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Lisa Ann Papania
September 11, 2015
Howie....I miss you everyday...I don't understand how 14 years have passed with out you...You are my angel in heaven..Thank you for watching over us...our hearts broke that day...love you lisa
Karl Kilroy
September 11, 2015
Howie, thinking of you always and our times together Chicago, New York and Ireland. You will be forever with us. Love, Karl & Suzanne Kilroy
Aunt Millie
December 23, 2014
In loving memory of a wonderful person. We will love you and miss you always.
September 11, 2014
Howie, Thirteen years have passed, I miss you more than you can imagine! Thank you for the sign today! I Love you, your cousin, Lisa Ann Papania
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Suzanne Kilroy
September 11, 2014
Dear Howie,
Karl and I will always remember you so fondly! Great times in Chicago, Ireland & NY.
Karl Kilroy
September 10, 2014
Thinking of you Howie. So many memories. You at my wedding in Ireland and all the times together work/play in Chicago and New York.
Forever with me, Karl
Joe and Linda Flickinger
September 13, 2013
We thought about you and your family again, Howie, and I sat the candle out in the rock garden as I always do for you.
Linda and Joe Flickinger, WA State
Josanne DiGiampietro
September 12, 2013
Hi Howard, we have never met but your brother Bill & his wife Christina are very dear friends of mine. You probably already know this but they recently had 2 gorgeous twin baby girls. Charlotte & Kate (Charlotte's middle name is Howard!)And though all your family ever wanted in this world was for you to be around to meet your precious nieces, I know everyone is grateful that you will be watching over them forever and ever. God Bless You & The Girls <3
Linda and Joe Flickinger
September 11, 2012
We always remember you, Howie, on this date and each year I set up a candle memorial in our yard. We never got to meet you but we have always loved Chrissy. Your candle is burning bright as I look out the window right now to my rockery. RIP. Linda and Joe Flickinger/WA State
Kevin Schulhof
September 11, 2012
Thinking of you and your family today. God Bless.
Steven Leon
January 4, 2012
We all love and miss you Howie.. Aka "Howie Hippo" we grew up together and had a great childhood... I'm honored to have known you my old friend
September 11, 2011
Hi hi Howie working with you was the best love always kevin
September 11, 2011
Howie. You don't know how much you are missed. We worked side by side and you were the best part of our days loves of love miss you and best to your wife kevin b
Dean Hershman
September 11, 2011
Wow 10 years...20 years ago we met at Hanover! May God continue to bless you and your family. May your loss remind us of celebrating life each and every day!
Charlie K
September 11, 2011
Hey Howie,
Thinking of you and Dennis and all of the lives lost today 10 years ago. God bless and keep you!!
September 10, 2011
Howie,
I watched you the other day in a video clip from Sandler & O'Neil, and for a moment I had hoped this was all a dream. But here I am writing to you knowing it was not. I miss you so much and think of you every day. What I treasure most are all the wonderful times we had. I keep those memories close to my heart. Each night when I kiss my kids goodnight, the one thing that makes me smile is knowing that your watching over them. Thank you for being their special angel.
I Love you and Miss you!!
Your cousin,
Yvonne Traina
September 9, 2011
To Howard and Family,
I am a member of the Greatest Navy in the world. I am a member of the United States Navy! We did a 9/11 Remembrance run today and we were all given a name of a 9/11 victim and i received yours. I just want you and your family to know that we have you in our prayers and that you have not died in vain. You will always be remembered by all that love and care for you and by those that have been chosen to run with you every year during the 9/11 remembrance run!
V/R,
MA3
Active Duty
USN
September 8, 2011
Howie,
Sunday will be ten years.....ten years.There are moments that i feel as if i just saw you and then it feels like forever. Marisa and Elizabeth listen to our wonderful stories, about Christmas, our nights with Aunt Aggie, the limos, the plays, the restaurants, and our trip to Disney World. Those memories are magical....the memories of all of us together were the best gifts we received. I carry you in my heart. So much has changed since that day.....I miss you...i talk to you all the time and i feel you around me. Love, Lisa Ann Papania
March 3, 2011
Howie, I miss you so much. I cannot believe it has been almost ten years since i have seen your face, heard your voice, laugh, seen your smile. So much has changed. I feel you with me always I LOVE YOU YOUR COUSIN LISA
September 11, 2010
miss you KTB
Dean Hershman
September 11, 2010
Remembering you today Howie and the year at Hanover...
