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Irving Stolberg Obituary

STOLBERG, Irving J. Irving J. Stolberg of New Haven, twice Speaker of the Connecticut House of Representatives, died peacefully February 13, 2009 after a year-long battle with leukemia. He was surrounded by loved ones at the Connecticut Hospice in Branford, a facility he helped establish. He was born September 24, 1936 in Philadelphia, the son of the late Ralph Stolberg and the late Lillian Blank Alpert. He grew up primarily in Los Angeles where he graduated from U.C.L.A. in International Relations in 1958. He earned an M.A. and completed course work and all exams for a Ph.D. in Geography and African Studies from Boston University. In recognition of his public service to democracy, he received a Juris. Dr. Hon. from the University of Hartford on the Bicentennial of the U.S. Constitution. He taught Geography at both Southern Connecticut State University and Quinnipiac University and as an Africanist did research in Tanzania, Ethiopia and Nigeria. Stolberg served twenty-two years in the Connecticut House of Representatives. He was a member of virtually all committees of the General Assembly, chairing Human Services, Intern, Legislative Management and Finance. He led the initiative that brought more progressive tax policies to Connecticut and was instrumental in establishing the Legislative Office Building in Hartford. As President of the National Conference of State Legislatures, he held the highest state legislative office in the land and later served as President of the Foundation for State Legislatures. A devoted internationalist who sought to build democracy around the world and to strengthen instruments for peaceful resolution of conflicts among human beings, Stolberg was until recently the President of the Connecticut Division of the United Nations Association (UNA) and prided himself in producing the widely-distributed UNA Calendar for Peace. He was elected to the UNA national Board of Directors and in 2006 he was elected to represent the United States on the Executive Committee of the World Federation of UNAs (WFUNA). He was a consultant to UNESCO. He was a true global citizen, traveling to more than 90 countries, conducting many cultural exchange tours to Asia and Africa. He visited China twenty two times, lecturing at several universities and other institutions. He helped develop training programs at American universities for more than 700 Chinese Provincial Officials, many placed in New Haven. Among his numerous accolades, in 2004 he received the Qilu Friendship Award and Medal from the government of Shandong Province. He helped with the democratization process in Eastern Europe, especially in Bulgaria, and played a part in drafting Brazil's Constitution. Delegate to six Democratic National Conventions and for many years a member of the Democratic National Committee, Stolberg was a founder and President of the Caucus of Connecticut Democrats. President Clinton appointed him to the Commission on the Preservation of American Culture Abroad. On the Commission he had the lead responsibility for relations with Slovakia, Ukraine and Moldava. Stolberg was a fellow at Yale's Calhoun College. Among his many interests, he was an avid mineralogist and was an active member of the New Haven Mineral Club. He was a serious collector of African art and a passionate tennis player. He was a fan of UConn athletics. He is survived by his son Robert of San Jose, California, former wife, Alicia Barela of Los Gatos, California, a brother Roger of La Costa, California, a sister Melody Gentry of La Jolla, California and a brother Frank Alpert of Brisbane, Australia. He was predeceased by a brother Ronald of Los Angeles. Memorial services in Connecticut and Southern California will be held later with advanced public notice. In lieu of flowers, he requested that gifts be made to UNA-CT and to the American Friends Service Committee.

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Published by Hartford Courant on Feb. 15, 2009.

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February 27, 2010

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Stu Ackman

December 25, 2009

I have been thinking about Irv these last few days. I miss him. I feel lucky to have known Irv, and been in the United Nations Association trenches with him. Irv remains an inspiration for me.

Zdenka Kmetova

December 24, 2009

Dear Irv, my very dear friend, I will miss you...

Bruce Newman

April 29, 2009

Irv and I pledged together at UCLA.
He introduced me to his circle of friends and broadened my horizons and confirmed my liberalism. I was saddened by the news of his passing.

Nancy Tangredi

March 31, 2009

I knew Irv when he worked for World University Service in the 60s; we dated for a time. We just reconnected 3 yrs ago via email-spoke once on the phone. What a great loss to everyone - he loved being part of the intl community; brilliant, and passionate against wars. My thoughts and prayers go out to his family-a wonderful man will be greatly missed.

