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Lois Hansen Metheny, 83, of Lake Winnebago, MO, passed away on October 11, 2011 at the home. A celebration of her life will be held at a time and place to be announced. Lois was born November 13, 1927 in Manitowoc, WI, the daughter of Delmar and Vera Pfefferkorn Hansen. She was a 1945 graduate of Lincoln High School in Manitowoc and attended Park College in Parkville, MO, where she met her husband of 62 years, Dave Metheny. A resident of the Lee's Summit (MO) area since 1948, Lois was active in numerous groups and organizations, was the founder of "Lois's Ladies," and was the gifted creator of a variety of arts and crafts. She also was a number one fan of her two musical sons, Mike and Pat, and she set the gold standard for wives and mothers everywhere. Survivors include her husband Dave, sons Mike and Pat, daughter-in-law Latifa, grandchildren Nicolas, Jeffrey and Maya, and numerous nieces and nephews. Lois's sister Marilyn Hansen Berkedal preceded her in 1980. Above and beyond everything else, Lois was adored by those who had the pleasure of getting to know this fine lady and who were fortunate enough to enjoy her good company and radiant smile. Hers was a life that touched many others and was lived to the fullest. Donations in honor of Lois Metheny can be made to the Metheny Music Foundation, PO Box 7004, Lee's Summit, MO 64064. Arrangements Cremation Society of KS and MO, 5561 NW Barry Rd. online condolences www.kccremation. com (816) 822-9888

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Published in Kansas City Star on Oct. 13, 2011.
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October 8, 2019
Dear Lois:

Remebering always as the great woman and mother you were...

God bless You...
Rodolfo Fonseca-Larios
October 7, 2019
I'm afraid I cannot say significantly more than what I already did, through that piece of music that I wrote down, when she was still with us.


We never met personally, and we never talked on the phone either. I just felt a kind of admiration and gratitude (well, it's difficult - if not impossible - to put these feelings into actual words...) for the two great kids she brought up, and without the influence of whom I wouldn't be who I am (in other words, of course I would still exist, but I would be... different). I feel, here and now it would sound quite 'theatral' to address something directly to her (as she probably doesn't read this... or... who knows?!)... but if I could call her on the phone, I would say something like "thank you for all that".
Zoltan Lengyel
December 31, 2015
Mr. Metheny, Mike and Pat,
Mrs. Metheny and Lyle May's mother sat behind me at the Milwaukee performance of The Way Up. After the concert I overheard them speaking to each other. Mrs. Metheny exclaimed, "Well, it looks like we raised a couple of geniuses!" She said it with a mixture of great delight but also humor and humility, not quite taking much credit. They spoke for a couple minutes more. One can get a sense of people very quickly sometimes. Especially people who are comfortable with themselves and have an abundance that overflows onto and around others. It was easy for me to see that Mrs. Metheny overflowed with many wonderful attributes. I am so glad to know she touched many many people and that she was appreciated. I am so sorry for your loss.
David Fleuchaus
September 29, 2015
What a legacy this lovely woman has given us. I know the music but have no personal relationship with the family. Just listening, though, I can only imagine what love it must have been that has nurtured this talent and beauty. We should all be thankful for her life.
William Rood
September 18, 2013
What a beautiful woman! And obviously a very special person to have raised two of the best musicians in the world. Through their music you can just feel the love and respect they were brought up with. I spoke to her once on the telephone, as one of millions whose life has been profoundly touched by the Metheny genius, yet she made ME feel special. Thank you, Mrs. Metheny.
Nicholas Simmons
April 15, 2013
My deepest sympathies to you and your family, Pat. God bless
January 11, 2012
As a big fan of her son's Pat's music, I do add my condolences to her family. She brought up a wonderful son and musician!!!
Barbara Mandrus
October 31, 2011
What a capacity for love and acceptance she had - a great lady who gave the gift of music and herself to the world. I am thankful for her mothering for a short time in my life along with all those great meals and days on Lake Winnebago. Rest in peace, Lois.

