Ray E. Withelder

Hey Ray Ray,
I can't believe it's been a year since you left us. Sorry I've never written to ya on here, it just hard because it makes me face the fact that you are really gone. I still don't understand why God took you and Ricky from us...it's just not fair. Anyways, I'm sure that you are both up in heaven looking down and making fun of all of us. I hope you are having fun up there. Continue to look out for your family and friends. Miss you and love you Ray Ray.
-Reg

Ray...

I seriously wouldn't even know where to start. My brother talks about you a lot. I don't know if it helps him or not, but I know that something in him is different when he does. I never will understand the bond that you "Lyco Guys" have, but from what I've gathered thus far its an unbreakable bond of brotherhood. You were like another brother to him, and sometimes thats exactly what he needed. And when it came to what you were to me.. well I think you already know. Its so...

Hey Ray,
You know bud, there isn't a day that goes by that i don't think of you. I can hear your voice, I can see your face... it is two months later and it is still all so surreal. Well, I just wanted to say hi and tell you that I am always thinking of you and I know that everyone else is too. Take care babe.

Ray,
I miss you more every day, and it gets harder every day. I know that my brother is having such a difficult time accepting this, please stay with him. He needs to feel that the birdman is still here. I wish there was something I could do to ease his pain, but nothing can bring you back.
Thank you for being one of the first people in my yard this past bike race with Griems, standing by the keg all day holding your ground. One day we're gonna get married, I promise haha. Until...

I never really met Ray. I just know that he is with my son Ricky right now. I know that Ricky would usually mention that he was with Ray when he got in trouble at Lycoming. And Ricky would say his famous, "It wasnt our fault" or "we weren't even there, Dad". Hah. I know Ray because they named a pair of parakeets Ray1 and Ray2 (very creative college students). I believe it was Ray1 that passed away?(he was swatted out of the air because the Eagles were losing). Then they put him in the George...

His love for movies and music, March Madness and Monday Night Football, family and friends, DCB and any opportunity to crack open a beer. A special bond with Lyco security and administration--no one knew Denise Robinson as well as Ray did. Each one of us raised our voice to Ray only for the argument to end in laughter and probably a tackle to the ground--girl or guy. He never held grudges and greeted every person he passed on College Ave. He was a roamer--slept and showered in every room of...

Hey Ray Ray,
Yo sucka! From days to 3rd floor Skeath all the way to senior year, I can't even begin to imagine my years at Lyco without you. Whether it was chillin in the cafe, hanging out watching your highlight films (with you telling me how damn good you were), or getting together the night after a big game, it was better because you were there.

You've been such a big part of my Lycoming experience. I can and will never forget any time I have spent with you (although...

I spent 4 years with Ray at Lycoming College. Ray was the kind of guy that whenever you were in a bad mood it didnt last long if he were around. He always had a way of being able to make you laugh when you felt at your worst. He stood up for his friends at any cost and wasnt afraid of anything or anyone. The kind of person you would want your son to be like.

As sad as the funeral was, when Ray's gym teacher stood up and told the story about how at the age of 10 Ray told him he...

Mandy,their is not a thought or word that I could express at this moment that would ease the emotions that you are feeling.Mandy, you are in my thoughts and prayers with love,Cathleen's Mimi's and Meg's Dad