Chris Palermo
September 11, 2009
We started as traders around the same time in Chicago. I enjoyed the times we hung out together and because of you I will never take things for granted. some people are so special that God takes them early.
Tom Andruzzi
September 11, 2009
How-Luv,
Pain of losing you hasn't got any easier Cuz, miss ya tremendously...
- Cousin TA
Kevin Schulhof
September 11, 2009
Thinking of you today. We had some great times at Purdue and will never forget.
September 6, 2009
I miss you Howie. Years have passed and yet there are moments when i feel as though we were just together. Maybe because i talk to you always...asking for a sign now and then to make sure you are listening. I wish you were here now. i will carry you in my heart always...your cousin lisa
cheyenne cutshall
May 7, 2009
I may not know you but i have a lot of respect for those who was in the attack and who lost their lives. You was brave and i thank you for that.
Kathryn Boots
September 11, 2008
Thinking of you today Howie. It's still sad to remember, but I admit I have been laughing as well remembering some pretty funny stuff you said to me at a fraternity party in an attempt to lure me back to Katherine Parker. You could have sold a plate of ribs to a woman wearing white gloves but there was no way you were getting me back there! You were something else. You and your family remain in my thoughts and prayers.
Jenn (Cakeman) Noland
July 10, 2008
Deb~as a token of my condolences for your family and friends. From the sympathy card I have used far too often: A serene picture of a half-opened seashell revealing the glimmering beauty of a pearl inside: "for with every passing life something beautiful is left behind".
As explained by my cousin (a Catholic priest) at my dear grandmother's funeral. The pain of death but the beauty of our faith: "I ask you now, my dear family, do you believe? Is she just simply gone or do you, in fact, b-e-l-i-e-v-e?" As we all cried and shook our heads 'yes. yes we do believe'. It was and will forever be one of the most poignant moments of my life.
Michele Pierro Black
June 13, 2008
Had this dream and oddly you were in it. It somehow led me to this site and I felt compelled to write. We never were that close growing up. Perhaps it was the similiarity in age that keeps you returning to my mind. Still doesn't seem possible. Perhaps it was because I loved your family growing up. Your mom was everyone's mom, with an open door always, and dinner for all that came her way. Maybe it was the times we all played at your house. I specifically remember a game were we would be stranded at sea; the carpet was the ocean and the beds boats you had to jump on. Howie and Billy vs. us Girls. Our care free days when imaginations ruled playtimes seem so long ago. Debbie, Billy, Howie, Dani and I, would play these games for hours. Time went on and things changed, we all went our separate ways, different schools, and different friends. But, I always held your family close to my heart. Especially your mom, who was always there for everyone. She is a special friend to my mom and our family.
As I turn 35 this year I am painfully reminded that you will not share in this milestone. My heart breaks that your loved ones have been cheated of so much and have had such pain.
Your family is in so many of our prayers, time does not change that. Many think of you and although the world has been cheated because of your absence, god has gained another angel who's spirit lives on in generations to come.
May god bless you and your family,
Doug Abraham
August 18, 2007
Happy Birthday!!!
Kristine
October 26, 2006
As I cross-stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.
P Tabbernor
October 19, 2006
In memory....
