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So sorry for your loss. Sending Loving thoughts and prayers to you and your family.❤
Heather Pofok
October 06, 2020 | Oxford, CT | Friend


Photo courtesy of Spinelli - Ricciuti Funeral Home - Ansonia
Ansonia, Connecticut
Aug 11, 1947 – Oct 2, 2020 (Age 73)
SHELTON: Jeffrey E. Lyder, 73, a resident of Shelton since 1987, peacefully entered into eternal rest on October 2, 2020, at Yale-New Haven Hospital, from injuries he sustained from a fall at his residence. He was the beloved husband of Kathleen Reedy Lyder.
Mr. Lyder was born in New York, NY on August 11, 1947, son of the late Carlyle and Lenore LoCicero Lyder. He was employed as a Corporate Auditor for IBM for fifty-two years and previously served as Deputy Sheriff in Putnam County, NY in the early 1970’s. Jeff enjoyed woodworking, reading and especially spending time with his family. He loved his country and was a member of the National Rifle Association.
In addition to his wife Kathy, he is survived by loving sons, Jeffrey K. Lyder (Dawn) of Oxford and Jason K. Lyder of Bridgewater, a loving daughter, Jennifer K. Cabrera (Edison) of Seymour, caring brother, Roger Lyder (Virginia) of Hooksett, NH, cherished grandchildren, Kayla Grodzicki, Nicholas Martins, Chloe Martins, Hailey Lyder, Joseph Lyder and Dario Cabrera as well as several nieces and nephews. He was predeceased by his brother, Patrick Lyder.
A walk-through visitation for family and friends will be held on Tuesday, October 6, 2020, from 4:00 to 7:00 pm in the chapel of the SPINELLI-RICCIUTI/BEDNAR-OSIECKI FUNERAL HOME, 62 Beaver Street in Ansonia. Visitors are asked to wear masks and physical distance as they walk through, pay their respects and exit without lingering to ensure all guests can come through. On Wednesday, his Mass of Christian Burial will be celebrated at 11:00 am (Meet Directly) at St. Margaret-Mary Church, 50 Donovan Lane in Shelton. Interment will immediately follow in Riverside Cemetery in Shelton. To sign Jeff’s guestbook or share a memory, please visit www.spinelliricciutifh.com.
Read MoreSo sorry for your loss. Sending Loving thoughts and prayers to you and your family.❤
Heather Pofok
October 06, 2020 | Oxford, CT | Friend
Back in the days when we were carefree and careless, Jeff stood out as a pillar of maturity and thoughtfulness. To me, he always seemed to be "older & wiser" than the rest of us.
Even as a 16-17 year old, I felt he already possessed the necessary skills to be an excellent father, husband, friend and leader. To hear of his sudden passing gives me pause to reflect on my own life and, using him as a model, see where I need to improve or make amends.
Jeff, your long and happy...
Rick Strunck
October 06, 2020 | Plantation, FL | Friend
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. There are no words to describe the loss of such a Great husband, father, grandfather, brother, uncle and friend. The days ahead will be tough, but remember to keep the memories just as present. I will continue to keep you and your family in my prayers.
Robin Massari
October 06, 2020 | Shelton, CT | Friend
Jennifer & family ...I am so sorry for your loss, you are in my prayers.
Dajana Damjanovich
October 05, 2020 | Friend

I have fond memories of my cousin Jeff and his brother Roger Go with God Cousin Margaret Rose Lampitt
Maggie Long
October 05, 2020 | Bridgeville, DE | Family

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Maximiano Martins
October 05, 2020
To Kathy and family,
My deepest condolences in the passing of Jeff. Like many, I have fond memories of Jeff from Valentine Avenue days. He was kind and a gentleman. May he rest in peace and may you be comforted by a lifetime of memories.
Joann Birkenstock
Joann Birkenstock
October 05, 2020 | Leland, NC
Jeff - and family- my heart breaks at the loss of your Dad- prayers -love and deepest sympathies- for you all. Stay strong- stay together and stay as one.
Sharon Moore
October 05, 2020 | Milford, CT | Friend
Dear Kathy,
Please accept our deepest sympathies for your loss.
We hope the love of your family and friends will sustain you in this difficult time.
Sincerely
Cheri & Paul Lauria
Cheri & Paul Lauria
October 05, 2020 | Parkland, FL | Friend