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1942
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2013
Martin Capodice Obituary
Born in Bloomington, Ill., on Aug. 1, 1942, Marty was the son of Wilma Austin Capodice and Nicholas J. Capodice. Those who knew Marty will remember his insatiable curiosity, endless generosity, warm hugs and broad shoulders. Marty and Arnie's kitchen is never empty of visitors that bring lively discussion and warmth, and he raised his children in a home filled with love, humor and Trivial Pursuit. Those who knew Marty also knew he was never embarrassed to declare his love of life or to pursue life to its fullest, be it in a canoe, on a bicycle, at a Flanks show or in a tuxedo at the CCA.
He is survived by his wife, Arnie Arnesen; his children, Nick Capodice and Cami Capodice; his daughter-in-law, Brenna Farrell; his sisters, Mary Ann Fulton and Cathy Klettke; and his stepdaughters, Melissa Arnesen-Trunzo and Kirsten Arnesen-Trunzo. He was expecting his first grandchild, Martin Henry Capodice, in December.
We all know not a day will go by that we don't think of him and try to take a page, or four, or eight, out of his book. Marty was never one for grief – he always insisted that one's life should be celebrated, not mourned. With this in mind, a celebration of his life will be held at the Capitol Center for the Arts on Jan. 12, 2014.
In lieu of flowers, contributions are encouraged in his name to the following organizations: The Capitol Center for the Arts, The New Hampshire Civil Liberties Union, and WNHNFM.org.
To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.
Memories and Condolences
for Martin Capodice
Cathy Klomp Barnes
April 12, 2024
Condolences to Marty´s family. He certainly was a presence at IWU when he went through the Dugout and announcing to each table that JFK had been shot. I will never forget that day and the message Marty brought. Such a wonderful man.
Brenda Dowst
October 28, 2022
I can't believe it's been 9 years. Although I wasn't a super close friend of Marty's, I can still visualize his smile and graciousness. He was a person of light in a dreary world.
Bob Duffy
November 14, 2013
An incredible man is now an incredible spirit
James A. Luedke, Jr.
November 12, 2013
Great and heartfelt condolences on Marty's passing, especially to Arnie, Nick and the family.
I last saw him just 2-1/2 years ago in Natick, Massachusetts.
A most unusual and outstanding personality whom I had the privilege of knowing.
Best,
James A. Luedke, Jr.
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November 11, 2013
I knew Marty from Mensa, yes THAT hi IQ society. It was always a joy to talk with him. The man exuded genuine warmth like a radiator on a cold winter's day. He had a great sense of humor and an infectious laugh. I'll always remember that laugh!
Al Gregory
Lynne Masters-Lee
November 10, 2013
It's been years since the Mensa events when we hung out together, before Marty & I moved away. Just About Perfect really does describe you, and because of that, I know that you'll always be just down the road apiece. My condolences to Arnie, Cami, Nick, and your extended family and friends, but thank you for having provided light in my life that can never be extinguished.
Abigail Britton
November 9, 2013
I got to work with Marty at the Cap, no one more fun to work for and no one looked better in black tie. And, Arne (hope it's ok to call you that!), i'm most sorry for your loss, I only knew him the smallest bit but it wasn't hard to see what kind of man he was. I'm most sorry, though, that he won't be there to cheer when we finally get to elect you as President. II'll be voting for that,
I know you are surrounded by those that love you, but we out here send our thoughts and best wishes too.
Helen Goransson
November 9, 2013
Thanksgiving will never be the same without Marty sharing his warmth, football strategy, potato rolls, and joyfulness with all of us. We are so lucky to have had him in our family's life and will miss him terribly. Our thoughts and prayers are with you, Arnie and Cami and Nick, as you continue your lives without him there. He might not have believed it, but I do think he will continue to watch over all of those whose lives he touched.
Robin English
November 8, 2013
Marty was my boss for a short time at DES. My best memory of him is on 9/11 when we were all in shock. His words were "we are at war." I asked him who we could be at war with and he had no answer at that time. I've always wondered what he would have said as things worked out as they did. I've thought of that often over the years and also his joy at his engagement around that time. I doubt anyone who came in contact with Marty, no matter how brief could ever forget him. He was a truly unforgettable kind of person.
Kathy
November 8, 2013
We are so sorry for your loss and you are in our thoughts
Phyllis Haines-McQuaide
November 6, 2013
I met Marty at Employment Security when I worked for Job Training over 25 years ago. We became close then and I will always remember his fabulous and warming smile. The picture of him dancing reminds me when we went to a wedding 25 years ago and he wouldn't stop dancing! What fun! My condelences to you Arnie; you were lucky to have him in your life. And condolences to his kids whom he spoke of lovingly often.
