Richard B. Ross

Richard B. Ross

Richard Ross Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers on Sep. 13, 2001.
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Richard B. Ross was always late, to everything, but his family didn't mind. "It was really because he always tried to do as much as he could for so many people," said Abigail, his oldest daughter. "If he had an extra 15 minutes, he would squeeze in a visit to a friend at the hospital or call a client."

Mr. Ross, 58, had found success as the founder and chief executive of the Ross Group, an executive consulting firm in Newton, Mass., where he lived. But he did not let his schedule interfere with his family life. He still found time to coach his son Franklin's baseball and basketball teams, and when his youngest daughter, Alison, developed a brain tumor as a child, Mr. Ross and a friend formed a foundation, the Brain Tumor Society, to provide information and support. "He lived his priorities," Ms. Ross said. "He always told us that we were the most important things, and he always showed us that."

On Sept. 11, Mr. Ross misunderstood the departure time for his flight, so he arrived uncharacteristically early for American Airlines Flight 11. Before he boarded, he spoke briefly with his wife, Judi Rotenburg Ross. "She misses him three times every second," Ms. Ross said of her mother.

Profile published in THE NEW YORK TIMES on September 8, 2002.


Richard B. Ross, 58, CEO of Boston consulting firm

By David Arnold, Globe Staff, 9/13/2001

Richard B. Ross, a Boston business consultant who on a whim would sing a Frank Sinatra tune as an excuse to dance with one of his daughters, died aboard American Airlines Flight 11 in New York City on Tuesday. He was 58.

Mr. Ross, of Newton, was a Dorchester native who went straight from high school to his first job - selling baby furniture door-to-door.

He was president and chief executive officer of The Ross Group, a consulting firm specializing in the employee relationships of clients ranging from small family businesses to Fortune 500 companies.

By some accounts a hopeless romantic, Mr. Ross was also frequently described as the epitome of a nattily dressed mensch, the Yiddish word for a down-to-earth, good soul.

Disqualified from serving in Vietnam because of a back injury, Mr. Ross was leader of his platoon in the Army Reserves. Most recently he was education chairman of the New England Young President's Organization 49ers.

He co-founded the Brain Tumor Society and was a member of the Chief Executives Organization, the Leadership Council at the Kennedy School's Center of Business and Government at Harvard University, and the board of trustees of Shakespeare & Company.

For 15 years he coached three sports in Newton as his children went through the baseball, basketball, and soccer programs. No one recalls him ever missing a weekend commitment.

He and his wife also co-managed one of the Rosses' most hallowed institutions, the Friday night family dinner. First they would say the Sabbath blessing and then individually find something for which to give thanks.

For Mr. Ross, this invariably included acknowledg ment of a recent blessing from his wife or a family member or a friend - or frequently all three.

He leaves his wife, Judi (Rotenberg); two daughters, Abigail of Boston and Alison of New York City; a son, Franklin, of Newton; and two sisters, Rochelle Gordon of Canton and Irene of Jamaica Plain.

A funeral is scheduled for noon tomorrow in Temple Israel in Boston.

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Blessings to your family. You will never be forgotten.

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December 31, 2021

Remembering Richard, fellow SITE board member and friend. He is an inspiration to me.

Wanda Holland Greene

September 11, 2021

Such a wonderful Park School family. I will never forget Richard's kindness.

Robert Levy

September 10, 2021

Dickie and I spent many summers in Nantasket and dances at the Community Center. We spent a Senior Cut Day with Barbara Payne in Newton and had a memorable day. I will always think of my friend and honor his memory during this time.

Linda Weinbaum

September 11, 2020

I will always remember you Richard from Nantasket Beach dancing to rock and roll at the Surf! And Judy, you and I went to Temple Israel , were in some of the same classes. Blessings to you both for a wonderful Life and generous cut short on 9/11. Heaven got a gentle young man...may his Wings stretch out for miles . Amen

Taylor S

September 2, 2019

My class has been researching 9-11 and the innocent victims whose lives were taken. I had the pleasure of learning about Richard B. Ross. I was honored to learn about his ways of selflessness and generosity. My heart goes out to his family and all whose lives were affected by the death of Richard.

Del Newberry

June 7, 2017

I pause today as I do every day, to say a prayer for one of the families who lost a loved one on 9/11. I hope that God will give you a special blessing today as I pray for you and your well-being. We will never forget.

September 11, 2016

Remembered. God bless your family

Mike Turek

September 17, 2014

I rode with the DC 9/11 Memorial Ride in your honor. You will never be forgotten!

