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Steven Howell Obituary
They met 10 years ago on the Staten Island Ferry on a half-hour ride to Lower Manhattan. She was a secretary. He was a technician, the fellow who often got beeped when computers at Marsh USA went on the blink.
And although they married two summers ago, Steven L. Howell and Debra Upton still behaved like newlyweds. The weekend before Sept. 11, he surprised his wife with three days at Mount Airy Lodge, a Poconos resort famous for its heart-shaped tubs. The resort, which shut down in October, was on its last legs, but she took no notice. "We loved being with each other," Ms. Upton said.
On Sept. 11, the express bus from Staten Island dropped them off at 8:15. He reported to the 97th floor of 1 World Trade Center. She went to the 40th floor of 2 World Trade. They had been apart all of 15 minutes when she called to see how his day was going.
When the first plane hit, she said, she made it out, but he never had a chance. Lost, too, was his best friend, Martin Giovinazzo, who was hired by Marsh about a year ago.
Mr. Howell, 36, who left Ms. Upton with a roomful of Nascar collectibles, was helping support his father, so they were not sure they would have children. "He was my kid," his wife said.
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Theresa Flores
October 21, 2016
My condolence
Theresa Flores
October 21, 2016
I'm sending my condolences theres
Brandy Howell
September 12, 2013
Steven, although its been 12 years, your Baltimore Maryland family misses you. Brandy Howell.
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May 10, 2011
I was in between building one and two under ground when the first plane hit the south tower, I ran as fast as I could to get out, later even before the buildings collapsed I felt guilty that i thought of myself and ran out passing others that could not run as fast,, if any thing I learned to treat others as you want to be treated and unwrap each new day like a precious gift,, thank you navy seals for bringing justice to all the victims and their families,, jim heidenthal nj
September 11, 2009
deb my number is 8057055907 ca time i will get that best photo that i have and put it in
September 11, 2009
to deb i am one of the three brothers that you will know john lee james halliwell will always mis we had a great time growing up .the three clowns that will never be the same i send my love to you .in is heart he a a sister and dad that love him and and had to put up with use .if one was hurtthe other two felt it .i will always will miss him and so will john. this goes out to steve i give my knife slower so he will come out first .he could never bet me when it came to who could pull it out faster love you steve miss the hair love jimmyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy
Two great buds Steve and Mike Piazza! RIP my friends
John Paul Carrero
March 10, 2009
Steve, As I get ready to put together my slide show for everyone we knew, I find so many great pics of YOU! Not a day goes by without a thought of You!!!!!!! Miss Ya Bro!
Rob Donlin
January 9, 2008
Renee,
I know that words are inadequate at a sad time like this, but know that your friends are keeping you and your family in our thoughts and prayers.
Doug Abraham
November 4, 2007
Happy Birthday!!!
Will Bellach
September 11, 2007
I still have that picture of us, me, you and Steve F. when we went to Seaside... and I stil can't believe that its been 6 years that you're not here with us, but you'll never be forgotten! Will
P Tabbernor
November 11, 2006
In memory....
Kristine
November 6, 2006
As I cross-stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.
Jean Boyle
September 11, 2006
Dear Debbie, My heart goes out to you on this 5th anniversary of 9/11. Please know that you and Steve are always in my thoughts and prayers.
Jean Boyle
September 11, 2003
My Dear Debby-Debs,
Two years have gone by and I can't believe it. God Bless You and Stevie.....you are both always in my prayers, I love you.
Jean
Terry Canning-Steller
September 13, 2002
It's been a year and still words fail me. I only knew Steve through Debbie's words, but I know he had to be a terrific guy and that he and Debbie made a wonderful couple. Debbie, you are often in my thoughts and I hope each passing day becomes a little less painful for you. God bless you both.
kris allen
September 11, 2002
Dear Deb,
You do not know me but you are in my thoughts and prayers.This evening, my daughter and I will join with people around the world to sing Mozart's Requiem in honor of the victims of September 11. As we sing,each of us will wear our everyday work clothes and a heart-shaped pin bearing the name of someone who perished.I wanted to let you know that I have been given Steve's name to wear and that I will think of him as I sing. I will think of you as well and hope that the heartfelt beauty of Mozart's music sung by ordinary people will touch your heart and help in some small way.