Sabine & Ralf Bode
November 6, 2013
We only met Marty once for a few days, and we felt his big heart right away. His genuine and joyful presence would capture you, and then he would share his delicious home baked bread. He really got inside you!
We wish we could have spent time with him again. Our thoughts are with you, Arnie!
David Frost
November 6, 2013
I had the honor and pleasure of knowing Marty for many years. He would always insist on knowing about my family and what my kids were doing since his last appointment before he would fill me on on his "doings". After each visit, he would make some comment that would leave a lasting smile on all of our faces (as I am doing now). He will be truly missed.
David C. Frost, D.M.D and Staff
Nancy Richards-Stower
November 6, 2013
Among my favorite memories of Arnie and Marty surrounded he and I watching from the sidelines as Arnie was interviewed by this or that domestic or foreign press/television station during the various NH primaries after their wedding. Lots of love and pride and laughter and excitement during these times when NH was the Center of the Political Universe, and Arnie was its star; Marty, a very proud orbiting planet; I understand it was the opposite, with Marty the star at the Capital theater and in equal partnerships in a hundred other venues. It is so sad that their time together was so short. Such a storybook love story of mutual admiration and challenges. (I tried to post the photo of our dinner with Sen. McGovern for others to enjoy but the Guest Book photo posting function kept cutting Marty's side of the table out...I'll try again later
Rob and Bridget
November 6, 2013
We remember Marty's love of life and his boundless kindness. In Cape Cod, we remember how he used to get up early so we could all have delicious freshly baked bread every morning. RIP Marty. You were a special, special man.
Millie Hamel
November 5, 2013
We were happy to have met and enjoyed the company of Marty and Arne, thanks to Fran and Christine Riley. Sympathy to all survivors, especially Arne, Cami and Nick.
November 5, 2013
This lump in our throats will not go away and this weight in our hearts just becomes heavier. We were so blessed to have Marty in our lives and there he will remain forever. Mary and Esau.... Northwood... NH
Don Raycraft
November 5, 2013
I knew Marty for sixty-three years. What has already been said about him I would certainly echo. He was the gentlest and most positive person I have ever known. Our relationship goes back to 1952, when we were both suspended from our baseball team by McLean Stevenson. I was guilty, Marty was innocent, as he was throughout his entire life.
Ken Quinn
November 4, 2013
I had the special privilege to have Marty as one of my best friends, at Holy Trinity Grade School in Bloomington, where Marty's irrepressible enthusiasm permeated everything we did from our basketball team to serving as altar boys; and then being re-connected to him in the past decade when I met Arnie and found that together they multiplied each other's exuberance and passion for justice and uplifting the poor and disenfranchised. While we no longer have Marty with us, the deep impression he made and his friendship will remain as enduring treasured memories and a source of inspiration.
Joe Woith
November 4, 2013
Condolences to the family. Marty was my friend during his early years in Bloomington. Always upbeat and encouraging.
Bill Morgan
November 4, 2013
Marty was a larger than life human being. I have found memories going back to the days we grew up together in Bloomington, Il. I wish I had been able to spend more time with him over the last many years. My condolences to Arnie and the children.
Ruth Anne Biron
November 4, 2013
I count myself fortunate to have had the opportunity to know Marty even for a short time. He was a great guy, a true gentleman and a scholar. His easy going way, his wonderful laugh, and his great hugs were a balm during difficult times. Loved you Marty, you will be missed. Sincere condolences Arnie, wishing you and your family peace and love during this sad time.
Francine Scandalis
November 4, 2013
I met Marty 20 years ago when we both worked at Employment Security; I was in my early twenties and at loose ends, but Marty took me under his wing, as well as my darling Barbara Carr. He told me that I was smart and tried to encourage me; to the point of offering to send me to Paris if I went to school and got a degree. I never did get to Paris, but I will always remember his generosity and caring. You'd think it would end there, but no, Marty then dragged me to a Mensa meeting with him to try to get me to join. I spent the majority of the time hiding from all the "smart people". What did not surprise me at all is how EVERYONE there knew and loved Marty - I think he spend most of the night hugging and being hugged. I only saw him off and on for a long time now, but seeing him was always a delight. I have never known a more loving, generous, intelligent, and insanely charming man, and I know I never will. The world is a darker place without him. My deep sympathy to Arnie and all Marty's family and friends - and to anyone who never had the chance to know him.
