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Robert Miller Obituary
He was the simple, reserved, all-American type. He would talk, but not for long. Yet if you hit him with a trivia question, you got his attention. He was matchless.
Robert Miller knew his stuff. "He just absorbed a lot," said his wife, Faith. "He was very well versed. He loved sports, especially his Mets and his Jets. He loved food. People called him a restaurant guide. He knew where all the restaurants were and how good they were."
A television buff, he was attracted to good comedy, relishing everything from "The Honeymooners" to Jerry Seinfeld to Howard Stern. He'd sit for hours watching classic movies. Whatever he watched, whatever he read, the information entered his mind and stuck.
"If you needed the answer to a trivia question, you'd call him," said Steven Miller, his brother. "I have trouble remembering my kids' names. He knew everything. TV programs, you name it."
Mr. Miller, 46, was a conferee for the New York State Department of Taxation and Finance, and lived in Old Bridge, N.J., with his wife and two daughters. "He didn't have a sport or a hobby," his wife said. "He didn't fish or paint or anything. My husband was a simple, quiet type of guy who knew a lot."
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S M
September 12, 2023
Never forgotten
Cheryl Bellin
September 11, 2023
When I visited the World Trade Centers in 2018 I took a photo of the memory fountain. Robert Allen Miller is the name in my photo. Each year on 9/11 I pull up his obituary and read it again and say another prayer for his Family. Please know, I WILL NEVER FORGET!!
Ed
September 11, 2019
We'll always remember.
S M
September 10, 2019
You will live on forever in our memory.
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Edward Miller
September 11, 2018
Forever young
S M
September 9, 2018
Not a day passes without you in it.
May 30, 2018
think about you all the time...... you are not forgotten
S M
May 29, 2018
Thinking of you.
Michael Altschuler
October 19, 2017
Dear Faith,
On the morning of September 12, 2001, I was up very early in the morning and noticed how clear the dark sky was and the stars were brilliant and I said a prayer for the souls of all those who were victims of the 9/11 tragedy as well as for their families. While in prayer I was aware that one of the victims sort of spoke to me and said to please tell his wife and children that he loves them very much. I was naturally surprised and I asked him his name and he said Robert Miller. Later that week I tried to look up to see if there was a Robert Miller who was a victim of the 9/11 tragedy and I was quite surprised to find his name. I then tried to get information about him to get in touch with his family and share his words to me but I could not find any family information so I figured that perhaps I wasn't supposed to find them. This morning, October 19, 2017, I looked up at the early morning sky before going to work and it was so very clear with all the stars shining and it reminded me of the morning sky on September 12, 2001. It reminded me of the words that I received many years ago and I thought perhaps I'll google the name and perhaps I'll be able to contact the family with those words that I received 16 years ago. So being prompted by the Holy Spirit I tried again to find some information and that is how I found this site on legacy.com. So I hope that this little note that took 16 years to reach you will provide you some comfort knowing how much he loved you and the children. May God's peace be with you and your family.
Ed
September 11, 2017
E
Ed Miller
June 2, 2017
E
Sean Miller
September 11, 2016
Always on our minds
September 11, 2016
9/11/16
E
June 5, 2016
not forgotten ...Alan D
September 11, 2015
9/11/15 with thoughts of you.
E
S Miller
September 11, 2015
Each and everyday you are part of my life. I will never forget the times we had and our trip to Fl. I hope there is good Chinese up there.
S J. Friscia III
December 29, 2014
In Memory
With Honor & Respect.
Carolyn Eckhaus-Gribben
September 11, 2014
Everyone misses you but you live on through your daughters, nephews, niece and their kids.
September 11, 2014
never forgotten
September 11, 2014
Thinking of ya.
E
S M
September 11, 2014
We will never forget your sacrifice
June 2, 2014
Thinking of you today. So many people miss you.
Carolyn Eckhaus Gribben
E
June 2, 2014
Thinking of you on your birthday, bro.
Sean Miller
June 1, 2014
Happy birthday you are dearly missed
October 17, 2013
I seen your name printed at the site to the twin towers, for some reason it popped up at me. I hope you're resting in peaceM
Sinéad Doyle, Ireland
Carolyn Eckhaus-Gribben
September 13, 2013
Thinking of you and your family. I am honored to have been able to speak with some of them through social media. You will always be missed.