Mike Turek

September 17, 2014

I rode with the 9/11 DC Memorial Ride in honor of you. You are never forgotten!

Patricia Whiteside, Appraiser,

November 3, 2013

I Remember Your Kind Spirit: A Generous, Man & Doting Father: A Leading Business Man: My Sympathies That You Were Taken From This World: Heaven Has Gained Another Miracle. Blessings,

Mark Frey

September 11, 2013

Richard you are missed ... To a wonderful friend, father and model .

Karen Stella

September 11, 2013

Thinking of Richard, Abby and the rest of his family today. Love to you all.

Peggy Childers

September 8, 2012

To the family and friends of Richard B. Ross:
Richard will be held in the hearts of Americans forever. I cannot and will not allow those we lost on 9/11 be forgotten. My deepest sympathy to you.

Jerry Anderson

September 11, 2011

I saw this quote today and thought of you and your participation with SASSDS: "to do that which is right in the sight of man, and good in the sight of God." Thank you. May your family be comforted by the knowledge your right and good contributions continue to make a difference; especially on this day.

John Fisher

September 11, 2011

To the Ross Family: I like all Americans are respectfully and tearfully watching the solemnity and respect given to all the heroes of September 11. Yet for me -- much alike your entire fammily -- 9/11 rings painfully close. Richard was such a tremendous friend to me, to all; that rarely time passes without some poignant rememberance of him. Perhaps the greatest honor to him is how his children have grown and matured; displaying the characteristics and purpose that made him the loved man he was.
Peace & Health

Brian Bogosian

September 11, 2011

To Abigail, Alison, Franklin and Judy, it has been 10 years and in some ways it seems like yesterday, while in others a lifetime ago. I have kept Richard's obituary and picture in my desk for 10 years and on occasion take it out to see. I loved your father for how he lived his life and for what he shared with the rest of us who he touched during that time. I have now been a father three times in the last 5 years, and we have two lovely girls and one other who is not with us. But what I learned from Richard has guided me to be the best father I can be and I think he would be pleased by that more than anything else. He was a man of many talents but what survives his shortened life is that love and devotion, sincerity and selflessness that guided his principles and family values. I think of him and all of you very often. I believe he is watching over you and is smiling at who you are and what you have become. You are all in my prayers always.

Janine Dolan

September 10, 2011

I think of Richard Ross often, especially around this time of year. I worked as his Executive Assistant at The Ross Group. He had such a contagious smile and was always so upbeat and positive. He was very loyal and he cherished his family more than anything. I also think of them and wonder how they are doing. They equally adored him. Peace and love to all on this 10th Anniversary. I know Richard is missed by so many.

Bill Gilmore

September 5, 2011

I met Richard Ross when he was president of the New England YPO Chapter. Much more than being a competent leader, he was the nicest human being you could ever want to meet.

As the tenth anniversary of 9-11 approaches, my thoughts and prayers go out to his family.

May 2, 2011

I still think of Richard so often...especially when I check the time and see 9:11. So happy to hear today that the man who caused so much pain is gone. Best to the Ross Family.

Karen Stella,
Former Employee of TriCompanies

Rebecca Muller

December 17, 2010

Sending my prayers to the family of Richard Ross - you are in my thoughts.

Bill and Carol Schlosser

September 13, 2010

Dear Irene and family. It has been many years since Richard was carried off to be with the Lord. I received an E-Mail today with information on those who lost their lives on 9/11. My wife Carol (Princess House Field Manager and I were privileged to know you guys and privileged to travel with you on many Princess House trips. Many years after the moment, we pray for you and the family. We loved you and Richard in a special way.

Love,

Bill and Carol Schlosser, Perrysburg, Ohio

September 10, 2010

I'm thinking of Richard on this day. I worked for him at TriCompanies. He reminded me of my father, which is ironic as I was just grieving my father this evening and then realized the date. They were both good men and great fathers.

Richard Barry Ross

April 28, 2010

I saw that there was a Richard Ross on Flight 11. And then I saw his middle name. Suddenly, I felt compelled to write him a note on this website. I may never have known him, but I knew his full name. It happens to be mine as well. From reading all of these wonderful things people have written about him, he must have had plenty of energy, good friends, an optimistic nature, a wonderful family, and a big heart. I may never be half the person he was, but I can certainly do my best to honor his name with my remaining years. I'm glad we have the same name. I really am. What a great guy he was - and what a great guy he always will be.

P Tabbernor

June 9, 2007

In memory....

kristine

April 25, 2007

As I cross-stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.

