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J. Michael Crafaik III

CHARLOTTESVILLE, Virginia

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J. Michael Crafaik III

J. Michael Crafaik III, born August 9, 1971, died Saturday, December 13, 2008, at the University of Virginia Medical Center, after a long and difficult struggle with bipolar disorder.

He was preceded in death by his grandparents, John M. Crafaik Sr. and Amelia Yuskavitch Crafaik and Margaret Town Robinson.

He is survived by his fianc?, Cary May; his mother, Margaret Robinson; his father and stepmother, John M. Crafaik Jr. and Kay Neeley; brothers, Chris Strong, Arthur Crafaik, and Elliott Crafaik; grandfather, Hugh M. Robinson and his wife, Dixie Robinson; grandparents, Sam and Verna Neeley; sister-in-law, Colleen Strong; nieces Reilly, Audrey, and Sloan Strong; and aunts and uncles, Susan and Hugh M. Robinson, Jr. and Betsi and Shep Jordan.

Michael attended St. Anne's Belfield School and Corning Free Academy in Corning, New York, and graduated from Charlottesville High School, where he played soccer and participated in drama productions and was named a National Merit Scholar. He received degrees in Russian and physics from the University of Virginia in 1993.

In 1994, he founded Michael's Bistro and Tap House on the University Corner. Although Michael came from a family of restaurateurs, the concept behind The Bistro was entirely his own, and he executed it with remarkable skill. The Bistro was one of the first establishments in Charlottesville to offer patrons the opportunity to gain an appreciation for a wide selection of exotic microbrew beers and to offer special dinners at which the food was carefully paired with beers that would complement it. Michael's Bistro will continue to be operated in Michael's honor by family members and his devoted staff.

From the time he was in high school, Michael was intensely interested in politics. After graduating from the University of Virginia, he participated in a group that gathered regularly to discuss political issues and was active in the local Republican party. He was a vibrant thinker who was particularly attracted to the philosophy of the Libertarian party. In 1996 and 1998, he ran for City Council as what the newspapers usually called "the lone Republican candidate." Although he did not win either election, he enjoyed the campaigning process and grew through it.

Michael had a wide range of interests outside of his work-related interests in fine food, beer, wine, and music. He was an avid ultimate Frisbee player who organized several local teams. He enjoyed hiking, camping, and other outdoor activities and was very knowledgeable about nutrition and alternative approaches to health and healing. He was also a certified yoga instructor and read extensively in various spiritual traditions.

Michael had an infectious laugh, a wonderful sense of humor, exceptional empathy, and a lively and flexible intellect. He was an "inquiring mind" in all the best senses of that word. He had an enormous capacity for affection and a strong urge to connect with the members of his immediate and extended families. He was a devoted and thoughtful son and grandson, an involved and empathetic brother, a beloved uncle, and a delightful companion and friend. He will be dearly missed by all who knew and loved him.

The family will receive visitors at Hill and Wood Funeral Home from 6:30 until 8 p.m. Thursday, December 18, 2008.

A memorial service will be held at Thomas Jefferson Unitarian Universalist Church on Rugby Road, 2 p.m. Friday, December 19, 2008.

In lieu of flowers, the family requests donations to the LifeNet Health Foundation www.lifenet-foundation.org or to the charity of your choice.


This obituary was originally published in the Daily Progress.

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While I was never fortunate enough to know Michael, I was a very close friend to his fiance, Cary May, during our high school years. My mother still lives in C'ville and when she told me of this tragedy, I couldn't believe it!

I know the loving soul Cary has, and can only imagine she would pick a guy as wonderful as she was! If you're out there Cary, I'm so very sorry for your loss! As well as my sympathy to all his family and friends.

I was in love with Michael and his energy from the first time that I saw him at Pi Kap in school year I think it was 93. We were lucky to know him. I am sure that God was with him that day. The end, HPP

Was awfully sorry to hear the news. Michael was a fine fella; one I was proud to know. He gave a great deal to many and his enthusiasm was infectious. Will miss our conversations.

I was deeply moved to hear of Michael's passing a short time ago and my heart goes out to his family. Around 2000, Michael and I shared office space on Preston Avenue when I was running Foreign Language Services and he was running the Bistro. I will always remember Michael's bright mind, his cheerful, friendly spirit, and his courage to creatively forge new paths. My life is richer from having known him.

May you find happiness and rest, Michael. Peace, brother.

In the 12 years I knew Michael he was the perfect gentlemen, full of bonhomie and love of life. He will be missed.
"11When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.

12For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known.

13And now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; but the greatest of these is...

The news just came to me from another Bistro Alum this evening.

To the Crafaik Family: I am so sorry for your loss, my heart and prayers are with you.

I can share that we had known each other for some time - about fifteen years. I embarrassed my pride and esteem to him in our first year or so of knowing each other, but over the years he gave me more than decency and respect in return. He gave the full measure of his heart and focus in each of our meetings. There is something...

Dear John & Kay,
My deepest condolences. Without Miles, I would have never met you this past August. You are so special in his life.
With love, Your friend,

My deepest sympathy to his friends and family. I knew him at CHS, had followed his accomplishments since then. He was a very gifted man.

John and Kay - we are so sorry to hear of Michael's passing. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Larry and Pat Scribner