Melanie Wilner
September 11, 2013
My sincere thoughts this day. Faith and Robert attended my wedding 32 years ago; Faith and I were City Univerty New York Brookyn College friends.
alan denkenson
September 11, 2013
thinking about you and are days at Rockaway....some of the best times of my life
September 11, 2013
Thinking of you and your family as I do every September 11. Hoping they have found peace.
September 11, 2013
E
Unknown Unknown
September 11, 2013
Rest in piece forever in our hearts and souls
Sean Miller
September 10, 2013
Your legacy lives through all of us. We will never forget you.
sean miller
April 2, 2013
On my mind
September 11, 2012
missing you more and more as years pass.
Sean Miller
September 11, 2012
Although it's been 11 years is not a day that goes by that we don't think about you your laughter and you jokes rest in peace I hope you and dad doing okay we miss and love you both
sean miller
June 28, 2012
Sitting here thinking of you and Dad. We miss you both so much. We hope you ate at peace . Love you guys
September 12, 2011
never forgotten
Carolyn Eckhaus
September 11, 2011
When Sean was five years old and we were all in Rockaway for the summer, the way you played with him and spoke to him... you were just a great uncle. I knew that you were going to make a terrific father one day. And you did. Though we went our separate ways, memories of you and your heroism are always in my heart.
never forget
September 11, 2011
Uncle Robert rest in peace we will never forget the sacrifice you made for our freedom. We miss and love you.
never forget
September 11, 2011
Uncle Robert rest in peace we will never forget the sacrifice you made for our freedom. We miss and love you.
Tori Smith
September 11, 2011
Sept 11, 2011 I picked your flag from the field of flags at the Broomfield, Colorado 9 11 Memorial. You and your family are in my prayers. We will never forget. (Proud Navy Mom)
sean miller
August 7, 2011
uncle robert is not a day that passes that we don't think about you and dad . I'll never forget our trip to florida visiting grandma and grandpa and pulling tales off the salmanders. We miss u
Sean
alan denkenson
September 16, 2010
miss you robert, you always made me smile
E
September 12, 2010
Still in my heart, bro.
Ellen Clayton
September 9, 2010
To the family.. I am so sorry for your loss ! I cannot begin to understand..My prayers will be for you for strength each day,and Today as the Dedication takes place.I have read many of the condolences..and Robert is in everyones hearts ..even from yrs ago..childhood memories. God Bless you and Robert as he is in God's loving arms..
mike clifton
September 9, 2010
please call me 732-236-6910. they are dedicating a piece of WTC steel sat. 9/11 in Matawan at the Washington Fire Dept on Jackson St. 10:00am
Doug Abraham
June 2, 2009
Happy Birthday!!!
Doug Abraham
June 2, 2008
Happy Birthday!!!
Carolyn Eckhaus Gribben
April 18, 2008
Faith, Dina, and Melanie - I often think of you and how you are doing. I would love to know you better, and I wish you all the best. Faith, as you know, Robert and I dated for 5 years - all through college and grad school for me. When we started going out I was 16 and he was 18. We were each others first true loves. Robert was witty, intelligent,loved to play practical jokes, hi-low, and knew a lot of trivia. But more so he was a loving son to his parents, he used to touch his Mom -Diane's hair lovingly, and spoke to Max - his dad who who were family friends of my family in Rockaway.. How great he was with his nephews-Steven's sons. I knew in my heart that someday he would make a wonderful father. And he did. Robert had so many wonderful friends - from Brooklyn and from Rockaway, where we met. We talked about marriage, but weren't destined to be together. We remained friends from time to time, and filled each other in about our lives.
I talk to my career decision making class about Robert's experiences with college interviews. I also tell them that one day he broke down and said to me I'll never get into accounting - or anything else. I'll have to be a garbage man. I encouraged him. He learned that it's natural to be anxious when leaving college, and HE DID MAKE IT! Until 9/11.. I miss this wonderful man.
Carolyn Eckhaus Gribben
Dina Miller
October 23, 2007
Mommy, Melanie, and I miss you so much. You are the light that guides us.
Doug Abraham
June 2, 2007
Happy Birthday!!!
P Tabbernor
January 3, 2007
In remembrance....
Kristine
October 30, 2006
As I cross-stitched your name on the memorial that I am doing for all of the victims, I prayed for you and your family. Please know that your death was not in vain. We will always remember. God Bless.