Ali Virani

September 11, 2005

To the Ross Family. Hi my name is Ali Virani and I have written a poem about Mr. Richard B. Ross. May God rest his soul in peace.



In Remembrance of Richard B. Ross



There is a very special place in everyone's heart.

Off to places you would dart.

Going to the hospital in your spare time.

Telling your daughter that she will be fine.



You coached your children in many sports.

Making them run up basketball courts.

Knowing that you were always there.

Made sure that they weren't in despair.



A loving person you were indeed,

making sure you took the lead.

Lending out a helping hand,

you made people understand.



It’s time for us to go our separate ways.

We will miss u everyday.

We hope your soul will rest in peace,

and hope that heaven has given u relief.



Remembering all the pain that has been caused,

we take a moment to pause.

To pray in silence for your soul,

without you our lives will never be whole.

Tracey Swift

September 17, 2003

Dear family of Richard Ross. On September 11th My heart went out to all the families. I could not even imagine how they could be feeling. This year on September 11th, The wonderful town that I live in dispalyed 3,412 American Flags to represent each individual who lost his or her life in the terrorist attacks on September 11. I felt so proud to be a part of a town that had so much love and care for other people. On the day that they took the flags down, People could purchase a flag and the proceeds went to a charity. With each flag purchased you recieved a piece of paper that had the victims name that, that particular flag represented and my paper had the name of Richard Ross on it. When I recieved that paper I felt like a part of my family had died. I told my husband that I wished I had the name of his family so that I could send my deepest sympathy. So I decided to look his name up on the computer and came across this site. I would like to let you know that my families hearts, thoughts and prayers are with you. I feel very blessed to have recieved Richards name. I would love to send you pictures of the memorial if I had an address. When I tried to send in this mail I was told the file was to big.

God Bless,
Tracey Swift
Lubbock, Tx

Sheila Stillman-DeRuzza

September 23, 2002

My belated condolances to the Ross Family. I have not seen Dickey in almost 40 years when I shared an apartment in Brighton, Mass with my roommates. He was our friend and came to some of our parties. I came from Hull and also remember seeing him at the Beach when we were teenages. He was such a wonderful fun loving young man and so handsome. We all drifted apart and then sometime later we heard that he married. I think of the wonderful young man quite often since that tragic day this year. I never did see him in all those years. The thing that makes his passing even more strange for me is that my husband's X-wife lived in the same apartment building with Atta. When I read about the wonderful man he became and his accomplishments and you, his loving family I was very proud to think that I once touched the life of this wonderful human being that was taken much too soon. I will alway remember Dickey.

With deepest sympathy,

Sheila Stillman-DeRuzza

Margate, Florida

September 11, 2002

In my few interactions with Mr. Ross, he left a lasting impression. It was especially wonderful to see him with his family- a true inspiration. My deepest sympathies are extended to his family. I know he will live on in spirit. A man like that will never be forgotten.

Harvey Wallenstein

September 11, 2002

I attended junior and senior high school with "Dickie",he was indeed a very happy,handsome and fun guy to be around,his loss has saddened me deeply! It was a pleasure to meet Abby at the Goodman home.

Harvey Wallenstein

David Petersen

September 9, 2002

I met Richard several years ago when he was consulting for FCI in Newton. I had several private sessions with him and found him to be an honest, sincere, straight forward and jolly man. He helped me through a "career turmoil".



I heard he was on Flight 11 and was saddened by his passing, but it is a year now and I have found myself thinking of him almost daily. What bothers me is that I hadn't done that until 9.11... I guess it is a hard lesson learned, I will do a better job of keeping in touch with friends and aquaintences.



See Richard, you are still teaching me!!

June 10, 2002

DEAR GOD SHINE YOUR LIGHT ON THIS WONDERFUL MAN..RICHARD B.ROSS AND MAY HIS SOUL REST IN PEACE WITH GOD AND HIS ANGELS..GOD BLESS HIS LOVING FAMILY AND MANY FRIENDS.GOD BLESS AMERICA..MAY GOD AND HIS ANGELS GREET YOU AT THE GATES OF HEAVEN...AMEN

Sheila Werland

March 29, 2002

What a genuinely warm smile. I am very sad that such a man has been taken from his family and from the world. I pray for the family and friends of Richard. May his many accomplishments and constant loving manner bring some measure of peace and healing to you. God Bless.

