Dan Wile

I'm still teaching my clients the "I worry" and the "Of course" technique that he taught me. Thank you from my heart, Dan.

Still think of you, Dan, whenever I see a couple. May you rest in peace. It was wonderful to have you in my life for all those decades. Love, judye hess

Very often I say to clients. Dan Wile taught me two words, "I worry." I pick up his blue book "Couples Therapy " and show it. The other day the wife said. We're leaving with a good tool today, " I worry." Also regularly I teach the "Of course" communication technique I got Dan. Eternally grateful, Dan. I miss you and your wisdom. Cedric

I was just following a lead online, looking at some of Dan Wile´s work, and I came across this obituary. I had some training with him a decade or two ago, and it made a huge impression upon me. To this day, some of my clients benefit from things I learned from him. I´m sad to learn of his passing. I knew him to be wise, humorous, and humble. I´m grateful for his contributions to me, to my work, and ultimately, to my clients.

I was in a monthly consultation group with Dan for many years. He had a humbleness and humility about him-a refreshing lack of arrogance, along with holding his ground and owning his ability as a master therapist. I never experienced him as being a know-it-all, but instead having respect for our opinions and ideas as well as his own. Someone once said something along the lines of, "It´s not what you say. It´s who you are saying it." Not only have I learned from what Dan said-and his ideas...

I felt I knew Dan from his books and writings and will miss him and his work greatly. My heartfelt condolences to his family.

Dan Wile was a warm-hearted, wise and masterful teacher and writer. An extraordinary relationship therapist. His creative and collaborative spirit was felt in every present moment. He will be missed by all those who knew him.

I came to know Dan later in my career as a Marriage and Family Therapist. I found his writing and style much to my liking and integrated it into my approach with couples with good results. My wife and I attended a workshop with Dan and Dorothy and delighted in what we got for ourselves and our couple. Dan was kind, generous, creative, possessed of my kind of wry humor, and quite effective in his work. I am very saddened to learn of his passing.

I use the wonderfully simple idea of "solving the moment" in every single session I have with couples. I tell them that relationships are essentially constituted out of a series of such moments. Your work has been such a gift to our profession. Legacy indeed. Thank you Dan.