Melinda Miller
September 11, 2005
Dear Faith, Dina, and Melanie:
Today I woke up early and was compelled to look up Rob's Legacy Tribute. Please accept my deepest condolences on your terrible loss. I can't imagine how this has affected your lives, and the lives of your family and friends. All I can say is: Faith, you are one of the most beautiful and strong women I have ever met, and I am proud to be your friend. Your lovely daughters have a wonderful mother who loves and cherishes them. Rob must be very proud of you all. He sounds like a wonderful man. My heart aches for your loss.
alan denkenson
September 13, 2004
still think about you alot,hope someday to get an afterlife rematch of the greatest stoop ball game ever played
alan denkenson
September 12, 2003
I still think about Robert often and his loss is still very difficult for me to deal with.I am so glad to have had the pleasure of his friendship and will treasure it always
Cheryl Heinz
September 11, 2003
Dear Faith and Family,
My prayers will always be with you and your family! God Bless
Cheryl
Howard P.
August 30, 2003
As an employee of the NYC Department of Finance, I attended several conferences over the years at which Robert presided as Conferee. I always found him to very fair and honest in the way he approached some very complicated tax issues. His name was the first one I thought of on that terrible day.
alan denkenson
December 26, 2002
Today,as a lark,I put the names of some old Rockaway Beach friends on a search engine.I wish I never did.Robert was my closest summer friend from about 1968 until 1972.We shared a love for sports and gambling.We had a similar outlook on life except Robert was cool while I was always more emotional.The summers I spent in Rockaway were always my favorite times of the year and looking back some of the best times of my life.I lost touch with Robert when I became a little too self-absorbed and more into gambling as he being more mature set off on a more normal well grounded life.I thought of him often and always wanted to keep in touch but never seemed to get around to do so.I hate myself for not trying.I would like to try to write how special I felt Robert was but his friend Lenny did a far better job than I could ever do.I thought I had escaped the horror of 9/11 without suffering any personal loses.How wrong I was.I feel terrible for his family and friends as i'm sure their pain they feel is even worse then the pain I feel as I type today.Robert,I have not spoken to you in over twenty years but I miss you so much.Love Alan
Lenny
September 30, 2002
I've known Rob for about 30 years. I have vague recollections of him in
Erasmus Hall high school because we had some mutual friends back then but I
came to really know him at that other great institution of higher learning;
Roosevelt Raceway. Specifically the first floor grandstand under the tote
board.
We found that we had a lot in common. The horses, sports, Brooklyn childhood
and love of good food especially when served in large quantities. Pretty
soon we were stopping off at Rasputin's Pub in Lynbrook on the way home from
Roosevelt for roast beef on garlic bread sandwiches. When Roosevelt closed
for the season, we headed for Yonkers. Where would we stop on the way home
from Yonkers? Chinatown, where else!
Rob had an amazing knowledge of both Chinese food, and food in general, which
I'll expand on soon.
First I'd like to share some thoughts that Rob's friends, many who go back
further back than I do with him, had to say:
Rob was into all things nostalgic. Old movies and TV shows, Jewish geography
and "where are they now" type of stuff, Catskill comedians, sports and final
jeopardy.
His love of these types of things made him instrumental in reuniting a group
of friends from high school and even earlier. You see Rob really loved the
people he grew up with and never wanted to lose touch with them and those
times.
One friend wrote to me to tell me that he hadn't seen Robert for about 25
years until a recent high school reunion. He and his brother both knew him
from the old days of playing ball together in the Caton Ave Traffic Triangle.
What struck him, after not having seen Rob after a quarter of a century was
that his smile was still the same after almost 25 years. A little bit
mischievous, a bit sly, warm and reassuring.
He stood off to the side of the room, much like he did years ago. Watching,
commenting and urging others on to get into trouble as he reviled in his
deeds!
Another friend expressed that Robert had the gift of truly understanding what
friendship means. His consistency, steadfastness and compassion brought
great joy into her life. It was important to him that all his friends stay
in touch with him and with each other, and he was always willing to go the
distance to do a favor for any of them. She was grateful that she was able
to spend some time with him recently, at the same reunion, watching Dave
Davies perform (badly!), and will never forget how he, along with Faith,
and their daughters, helped her through a very dark time in her life.
Others remembered him and spoke about how much they would miss him.
Consistently he was described as a wonderful friend, even thought of like a
brother. A regular guy, a hamisha guy, a good ole guy.
