Brian John Bender

I just found out about my dear Brian passing after almost 3 years of the fatal accident that took him away from us....Though the years created distance and time between us, the bond that Brian and SI shared always remained the same... We would be in contact, lose contact for a while. I just checked my emails and crazy enough Brian and I were in contact just the day before the fatal car accident. I'm sure I probably called him several times after his accident and wondered why he wasn't...

Brian,
It has been a tough year without you an Amber. You both were so gracious to always be there for me and Autumn when We needed you both. I miss you both and you will always be on my mind and in my heart.....
I Miss & Love you guys....
~Mom Gust~

The Bender Family,
I have been out of touch for sometime now with many of my old friends and have heard the devestating news yesterday. Brian was very special to me even as the years have past and we lost touch he never lost a spot in my heart. Now seeing the obituary I notice that he shares a special date in heaven as my Mom passed on that day 17 years ago June 5 1990. I was in 10 grade and Brian was a senior. When I returned to school for my Finals, Brian sat his seat next to mine and...

I am really sorry for everyones loss. Brian is such a great person with such a kind heart. He would agree to help you and then ask what your name was. I will never forget him.

When visiting my brother yesterday and asking about his 20 year reunion he just attended he told me about Brian. I didn't believe it and sadly this evening I found it to be true. My heart goes out to the entire Bender family -I haven't seen Brian since high school but I will always remember Brian as funny and kind. I am so sorry you had to experience this loss and pain. May god bless you and comfort you - Rest in Peace Brian

To the Bender Family -

Brian was a great guy, so fun to be around and full of life. We always enjoyed every moment with him. We will miss him and he will always be in our heart.

DEAR FRIENDS AND FAMILY,
PLEASE BE PATIENT WITH US; WE NEED TO GRIEVE IN OUR OWN WAY AND IN OUR OWN TIME. PLEASE DON'T TAKE AWAY OUR GRIEF OR TRY TO FIX OUR PAIN. THE BEST THING YOU CAN DO IS LISTEN TO US CRY ON YOUR SHOULDER. DON'T BE AFRAID TO CRY WITH US. YOUR TEARS WILL TELL US HOW VERY MUCH YOU CARE. PLEASE FORGIVE US IF WE SEEM INSENSITIVE TO YOUR PROBLEMS. WE FEEL DEPLETED AND DRAINED, LIKE AND EMPTY VESSEL, WITH NOTHING LEFT TO GIVE. PLEASE LET US EXPRESS OUR FEELINGS AND TALK...

Dear Mr. And Mrs. Bender, Jimmy and John,
There are no words that I can say to help ease the pain that you are going thru at this time. I sit here now and think back... Your family has the one tool that will get you thru this EACH OTHER. I am so sorry that this has happened. You now will always have a guardian angel looking after you.
I wish I could be there for you in this time of need, just like your family was always there for me. I can't help but laugh when I think of Brian with...

To the Bender family-
All my thoughts and prays are with you. He was a special man. In is short time on this earth he definently left his mark on society. He will be greatly missed.
God Bless You.