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Stephanie Irby Obituary
Stephanie Irby would have fit right in on the Starship Enterprise.
"Her collection of `Star Trek' videotapes just blew my mind," said Addison Irby, an older brother. As soon as a tape was released, she bought it. "When I tried to debate with her about what Captain Kirk did, she would take out a tape, find the exact spot and show me that I was wrong," he said.
Ms. Irby, 38, an accountant for Marsh & McLennan, who always wore "a big, bright smile," microwaved the food for her dog, Charlie, a golden retriever, said Kenneth Irby, another older brother. And she doted on her 2-year-old niece, Cecelia Melton.
Ms. Irby, who was single, shared a house in Queens with Cecelia and her mother, Stephanie's older sister, Pam Irby.
"Stephanie was like a second mother to Cecelia," Kenneth said. "Before she died, she was about to use her own savings to open up a college fund account for the baby."
On Sept. 11, Stephanie Irby had planned to take the day off, but "she was too conscientious to miss work," Kenneth Irby said. "In the last minute, she decided to go in."
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The Kindred Family
November 7, 2018
Sending our heartfelt sympathy for your loss. With each new day may God give the help needed to cope. Words will never remove the pain of losing someone loved but they do show that others still do care about your family. Stephanie will always be sadly missed. May the time finally come when acts of violence like these will end.
La Verne Belton
September 11, 2017
Stephanie you will always be missed. Rest in the arms of Jesus! See you in the rapture.
Lasharol Robbins
June 30, 2015
Stephanie will always live our hearts. We went to the same church and she was a beautiful person.
delois lawrence
September 11, 2012
Stephanie we will never forget. Rest in peace until we meet again Cousin Dee Laqwrence
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JacquelynAnn Irby
September 11, 2012
We all miss you so much.
Jacquelyn Ann Irby 9.11.12
Alicia Fieldings
September 8, 2012
Stephanie I'm still missing ya Lady. You're in a better place, but how you left us was just wrong. I will see you again no doubt.
Judy Smith
September 11, 2011
Stephanie, I remember the day I moved on 109th Rd in 1974. You came over, introduced yourself (lied about your age)and introduced me to Pam.Memorable times .. In GOD's house .. R.I.P.
delois lawrence
September 2, 2011
Stephanie I will never forget my God be with you and keep you in his arms
Your Cousi Delois
Robert Porter
September 11, 2010
Stephanie having grown up with you and living right next door to you and your family - Personally made 9/11 hit home more than it already had. Your memory will always live on in the Porter household. Love you. And the Irby family from the Porter family our prayers are with you.
August 7, 2010
To My Sister, I miss you today more than yesterday. Everyday it grows. I Love You very much Rest in Peace. Addison
Felice Jackson
January 16, 2009
i was only 10 years old when i found out about your death and i was truly heartbroken. i've known you my whole life and im deeply saddened about you not being here with us anymore. i truly love and miss u.
Bernadette Ayers
February 28, 2007
It is really sad that i had to find out so many years later that a friend that i went to high school with lost her life on 9/11 my deepest sympathy to her family.
P Tabbernor
November 14, 2006
In remembrance....
Kristine
November 6, 2006
As I cross-stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.
Michele Haynes
August 20, 2005
There aren't enough words to describe what a beautiful person Stephanie was. She lit up a room everytime she entered. If you were sad she knew just the right words to say. She will be greatly missed.
My mother (Helen) & I send our deepest sympathy to her family.
May she forever rest in peace. God bless.
Jennifer Summers
September 16, 2003
I did not have the pleasure of meeting you but I know that from what I hear and read you were an awesome person with a great pesonality. God Bless
Nikki Joseph
September 11, 2003
Steffie was one of my closest friends. She invited me into her home when I wasn't sure where I was going to live. She was the angel on my shoulder always encouraging me in the Lord. I will always miss her and Carlito-the nickname we shared for her dog Charlie. She was an awesome friend. I look forward to see her when I am caught up with Jesus.
With all my love
Nikki
donna armstrong
September 11, 2003
God bless you. You are an angel always and are with the angels love donna
aida summers
September 11, 2003
as I never had the chance to meet you , i always heard what a wonderful person with a great heart .....God bless, and I hope to meet you some day....
