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Mary Margo McCaffery

1938 - 2018

Mary Margo McCaffery obituary, 1938-2018, Los Angeles, CA

Mary McCaffery Obituary

September 29, 1938 - January 8, 2018 Mary Margo McCaffery, a pioneer in the care of people with pain, passed away peacfully at the age of 79 in Marina Del Ray, CA. Margo was born and raised in Corsicana, Texas. She was preceded in death by her parents, Marley William and Mary Katherine (Adams) Smith, her brother, Marley Donald Smith, her only child Melissa Ruth Mielke, and her husband, John Richard Brewer. Margo received a BS in Nursing from Baylor University in 1959 and a MS in Nursing from Vanderbilt University in 1961. She became an assistant professor in pediatric nursing at UCLA in 1965. In 1970, Margo became self-employed as a consultant and educator on the nursing care of patients with pain, until she retired in 2011. Margo authored numerous articles, guidelines, videos, and five books on pain. She became a Fellow of the American Academy of Nursing and received numerous prestigious awards and appointments. Margo was a trailblazer in the field of pain management and inspired generations of nurses and physicians. She was an impassioned advocate for the relief of people suffering with pain. She is best known for her 1968 clinical definition of pain, embraced worldwide: "Pain is whatever the experiencing person says it is, existing whenever he says it does." Margo was a wonderful women who lives on through her life's work and through those whose lives she has touched. She will be forever loved and forever missed by those who knew her.

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Published by Los Angeles Times from Feb. 9 to Feb. 11, 2018.

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MARTHA

June 14, 2024

Grief can be so hard, but our special memories help us cope. Remembering you and your loved one today and always.

T.U

January 6, 2019

We have the promise of everlasting life found at John 6:40 - Let this help you find comfort and hope. Our deepest heartfelt sympathy to your family at this difficult time. We are truly for your loss.

Margo2007

February 21, 2018

Susan Stephenson

February 15, 2018

My thoughts are with you,Mel,and certainly you,Chris. As someone else posted here,there will never be anyone else like Margo.

We were blessed in countless ways to have been a part of Margo's life, impacted in wonderful ways. She educated. We learned. She cared deeply and shared her insightful talents.She could not have done more to help each of us, her patients, her colleagues, her friends.

You will always be with us, Margo. You are a legacy. Til we meet again, rest easy and know you are forever in our hearts, much admired, dearly loved, and deeply missed.

Keela Herr

February 15, 2018

Margo was an inspirational leader who led from her heart and compassion for assuring all people receive quality pain care. Her education and advocacy efforts are significant in scope and she has left a legacy of nurses and other providers who now carry her torch!

Carol Curtiss

February 15, 2018

As with so many others, Margo shaped my career and my passion for pain management. I first heard Margo present at Lake Morey, VT in the 1980's, and from then on, she inspired me to learn more! Never in my wildest dreams would I imagine eventually becoming a colleague. Margo's drive, advocacy, passion, talents and compassion are legendary. Her work and her legacy will live on in those of us who learned from her and follow in her path.

Tami Borneman

February 15, 2018

I remember hearing Margo while in nursing school. Her teaching on pain management impacted my work with oncology patients.

Marsha Stanton

February 15, 2018

I am grateful for the many years I had with Margo. For those of us who started this journey very early, we have had a mentor, a friend, an ally and so much more through the years. We will all definitely miss the love she held for patients and peers.

Donna Barker

February 15, 2018

God bless you always Margo for your kindness and encouragement to a struggling graduate student trying to find her way in pain management. Your shining example of pain excellence was a beacon for me on my journey of caring for people in pain. You shared your knowledge with anyone, your Clinical Manual was the Bible for a sound resource to manage pain. You are and will be missed. Thank you for all you have done for the art and science of relieving suffering in the world. Rest comfortably.

February 15, 2018

My thoughts and prayers are with Mel...my sincerest and deepest condolences...

The first time that I heard Margo speak was 1992 at UCLA in the School of Nursing for a lecture to the APN students. Her passion for safe effective pain management and relentless commitment to those suffering with pain or addiction inspired me to change practice and focus on pain management in every organization that I have practiced.

....and already the world seems empty and not the same....we must all assume her commitment, passion, and advocacy for all those who suffer in pain and for those who suffer with addiction...politicians won't do it...the media won't do it...each of us must follow Margo's lead and take a stand....

Linda Oakes

February 15, 2018

I will be forever grateful for having Margo share her commitment and passion for improving the comfort of patients through her speaking and publications. As a pediatric nurse, I heard her definition of pain being that of what the child tells us, maybe not in words, but in nonverbal clues. Actually Margo elevated the role of the nurse for all of us who followed her to the bedside as recognition that nurses at the bedside really had the time and the presence to know what patients needed....comfort. Her efforts will live on as all health care professionals continue to recognize the need to reduce the suffering of our patients.

Carl von Baeyer

February 14, 2018

Margo helped to get me started in my career, first in adult and then in pediatric pain clinical care, advocacy, and research. Her life and career continue to inspire.

Pat Coyne

February 14, 2018

Margo , was an inspiration and guided many to improve their care of the sick.

Kathleen Broglio

February 14, 2018

Margo's work has guided my nursing practice. Her legacy lives on to inspire many in the world of pain management. Kathleen Broglio

Melvin Vincent

February 14, 2018

Goodbye my darling Margo, I love you and miss you so much. I can only hope that you are now in a better place. I Love you, Mel

Chris Pasero

February 12, 2018

Margo was my co-author and friend for 20+ years. She was a tireless champion for people with pain and those who care for them. Her legacy will live on through them. There will never be another like her.

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