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James Sands "Jock" Darling Jr.

1929 - 2021

James Sands "Jock" Darling Jr. obituary, 1929-2021, Williamsburg, VA

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James Darling Obituary

Renowned organist, choir master and musical director James Sands "Jock" Darling Jr. died peacefully in his Williamsburg, Virginia home on January 26, 2021 from advanced Parkinson's Disease. Born May 29, 1929 in Hampton, Virginia, he was the first child of James Sands Darling II and Sarah Doniphan Winfree Darling. He attended Christchurch School, in Middlesex County, Virginia and graduated from Phillips Academy, Andover, Massachusetts in 1946. He attended Yale University where he earned undergraduate degrees in Music Theory and Piano in 1950 and 1951, and in 1954 he completed a master's degree in Organ at the University of Michigan, Ann Arbor. On January 31, 1953 he married Mary Lee Oliver of Gloucester, Virginia. From 1954 to 1961 he was Organist and Choir Director at Plymouth Church of Shaker Heights, Cleveland, OH and from 1961 to 2006, he held the position of Organist and Choirmaster at Bruton Parish Church in Williamsburg.

Over the course of five decades, Jock Darling was a major contributor to the musical culture of Williamsburg. At Bruton Parish, Mr. Darling directed an active program in music for all ages. This included a full schedule of services featuring adult, boys, and girls choirs, as well as approximately 125 candlelight concerts annually, which were performed by himself, Bruton Parish associates, local musicians, and visiting artists. He taught organ and harpsichord at the College of William and Mary, and as music consultant for the Colonial Williamsburg Foundation, he presented countless concerts in the Governor's Palace and other historic buildings, often playing and conducting in colonial costume. Among the many dignitaries who attended his recitals are four U.S. presidents and several heads of state. As a guest artist, he also performed throughout the United States and in Europe. Jock Darling published numerous recordings of colonial period music and edited four publications of keyboard music for the Colonial Williamsburg Foundation. In 2003, he published Let the Anthems Swell, a monograph on the history of music at Bruton Parish Church.

In all these endeavors he valued authenticity, academic rigor, and above all, a clear sense of purpose, enabling music to touch the consciousness of the listener. One of his former students recalls that he had an amazing command of all types of music, and a wonderful ability to help young people understand music in all its complexity. Among his many contributions, he especially enjoyed offering the Saturday morning recitals in William and Mary's historic Wren Chapel on the 18th century English chamber organ. This concert series, which he initiated in 1971, continues to this day and is a lasting example of his commitment to performing colonial music on original instruments in appropriate settings. James S. Darling formed lasting relationships with colleagues, collaborators, students, choir members, and members of the community.

James S. Darling also was devoted to his enduring partnership with his wife and to the growth and support of their five children. Their home was a musical center in its own right, where the Darlings hosted gatherings of visiting musicians, instrument makers, choirs, and for a time, the Wednesday morning meetings of the Williamsburg Music Club, which he helped found in 1964. In his children he instilled a deep sense of responsibility, a commitment to education, kindness toward others and curiosity about the world. He loved travel and adventure, especially in the company of his family. These journeys ranged from Maine to California, New Mexico to Alaska, Europe, Latin America, and the Holy Land. He will be remembered for his powerful intellect, his welcoming and generous spirit, and his abundant grace and humility.

James S. Darling is survived by his sister Sarah Winfree "Sally" Darling; children Elizabeth Ann Darling, Russell Christian Darling, James Andrew Darling, Jonathan Lee Darling, Sarah Trevilian Darling and their spouses and partners; grandchildren Scott Christian Darling, Christina Elizabeth Brown, Joseph Sands Darling and Kathryn Joan Darling; and great-grandchildren Chloe and Caelynn Brown. His wife of 67 years, Mary Lee Oliver Darling, preceded him in death on January 13 of this year, a mere thirteen days before him. He was also predeceased by his sister, Ann Estill Darling Tormey.

In keeping with his final wishes and out of concern for the health and safety of community and family, no in-person viewings or gatherings will be scheduled under the current threat posed by the pandemic. A memorial service will be held at Bruton Parish Church at a future date.

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Published by Daily Press on Jan. 31, 2021.

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Hollace Casey Jones, class of 1967

May 10, 2021

Jock was my organ teacher and the person I wanted to be when I grew up. I remember the choir sang Come Labor On in church while one of his children was born. He and Mary Lee were among the most hospitable folk ever. He lived a wonderful life, loved a good laugh, was a fearless and generous performer and a peerless example. All my love to his family and thank you for this opportunity to drop a line.

Susan Peters Swindells

March 3, 2021

I have fond memories of Jock through his association with my father, Roger Peters, who played double bass in numerous musical ensembles in CW. My sincere condolences to his family.

Eric Peterson

March 2, 2021

I was in Jock's Bruton Parish choir '84-85 (my senior year at W&M) and he was kind enough to invite me to perform with him (I was a French horn major) at the candlelight concert the night before graduation. A lovely memorable experience. (We also did the complete Messiah that year, which was great.)
So sorry to hear of his loss - what a great man.

Annette Hemmingsen

February 10, 2021

Sad that we will no longer hear Jock play. I was fortunate that be a member of the choir, singing wonderful music that he so patiently taught! And Mary Lee was such a wonderful person who welcomed the entire choir for a picnics at their home. Fortunate children to have such talented and caring parents.

Marion Otey Paine

February 1, 2021

Dear Beth,

I’m so sorry about the loss of your father, and mother before him. I remember sweet times playing in your home. Your parents were always so kind.
May God give you and your family peace and comfort as you treasure the memories and mourn your loss.

John Urquhart

February 1, 2021

A great organist. I loved his Saturday morning recitals.

Jan (Derrig) Brown

February 1, 2021

Oh my goodness, I am so sorry your dad has passed so quickly after losing your mom! After 67 years together I can only surmise they had no desire to be apart. My heart felt condolences--again--to the Darling family. I hope for peace in your hearts and happy memories...

Nancy and John Hummel

January 31, 2021

To the Darling family: It is hard to lose one's parents, especially so close together. We offer our deepest condolences. We honor them both for lives well lived.

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