Katie Boots
September 11, 2006
Howie and I were freshmen together at Hanover College. I don't think I had ever met anyone from New York City before then and I strongly recall being awestruck by his accent and his outfits and his energy. His personality was captivating. No one in Indiana wore flat caps in 1992 - except Howie! I remember baggy trousers, chunky black shoes, and slick black hair - and why am I thinking he wore a leather vest? Only he could have gotten away with it. My first thought of him was "trouble." But then I got to know him. He had great style and was so charismatic and inspiring and I remember laughing always whenever he was around. I also recall him being very persistent...so it was no surprise to learn he had gone to NYC and had achieved such great success - professionally and personally. I didn't learn about his death for a year or so after when I was visiting NYC and went to Ground Zero and was randomly reading through names. I didn't think it could possibly be the same Howie... I was so sad to learn that it was. Howie was one of a kind and I will always remember him. He and his family are in my thoughts and prayers. I think about him all the time. Especially today.
Dean Hershman
September 11, 2006
Once again I listened for your name this morning, it just doesn't seem real. Even though it was a short year at Hanover College, I will never forget your spirit and friendship. May God continue to bless you and your family.
Ted Funk
September 8, 2006
I miss you, Howie. You were one of the good ones.
Bill
August 18, 2004
I have wanted to write something for Howie for almost three years now but it hurt too much for me to get it done. Today is his 31st birthday and I would like people to know the incredible person he was and how much he meant to me. Howie was my older brother and the best man I have ever known. He is my idol and inspiration in every facet of life. The proudest moment in my life was standing on the alter at his wedding as his best man. He was a man of tremendous valor and moral conviction. He has set an example for me and many others alike of how life is meant to be lived. He has taught me, through both words and actions, how to truly be a good person. He was a loving husband, a successful business man, a caring family man, a devout catholic, and a patriot. He was truly fulfilled in every aspect of his life. Thank you Brother, for being such an amazing person. You will always be my best man.
April
April 6, 2004
I had the pleasure of knowing Howie when I was in high school. My heart goes out to his family. You are in my prayers.
Cecilia Cleary
December 31, 2003
Dear Howie,
You left this world so abruptly, without even a good-bye. With so many of your visions never to have seen done. You touched so many of us and many never for us to know. So quitely you tried to change what many craved the praise. God wanted the very best that day for his work is never done. He saw your crystal eyes shine and he knew you were the one. So now you can fulfill your dreams, you have him to show you how.
With love, Aunt Ceil
Lisa Papania
December 19, 2003
Dear Howie,
I don't know where to begin, maybe where we left off...you called me from work we spoke for a little while you said to me that after you returned home from Spain with Chrissy you wanted to come out the following weekend to see Marisa. I said that sounds great, I will see you then. If I only knew that was the last time I would ever speak to you. I wish I told you that I loved you and I wish I would of told you that I was proud to have you as my cousin. I miss you so much, nothing is the same with out you. It is a few days before Christmas, and alot of our memories together, the five of us, were around this time of the year. If I close my eyes I can still picture all of us sitting in the limo, or eating ice cream at Peppermint Park, and how ironic one of our funniest memories was the "strawberry incident" at Windows on the World. I can remember meeting you and Chrissy at Hemingway's to toast to your engagement and I remember the five of us joking at your trim a tree party that we would all start having the holidays now that we were all getting married and starting our own lives. What happened??? On that horrific September morning all of our hearts were broken. I will hold your memories safe in my heart for ever Howie. Love you,
Lisa
Debbie
September 11, 2003
This prayer was given to me and has helped me tremendously since that day....
Almighty and Ever-Loving God, in You we place our trust and hope. Violence and cruelty can have no part with You. You guide everything with wisdom and love. Hear the prayers we offer for those who lost their lives in the attack on America.
May Your love and the peace of our Lord Jesus Christ bless and console us and gently wipe the tears from our eyes and remove the fear from our hearts.
Look also with favor on the families and friends who mourn the victims and comfort them in their loss. Console them in the hope that all who trust in You will find peace and rest in Your Eternal Kingdom. Bless them with Your presence and surround us all with Your love.
Guide those in authority, O Lord. By the wisdom of our leaders and integrity of our citizens may harmony be restored and justice served. Allow our leaders to strive in theis time of despair for what is right and just.
Calm this terror that threatens us. Grant that peace, the fruit of justice and charity, may reign in America and throughout the world.