My condolences to Dave, Mike, and Pat on the loss of this light of your lives.
Stephanie Williams
October 31, 2011
Lala Craft
October 30, 2011
My condolences to the entire family. The loss of a parent is paramount. "Keep ur heads up and remember her spirit will always (live)...
CARLOS manderson jr.
October 30, 2011
Our sincere condolences for the passing of Lois. She will be missed by many people, especially here at Lake Winnebago. I saw her in May, and was amazed that she remembered me after not having seen me in over 35 year. Sincerely, Wanda (Gassaway) Johnston and Randy Bradley. 1972 LSHS grads.
Wanda Johnston
October 29, 2011
Eternal rest, grant unto her, O Lord,and let perpetual light shine upon her.
May her soul rest in peace.Amen. We offer our condolences to the whole Metheny family.
Andrzej Straczynski
October 22, 2011
What a wonderful woman. Her joie de vivre will continue to shine.
Tom Fredrick
October 20, 2011
I'm so sad to hear about Lois passing. I will always very fondly cherish the memory of being a guest in her home. Fun boat ride with her and Dave and some great friends and lovely dinner with amazing people. You are missed, Jazz Mom.
Linda Vannetta
October 20, 2011
In 1992 I had the privilege and honor of meeting Lois (and Dave) Metheny after one of Pat's concerts. From there Lois and I became pen pals for many years, and I met Lois in person several times again over the years at Pat's concerts both in Minnesota and Kansas City, and she always recognized me and remembered who I was, and she always took time to visit with me. I am so honored to have been given the opportunity to know Lois Metheny. My sincere condolences to the entire Metheny family and to Lois' extended family (cousins, nieces, nephews) and close friends.
Maximillian Shemesh
October 20, 2011
mi mas sentido pesame a toda la familia Metheny
Alberto Mª Roman Mateo
October 20, 2011
Lois and Max September 1992
Maximillian Shemesh
October 20, 2011
Dear Metheny Family,
my deepest condolences to all of you. My dearest thoughts to Pat, Mike and Dave. I'm feeling sad today, but I must salute her legacy and inspiration.
Garcia Felipe
October 19, 2011
Dearest Dave, Pat and Mike,

Your mother was a wonderful woman who shared her love of life and learning with so many people. We so appreciate her inspiration for joy and laughter and are continuing to grow like she did!

Lois's Ladies (West)
Grand Junction, CO
October 19, 2011
It is truly an honor to have known your mother. Mike, you were so wonderful in taking care of her. She was so proud of you and your brother. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Kelly Andra
October 18, 2011
So sorry to hear of your mother's passing. My thoughts are with you Pat, and your family.
Judy Hawkins
October 18, 2011
Dear Mike, Pat and Dave,