Kay Rayls

March 25, 2002

I feel also honored to wear this bracelet with Richard Ross's name on it. When I put it on it makes me more thankful for what I have...and I send a prayer to his family and friends and may they always smile when they remember him. God bless you all I pray for you daily... Kay Rayls

Kathy Swaringen

February 14, 2002

On February 13th, 1 mile was walked to honor the life of Richard B Ross and all the family, friends and loved ones he left behind. May you find some comfort in knowing that you do not grieve alone.



Richard, you are gone, but not forgotten, may you rest in peace.

CARRIE WILLIAMS

February 6, 2002

I AM HONORED TO WEAR THE BRACLET THAT BEARS RICHARDS NAME. I WILL WEAR IT ALWAYS AND PRAY DAILY FOR THE FAMILY. MAY THE GRACE OF OUR LORD JESUS CHRIST BE WITH YOU.

Teresa Jahn

January 11, 2002

We are deeply sorry for your loss of Richard. May his knack for singing and dancing, his life and love live on in you. Our hearts cry with you.

America Cries

We see your sorrow-

and our hearts cry....

We can not erase your pain

but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-

-the American people-

are beside you.

We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,

the strength that gives you courage,

and the words to lighten your spirits.

And when we are left speechless

may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts

to ease your sorrow.

May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-

-the American people-

face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn

Dixon, IL

Stanley (Simmy) Patz

December 27, 2001

To the family of Richard Ross,



The first big shock came when I heard an explosion after a low flying airplane went over my building. The second big shock came three months later when I found out my old pal Dickie, was on that aircraft.



We hung out together, back in the late fifties. We double dated often. He was a handsome, charming young man who possessed social graces beyond his years. I am sorry I lost contact with him, but am very pleased to read how he shared his life with you. I hope the warmth of his personality will live forever through you.

Richard Moberger

November 27, 2001

My deepest belated sympathies to the entire Ross family. I was deeply saddened to finally realize that Richard was a passenger on AA#11.



I worked for Mary, Richard and Irene way back in the beginning with the Canton office of Tri Travel. Before I left Tri Travel, we had multiple offices and Richard had married Judi.



Richard was a mentor to me in the very beginning of my 30 year career in travel.



I have never, nor will I ever forget him. God bless you Richard and your family.



Richard Moberger

Long Beach, CA and Las Vegas, NV

Linda Weinbaum

November 20, 2001

Dear Ross Family,

My deepest sorrows go out to you at the great loss of your husband and father. I was shocked to " see '" Richard's handsome face in the devistating news of Sept. 11th. I remember doing alot of dancing with Dickie... way back when.. ( some 40 years ago )in Nantasket Beach at the Jewish Youth Center record hops. He was a GREAT dancer ! I will always cherish his memory ,and extend my deepest sympathies to his wonderful family.

Pau;ine Egan

November 8, 2001

Dear Abby - I think about you all the time and had some happy memories looking at the Wedding Pictures and video!!! I hope we can grab you and your mom when we're next in Boston. xoxoxoxoxo Mrs. E.

Rita Gatt

November 2, 2001

Dear Family and Friends of Richard Ross, I am so sorry for the loss of what sounds like, a beautiful man. My step-daughter will be turning 11 in a few days. I decided to buy her a Mercy B.A.N.D. for her b-day. The one I will be giving her has the name Richard Ross, AA #11, engraved on it. I will show her this memorial for Richard, so she can pray for all of you who are affected by his loss. I am sure she will display his name proudly, and will be committed to praying for all those close to him.

Bobbi Ross

October 26, 2001

There isn't a day that goes by that I don't think of Richard and his family. My thoughts and prayers go out to you.

I grew up with Richard in Dorchester. We danced together on "Record Shop Hop", I worked for him at Tri Travel and I married his father.

Our trips to Boston were wonderful, especially the Friday night dinners together where Richard would ask each one at the dinner table to say what they were thankful for that week...I will always be thankful that I knew you Richard. I will always remember your thoughtfulness and love of life. You are in my heart forever.

With Love, Bobbi

Brenda Farrell

October 20, 2001

Dear Judi, Alison, Abigail, Franklin, Irene and the rest of the Ross Family:



Eleven years ago, I worked for Richard and Irene at Tri Companies, in the old office at 1313 Boylston Street near Fenway Park.



At the time, our nation was in recession. That, coupled with the Persian Gulf War had taken a serious toll on the travel and incentive business. It was a difficult time to run such a business, but somehow your family made it all work. Many of us who worked there at the time felt as though we were extensions of that family, and I want you to know that I recall the short time I worked there as one of the most rewarded segments of my career. I made some god friends there, too. Although we are scattered all over the country, some of us still manage to stay in touch.



