friends. I did not know her, but to me she will always represent all that was lost on that day. I post her picture at my desk, and this year I wrote about her on Facebook. May we never forget the people whose lives were taken on that day.
Robin Ketchum
September 11, 2009
It has been another year....I will never forget...and as long as this is here...every year I will write to give remembrance. My heart to Karen's family..God Bless...
Nyssa Rogers
September 9, 2009
On Sept. 10, 2002 I printed out a small photo of Karen Kincaid (the same one shown on this page) from a list of 9-11 victims. It was important to me to carry a real person in my heart the next day. I was fortunate enough to not lose anyone, so I chose a stranger. I no longer remember why I chose Karen--other than being blonde and liking cats, I don't know that we have much in common. For whatever reason, hers was the picture I carried in my pocket on Sept. 11, 2002.
At the end of the day I took the picture out of my pocket and put it on my dresser. As things do, it eventually disappeared in the clutter that lives there. But the following year (2003), I came upon it again in the early days of September. Again, I carried Karen's picture in my pocket on September 11.
And so it has been every year. The picture disappears somewhere in my room, only to reemerge just in time to carry it with me again on the 11th of September. As I type this I am looking at the same little picture which reappeared, on schedule, a few days ago.
For some reason I decided to Google "Karen A. Kincaid" this morning and ended up on this page. Too many coincidences to ignore, so I decided I was supposed to share this story.
Be well on Friday.
Peggy Childers
September 2, 2009
To the family of Karen A. Kincaid:
Karen gave the ultimate sacrifice and will be held in the hearts of Americans forever. My deepest sympathy to you. We must never forget!!
Peggy Childers
"Don't Let The Memory Of Them Drift Away"
www.IraqWarHeroes.org
Former Wiley Associate
September 12, 2008
To Karen's family: I enjoyed meeting Karen at Wiley. She was a very kind person to the junior attorneys. I think of her every 9/11.
Robin Ketchum
September 12, 2008
Another year has passed and I still have not forgotten....none of us will. Karen was my bud in high school in Waverly. I think of her every day. My prayers to all of her family.
Debbie Jones (Wiley Rein)
September 11, 2008
To Karen's Family: We will never forget Karen. Her name and memory carry on each and every day at our firm as we all remember her and her shining smile.
Michael Gans
September 11, 2008
Many of us at the United States Court of Appeals for the Eighth Circuit knew Karen and her brother, Kasey, and our thoughts are with the Kincaid family. I remember Karen as a bright and thoughtful young law clerk with a commitment to justice and a desire to help others. We will honor her contribution and her memory with a moment of silence today.
September 11, 2008
In loving memory. We will NEVER forget! God bless
David Schoen
August 13, 2008
Karen and I worked for Judge Henley in Harrison, Arkansas in the 80's. I only now learned of her passing. She was a kind, gentle, intelligent and graceful soul.
Kim Eveland
December 4, 2007
I went to high school at WSR in Waverly, Iowa and church with Karen. We had so much fun in both. I think about her often and miss her. She has been and is always in my prayers.
I miss you Karen and god bless.
Your long time school and church buddy.
P Tabbernor
July 19, 2007
In memory....
Kristine
October 31, 2006
As I cross-stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.
Julie Bartlett
September 11, 2004
It's only a few minutes before September 11th, 2004. My thoughts become solemn as I remember the horrific events 3 years ago.
I knew Karen when we were in high school in Waverly... I recall her having a kind soul and a wonderful sense of humor.
It was almost 2 years after the event that I learned of Karen's death and was filled with shock. My heart and prayers go out to her family and friends on this anniversary. She will always be remembered.
Joseph Cesaitis
April 11, 2004
A day doesn't go by that I don't say a prayer for you, Karen. You touched my family's life in so many ways. The world has been a sadder place since you were taken from us. To Peter, I ask that God give you the strength to carry on without your wonderful Karen.
All my love,
Joe Cesaitis
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