I offer you my deepest condolences for the loss of your dear Mother. Our prayers go out to you all. Peace and Blessings.
Bobby Watson
October 18, 2011
My heart goes out to this beautiful family.
Jeff Shirley
October 18, 2011
desde el profundo del corazon les envio mi pensamiento sincero: el amor que ella les diò los protegerá siempre.
(from the depths of my heart I send my sincere thought: the love she gave will protect them forever)
Angie Fernandez
October 18, 2011
So sorry to hear of your loss. My thoughts are with you.
Vicky Potter Doerr
October 17, 2011
We are sending our prayers and thoughts to you and your family.
Bob & Jan Westmoreland
October 17, 2011
Dear Pat and Family , I was sadden by the news and I know how hard
it is to lose a family member. Your mother was a great Lady and a very good person to others. God bless you and your family and my prayers will be with you all in your days to come.
John Luikart
October 17, 2011
Dear Pat, Mike and Mr. Metheny,
Lois was one of the nicest ladies I have ever meet, and I am proud to have been be able to call her my friend. A soft word, a gentle hand, always something kind to say - qualities that you all carry with you! She will be greatly missed. My thoughts and prayers go out to you all in this difficult time but it is also a time to remember all the people that she touched without realizing what she meant to each one of us that were lucky enough to have known her.
Henry Meeks
October 17, 2011
Dearest Metheny family,
While I did not know your mom personally, my mom, Julia Stuppy thought the world of her. My mom spoke so highly of her and thought of her as a dear, dear friend. I will keep your mom in my thoughts and prayers. Di S.
October 17, 2011
Dearest Pat, Mike and Dave,
I am so sincerely sorry to hear of your great loss. My prayers are with all of you in this time of grieving. May God give you the peace which passeth understanding in order to heal your sorrow. I have many great memories of your family and the times we have shared playing music together. May you know that she is in a better place now and may you all someday join here there to rejoice with her and praise His great name with music in the spirit of the His holiness. Amen.
Linda Lee Holmes Peterson
October 17, 2011
You are so lucky to have had such a wonderful person in your life. She will be missed. Cherish her memories and teachings!
Cliff Young
Cliff Young
October 17, 2011
Lois was an awesome lady. She will be missed. God Bless all the family.
October 16, 2011
Dear Dave, Mike, and Pat! We are truly sorry for your loss. Living next to Mom was such a joy and comfort. She has touched our lives in many ways and she will be missed very much. Lois was beautiful inside and out.True classy woman and a gem. I just loved her so much and enjoyed her life stories. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Agi & Bill LaFave
October 16, 2011
Dear Pat, Mike and Mr. Metheny,
Know you are being thought about and prayed for during your time of sorrow.
Warm blessings,
Jennabeth and Virginia
Jennabeth Settle
October 16, 2011
Dear Dave, Pat, Mike,
Lois was a very special person.
I still have her letters, her wishes and never forget her love for my family and my son.
She was very generous, enthusiastic.
She helped me a lot.
I'm sorry that I had never been able to meet in person.
I will pray for her.
Luigi Viva
October 15, 2011
Dear Pat, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family in loss of your precious mother. She was very beautiful. And we can also see who blessed you with that great signature smile. In reading Mrs. Metheny's brief life history, it is evident that you were blessed with such a" rare jewel of a virtuous mother." You'll will have many great & timeless memories that will outweigh (season of sorrow). We love you, Pat.
Eastla Smith
October 15, 2011
Dave and Family, please accept my sincere condolences in the loss of your Wife and Mother. My husband, Nelson ,who was with Chrysler ,spoke highly of you and your family. We had a very enjoyable day many years ago at your lake home. You were blessed to have this lovely lady for so many years. Sincerely Marie Lear Ov. Pk. Ks.
October 15, 2011
Dear Pat. Mike and father Dave Metheny: We feel very sad about Mom Lois but at the same time we celebrate she is now in heaven enjoying the supreme peace of facing God... What a great priviledge for all the Metheny family to enjoy and share Lois beauty, caring and love during all her life... Our prays for her always... and a warm hug for all of you... Rodolfo & family...
Rodolfo Fonseca-Larios
October 15, 2011
pat and mike--------we send our condolences, good thoughts, and love to you guys. cl, kathleen, kenny, david, diane
kathleen clinesmith
October 14, 2011
Dearest Dave, Mike, and Pat,
We are so very grateful for the years of friendship and music shared between our families. Lois was such a joy! Keith was so very proud of all of the Methenys! You all are in our thoughts and prayers. With love, the House family---Ilene, Steve, Ellen, Harvey and Ted
Ilene House
October 14, 2011
Dearest Dave and Mike and Pat---we are so grateful for the years of fabulous memories of friendship and music that was shared between our families. Lois was such a joy! Keith was always so very proud of the Metheny's! Our thoughts and prayers are with you all---With love, The House Family---Ilene, Steve, Ellen, Harvey and Ted
Ilene House
October 14, 2011
Dear Dave, Pat, and Mike,
Lois possessed such a joyous life force. We recall great parties celebrating her family and her friends. Lois possessed a mind that sought such a wide range of artistic outlets. Did I mention her generosity? She collected wonderful friends and created a meaningful life with Dave and with each of them. What a role model! We feel lucky to have shared and learned from her beautiful life. We LOVE our connection with Lois's Ladies. She shared memories with us that will last many lifetimes.
Love and support to you all.
The Manda Family
October 14, 2011
Dave Mike Pat
What a joy and Blessing to have had all of you as our friends and neighbors
these many years I will always treasure our time together Dear Lois
Lois Huffman
October 14, 2011
Mr. Dave, Pat, Mike and your family, we are in prayers for your lost.
Jason & Barbara Dellera
Cinisello Balsamo Milan, Italy
Jason Dellera
October 14, 2011
Dave,Mike, Pat and family,
Sorry about your loss. Lois was a special person.
Charlie and Mary Evans
Sunrise Beach, MO
October 14, 2011
Dave, Pat, Mike and family. Please know that you are all in my prayers as you pass through this part of the journey. From the time I met Lois, in the showroom of the Dodge dealership in Lee's Summit, when I bought my first "band van," to all of the random meetings through the years around town, she was always kind and caring to me. Like a mom, she would always ask me about my family, my music, my travels and my unique style ministry of the gospel. It was always a blessing and a joy to see her. Her life was a gift to so many and her infectious smile is a legacy of its own. A life well lived! God bless you all, Paul Clark
Paul Clark
October 14, 2011
Mike, Pat and Mr. Metheny,

We are so sorry for you loss. Take comfort in knowing that she is in a better place now, with no pain or suffering. She will continue to watch over and guide you thru this time of hurt and sorrow. She will always be listening to the fantasic music her two boys create.