Amen
Chrissy O'Reilly
August 20, 2003
I don't believe your thirtieth birthday has gone by and I didn't get to share it with you. I remember the last birthday you had on earth, we spent it on a plane headed to Spain for vacation. We had so much to look forward to, not only a wonderful trip, but a wonderful life ahead of us...it's still so hard to believe that I'm not going to be able to grow old with you.
God bless you, Howie. I know that you're safe where you are, but still it hurts to have you gone. I miss you.
Tony Russo
July 27, 2003
Howie, I didn't have the pleasure of knowing you personally, but I knew your father, uncles and aunts, and grandparents. My grandparents lived next door to your grandparents. I pray for you constantly as well as the other members of your family. I do know what a heavy heart your mom and dad have as I have lost my oldest son, to cancer. He was 31. I don't know what else to say but God love you, son. You will always be in my heart and prayers.
Deb
April 12, 2003
I woke up last week, on the morning of my 28th birthday, and almost instantly realized that you had just turned 28 when you died. I haven't been able to get it off my mind. I feel so young, still like a child. You were robbed of so much...countless years, the joy of your own children, new family members that were born since. How, please pray for us that we can focus our energy on how much you good you gave to this world and the good times that no terrorist can ever take away from us.
dorothy gelling
March 11, 2003
It has been a year and a half since we lost you Howard. It hasn't gotten any easier and, in some was, it's more difficult now. You gave so much to all of us. Inspiration, confidence, happiness, laughter and, most of all, you gave us your love. You were such an important part of our lives that it is so very difficult to go on wihout you.
There is so much I could say. There is so much I should have said.
You knew how much I loved you. You knew how proud I was of your success, but I hope you knew that I was prouder still of the man you became, of the outstanding person you were. A loyal friend, a terrific brother, a loving and devoted husband, a wonderful son. You were every mother's dream. You were my pride and joy.
"He" blessed you with intelligence, determination,compassion,generosity,a high moral character and the utmost integrity. I know there is a tendency to magnify the good traits and almost canonize the loved one you have lost. Anyone who knew you will know that I haven't exaggerated. I know you weren't a saint. You had your faults. You weren't perfect, but-you came pretty darn close. I take some comfort in knowing that you did more and accomplished more in just 28 years then most people do in a lifetime. You were content and you were so very happy.
During your years at Purdue, the time you spent in Chicago and Boston and even after you returned to New York, we spoke more on the phone then we did in person. I doubt there were more then a dozen times in all those years when we didn't speak at least once a day. I would give anything to hear "Moma-love" in that unique, loud, funny way you had of saying it. I remember laughing almost every time I heard it. There are times I still answer the phone expecting to hear "mama-love".
You told me one thing you were always sure of was that in every circumstance, good or bad, I was always there for you. I was there for you that day my son. I was totally helpless, utterly useless, but I was there. I could never describe the feeling that came over me as I looked up and knew that I had lost you. There is a feeling of emptiness in me. I haven't felt whole or complete since that moment. Remembering your faith has strengthened mine. I know where you are and that now you will always be there for me. I know the time will come when I will really smile and laugh and be truly happy again. I will no longer feel empty and for the first time since that awful day in September I will feel whole and complete. I will be with you.
Mom
March 11, 2003
Debbie Gelling
November 15, 2002
Todd, when you talked about How's freshman year it made me chuckle at how much howie loved little Paoli (spelling?), IN and especially that place called (I think) Jenny Lynn's Buttons and Bed & Breakfast. He LOVED that place. All I can remember from it was that everything in the entire place had a price tag on it. :) Thank you for sharing your memories. He touched everyone who met him so profoundly. It means a lot to me and my family.
Todd Needham
November 14, 2002
Ten years have passed but it feels like yesterday that Howie and I were hanging out together in the freshman dorm at college. We first met on our way to soccer practice in the fall of 1991. We were young, eager, and ready to take on the world. All the freshmen would meet at one of our rooms, soccer cleats and shin guards in hand, and then we'd make our way toward the field that was on the opposite side of campus.
