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Debbie Mannetta Obituary
Debbie and Kenny Mannetta had what they wanted. Their only aspiration was to keep it. "We had both lost parents," said Mr. Mannetta, a police sergeant on the Upper West Side. "We wanted to see our children grow up."
Their home was a brown Cape in Islip, on Long Island, where they strolled after dinner with 1-year-old Ashley and 3-year-old Jessica. Since Mrs. Mannetta was working part time at Carr Futures, they arranged their schedules so one or the other was home with the girls. Every summer, they vacationed at a lakeside family camp in New Hampshire. "People asked: 'Why go to New Hampshire every year?' 'Why go to the same restaurant?' " he said. "Because we knew what we liked and did it."
Both were unabashedly sentimental, becoming weepy at the sight of Jessica at nursery school or their hundredth viewing of "On Golden Pond." "We're here today, together.' " Mr. Mannetta said. "We knew what was important. Until Sept. 11th turned my home into a house."
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Joseph Reale
September 10, 2023
it’s been 22 Years since 9-11. I remember working with Kenny and working that day. Kenny I think about you often and your girls Ashley and Jessica. May Debbie rest in Peace and I hope you are all doing ok Kenny
We all love you .
Gone but never forgotten
Tom H
September 8, 2023
Debbie ... you will always be remembered. Thoughts are with your family and friends.
Maria Notaro/Vonnoh
September 12, 2021
20 years gone but never forgotten
Joe Reale
September 14, 2019
Kenny cant believe its been 18 years always think about you , Debbie, Jessica and Ashley . Im Still in the 20 hope one day we can meet up again brother. Stay safe say hi to family. May god bless you and your family.
Love joe reale and family .
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Jackie Schulz
September 14, 2019
Still think of you alot. I wish we could have spoken again before May you RIP. Miss you I have seen pictures of your beautiful girls. Can't believe it has been 18 years and when they read your name makes me cry ♥
Linda My.ott
September 13, 2019
Another year of being deprived of Debbies presence as she walked around the neighborhood with her girls. Always smiling and waving and stopping to pet or hug my dog Curly who loved her back. The girls are grown now, Kenny did a fine job and I no longer have my Curly, but life goes on. But not the same and not the way we would have chosen it. We have no choice but to accept what has happened and go on. Dear DebbIe and Kenny, Jessica and Ashley, we are so sorry you did not get to live the life that you were supposed to live. But I know that with your Father you are living a beautiful, full and loving life and your Mother is watching over you. Your Parents are both holding you close to them.
Linda and Bob Mylott
Faye Moratti
September 12, 2019
Think of you often!
Angela Sanguedolce
September 12, 2019
The candle was lit... Never forgotten.. xo
Maria Notaro Vonnoh
September 11, 2019
Still in our hearts. Always remembered.
The Kindred Family
October 31, 2018
Sending our heartfelt sympathy to your family. Daily may God continue to give the needed help to cope with such a great loss. Debbie will always be fondly remembered. May the time exist when these acts of violence will be a thing of the past and loved ones never have to be separated from each other.
Maria (Notaro) Vonnoh
September 12, 2018
We will never forget. Kenny the girls are beautiful just like there mom!
September 11, 2018
We remember Debbie very well. She was very friendly. Her picture is out as it is every September 11. We occasionally see Kenny and the girls, who are now young women, walking in our neighborhood. I don't have words to express my sorrow and grief over her murder. I wish happiness and peace to all the families and friends who lost loved ones on September 11. We will never forget them.
Linda and Bob Mylott
Islip
September 11, 2018
Still remembered... still in our minds and heart.xo
Faye M.
September 10, 2018
Still think of you all the time old friend!!!!
Joe Reale
January 23, 2018
Kenny always thinking about you brother been a long time since we spoke and I don't even know where you are . Stay safe and be strong everyday . Reach out to the cmd would love to talk ...
Maria Vonnoh
September 11, 2017
Remembering you on this day. Xoxo
Maria
September 11, 2016
I cannot believe it's been 15 yrs. You are still and will always be in our hearts! Love Maria and girls xoxo ❤
September 11, 2016
Kenny,
Bob and I remember Debbie often. She was so sweet and we are so sorry this happened. We see you and the girls in the neighborhood. You have done a wonderful job and Debbie would be proud and happy that you have taken such wonderful care of your daughters.