Kind, thoughtful, sweet, funny, quick, direct, honest, and highly
intelligent. Always with a smile. His opinions to his friends became
increasingly important as they grew older, more experienced, and at times
perhaps even a bit jaded in life. As the idealism of our adolescent years was
replaced with a growing sense of realism, it was Rob to whom many of them
turned to reaffirm our thoughts about life and people. He helped them to
ultimately accept the reality of situations, to recognize our frailties, and
laugh about them.
Consistent, patient, and dependable -- someone who knew what he liked and who
didn't mince words. Independent minded, he didn't need to change his
behavior or opinions to gain acceptance from others.
He had an uncanny ability to recall the smallest minutiae of one's daily
life -- and make you feel important. He was the kind of friend that
remembered important dates and names; one who would email you a birthday
card, inquire about your family, and ask about a meeting that you had
mentioned once briefly, and only in passing.
Robert was the common denominator amongst those from Erasmus Hall High School
class of 1972. The driving force that made sure they would remain steadfast
friends, despite the years and experiences that separated them for a time
period which spanned three decades. There is a beauty in the knowledge that,
if not for him, many of us would not be harboring the friendships we do today
- friendships that cross state lines and span from coast to coast. It is a
testimony to Robert, and a direct result of his efforts, that we have
reconnected with the innocence of our youth. When we think of the good 'old
days, it is Rob that is an integral part of our collective memories. May it
comfort his family to know how much Rob was loved and respected by a part of
his childhood that his girls are experiencing right now.
We are so lucky that we were able to relive many of those memories at our
reunions in recent years. I think all of us can picture Rob right now having
a cute, snide, yet endearing comment as he looks down upon us now from quite
a better vantage point. He is a genuine and honest friend whom we will
always cherish and remember with great affection, respect, and love.
Another friend, knowing Rob since the age of 12, commented that they were
like brothers. He will never forget Rob's clever wit, easygoing style and
unwavering friendship.
I'd like to go back to my relationship with Rob. I too always think of him
smiling and with a wisecrack or quick witticism right on the tip of his
tongue. The man knew every line from everyone of the original Honeymooners
episodes and most of the lines from the Odd Couple too. He could tell you
the exact episode of Superman in which any character appeared. We always
made sure to call each other whenever one of our favorite movies, especially
the old comedies was on, so that we could recite the lines before the actors.
It's amazing how much useless knowledge we both stored. But you know what?
It made us laugh.
I mentioned the racetracks before and there were lots of them. We also
downed a lot of pitchers of beer at Capt. Walters or Davy Jones on a Friday
night, then to the Foursome or Arch Diner at 2 in the morning for a double
cheeseburger deluxe and maybe dessert too. Years later we marveled how we
were able to wake up early the next morning and play softball. One special
night 22 years ago while hanging out with Rob and some of my other buddies at
Capt. Walters, I met my wife for the first time.
The lives of our families have become very intertwined over the years. We've
been to each other's weddings. We've been close at hand for the births of
our children. I've been not only to Dina and Melanie's bat mitzvahs but also
went to the bar mitzvahs of his nephews.
For the past 10 years or so, we've worked in close proximity to each other
and met for lunch frequently. I dare say that we've been to half the all you
can eat salad bars downtown and ¾ of the restaurants in Chinatown. Like I
said before, Rob was an expert on Chinese food. Name a dish and he'll tell
you where they make it the best. Looking for pork buns, sorry Rabbi, Rob
knew the dumpy coffee shop on Bayard St where they had them. Chow Fun; that
was Wo Hop on Mott St but not the one upstairs. You have to go to the one
downstairs. The man was a walking Zagats Restaurant Guide. Another friend
wanted to me to mention how he introduced her to tomato egg drop soup,
probably a foreign concept in NJ but real big at King Ho on Ocean Ave. We
all hope there's lots of Chinese food in Heaven...Rob loved it so.
I don't want you to think that our friendship was based solely on eating
frenzies. It was really about being in each other's company and just having
a good laugh. To both of us, humor was an extremely important component in
coping with everyday life. We also chatted online incessantly, always
sharing web sites with each other, mainly dealing with the Brooklyn of our
youth or sports or movie trivia.