From the very first walk, Howie's personality resonated among the guys. He spoke very candidly about being from NY, how he loved the Yankees, how different NY was from IN, and how beautiful the campus was. He had a lot to share and the walks were never boring. Several practices later he came up with nicknames for us....I was "TD," our friend Mark, was "Marky Mark," and I think he even had a nickname for our coach. Howie always made it a point to add his personal touch into daily practices and our lives.
After practice we'd walk to dinner together, then head back to the dorm to clean up and study. Our friendship grew and several months later I considered Howie to be one of my closest friends. I remember getting dressed up for our freshman dinner and Howie let me borrow his favorite blue and white dress shirt. It fit great but it had his initials, HGG, on the sleeve. I still remember it so vividly. I was going to take it off but Howie said my coat would cover them so I decided to go ahead and wear it. Knowing I liked the shirt he said I could keep it, and regardless of the initials, I did, and wore it when we needed to dress up.
I would like to share a classic Howie story that I will never forget. We were traveling to play a soccer game several hours away and Howie was sitting up front next to the coach. He liked to talk about soccer, take in the scenery, and help navigate. About an hour into our drive people were sitting in the van relaxing, doing homework, when all of a sudden a horrific smell entered our noses. Howie immediately yelled, "what's that smell?" I quickly threw my shirt over my nose and said, "it's a skunk." Without a wink, Howie's face changed from being grossed out to exude excitement! He quickly pulled his shirt from his face, took a deep nostrilly breath, and said, "that's what a skunk smells like?" Before any of us could comment, Howie squealed "AWWW YEEEH...I've never smelled a skunk before!" That was Howie! An eighteen year old New Yorker who had never smelled a skunk. Priceless!
I remember that I could always ask Howie for his opinion and get a straight answer. His NY attitude and "street smarts" made him very likeable and unique among others. He enjoyed people, laughter, and was committed to being a good person. He made it a commitment to introduce himself to as many people as he could. I recall he would walk from table to table after dinnner saying "hi" to people he knew. We would laugh but he was proving his graciousness. He was a dear friend and would make me stay at the library an hour longer to make sure I got my grades up. He cared about people and wanted to make a difference. He was the type you'd look up in 20 years and find out he was the president of some big company. He was a go-getter and more importantly, down to earth.
On Sept. 11, I had the day off and witnessed the nightmare unfold on TV. Not only had I visited the WTC with my uncle two years earlier, I had a dear friend working there. I didn't know it at the time, but when I found out, almost a year later, I was stunned. Deeply saddened by the events, I can only write in memory of my dear friend and wish I had stayed in touch. Howie was a close friend that I got to know pretty well. He got to meet my parents and was quite influential during my freshman year in college. As I get older I will never forget the times and great moments we shared together.
God bless you Howie, your co-workers, and much love to your family. I miss you.
Todd Needham
Marilyn Sims
October 15, 2002
I did not know Howard Gelling personally, but I feel I know him through Deborah. When she speaks of her big brother I know how special & wonderful he was as a human being and a big brother. I am glad I got to know Howard through Debbie; to hear the stories she shares with us; it lets us know his spirit is very much alive and watching over his families. We're so grateful there is a God who allows their spirit to flourish through-out our remaining journey . Thanks Deborah for sharing Howard with us and thanks for being our friend.
Pete Gillis
September 10, 2002
A year has passed since that awful day last September, and there hasn't been a day that has gone by that I haven't thought about my friends we lost -- I wanted to share some thoughts...
I met Howard when I worked with him at Rodman and Renshaw. It was easy to like this guy who was full of energy, loved his job trading stocks, and who spent the day making you laugh. There were times I thought he was crazy, he sometimes took his job almost too personally, but you always knew that it was just his intensity showing through. Howie never did anything half way. If he cared about something - everyone would know it from his actions and words -- whether it be trading stocks, his beloved Yankees, or his Purdue Boilermakers.