Pat Hodelin
September 11, 2003
Stephanie was my best friend. She was more like a sister than a friend.Her heart was as big as her smile. I will never forget all the times we prayed, laughed and cried together. I won't ever forget our song " Steffie and Patti - they be Jammin'" I am still kicking myself wishing we would have taken that day off as we planned. I am looking forward to seeing you at the pearley gates. I thank God for the friendship we were allowed to have and all the memories that still get me through some good and bad days.
"Thank you for allowing His hand to touch your life so that his love could touch my life through you" - Roy Lessin
"That which was from the beginning, which we have heard, which we have seen with our eyes, which we have looked at and our hands have touched, this we proclaim concerning the word of Life." 1John1:1
- You are gone but not forgotten
we'll be jammin' around God's throne together - in a little while.
see you later cutiepuff!
Charisse Jackson
October 24, 2002
I also knew Stephanie aka "Irby" my children and I fondly remember her and her dog Charlie. We lived several houses away from each other and attended the same church. We will miss her and pray God's peace in her family's lives.
Lorraine Monsanto
September 13, 2002
Until today it was just a speculation that we lost a family member to the WTC attacks, but its been confirmed we lost a cousin and her name is Stephanie V. Irby.
Although she was a distant cousin, family is family and the Pettways run deep. My Grandfather was Willie Pettway of Alabama and my Mother is Ida Walters.
You know CUZ we are the same age and its a shame of how close but yet so far we were, you in Queens and me in Brooklyn. God how I wish I knew you .
Lisa Taylor
August 14, 2002
I will never forget you Stephanie. You were my very first friend on 109th Road. I love & miss you, but I know I'll see you again one day. :-)
W.K. Stewart
July 1, 2002
We will never forget you Stephanie.
February 4, 2002
DEAR GOD SHINE YOUR LIGHT ON THIS BEAUTIFUL YOUNG WOMAN..MAY SHE REST IN PEACE WITH GOD AND HIS ANGELS.GOD BLESS HER FAMILY AND FRIENDS..STAY CLOSE AND NEVER FORGET 9/11/01..GOD BLESS AMERICA AND NEW YORK ...MAY GOD AND ST.STEPHAN GREET YOU AT THE GATES OF HEAVEN..AMEN
Kimberly Boyette
January 29, 2002
There are no words.
Alan and Elisabeth Alameda
January 27, 2002
To the Family:
We are profoundly sorry at your loss. May she rest at peace.
Suse Dodson
January 26, 2002
In the midst of my own "normal" and often mundane activities, on occaision certain things intervene that powerfully reframe the ways I think about life. Clearly, September 11th was one such intervention. So, how does one respond to your loss? What I can say initially and most confidently is this: Your wonderful memories will continue to comfort you. Thank you for sharing her life with us.
RIOS JOSE
January 26, 2002
THANKS
Danielle
January 25, 2002
Stephanie sounded like a wonderful person:) My prayers are with her family and friends.
Batya Yisrael
January 25, 2002
I never knew Stephanie...but, both she and her friends and family are in my prayers. Batya...fellow trekker
Teresa Jahn
December 28, 2001
We are very sorry for your loss of Stephanie. Her big beautiful smile must be a reflection of her heart. May Stephanie's life and love live on in those who love her. Our hearts cry with you.
America Cries
We see your sorrow-
and our hearts cry....
We can not erase your pain
but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-
-the American people-
are beside you.
We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,
the strength that gives you courage,
and the words to lighten your spirits.
And when we are left speechless
may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts
to ease your sorrow.
May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-
-the American people-
face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn
Dixon, IL
Janet Conner
December 3, 2001
I am so sorry for your loss of Stephanie. I have her Mercy Band and I will keep all of you in daily prayer. Matthew 5:4 promises comfort for those who mourn. Please remember that as you remember Stephanie. May God comfort you and strengthen you at this time.
Janet Conner
Sandra Irby
October 17, 2001
Stephanie was my aunt, and she was truly a great person. She will be missed more than anyone can imagine.
Rachael Muratore
October 6, 2001
Dear Stephanie,
We are all praying for you and for all who lost their lives on Sept. 11th. Memory Eternal!
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