Peace be with you,
Bill and Barb Berberich
October 14, 2011
hello pat sorry for your mom, hug you. Rei
October 14, 2011
Dear Pat, you are not alone in this moment. A long hug to you and all your family.
Giuseppe Marsico
October 14, 2011
Only time can ease the pain of your heart and your soul, giving way to wonderful memories of her...
October 14, 2011
Dave and Mike and Pat,
What a great loss we all share today. Lois was many things to many people, all good. She was the master of fun and taught us all how to love life and love each other. What a wonderful contribution she made to this world. We will miss her. Thinking of you guys...
Kevin Clements
October 13, 2011
Le mie più sentite condoglianze Pat a te e tutta la tua famiglia.
RIP Lois :(
Luca Olivotto
October 13, 2011
Dear Dave, Mike and Pat,

I am so sorry to hear about Lois. I just loved her so much and she was such a joy to work for. Coming to her house was a wonderful pleasure.
As the days and weeks pass and as you return to life's routine, may you all continue to feel comforted by the love and support of family and friends.
Love and Prayers,
Sandy Fasl
Sandy Fasl
October 13, 2011
"The rose still grows beyond the wall."

In deepest sympathy for your loss.
In celebration of her gain -
she has her wings!
Sharon Valleau
October 13, 2011
Dear Pat, I`m very sorry.
A big hug to you and to your family.
antonio onorato
October 13, 2011
Dear Dave, Mike, Pat, Latifa and the grandkids..

So sorry.

SO many memories of long ago. The cookies! The crafts!
The pontoon boats. How she'd beam when all 3 of her men were
home. How she'd go on about her grandkids!

Hope your many more memories are comfort to you. "Blessed be the ties that bind".

Much love, Robin
Robin Young
October 13, 2011
Dear Dave, Mike and Pat,
How can words describe Lois? She was a gift beyond words. Having known her my entire life was so special. Her beautiful smile and positive attitude will never be forgotten. All of us Murphy's will miss her dearly, as will the rest of the Blomberg family. We will always have our beautiful memories to reflect on.
I feel so fortunate to have had a second "Mom" in my life. Thank you, Lois. I will always love you.
All our love,
Chris, Bob, Jenny, Susie, Erik, Katey, Bryce and the little ones, Brady, Abby, and Tommy
Chris Murphy
October 13, 2011
Lois was my buddy. I grieve her passing deeply and I grieve for all in the Metheny family. She was so true of heart, so very proud of all of you, and so rich in the spirit of life.
My pleasure to be her friend , Don Thompson
October 13, 2011
Dear Dave, Mike and Pat,
We are sorry to hear about Lois. We all have wonderful memories of many years in many places on many occasions that we will cherish for the rest of our lives. She was a great influence on everybody she touched.
With sympathy and love,
The Blomberg Family Ron, Steve, Jeanne, Sam, and Becca
October 13, 2011
Dear Metheny Family,
I am so sorry to hear about Lois. She was such a bright spot in my day when she came to the office. She was such a sweet warm woman. You are in my thoughts and prayers
Katie Nunn
October 13, 2011
Words simply can not express the depth of sorrow we all feel at the loss of our much loved aunt and friend. There will forever be something missing from our lives with the loss of Aunt Lois. At the same time we will be forever comforted by the thought of the warmth of her smile and the lipstick she always left on our cheeks. With love, Jon Berkedal and family
Jon Berkedal
October 13, 2011
Dave, Pat and Mike,
I am truly sorry to hear about your loss.Dear, Dear Lois, such a lovely sweet and caring lady.I feel blessed to have had the opportunity to know her, With deep sympathy and love
Gunilla Ross
October 13, 2011
Dave, Mike and Pat,
As I look at the kind statements of others, I have to agree with all of them. She was indeed the pillar of your family and was a friend to me when I needed one. She loved my children and they loved her back. My daughter Sarah was one of her many "adopted" daughters. I think often of the advice and strength she gave me. I especially love Latifa's sharing of the Longfellow poem. May God's comfort be with you all at this time of mourning. She will be waiting for us where she has gone-all we'll need to do is look for the lovely smile and the most mischevious, brightest blue eyes in heaven.
Susan Haslam
October 13, 2011
Dear Metheny Family, I'm so sorry for your loss. Lois was an incredible woman, a fabulous wife and mother, a gifted and multi-talented artist - it runs in the family. With love and deep sympathy, Carol
Carol Comer
October 13, 2011
May the love of friends and family carry you through your grief. Italian fans are close to you, with sympathy.
Romina Cadonici
October 13, 2011
Lois & I at my 60th birthday jam, Club at Plaza III. Pat & Mike both joined the band. A time Ill always cherish.
Dave, Mike & Pat, Words cannot express my sorrow at this time for your loss. Lois was 1 of a Kind "an original" My Deepest Sympathy & Love, Gary Sivils
Gary Sivils
October 13, 2011
Dave, may God be with you and the boys, Such fond memories of life in LS and all the wonderful folk like you and Lois. joe rittman
Joe Rittman
October 13, 2011
Dear Dave, Mike and Pat, Our thoughts and prayers go out to you in the burden of your loss. Lois was a wonderful person who had a gift for welcoming a stranger as she would a long lost friend. I am grateful to have met her. She was certainly one of a kind and was well-loved by everyone who knew her. Sincerely, Janet
Janet Wendel
October 13, 2011
Dave, Pat & Mike.. We are so sorry to hear of your loss. Lois was a beautiful woman that we were lucky to have met many years ago. You are all in our thoughts & prayers. Love & Respect, Lisa & Lori Sivils(the twins)
Lori Sivils
October 13, 2011
Lots of Pat's fans in Poland feel very sorry about the passing of Pat's and Mike's Mother. May the Lord welcome her in His home and comfort the family and friends. Oot prayers go to the whole Metheny family.
Andrzej Fronc
October 13, 2011
We are so sorry for your loss. Lois was a wonderful woman who touched our lives in the short time that we knew her. Our thoughts and prayers go out to you and your famiy and friends. We are sending all our love. Shirley & Bob
Shirley Chalmers
October 13, 2011
Our deepest condolences to the Metheny family.
The Pat Metheny Mailing List
October 13, 2011
Dear Mike and Pat,

