James E. Luvender

Jim, I know that over the years we had a number of heart to hearts, as I'm sure you had with plenty of people. After all, you always had the biggest heart. Thanking you was something that I did regularly, but I wanted to thank you again. You led by example when it came to unconditional kindness, patience & understanding. It has been many years since we were in touch, but I have continued to try to follow your example. You are still in my thoughts and I'll forever be thankful for you.

Can’t believe we’re approaching 17 years since that horrific day. I feel and see it like it was yesterday. Every minute of that day - from morning coffee at your place with Kenny, a visit from John (Town EMT that stopped while on duty to say hi) - to my heading out for ONE HOUR to make final arrangements on the surprise 16th birthday celebration we planned for Lindsey. Wasn’t gone 30 minutes when I got the call from Kenny regarding your call from Chrissy - which lead her panic call to Kenny...

As we come up on another year since your passing I just wanted to express how much you are missed! Things would have been so much better had you not had to go. You had a way of fixing everything without even having to lift a finger. Just talking to you always made everything so much clearer. So much has happened in the time you've been gone -- alot of heartache as well as some joy. Wish you were here to share it all....Miss you pal!

Happy 68th birthday, sweetheart!! Remember your 50th surprise party? Wasn’t exactly ON your birthday (which helped with the surprise plus had you thinking it was a surprise party for mom and Lee allowed me to use you for set up and threw you off!) was on July 12th I believe and everyone had special tee shirts (I still have one!)! Was great having your Pennsylvania family here and your out of town buddies!! Anyway I definitely “gotcha!!”

I’m sure you’re celebrating and goofing...

Hey, handsome!!
Here we are again!! Another birthday!! 67 today!! So many changes ... in our lives, our homes, our children and grandchildren, etc!! And now expecting another granddaughter!! I know you would have been an amazing grandpa!! As I remember you today I recall all our celebrations ... including the day of the infamous surgery, even tho it ultimately ended our earthly relationship. That being it was the day you proposed and we began making plans for our forever life...

So hard to believe 16 years ago when you walked into my life how life changed. Not a day passes that somewhere, somehow in so many of our actions, thoughts or lessons learned from you surface and show their face! Sometimes, not so pretty face, but nonetheless, you pop in and out of our lives constantly. Our lives have all taken so many different twists and turns, some good some not so good, as you know and we're still growing and learning from you and each other. I've moved on as you...

Happy 62nd Birthday, cutie pie!

So hard to believe we've passed 9 years since we've lost you! Bet by now you'd have gained at least a FEW more gray hairs, you think?

So much has changed - kids have grown into amazing adults, my "repair and fix it" knowledge continues to grow - all because of so much you taught us! We all are better people - having you a part of our lives! Although such a short time, you gave so much to each of us - some by example and some by teaching. ...

Well ... here it is again!! Happy 61st birthday, old man! Yet - obviously always a kid at heart!! I'm sure Kenny is remembering you all day today - since you both went back and forth for these 9 long days with the age thing! I'll be stopping by to leave you some flowers later on ... after all, you always loved flowers and made sure I had them - even for no reason!

Hard to believe you're gone more than 8 very long years! Lucky for us we still have your lessons that continue...

Hard to believe it's been 8 years since we said our last good-bye and kissed you for the last time! So many zig zags since then ... many ups and downs. Happy times, and sad. The kids graduations from High school and College, Caroline and Alex's wedding, babies born, medical scares and recoveries, loosing Lee then mom. Yet somehow in much of what we do, choices we make - seem to still reflect the times we shared and the lessons we learned from you! Touched so many - in so many ways! Taught us...