I am thankful that I had a opportunity to work for Richard. He always appreciated my work and my ideas, and gave me many opportunities to creative work for some very high-profile clients. The work I did for Tri Companies is still in my portfolio today, and I am always delighted to show it to people and explain what the company did.



God Bless You All.

Brenda D. Farrell

North Kingstown, RI

Doryn Gelb

October 11, 2001

I met Richard Ross for the first time on labor day weekend, but we spent two evenings together at dinner. He spoke with complete enthusiasm of his family and his job and his community work, especially the presidents club. It was obvious how much he loved you Judy. I am so sorry for your loss and can't even imagine what you are going through. I just wanted you and your children to know that my thoughts and prayers are with your family during this awful time and will continue to be for eternity.

Susan & Bob Shrager

October 7, 2001

Dear Family of Richard B. Ross,

Thinking of you with sympathy with love and with prayers

That God will bless you ever day

and keep you in his care.

Bob grew up with Richard, Rochelle and Renee as the families were very close friends.

We were shocked to learn that Richard was on flight #11.

Our hearts are with you.

With deepest sympathy....

Susan & Bob Shrager

BARBARA BOLIN

September 27, 2001

MY THOUGHTS AND PRAYERS GO OUT TO YOU ALL.MAY GOD BLESS YOU ALL.

RICHARD MAY YOU REST IN PEACE.

Jerry Brightman

September 25, 2001

When I heard about the tragedy of September 11 some of the local television stations began showing photographs of people on American Airlines Flight 11. When I saw Richard's photo immediate denial set in ("I haven't seen him in a number of years - it's probably another Richard Ross" and thoughts like this). But time and facts proved my denials false and I knew that this was the Richard Ross with whom I served on the Men's Associates of the Hebrew Rehabilitation Center, and the same Richard Ross that my family went skiing with - both many years ago. I can still remember his humor and his energy, and I simply cannot imagine the loss that his loving family must be feeling every day. To Judi and the rest of the Ross family, I offer my most heartfelt condolences and sympathy. Know that Richard touched many people in many positive ways in his all-too-brief life.

Ann Moritz

September 25, 2001

When I think of Richard these days, I know life is not normal. Then I remember what else is not normal: I think of how we are more unified now, how we care about each other more, how we are genuinely concerned about the world in a whole new way, how we are forcing ourselves to respect diversity in a different way, how we are bound by our vulnerability. And vulnerability makes it easier to love and be loved. I will remember him always for lots of reasons. But right now, in my mind, Richard gets a lot of credit for helping to make all of those "not normal" things happen. I think he would have liked that.

vibeke munk

September 24, 2001

A letter of condolences from "overseas"



Almost 20 years ago I spent a year of my life living with Judy and Richard Ross in Newton, taking care of their two daughters, Abigail and Alison. Franklin was yet not born.

It was a wonderful year - one of the best in my youth.



Like the rest of the world I was shocked by the terroract on September 11th. - but especially touched by the fact that Richard Ross was on board American Airlines Flight 11.



Richard Ross was a wonderful person.

I remember his brave smile, and the way that he often came home from work starting to sing and dance. He loved life itself.

He was very proud of his family and a loving husband and father. I became a part of their family.



Over his late night dinner we often discussed political issues, and did not always agree. But he was, not matter what, respectful towards different attitudes. I remember, as well, that we often played backgammon.



Over the last two weeks my mind has been back in Newton hundreds of times. I share my grief with all of the family, but especially I think of Judy, Abigail, Alison and Franklin. You will always be in my heart.



The terroract on September 11 th, goes far beyond words, and there are no words of consolation.

The world has much less to offer now that Richard Ross is not amongst us.



All honour to his memory.



Vibeke Munk

Denmark

Europe

Heather Parlor

September 22, 2001

My prayers go out to the family & friends of Richard B. Ross



As my sould takes flight to paradise

upon a snow-white dove...

I'm free to roam in my heavenly home

safe on the wings of love.



As I leave this world and fly away,

To a place where dreams come true...

My soul has found it's paradise,

But my love lives on in you.



My Deepest Sympathy

Jody Alves

September 19, 2001

Ali, you may not remember me from your days summering in Rockport, We had mutual friends such as Jason Pierce, Julia Pykosz etc. I just wanted you to know that my thoughts are with you, and have been since the tragic day. I do hope that the wonderful memories of your father have helped you cope with your loss. My thoughts and prayers, Jody

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