When Howard started at Sandler O'Neill and there was a job opening, Howard helped get me a job. He was one of the youngest guys working on the trading desk, but his recommendation got me right in the door. It was a sign of how well respected he was by his colleagues. I'll never forget that - I wouldn't be where I am today without his help.
His positive attitude took over the place- it was contagious. If something was going well - he'd be yelling "AWWW PETEY PETE!!" (he had so many little phrases that he'd use daily), rock back in his chair and clap his hands in adulation. If something was going wrong, he'd be the first to say a kind word to pick you up. He was a great friend.
Howie and I started having a daily conversation that we would have every morning after our firm's meeting. We'd discuss everything... the market, sports (he'd make fun of my favorite team the Red Sox like any good Yankees fan), our families-- whatever would cross our minds. It was an easy way to start the day on a positive note - he was always in a good mood. After he and Chrissy married he would talk endlessly about the wonderful things they did together, as if every single thing they did was their first date all over again. I miss those conversations... I miss my friend.
I try to approach every day the way Howie taught me too... with energy, laughter, giving everything I have, and trying to make as many friends as I can along the way....
Chrissy, Billy, Debbie and Mr. and Mrs. Gelling: my thoughts and prayers are with you. Take care.
Tom Glatz
September 8, 2002
I remember Howard when he worked at with us at Rodman & Renshaw in Chicago. He had an unusual sense of humor. He liked to give people a lot of ribbing but could always take from everyone too! I first heard about Howard going down in the Towers a few weeks after it happened. I wanted to express my condolences to his family at that time. I had no way of contacting them. He has been in my prayers as well as many other people in Chicago who worked with him.
Debbielove
August 17, 2002
As tomorrow approaches I have very mixed feelings. That is what brought me here to read the posts again. Part of me wants to cry in a corner and part of me wants to celebrate the fact that Bill and I had such an amazing big brother for 28 years. It is a hard thing to do but I know he would want it. Bill and I are truly lucky and blessed. Everyday and especially on his birthday, I laugh just thinking of How talking to himself in third person by his name..."HG". That unmistakeable DEEP loud laugh. Him yelling into the phone and calling me his "Southern Belle" and of course "Debbielove" ever since I was little. He ended every conversation with "The only love is the Debbielove". I think of us stopping at the candy store to get Sour Patch Kids everytime we went to a movie. I think of you whenever I see Ben & Jerry's. Things will never be the same without you. But I am a better person because of you and due to your guidance and example. Please watch over mamalove, papalove, billlove, and chrissylove.
I love you.
July 16, 2002
Young Howard was born August 1973, the same year as the Twin Towers were built. And he was lost when the twin towers went down. His beloved family
Chrissy O'Reilly Gelling
June 23, 2002
My sweet Howie,
The days without you don't get any easier. You were my love, my best friend, my husband, my confidante, my inspiration. I'd give the world to hear your voice just one more time.
I thank God for letting you into my life; every day with you was a blessed gift. Please pray for me, and for your family, we all miss you so much.
I will love you forever, "all the way to God in heaven."
April 8, 2002
Howard
Deborah Gelling
April 6, 2002
Thank you all for your kind words about my brother. My family really appreciates your support.
March 31, 2002
Happy Easter, Howie. Your faith in Christ was always an example for me. I know that you are now safe in His care.
March 25, 2002
I had the pleasure a renting a shore house with Howie & he was one of the nicest individuals I have ever met. Every Sunday morning while the rest of us were heading to the beach, Howie was out the door to attend Mass. There is no doubt that he is with God now.
Mercedes Santana
February 17, 2002
Howard was my neighbor. My memories of him are limited to him coming out or going into his apartment or seeing him do his laundry or meeting him in the elevator; but his sweetness and charm just poured out of him.I keep getting flashes of his handsome face. May you rest in peace Howard. To Chris, I carry Howard in my heart.