I wished to somehow meet Lois personally, but it didn't work out.. although she still got my message that I sent her, to express my gratitude, to say thankyou from the bottom of my heart and soul, for bringing two such incredible kids to this world. Otherwise I didn't have the chance to know her life, still, I have a feeling now, like an old family friend who would wish to visit. (If I Could.)

Thank you, Lois, for existing, and for all that you did, have a good journey onwards, and see you one day.

Zoltan Lengyel
October 13, 2011
Pat Mike and family You have my sympathy and prayers-as a long time fan of both of you I just wanted to express my feelings!Jazzer and trumpeter Bill from overland park Kansas.
Bill McAvoy
October 13, 2011
Dave, Mike and Pat: We are so deeply saddened to hear of the death of your wife and mother. Lois was a one of a kind person, so full of love and life. She made a huge impact on everyone who knew her. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all. Fondly, John and Mary Rocco
John & Mary Rocco
October 13, 2011
Dear Mike and Pat,
I send my sincere sympathy to you and your father. Your mother was adored by everyone that ever met her, and was she was so proud of both of you. Please know that you are in my thoughts, love, Kimberly Sivils
October 13, 2011
My heart goes out to you. She was the pillar in the center of your family. So strong, funny and great company. I'm sorry not to be able to attend her service. I will be thinking of you....
Lindsay Lunt Parsons
October 13, 2011
I have the great fortune of knowing Ms. Metheny's family and I know how much they loved her and how they cherished sharing their lives and so many great times with her. Amid the sorrow, they will have joyful memories to fall back on.
Carol Suchman
October 13, 2011

As a fond mother, when the day is o'er,
Leads by the hand her little child to bed,
Half willing, half reluctant to be led,
And leave his broken playthings on the floor,
Still gazing at them through the open door,
Nor wholly reassured and comforted
By promises of others in their stead,
Which, though more splendid, may not please him more;
So Nature deals with us, and takes away
Our playthings one by one, and by the hand
Leads us to rest so gently, that we go
Scarce knowing if we wish to go or stay,
Being too full of sleep to understand
How far the unknown transcends the what we know.

By Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
The Poetry Foundation
Latifa Metheny
October 13, 2011
Mike and Pat, I'm sorry to hear about your loss. Your mom sounds like an incredible woman who I would have loved to meet. Continue to make incredible music, that's another reason why she was on the planet in the first place!
My thoughts are with you and your dad,
Brad Hatfield
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