Sincerely,
Kris Allen
They Earned Their Wings
Loretta
September 10, 2002
I am so very sorry for your great loss.I didn't know Steve but I can feel the sorrow that you feel & my heart is with you always. I suppose you could say ....I am a friend of a friend & I just want you all to know that you are in my prayers daily. I pray for you the peace & happiness that Steve would have wanted for both of you. So DW & Deb....soak up a little more sunshine,appreciate the good times with Steve and take a little more time for the little things in life & enjoy the things Steve would have wanted you to enjoy.Take comfort in the fact that you will see him in a place much greater than we can ever imagine.God Bless & Keep you safe...
Love your friend in Christ,
Loretta
Shannon Griffiths
September 10, 2002
Deb,
Though I do not know you I feel as if I do. I am a friend of Dwayne's and he has let us all know of the love he carries for you and Steve. Please know I have prayed for you and thought of you countless times in the past year.
Love, Shannon
Dwayne
September 10, 2002
It's been a year and I still don't understand
I'm still sitting here with an empty hand
Deb has given me things of yours that I can treasure
It means so much and gives me pleasure
As I sit and watch races every week
I think of you and my knee's get weak
I sit and root for Gordon as we did together
but my heart will never come back together
I'll remember you forever as each day passes
Elaine Waddell
September 10, 2002
My prayers and thoughts are with you as the 1st anniversary of this terrible stragedy that happened to you and so many families. God be with you and your family.
MARY JONES
July 16, 2002
Dear Deb-Deb,
You and Steve are always in our thoughts Deb.Nobody can tell you how long it takes to heal,but I know that Steve would want you to try to live your life and to be happy.He will always be there,guiding you through in this crazy world we live in.Jim and I love you very much and miss you.
Angie Campbell
May 1, 2002
May God Bless you and watch over the ones that you left behind on 9/11/01. Rest in peace forever and ever.
February 4, 2002
DEAR GOD SHINE YOUR LIGHT ON THIS BEAUTIFUL KIND MAN STEVEN L.HOWELL AND MAY HIS SOUL REST IN PEACE WITH GOD AND HIS ANGELS..GOD BLESS HIS FAMILY AND FRIENDS..ESPECIALLY HIS WIFE..GOD BLESS AMERICA AND NEW YORK AND MAY WE NEVER FORGET 9/11/01..MAY JESUS AND ST.STEVEN GREET YOU AT THE GATES OF HEAVEN.AMEN
Jean Taylor
January 15, 2002
My Debbie-Debs:
Even though I speak often with you I wanted to leave you something on this page. How beautiful you and Steve's life together was. He will be waiting for you in Heaven always and with you always. God Bless You and Steve - you will be - always - together.
Ceil Gasior
January 13, 2002
Deb,
I left TPW on September 6th, but I just recently learned about the loss of your husband, Steve. I'm terribly, terribly sad. I did not know him, but having known you I know he must have been a terrific guy. God Bless and keep you. Take care. Ceil
Nasir Abdullah
January 1, 2002
Deb,
Steve taught me how to survive in this computer business when we were working together. For that I am forwever grateful.
He also honked his trucks 18 wheller horn at me and scared heck out of me.
My wife and I used to ride the ferry with you two and we always said what a wonderful couple you made.
Knowing Steve he would want your life to be happy and full, with as few tears as possible. We pray it will be so.
Love & Peace
Nasir & Khadijah Abdullah
Teresa Jahn
December 28, 2001
We are very sorry for your loss of Steven. Our hearts cry with you.
America Cries
We see your sorrow-
and our hearts cry....
We can not erase your pain
but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-
-the American people-
are beside you.
We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,
the strength that gives you courage,
and the words to lighten your spirits.
And when we are left speechless
may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts
to ease your sorrow.
May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-
-the American people-
face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn
Dixon, IL
Jim Del Vecchio
December 20, 2001
Deb-
I worked with Steve on a daily basis. I never met him in person but I certainly knew him through work. I want you to know how sorry I am about your loss. You and your family are constantly in my and my families prayers.
Jim
Marylynn Marcinek
November 17, 2001
Deb,
I was so saddened to learn that you lost your husband. Please accept my deepest sympathy and please email me or call me. I have tried to track you down in the past without success. I would really love to talk to you, and do whatever I can for you. I miss you. Love, Marylynn
Sandra Hetzel
November 5, 2001
Steve, I will miss you. I will let everyone at PR High know what happened.
Dwayne
October 21, 2001
As I live my life without my friend
I wonder why it had to end
I take everyday as best I can
because I have lost my best friend
God has him now right under his hand
as I wish I could still hold his hand.
God Bless Steve I will love you for ever
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