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M. Barron Kesser, 79, passed away on Tuesday, March 23, 2021, with his hand clasped in his wife's and his family by his side. Barry was a Real Estate Developer and Appraiser by trade but a husband, father, grandfather, and uncle by heart. Born in Norfolk, he was the son of the late Sylvia Finkelstein Kesser and Lewis Kernel Kesser.

Barry attended Granby High School but was forced to graduate from Virginia Beach High School, Class of 1959, when the Norfolk Public School System shut down in protest of integration. He also attended the University of Virginia and University of Georgia, graduating in 1964 with a Bachelor's of Business Administration. Barry was a community leader who donated his time and talents generously. He served as President of the Board of the Norfolk Board of Realtors, the Norfolk Public Library, and the TOWN Foundation. He was a member of Congregation Beth El in Norfolk and Congregation Emanuel in Virginia Beach. He was also a member of Norfolk Masonic Lodge, No. 1, a devoted member of the Norfolk Rotary Club, a longtime member of Congregation Beth El's Board of Directors, and president of his AEPi fraternity chapter.

Barry trained scores of professional students in real estate appraising, earned his amateur pilot's license, raced Hobie Cats, was a lifeguard at the Virginia Beach oceanfront, a marathon runner twice over, and a self-taught auto mechanic. Despite such varied achievements, his greatest gift was also his most widely cherished: the ebullience and cheer he brought to every connection. Barry was as beloved by the tenants in his properties as he was by fellow runners on the Virginia Beach boardwalk as he was by his friends and peersâ€"but still: no one loved him more than his wife and children. His life was a blessing.

Cherishing his memory are his beloved wife of 57 years, Kay Zedd Kesser; sister and brother-in-law Ellen and Joseph Fastow; children Bradley, Sonnia, Wendy, Susan, and Rob Benvenisti; and grandchildren Nathaniel, Rosie, Alivia, Ethan, Emma, Max, and Myles.

A private family funeral service will be conducted at Congregation Beth El. The service will be live streamed by the Temple at their website www.bethelnorfolk.com at 1:00 p.m today (Thurs.). The burial service will be live-streamed on the funeral home FaceBook page which can be accessed through www.hdoliver.com at approximately 2:00 p.m. H. D. Oliver Funeral Apts., Norfolk is handling arrangements. In the spirit of Barry's devotion to Judaism, contributions in his memory may be made to Congregation Beth El in Norfolk or Temple Emanuel in Virginia Beach, or any other Jewish organization. Online messages of condolence may be sent to the family through www.hdoliver.com.

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Published by The Virginian-Pilot on Mar. 25, 2021.

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Linda Bennington

March 19, 2022

Barry continually lives in my memory due to his outgoing personality and dedication to others.

Jennifer Pepsin

November 29, 2021

I am so sorry to hear of Barry's passing, he was a wonderful and kind landlord, very patient and empathetic. My sincere sympathy to his family

Mike Aschkenas

March 28, 2021

I was so, so sorry to learn of Barry's death. I went to Granby High School with Barry, Class of 1959. This is when schools were closed in Norfolk due to segregation. Barry was a great guy even back then. Always smiling and with a great attitude. Nothing changed as he grew older. Our paths crossed only a few times after high school, but Barry never changed. Always fun to be with. I also knew Kay back in high school.
Beautiful and a real lady always. My thoughts and prayers go out to you Kay and to your family. May Barry rest in peace.

Eric Grosfils

March 27, 2021

As a classmate of Brad's at NA I am writing to express my condolences. I didn't know Mr. Kesser, but from what I know of the son he raised I can only conclude that he was a very special individual, someone who will be deeply missed. Sending my best wishes to the family...

Roz Mandelberg

March 25, 2021

Dear, Dear Kay, I am so deeply sorry for the loss of your beloved Barry. I noticed the obituary neglected to mention that he was a rabbi too . . . at least in my mind. I will miss his smile, his sparkle, the way he always greeted me so warmly, his intelligence and intuition and, most of all, watching him love you. I am holding you and your family in my heart. With love, Rabbi Roz Mandelberg

Walter Trainum

March 25, 2021

Barry, a wonderful man and an even better friend. I will forever remember our travels to Washington Redskins games and attending UVA football contests. "Captain Keystone" will be missed by all that know him.

LINDA BENNINGTON

March 25, 2021

Dear Kay and family,

Without a doubt Barry was one of the most amazing individuals I've ever known. He could make anyone feel at ease and discuss anything as well. All of my children loved seeing him--especially right before he was ready to go running in the morning. He was a phenomenal role model. He was a true citizen of the world and will be greatly missed. Much love to all of you. Linda

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Joel Epstein

March 25, 2021

Dear Kay and family
I am distraught at the news of Barry's passing. Though away from home for many years, I miss the warm fellowship and love of those days. Barry could keep us laughing while trouncing me in Monopoly or pushing me overboard in the Lafayette River. I truly regret not staying in touch. Sending my profound condolences,
Cousin Joel Epstein, Las Vegas NV and Istanbul Turkey

Sheila Minnich

March 25, 2021

Kay and family, so sorry for your loss. May he Rest In Peace. Sheila Cohen Minnich

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