November 4, 2013
I just got to know Marty briefly in the form of a few phone conversations. His outspoken admiration and love for Arnie were very remarkable and left a lasting impression on me. The brief times I spoke with him were enough for me to know he is passionate, loving, special, a bright light. My condolences to you, Arnie, and all his loved ones.
Ursula Ruedenberg
Ames, Iowa
Marquette/Varney Wedding - Cobb Hill Farm - 2009
Tobias Marquette
November 4, 2013
My time getting to know Marty was brief, but I learned some of the most important things about life sitting in the kitchen with him, listening and watching him be.
Thank you Marty.
Tina Newhauser
November 4, 2013
I only worked at the CCA for a couple of years. But was always so relieved to see Marty when he'd come in to manage a show. I knew it was to be a great night. The CCA has lost a star.
As in standard Broadway theatre tradition - please darken the marquee in his honor. Marty will be loved and missed by all.
Ed Fallon
November 4, 2013
So sorry about your loss, Arnie. I did not know Martin, but I'm sure he had a lot to do with the incredible contributions you continue to make to our country and our planet. Thank you.
Shawn Powers
November 4, 2013
Marty exuded what it meant to give back to his community. Cheers to you, Marty, and love and peace to Arnie.
Judith Griffey
November 3, 2013
What a treasure . . . what a loss! "Just about perfect" says it all. Marty was a people magnet, loved by all. A great father, husband, friend. Death is no match for this man's spirit. He will live long in all the lives he touched so deeply.
Chris Weeden
November 3, 2013
Marty's presence at the Capitol Center will be missed. I have fond memories of my association with him.
Deb Stone
November 3, 2013
Arnie, Nick, Cami and everyone who loved Marty for the wonderful person he is - I am so sorry for the loss all of us must feel now.
With life so busy, I never saw enough of Marty. I will miss his joy in life, the greatest hugs ever and knowing that I could talk to him about anything. I can't have another hug right now, but the memory will always be with me. Marty has had a positive impact on so many people and we have all been so lucky to have the opportunity to know him. The way he lived his life, his love for his family, his friends and the happiness he brought to others is something for which all of us can strive.
Farewell my friend, but not goodbye. You will always be with me, and I suspect with an uncounted number of other people as well. What a positive light to the world you have been.
Maddie Beihl
November 3, 2013
I feel blessed to have known him, even for such a short time. He was an illuminating person in this world, and he will continue to shine on those who love him in the next world.
Daniel Kitts
November 3, 2013
I work on a current affairs television program in Toronto that has invited Arnie Arnesen to comment on U.S. politics several times over the past 15 years. I never met Marty, but I will always remember him as that friendly voice on the other end of the telephone line who helped arrange Arnie's TV appearances. "Hi, it's Marty Capodice," he always say. He always sounded so cheerful and full of enthusiasm. And he was always a pleasure to work with and talk to.
November 3, 2013
He was the best. To Kid A and Kid 2, my congratulations for having the good fortune to have been raised by such a man.
Carol Capodice Godbey
November 3, 2013
A wonderful person has gone to Heaven, he will be missed and remembered. Rest in peace cousin.
Jenny Goransson
November 3, 2013
Marty was a non-blood-related member of my family for as long as I can remember.
He gave the best hugs and was the most positive person I have ever met.
Each Thanksgiving, he would look into my eyes and ask, "How's life?" and legitimately wanted to know.
He is an inspiration to all of us-- a man who managed to balance his passion for change with an acceptance and appreciation for the way things are (hope that makes sense).
Here is a great photo of Marty dancing at my brother's wedding in late August. He maintained his Marty-ness even in his last few months of life.
Enormous Marty-style hugs to Arnie, Nick, Cami, and the rest of you all.
Paul Mailman
November 3, 2013
Marty could light up any room. His love, his generosity, and especially his good humor -- even in the face of his long illness -- knew no bounds.
Those of us who knew him are fortunate indeed.
Block Island vacation - hard on the knees!
Anne Connor
November 3, 2013
What a light has gone out. A unique soul, not only smart but wise - with a wonderful set of priorities. Caring, funny, and a great cook. We will miss you, Marty!
Callie Crossley
November 3, 2013
Arnie,
My heart is broken for you. I didn't know Marty, but I know that you could only have a partner who would be smart, wonderful, and funny. I am so glad that you two made the most of your time together.
I'm holding good thoughts for you during this painful time.
Callie
Katharine Webster
November 3, 2013
Marty was such a wise and generous soul -- and had such a great sense of humor. We will miss him terribly, especially his sense of service to others. I'm so sorry, Arnie.
Lorne
November 3, 2013
Marty's love, openness and sense of adventure made him one of the most amazing people I have ever known. I am so glad I knew you.