Irv enjoyed music with my husband, Rodney, at a UNA dinner in a home.

February 23, 2009

Joan Lawson, Larry Levine, Stu Ackman, and Irv.

Beth Weems Pirtle

February 23, 2009

Irv brought such vigor, enthusiasm, and knowledge to the United Nations Association!! What joy we had with him at our meetings in NY and DC. I will long remember him and will miss him greatly.

Bill (J.W.) Matthews

February 23, 2009

Although we only met through the United Nations Association at national conferences, we were drawn to Irv for his rich insights and careful understanding of issues that were obscure for us neophytes. We honor his memory.

Richard Christian

February 22, 2009

I met Irv in the late 1960s, when he was dating Alicia [Lassie] Barella, in New Haven. Lassie was my friend, but I quickly sized Irv up as a man of great intelligence, compassion and character. He was always quite competitive in our informal soccer games, held in his front yard in Westville. My thoughts and prayers go out to Lassie, Robert, and the rest of Irv's family. The nation, as well as the world has lost a truely wonderful soul, one of my heroes, Irving Stolberg.

Kitty Schooley

February 18, 2009

I met Irv through our mutual friend at the Unitarian Fellowship of Storrs - Irv participated in our Thanksgiving seder, brought his calendar many times, and I was even fortunate to go to a mineral show with him and Arlene. He will be much missed for all his great work in Connecticut and the world.

Ken Tharp

February 17, 2009

Irv Stolbert's knowledge and brilliance quickly convinced me there should be no term limits for legislators or leaders of UNA-USA.

For those whose lives have made life's journey better for us, think not in sadness, "They are not here," but in gratitude, "They were." (Paraphrased from "Remembrance," by Russian poet Zuchanov (1838)

Jeanne Betsock Stillman

February 17, 2009

It was wonderful to know Irv through the United Nations Association. I admired his work, his intellectual prowess and his kindness.

Richard Griffis

February 16, 2009

Irving was an impressive, engaging and passionate activitist, probably all of his life, and certainly in these recent years in league with all who support the best that the United Nations can be. He left his imprint on institutions and certainly in the minds and hearts of many of us.

Hank Brown

February 16, 2009

Irv was a passionate leader for reform in Connecticut. Pretty solid tennis player as well. His leadership and dedication will be missed

Sturt Ackman

February 15, 2009

What a great man! Passionate and compassionate. Irv saw things clearly and spoke his mind. We spent lots of time together on the United Nations Association Board. There are many stories about life and times at UNA with Irv. Irv's passing is a tremendous loss, he was a mover and shaker with a huge heart.
Blessings to all of Irv's family.
Love,

Stu Ackman

Joanne Tachibana

February 15, 2009

Aloha from Hawaii. I am so delighted that Irv rang me and we spent time when he visited Hawaii most recently. Irv was a wonderful mentor to me in the ways of UNA when I was on the national regional board with him. Irv enriched our lives and the lives he touched around the world. With love and aloha to his beloved family. Joanne Tachibana, President
UNA Hawaii Division.

Debbie Willhite

February 15, 2009

Thank you for the life you shared so well. You had a huge impact on every person and institution you touched. Your life force will be missed. Thanks for giving me the chance to know and work with you.

Jean and Joe Farricielli

February 15, 2009

Irving was part of our extended family and he will always be with us in spirit and prayer. Our warm and unique memories are cherished beyond measure. He fought a tremendous battle and has finally found the peace he worked for all his life. Joe and Jean Farricielli & family

Joe Baxer

February 15, 2009

My personal condolence and on behalf of the CT United Nations Association, I extend our deepest condolences to Irv's family ... which extended to our world. I found Irv to be a man with a purpose, intense, determined, global in perspective and yet able to be immediately present and compassionate to those in need near him. I and we will miss his leadership, vision and willingingness to serve without expecting notice.
We are better and more hopeful for Irv's life among us.

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