Anne Marie Starowitz
February 3, 2002
I met Howard through a very special young lady, his cousin Kelly from Batavia, New York. She told me all about his wedding and baseball games and how much she loved him. I also met his wife Chrissy through this child. Please know family and friends of Howard how deeply he touched so many lives and how much we all grieve for the tragic loss of lives in New York and Washington.
Anne Marie Starowitz
Anonymous
January 22, 2002
DEAR GOD SHINE YOUR LIGHT ON THIS
BEAUTIFUL YOUNG MAN HOWARD G.GELLING JR.AND MAY HE REST IN PEACE WITH GOD AND HIS ANGELS.GOD BLESS HIS FAMILY AND FRIENDS.GOD BLESS AMERICA AND NEW YORK AND MAY WE NEVER FORGET 9/11/01..MAY ALL THE
SAINTS MEET YOU AT THE GATES OF HEAVEN..AMEN
Marie Eppolito
January 7, 2002
Finding this site has me feeling a range of emotions. There are no words that are appropriate. Howard was a student of Saint Mark`s Elementary School in Brooklyn,NY I remember a bright, handsome and kind boy who was only 8 when he was in my class. I am so proud of Howard`s accomplishments. It was heart-warming to see the lovely comments left by all who have visited here. Dear Gelling family,
all of you are in my prayers and in the prayers of all the children in our school. God Bless you and please contact us at St. Mark`s if you need anything. Respectfully, Marie Eppolito St. Mark`s School
Edward Tracy
January 3, 2002
I had the pleasure of meeting Howard on the golf course two years ago through another Sandler employee. Howard was a true gentleman and an absolute pleasure to have in the foursome. Our prayers are with our friends from Sandler and other Americans lost in the disaster.
Teresa Jahn
December 30, 2001
We are very sorry for your loss of Howard. May his life and love live on in those who love him. Our hearts cry with you.
America Cries
We see your sorrow-
and our hearts cry....
We can not erase your pain
but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-
-the American people-
are beside you.
We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,
the strength that gives you courage,
and the words to lighten your spirits.
And when we are left speechless
may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts
to ease your sorrow.
May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-
-the American people-
face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn
Dixon, IL
Sara Lofton
December 30, 2001
Hi, I am a 15 year old girl who recived a mercyband for Christmas from my Aunt. She also ha sone herself and so does my grandmother and cousin. Whenever i irelized exactly what this was ifelt tears well up in my eyes. I am proud to wear this band on my wrist in memory of someone who died in the world trade center but who will live in peoples hearts forever. sincerly, Sara Lofton
Jenni Stork
December 25, 2001
My family and I just completed opening gifts Christmas morning. The most heartwarming gift I received was from my parents - a silver bracelet bearing the name of Howard G. Gelling. The bracelet is part of Mercy Bands - an effort started by a pastor's wife in Albuquerque, New Mexico, to encourage all of us to keep the victims and loved ones of 9/11 in our prayers. I wanted to know more about Howard, as I will be remembering him and his family and friends in my prayers, so I came to this site. I found out that he was just my age - 28 - and left a dear, precious wife and family behind. My prayers will be with you, Christine, and all of Howard's family and friends. May God bless each one of you in your lives, and mat He gently press on your hearts sweet remembrances of Howard and the difference he made in your lives. God bless each of you.
In Christ,
Jenni
Melissa Rizzo
December 19, 2001
I knew Howard through business dealings between our companies. In such a stressful position, Howard was unlike the other people on the Trading Desk. He was kind, sweet, optimistic. He spoke often of his wife, who was going to school, and we talked about buying houses and having families. I actually got the opportunity to meet Howard in person at the 2000 U.S. Open (Tennis) and we played golf together on a Sunday morning at Kissena Park Golf Club. Howard was the only person I knew that actually made time to go to church before teeing off. I guess he was that type of guy. We joked around, calling him a "boyscout".
I think of Howard often, and consider myself fortunate for knowing him. I will never forget him, because you just don't meet people like him often. You have my most heart-felt sympathies and condolences.
Peggy Clement
October 22, 2001
Even though I did not know you, you are in my thoughts daily.
God bless your family and God bless America.
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