I think a lot of you know that I called Rob after the first plane hit the
Trade Center. I told him what happened and that there was smoke and fire in
the other tower and he should leave now. Instead of heeding my advice, he
demonstrated his concern for his co-workers by trying to spread the word
among them about what had just happened. Next he demonstrated his love and
concern for his family by calling Faith to let she and the girls know he was
OK. Others before himself, and with humor. That was my friend Rob.
Who am I going call when I need the name of the actor who played Macdougal in
Abbot and Costello meets Frankenstein or the name of the 11 players who hit
40 or more homers in a season and have 4 letters or less in their last name?
Who am I going to call and complain for about the 115th time in the last 20
something years how I'm they don't understand or appreciate me at work? What
about when I hear a song on the radio and I don't remember the artist? Rob,
if I ever got on Who Wants to be A Millionaire, you were going to be my
phone-a-friend lifeline.
Since the terrible events of 9/11 I've spent a lot of time seeing and talking
to Faith. I can't imagine any wife doing more than she did to find him. The
phone calls, the trips into Manhattan under the most incredible of
circumstances. Rob was truly blessed to have someone like you who cared so
much.
Despite the fact everyone knew him to be witty and intelligent, he really was
a very quiet person who in many ways kept to himself. While he was my best
friend, he wasn't one of those hugging, I love you guy types. He kept a lot
of emotions to himself. Even though he didn't' always express himself on an
emotional level, I knew about the love he had for his daughters. Whether he was talking about their accomplishments at school, their camp
experiences or summer jobs, their flair for fashion, their bat mitzvahs and
their busy social lives, he did so with an affection and pride that was so
evident to me because I too am the father of a girl who's growing up very
fast.
I know he loved you both very, very dearly. Your dad also
left you with a very special gift. Each other. Cherish that relationship
forever.
Diane Resnick
September 20, 2002
You were one of a kind and seeing you at the reunion made us all laugh and remember the good old times. It will always be a special day to remember. It has not been the same without you.
Sheryl Martinelli
September 12, 2002
I miss you, my wonderful friend. You taught us all a lot of lessons--yes, yes, I admit it.
We all think of you all the time.
With love always,
Sheryl
Nikki Ortiz
September 10, 2002
Hi, I am Nikki Ortiz and I attend St. Pius High School. In memory of September 11th, my school handed out wrist bands with the name of a person that died on September 11th, mine had your husbands name on it. He looks and sounds like such a great man, like someone I would have gotten along with very well. I just wanted to offer my condolences and let you know that for me he is someone I won't forget, I have him on my wrist as a reminder of all the good people we lost on that day. You will all be in my prayers.
Barbara Rice
September 7, 2002
Dear Rob,
You are gone but not forgotten. I think of you often, and hope you are enjoying the tomato eggdrop soup in heaven.
I miss you.
Love always,
Barbara
-_-_-_-_
September 1, 2002
My Heart goes to his wife and 2 Daughters they are wonderful people...
Elizabeth Naylor
May 30, 2002
I received the most wonderful gift today for my Birthday from my best friend Meredith. The MErcy band with Robert Miller's name on it. I will wear it with pride everyday and pray for him and his wife and daughter's everyday!
My thoughts are with you always and thanks to Meredith I have a wonderful angel "Robert" watching ove me!
Angie Campbell
May 7, 2002
May God Bless you and watch over your family and friends forver more.
March 8, 2002
DEAR GOD SHINE YOUR LIGHT ON THIS WONDERFUL MAN...ROBERT ALAN MILLER AND MAY HIS SOUL REST IN PEACE WITH GOD AND HIS ANGELS..GOD BLESS HIS FAMILY AND MANY FRIENDS..GOD BLESS AMERICA AND MAY WE NEVER FORGET 9/11/01..MAY GOD GREET YOU AT THE GATES OF HEAVEN WITH ALL HIS ANGELS..AMEN
Teresa Jahn
December 20, 2001
We are very sorry for your loss of Robert. May his love for you radiate into your hearts and may his life and love continue living through all who love him. Our hearts cry with you.
America Cries
We see your sorrow-
and our hearts cry....
We can not erase your pain
but you do not have to face the anguish alone-for we-
-the American people-
are beside you.
We so desperately want to have the touch that brings you comfort,
the strength that gives you courage,
and the words to lighten your spirits.
And when we are left speechless
may the silence of our nation weave love into your hearts
to ease your sorrow.
May you find healing through our nation's strength as we-
-the American people-
face this difficult time together. Our hearts are with you. Teresa Jahn
Dixon, IL
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