Lillian Tong

Dear Tom and family, My deepest sympathies on the loss of Lillian. May all the lifetime memories of your travels up North and time together bring you some peace and comfort. I remember the beautifully handcrafted sweaters, hats and mittens she made for your family , the emotional support she provided to others and the stories about the weekend dinners you hosted to celebrate traditions and time with family.

I am so sorry that I was not able to be in Madison for Lil´s funeral. But even as far away as Hawaii, her passing was felt, puncturing the universe as her spirit soared up to the heavens. Lil had a beautiful Buddha-like aura around her. She possessed ethereal wisdom, a peaceful acceptance of her fate while also acknowledging the profound sadness of her untimely illness. She led such a wonderful and rich life, shared with Tom, Eric, Laura and their families, as well as her many friends and...

The four of us, Jeannine Liang, me (Margaret Lu), Viv, and Lil spent several really memorable years in Rochester, NY in the late 1960s, in the loving care of Viv's & Lil's parents, Karl & Nancy Tong. Jeannine & I learned so much from the Tong family, from how to love & care for one another, to cooking wonderful dishes from scratch (roast duck by Karl, desserts and other delicious dishes from Nancy -- I still have all the recipes!) These memories will stay with me for ever. Rest in peace, Lil....

We knew Lillian for only a brief time through the Gilda's Club GI Cancer support group. She contributed so much to the group with her knowledge and insight. She had a great sense of humor and provided laughs that cancer patients desperately need. We missed her when she was not able to attend the video meetings and were so saddened to learn of her death. We will always smile when we think of her. Our condolences David and Kari

Lil will be dearly missed. I´m grateful for her deep wisdom, and her big heart. To the family and my friends Laura and Sarah, my deepest sympathies. Sending you love and peace.