Terri Peick
November 3, 2013
I had the privilege of meeting Marty when we were trying to start a Children's Museum in Concord in the mid-1990s. He was always so full of life, energy and smiles. He will be missed...
Robin Williamson McBrearty
November 3, 2013
Ushering at the Capitol Center will be a little dimmer without Marty. I especially remember standing transfixed with him at the back of the theater listening to a rendition of the original version of Rhapsody in Blue. That amazing shared moment will always be with me. We'll keep smiling Marty, as will everyone whose lives you touched.
Terry & Beth
November 3, 2013
Cathy, Our thoughts and prayers are with You.
Brenda Dowst
November 3, 2013
Heaven is a better place with Marty's passing and we will not forget his merry disposition and generous spirit. May we meet again is my prayer.
Rebecca Hill
November 3, 2013
As someone who was larger than life Marty's passing leaves me deeply saddened. What an amazing man and inspiration. I am privileged to have known him and my thoughts are with his family.
Sheila Evans
November 3, 2013
The biggest heart in all of the world lived the love every single day. We who were lucky enough to ever hear his "how are YOU?" know the meaning of loss. It is hard to imagine the world without him - he loved us all.
Hetty
November 3, 2013
I loved meeting Marty. He had guts and was warm and wonderful company. A mensch! My best to Arnie and his family from Hetty
kendra williams
November 3, 2013
Though I did not have a chance to meet Marty I wish my condolences for his family.
Wendi Dowst
November 3, 2013
I'm glad to have known Marty's smile and hugs.
Cindy Reid
November 3, 2013
One of the main reasons I've enjoyed all my years at the CCA - such a generous soul. He will be remembered with love by all who knew him.
Marnie & Larry Paikin
November 3, 2013
Our thoughts and love are with you at this time. Sympathy to you all.
November 3, 2013
Thoughts and prayers to you Arnie and to your families during this difficult and sad time. We remember Marty's bright smile, great wit, laugh and his love for you.
We are glad to have met Marty.
With love and peace,
Pamela Julian and David Richman
Paul Jesep
November 3, 2013
Marty's joy, warmth, and kindness is something I will always take comfort in. He was and remains a light in the world.
Paul Peter Jesep
November 3, 2013
Marty was a man who exuded warmth, empathy, and kindness - Any time I was fortunate to be in his company I always received the most amazing, wonderful hug and expressions of genuine concern about my life and what I was doing. He had a wonderful rich voice complemented with an amazing laugh reflecting a man who knew how to enjoy life. He was quick to share joy and life's many good things. I will always remember what a beautiful couple he and Arnie made on their wedding day. I will always remember his wit, intelligence, and the hospitality one always found at his and Arnie's home. A beautiful, special man who made the world a better place. He might not agree with it, but Marty was, in my view, a very spiritual, substantive man who was one of God's angels on Earth.
Jenny Limowa
November 3, 2013
Marty will be forever dear to my heart. His voice, his kind heart, his appreciation of everything, his bright mind, his kind soul, his empathy, his love, his cooking, his strength, his curiosity.
He teach me how to live life to the fullest till the end.
He will be among the angels.
Miss you Martin!
November 3, 2013
Rest in Peace, Marty. Keep smiling.
Sheila Vowinkel
November 3, 2013
Dear Armie
I am just so sad...I loved hanging out with you and Marty over the years...he was always so engaged, and interesting. A perfect ying to your yang. I was so fond of Marty and will miss him. Sending ALL our love to you. Love sheila
irene + christopher messier
November 3, 2013
Last time we saw marti was at Glendi...his wonderful smile and warmth still shining through! Thinking of you arnie and holding you close in our thoughts....we loved him..
Dante Scala
November 3, 2013
I remember Marty as being very generous with his time and expertise to someone he hardly knew. My condolences to Arnie and the whole family.
November 3, 2013
Thank you Marty for your love and friendship. Hardly a day goes by when we don't think of your warmth and caring. You are an inspiration for how to live the good and valuable life. In a moment when our society is become more cruel and cold you are a lesson of warmth and compassion. We need many more Marty Capodice's to right this listing society. Thanks you for all you are. Steffen and Hoyt
Lisa Richardson
November 3, 2013
To Arnie, Kid A, and Kid 2: You are in our hearts and minds. How lucky you were to have this man in your life! It should be some consultation to know that so many people were touched by his presence on this earth.
November 3, 2013
Arnie, I was so sorry to hear that Marty has died. I remember him with a smile and always so interested in what was happening. It was wonderful to see you both at the change of command ceremony. With much love and a hug, Mamie Conroy Morgenstern
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