Philip E. Putnam

Phil could simplify my terrifying and confusing world. When I would lament how my spouse or significant other would present me with a problem and I would provide what to me was a fantastic solution, and they would not use my advice, Phil would take his patented pause, look right through me, and then do what separated him from other therapists, and offer a better way. "Try asking, 'do you want to be helped, or hugged or heard?'"...I miss his wisdom and kindness every day

These words from my last note to Phil in May of this year sum up my feelings and gratitude toward him. My heart goes out to his family. Good morning Phil, Happy Memorial Day! I apologize for being rushed when you called on Thursday evening. I still have some work to do to stay in the moment and enjoy what is in front of me. But, I feel like I have made good progress on that front and others over the past three years since I met you. I can´t tell you how much my life has changed for...

I am saddened greatly by the passing of Phil. He helped me and my son greatly during very trying times in our lives. I wish I could have been to the memorial in person to thank his family for such a giving wonderful person and to convey how he so positively and selflessly effected our lives. He was a genuinely good man and will be missed. People like Phil are a rare gem in this world. With sincere gratitude and fondness Elaine Vallo & Ethan Bosnyak

My condolences to Phil's family and friends. What a wonderful man he was in so many ways!

Grief can be so hard, but our special memories help us cope. Remembering you and your loved one today and always.

Phil had a gentle spiritual attraction that was hard not to see. He was helpful and always suggested good books he like to share with others. I'll always be grateful for having passed his way. God's Blessings!

I had the privilege and the pleasure of working with Phil at Catholic Charities in the 1970´s and 80´s: in fact he was my immediate supervisor for part of that time. We shared many of the same ideals and frequented the charismatic prayer group at South Catholic High School and Fr. Ed McLean´s noontime Masses at the Catholic Book Store on Market St. in Hartford. I last saw him shortly before the pandemic at a Subway Restaurant in West Hartford. I was thinking about him last week when I stopped...

My sympathy to you Cindy and family. Phil was a treasure to all !