Linda and Bob Mylott
joe Reale
September 9, 2016
Kenny I remember this day as if it was yesterday standing next to you .... I will never forget Debbie , Jessica , Ashley and you Kenny . Be strong for your beautiful girls , Debbie is part of them and I'm sure you see her in them.... I will never forget her beautiful smile and her favorite song from Winnie the Pooh forever and ever , that song sits in my head and from time to time I will tear listening to it ... May God bless you and your family Kenny and I'm sorry you have to continue to go through this .... You will be together again one day until then live life to its fullest and never forget the memories ... With love always the Reale family
September 11, 2015
14 yrs have gone by and your always on our minds. You are so missed! Forever in our hearts!
Love Maria, Nic and Ness
Maria Notaro
September 11, 2014
Forever in our hearts! xoxo
Love you always! Maria and girls
Christine Shaw
September 11, 2014
We will never forget. My prayers are with the family.
S J. Friscia III
July 30, 2014
In memory
With Honor & Respect.
Laurie Lyons
April 25, 2014
Read the legacy page and very moved. I pray for peace for your family.
February 5, 2014
Happy Birthday to Debbie. I think of you and your family often. We had such fun times at work. I have two little girls of my own now and my heart breaks to know what your daughters lost. I hope they are happy and have your personality.
Carolyn Dunn Ibrahim
Mya Gerry
September 20, 2013
I'm really sorry you had to go like this. :(
September 11, 2013
Remembered. Always
Frank & Diana Tamburello
September 11, 2013
God bless you and family Kenny, A prayer for your wife, family, kids and for all those who perished on that day, we will never forget
Jackie Schulz
September 11, 2013
I can't believe it is 12 years. I have been seeing pictures of your beautiful girls from Ralph. You are truly missed! miss and love you
September 11, 2013
Your a beautiful angel! Your in our hearts! Love Maria and the girls
Christine Shaw
September 11, 2013
Kenny, I am praying for you & your family today. God bless all of you.
Angela Sanguedolce
September 10, 2013
Hi Deb, the candle will be lit. Still can't believe this... Still... Send special signs to Kenny and your beauties ok? Hate this day... Xoxo
Jackie Schulz
September 12, 2012
Hello again Debbie!! I keep you and your family in my prayers! God Bless you all and your daughters are absolutely beautiful but that would be expected with you as their mom!! Till we meet again - love you and miss you!
Angela Sanguedolce
September 12, 2012
It was lit with your picture right next to it..keep sending signs to kenny and your girls..it keeps them and all of us going down here.. Beautiful angel Deb..
Dorothy Moore
September 11, 2012
For Debbie a beautiful angel in heaven
Dorothy Moore
September 11, 2012
Remembering you today and always we will never forget you. God bless Kenny and the girls.
Christine Ippolito- Shaw
September 11, 2012
Remembering you today, My prayers are with your family & friends.
We will never forget.
Maria Notaro
September 11, 2012
Forever in our prayers,thoughts and hearts.Love Maria and the girls
Nikki Huth
September 10, 2012
My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. May peace be with you.
Carolyn Dunn
February 5, 2012
Debbie-
Remembering you today and every day. Thinking of your family as well, especially the girls.
Carolyn Dunn
September 12, 2011
Didnt forget you Deb_ just too empty to put it into words. Still in my heart with the candle lit as promised on my mantle. xo
September 11, 2011
Dear Debbie,
I miss you.
We will remember you forever.
Rose Moniaci & Family
September 11, 2011
Deb, I can't believe it has been 10 years! Feels like yesterday we saw each other! We saw your Dad at memorial yesterday and it brought back so many memories. I was telling my daughter and friends about the good times at the bank and New Years Eve at John Anthony's and even Lorraines surprise birthday party! And your expression when your limo driver pulled up on your wedding day! I will cherish those memories forever! Miss you Deb! You will never be forgotten!
love you, Maria
September 10, 2011
I think of you every year and my heart breaks your gone and my heart goes out to your family . You were an amazing person and I was very fortunate to have known you. You will always be in my heart! Love and prayers, Jenn Clarke Lieberz
September 10, 2011
Ten years have gone by. The sadness has not gone away.You will always be in our hearts.
Your cousins in Connecticut,
Maria (Ascoli), Tom, Scott & Laura Hudson
Jackie Schulz
September 9, 2011
I cannot believe that it is 10 years now. I have seen pictures of your girls and they are growing to beautiful young ladies (of course with you as their mom). You are missed and I hope someday we will see each other!! Love you - Jackie "Liggio" Schulz
Ralph and Kathie Ascoli
September 8, 2011
Dear Little Cousin,
We will never forget you and vividly remember you growing up into a beatiful, fine young lady. Our hope is that someday we will meet again. We love you.
