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Alan David Kleinberg

East Brunswick, New Jersey

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Skate Park for a Son
On Sept. 10, Alan David Kleinberg spent the evening at the Township Council in East Brunswick, N.J., urging it to move forward with a community skate park, a nod to his oldest son's affection for in-line skating.

The park proposal was a hot-button issue known to provoke emotions, but Mr. Kleinberg won respect as a negotiator and mediator who helped gain acceptance for the idea.

"He did this for his child," said Jacque Eaker, special assistant to the East Brunswick mayor.

At 39, Mr. Kleinberg thrived on his job as a securities trader at Cantor Fitzgerald, but family was the focus of his time off.

Whether it was planning a trip for his wife, Mindy, coaching 10-year-old Jacob's basketball team, taking his 7-year-old daughter, Lauren, to dance or a Saturday afternoon ice skating with the children, including 3-year-old Sam, "whatever was good in this world he took and gave to them," said Gail Rubin, his mother-in-law.

On Oct. 15, the council endorsed a plan to build the skate park. Work is scheduled to start in the spring.

Profile published in THE NEW YORK TIMES on December 6, 2001.


Alan Kleinberg, 39, office king of comedy

Alan Kleinberg had taken another job for awhile, but something about his old one, at the bond house Cantor Fitzgerald, called him back.

Perhaps it was the good company of his colleagues there. In recent days his co-workers have told Mr. Kleinberg's family some of his "Alanisms." That is what the office called the jokes and one-liners he would tell. His good humor was part of what made the office a great place to work, his colleagues said.

Mr. Kleinberg had only recently returned to the office, and was days away from transferring to Cantor Fitzgerald's New Jersey offices in Shrewsbury.

But on Sept. 11, the 39-year-old securities trader reported as usual to the firm's 104th floor office in the World Trade Center. He never made his usual call home to his wife, Mindy. His tower took the first hit in the terror attack and Mr. Kleinberg, along with many members of the firm, is unaccounted for.

His family has searched for him in all the hospitals. They have pasted his picture all over Lower Manhattan -- hundreds of copies of a photo meant for a happier purpose -- Mr. Kleinberg's 3-year-old son, Sam, needed a picture of Daddy to show at preschool. He also has two other children, Lauren, 7, and Jacob, 9.

Mr. Kleinberg was a man who limited outside interests to concentrate on his family, his mother, Vicki Lerner Shoemaker said. Because Jacob loved to skate, Mr. Kleinberg recently began appearing at town meetings in East Brunswick, to ask for a public skating park for the kids.

"He hated the politics, but he was quite good at speaking," said his mother.

Like so many other families, the grief is made worse because of the uncertainty, the need to fill out missing person's forms, to hand over personal items for DNA comparison, and the wait for a phone call from the police. "And this is a family that has never had to grieve before," Shoemaker said.

In addition to his mother, wife and children, Mr. Kleinberg is survived by his father, Stanley, of East Brunswick; step-father, Lyle Shoemaker of South Brunswick; sisters, Debbie Foxx of Montgomery, Marla Goodreau of Manhattan, and Marci Bandelli of Brooklyn; grandparents, Max and Florence Lerner of Monroe, in-laws, Stanley and Gail Rubin of East Brunswick, and brother-in-law and sister in law, Peter and Jill Sullivan. He has six nieces and nephews.

Mr. Kleinberg graduated from John P. Stevens High School in Edison and then went to the University of Delaware.

A memorial service will be held tomorrow at 1:30 p.m. at the East Brunswick Jewish Center, 511 Ryders Lane, East Brunswick.

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I so miss our golfing days as summer comes upon us. We really had a good time each day we played. Will never forget ya. -your pal DK

I saw Mr. Kleinberg's inclusion in a 9/11 memorial recently and felt compelled to respectfully learn something more about the man who inspired the words which moved me that day.
You seem to have touched many and were a exemplary husband, father, and citizen; a role model for future generations.
I am grateful and a better man for having stopped and learned from your life. Rest in Peace.

It goes on and on. Day after day. Year after year; the sorrow and grief. We have a new baby in the family. She is 15 months. Such a joy. If you were here you would be carrying her on your shoulders. I’m really old now so my joining you is getting closer. I will be with you again!! Your children are great. Is grandpa Rubin with you? Can you connect with me somehow? Usually you are the butterfly that sits next to me. I love you so much.

Mom


Still in our thoughts.

I actually don't know if I am related to Alan Kleinberg. My name is James B Kleinberg. My Father was Abraham Kleinberg. His law firm Kleinberg and Friedman, Atty's At Law is still headed by my 2nd cousin Dana Friedman. Close relations or not -- I am sad to know that we lost a Kleinberg on Sept 11, 2001. RIP

Another birthday. I miss you, Alan. I wasn't a math major but I believe you would be 61 now--hard to believe since you stopped aging at 39 which is 3 years younger than my youngest daughters. What a damn loss that those who knew you and love you will never forget. You would be proud of your family--Mindy is a rock and the kids are doing well. I am proud of the fact that we have developed a truly nice relationship with Jacob ( and Jen) whom we see every winter in Florida. Love you and...

I think about Al so often. My co-worker, golfing partner, fellow comedian! Mindy, I was very much around at that terrible time, but the chaos and grief made me respect your privacy and I drifted away. But I would like to communicate all my feelings of sadness for Alan and yourself. --Dave Kerwin, Allentown , NJ 732-616-3850

Alan, Made my annual visit to the CT 9-11 memorial yesterday. Eighteen years--seems like yesterday. You will always be in my heart and in my thoughts. Miss you/ Love you.

bruce

My name is Jen Mende. Just now hearing about you on this horrible 18th anniversary. I'm hear with Charlie and we are waiting for your name to come up. I hope you are in a much better place. This world is cruel. I am so sorry for your family and friends.