Benjamin "Choy Buck-Tone" Choy

15 years... its been 15 years since my dad passed away. It still stings like it was yesterday. I miss the laughter, the food, the unconditional love. I think I miss the most his words of encouragement. Im sure I took it for granted. The little things like reminding me that Im getting smarter each day. I used to think thats just what dads say to their kids. But having gone 15 years without him, I appreciate how lucky I was to have had him in my life.

I wish he could be here to see...

Dad,

The last six years have gone by so quickly. I was just recalling a memory of you. We were at a restaurant and you suggested I order a steak, my favorite, medium rare. I had never ordered it any other way than well-done. It was delicious, now I don't have steak any other way. This thought made me smile. It was just another memory of you teaching me; sharing with me.

I miss you terribly, as always. I am happy though. Like you, I try my best to overcome life's...

Hi Mr. Choy,

Just wanted to stop by and sign your guest book and let you know that Steve is doing well. You will be proud of him and all that he has accomplished here in Atlanta. Wish I had met you in person but if you are anything like Steve then I know you were a great man. Your son is truly a great man and a joy to know. God bless,
Candace

Hi Dad,

I can't believe it's been 5 years now. I wish I could say it felt like yesterday when I last heard your laugh and smelled your cooking when I came home from work. But it feels longer than 5 years now, most of the good memories seem to live long in the past while the painful ones remain fresh.

Life is ever-changing for me. Regardless of what obstacles I face, I continue to look to your examples and how you've always managed to come through no matter how tough...

Steve...I will say it again...your mom and dad did a wonderful job raising you. You are a beautiful man and I am so blessed to have you as my friend.
God bless!

Hi Dad,

I'm late again this year. I hope you don't think it's because I've forgotten, because I haven't. There's actually not much time that goes by without thinking about you or mom.

Sometimes the thoughts are so sad that I'd rather not have them. But most of the time something triggers a great memory, like a similar laugh, or a piece of news. A few weeks ago, My Fair Lady came on TV. It made me remember when you took me to Stanford Theatre to see the movie. It...

Steve,

This is a beautiful guest book. Your father must have been a wonderful man because he raised such an awesome young man. I know he is smiling down on you right now...proud of the man you have become and looking forward to all the things you will accomplish in the future. It is a privilege to call you friend.

Hi Dad,

Sorry I'm a bit late this year. I've had a dream with you in it last night. I woke up in tears but reflecting back on it, it was a good dream.

In it, you were organizing things to prepare me for your passing. You showed me where certain records were and told me where to find things. In the dream, you also parked your Buick!

Like I said, I woke up from it feeling very sad. However, this morning, I'm grateful to have been able to share a moment with you,...

Hi Dad,

Another year has passed. As more time passes, I continue to be more amazed at your accomplisments.

Sometimes it's hard dealing with you being gone, but I continue to remember all that we shared while you were here. I still can see that constant smile and hear your joyous laughter.

I'm doing well. I'm moving forward with life and starting to realize my potential. I hope to make you and mom proud!

Please tell her I said hello. I miss her so. I can never...