Betty Longley (Holzer)
September 5, 2011
You were my cousin. We never met but I saw things you had written to my mother and loved you for them. You made her less lonely and gave her a sense of family. Your mother was my big cousin, whom I adored. Like her, you were beautiful and gentle, I think. All I have are a couple of emails from you and the hope, now gone, that we would meet someday. I love you and will never forget you. Somehow the light that you were still shines.
Allison Jeran
August 9, 2011
I never knew Debbie, but I can see the legacy of love left behind in her beautiful, kind daughters and her devoted husband.
Barbara Cross Brucculeri
July 20, 2011
Always Remembered. Never Forgotten. Fun times @ North Babyon High School. You made me laugh so many times in math class.
Laurie Getrost
March 29, 2011
I wrote this for you Debbie, 10 years ago.
We will always remember your smiling face,
Your sense of humor, your warm embrace,
Your love for life your spirit strong,
We ask ourselves, how will we go on?
You will always shine bright in what you have left behind,
In your litle girls eyes, we will find....
Calmness, Strength, a part of you.
This will give us the faith in what we shall do.
I'll miss the talks, the times, the laughter you gave.
We all have something special from you in our hearts to save.
So the gifts you have left in our souls will remain, and at times they may ease some of the pain.
The memories we have are here to stay, No one can take them away.
So dance with the angels in heaven above,
A paradise you have found,
A much greater love.
In our hearts forever,
Cousin Sherry
September 11, 2010
Deb,
Each time I see Jessica and Ashley, I see you. Kenny is amazing with the girls. Keep watching over everyone.
Everyone misses you terribly.
Jackie Schulz
September 11, 2010
Debbie I am still thinking of you always - I just found my autograph book that I had everyone sign when I moved to PA and it made me cry at what you wrote - you were the BEST and I so wish I would have been able to talk to you!! I have seen your daughters pictures and they are beautiful girls you must be so proud!! God Bless you and your beautiful family! Love you :)
Jackie Schulz
February 8, 2010
Deb - I just wanted to write you I know that I am a couple of days late but I wanted to wish you a very happy 40th birthday. We really miss you and love you!! May God Bless Kenny and your beautiful girls.
Maria
September 11, 2009
Debbie,
Eight years and it still doesnt seem real.I remember calling your house that day only to hear Chris on the other end telling me you werent home. It seems like yesterday we saw each other at babies r us me with my big pregnant belly and you with the girls looking beautiful as ever.I will never forget you and the great times we had at work. Or getting our nails done. Even New Years Eve at John Anthonys.I am priviledge to have met such a caring and loving person. Miss ya Deb!
Kenny,
My prayers are with you and the girls each and every day.
September 11, 2009
Kenny,
Hoping you and the girls are doing well. Please know you are always in our thoughts and prayers.
Manny & Audrey Lewin
Lisa Walp
September 11, 2009
Keeping you & your family in our thoughts today.
Christie Floridia (formerly Parisi)
September 10, 2009
Hi Kenny, Jessica & Ashley,
I hope you are all doing well and get through this time by knowing how much Debbie is loved, missed & remembered....I think of her often but today I found myself @ New beginnings Preschool w/ my 3 yr and Mrs. Johnstone mentioned the Debbie Mannetta Scholarship during orientation...I got chills up and down my spine! Like a flood I remembered meeting her when Jessica & Andrew were in the same class, talking and hanging out during the school functions....mostly her smile filled my memories!
All my love to you! I will ALWAYS remember Debbie!!!
Christine
September 10, 2009
Our prayers go out to you Kenny & your lovely daughters. They have grown up to be such beautiful girls. You are doing a wonderful job raising them.
God Bless you all.
Christine (friend of Debbie's Aunt Rose Getrost)
Jackie Schulz
September 9, 2009
I really cannot believe that it is 8 years that Debbie has been gone. I did not talk to her for a while but I miss her so much she is always in my thoughts and prayers and so are Kenny and his beautiful girls. May God Bless you all!!!
Kenny
September 8, 2009
Thank you for all your thoughts and prayers. We miss her everyday.
September 7, 2009
9/11/09
Here it is eight years later and our hearts are still broken. Our thoughts and prayers will always be with you.
Your Cousins in Connecticut.
Maria(Ascoli), Tom, Scott & Laura
Hudson
Sherry Brightman
November 18, 2008
Dear Kenny,
Just wanted you know that your doing a fabulous job with the girls. You put many women to shame with your intuition, and commitment to your family. Debbie is very proud as well, as I'm sure she's found ways to let you know along the way. You have made it so, that no matter what turns life takes for the girls, they will always have deeply embedded within them, fond, loving memories of their mother. And that is largely because of you. Always remember, Life is for the living, go, live...... remember. I'm always here for you and the girls, Love you all.
Robert Spanarelli
September 15, 2008
Kenny,
My mom, (Carla "Ascoli" Spanarelli), is your father inlaw's cousin. I still have Debbie's picture in my living room. I have three small children myself, and when ever her picture catches my eye I think of you and your girls. I could not imagine what you have gone through these past 7 years. You are a stronger man than I could ever hope to be. I truly pray for you and your family. May God continue to give you strenght and endurance.
God Bless You,
The Spanarellis
Rob, Julie
Zachary, Giovanni & Carmella Sofia
Christine Ippolito - Shaw
September 12, 2008
Thinking and praying for you & your family at this 7 yr. anniversary.
God Bless you
Christine (friend of Debbie's Aunt Rose)
Maria
September 12, 2008
Debbie I can't believe it's been 7 years.It doesn't seem real.You are missed so much.You are always on my mind and will forever be our beautiful angel.Love ya Deb!!
Angela Sanguedolce- Grogan
September 11, 2008
Another day, another month, another year... and it still hurts so much. I can only hope you are doing ok. I try and tell myself to stop thinking about it when my mind re-lives that disgusting day, but I can never seem to get Debbies face out of my mind. As usual and for 7 years now the candle is lit. Just wanted to remind you that time did not make me forget you.
All my Love,
Frederick Groser
September 11, 2008
Ken and Kids,
Thoughts and prayers are with you today and many other days.
Regards,
Fred
Lisa Losso
September 11, 2008
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this anniversary.
Jackie Schulz
September 11, 2008
I don't understand but each year that goes by it is more and more hard to know that Debbie is gone. She was such a great person. I pray everyday for her family and especially today. The thing that gets me through this is to know that there is a beautiful angel on our side. May God Bless you on this day especially.
Jackie Schulz
Summer 2001
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Debbie and girls July 01
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mechele Turza Palmer
September 11, 2008
Debbie touched so many lives
So many pray each day for her girls......She was a dear family friend
Christie Floridia
September 11, 2007
Kenny, Jessica and Ashley,
I wish you all the love and strength in the world. My son Andrew went to New Beginnings w/Jessica. the girls were 3 and 1 then. I can only imagine how big and beautiful they have gotten. I wanted to let you know how very much Debbie is loved and missed and not just today. I think of her often. I can't believe that is has been 6 years already. Girls live a happy and loving life as your mother lives through you two.
all my love
Christie (then Parisi)
Lisa Walp
September 11, 2007
For she's an angel up above.
Who brought us laughter and made us feel loved.
She made us smile, but then brought us to tears, but we'll see her again in the coming years.
So God give us strength, help us to be strong, give us the courage so that we may carry on.
And until the next time when we meet again, tell her we love her, Debbie, our friend.
-Never Forget-
Kenny Mannetta
September 11, 2007
Thank You for your thoughts and prayers. Debbie had such a way about her that will never be forgotten. Thank you for keeping her memory alive.
The girls are doing great. Jessica's 9 and Ashley's 7 now. They are involved with so many activities, and though we all have our moments of deep sadness, we are living and appreciating what we do have. You have helped us to do that.
Thank you again,
Kenny Mannetta
Allie Groser
September 11, 2007
Kenny Jessica and Ash;
Just want you to know I am thinking of you always and I am especially with you today. I miss her everyday and love you all.
Teresa Pappas
September 11, 2007
You are all in our thoughts and prayers on this day and always.
Susan & Gino Spanarelli
Teresa & Ashley Pappas
Christine
September 11, 2007
Dear Kenny, even though you do not know me I just wanted to let you know that you & your daughters are in my thoughts & prayers always.
(I am a good friend of Debbie's Aunt Rose)
God bless you
Audrey Lewin
September 11, 2007
Hi Kenny,
Just wanted to let you know Manny & I are thinking about you and your family on this day. We hope you and the girls are doing well.
Lots of love,
The Lewin Family
Jackie Schulz
September 11, 2007
Debbie - Hello again - I cannot believe it has been six years. I still keep in touch with Chris every once in a while. Your death has proven that life is too short and you should keep your loved ones close. I really and truly miss you even though we did not talk for a long time. I hope your husband and girls are doing good. Miss you alot! Love ya always Jackie
Maria Notaro
September 11, 2007
You are forever in our hearts.Six years have gone by and it still doesn't seem real.Debbie you are so missed.I was going through some pictures and came across the pictures I took of you on your wedding day. And I came across the picture of you and the limo driver.I remember how much we laughed that day about "The Limo Driver".You are forver in my heart Deb.Love Ya!
Maria Hudson
September 8, 2007
Six years later and our hearts are still broken for all of you.
Your cousins in Connecticut.
Maria, Tom, Scott & Laura Hudson
Ken Johnston
April 13, 2007
Please know that we are still remembering your wife Debbie and those that lost their lives on that tragic day.
March 28, 2007
I worked with Debbie and while we did not know one another very well, she was always very sweet and I remember how much her daughters looked like her when she would bring them into the office.
It was obvious how proud she was of them.
Lori Robinette
February 6, 2007
Dear Kenny,
I hope this finds you, Jessica & Ashley well. I think of you and Debbie often. Not long before 9/11 we made contact with each other and I saw beautiful pictures of your angels. She told me she had started working part time. I still cannot believe 5+ years later that she is gone. We grew up together, all of us, and it was such wonderful news to hear that you & Debbie were together after so many youthful years! Please know you are always in my thoughts no matter how much time or distance has come between us. Love & prayers always, Lori Gulotta (Robinette)
P Tabbernor
December 22, 2006
In remembrance....
Kristine
November 14, 2006
As I cross-stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.
Jackie Schulz
September 12, 2006
Kenny, Jessica and Ashley
Yesterday really brought back the feelings of that horrible day 5 years ago. I really wish that Debbie was here to talk to again. I really miss her. I hope that you all are doing well and my prayers are with you always. God Bless you and God Bless Debbie who was a wonderful girl!!
Angela Sanguedolce-Grogan
September 12, 2006
Still thinking of you every day.
As I promised, a candle was lit all day for you. Anger still has me even 5 years later and I wish you were here with your girls and Kenny.
Never to be forgotten... ever
With Love all the time,
Maria Notaro
September 11, 2006
Kenny,Jessica & Ashley,
I cannot believe it's been 5 yrs already.Our thoughts and prayers are with you all today and always.I hope you and the girls are doing good.Deb you are missed so very much.The last 4 yrs I have watched the WTC memorial on Sept 11th and today was my first day back to work.Knowing I would miss them saying your name I was so upset.But something told me to go to Dunkin Donuts for a cup of coffee.And when I turned on the car I heard them say your name.I felt as if you sent me a sign.You are forver in my heart Deb.And your picture will forever stay on our mantle.
My Friend is an Angel!
Miss you!
Love Maria,Tony,Nicolette and Vanessa Notaro
eric lockovitch
September 6, 2006
I will be reading Debbie's name this year on 9/11. I want to understand the story behind each name I read. I know how it feels to hear their name read that day.
Jackie Schulz
September 13, 2005
I cannot believe that it has been 4 years that Debbie was taken from all of us. I hope that the memorial went well on Sunday and I am thinking about you Deb everyday-I also pray for you and your family every Sunday. I really miss you and it makes me feel better that you are looking down on us and helping us through this tough time.
Love ya always
Angela Sanguedolce
September 11, 2005
Kenny, Ashley,& Jessica
As I promised,the candle is burning today all day with Debbies picture that remains a permanent fixture. I will NEVER break my promise no matter how busy life gets. On my mind every single day of my life. Today "rehashed" it all over again and my sadness is as severe as it was 4 years ago. I hope you are ok and I still have hopes of seeing your girls play with my girls someday.
Angela Sanguedolce
September 11, 2005
Kenny, Ashley,& Jessica
As I promised,the candle is burning today all day with Debbies picture that remains a permanent fixture. I will NEVER break my promise no matter how busy life gets. On my mind every single day. Today "rehashed" it all over again and my sadness is as severe as it was 4 years ago. I hope you are ok and I still have hopes of seeing your girls play with my girls someday.
Maria Notaro
September 11, 2005
Dear Kenny,Ashley,Jessica,Mr Ascoli,Ralph and Chris,
Our thoughts and prayers are with you all today.Debbie you are missed so much. There is not a day that goes by that I am always thinking of you and seeing your picture. You will always be the Beautiful Angel looking over all of us.Miss ya Deb!
Love,
Maria Notaro and Family
Jackie Schulz
December 14, 2004
I just wanted to wish everyone in the Mannetta and Ascoli families a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year. I hope all is well and the girls are doing well
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