Hadley, Massachusetts
Age 79
Raymond Francis Bender, 79, passed peacefully on Monday evening, May 23, 2016, at home in the company of his beloved companion and caregiver, Mary E. Pelis, following a period of declining health. It was Ray’s wish, that the following be shared upon his passing…. “Except for the occasional sad...
Read MoreMary, We will miss Ray at our poolside chats. He was a charismatic, intellectual, and awesome guy. We will miss him dearly. Your neighbors Jeff,MaryAnn & family
Jeff & MaryAnn Mish
June 01, 2016 | Hadley, MA
Cheers!
Extraordinary man, blessed with elegant speech and command of the English language.
Missed but never forgotten.
Hugs Mary, you did him proud.
Patty Dunigan
Patty Dunigan
May 31, 2016 | Plymouth, MA
May the love of friends and family carry you through your grief.
ADAMS
May 27, 2016 | OH
Uncle Ray, I am honored to have the pleasure of calling you my family. I'll never forget what you and Mary did for me in helping me get my first job at Umass 34 years ago. You had a hand in steering my life in a very successful direction, thank you. You will be very missed, sleep well, Uncle Ray.
Lorie Orszulak
May 27, 2016 | Chicopee
First met Ray as a freshman at UMASS where we resided at Lewis Hall---a special guy who always brought a smile to my face--so sorry to hear of his passing--I will lift a glass in his memory---Joe Wooller--Tubac AZ
May 27, 2016
Mare,
Please put your trust in time and hope.....hopefully then the pain will become a little more bearable.
Hugs.
Di Lincoln
May 26, 2016 | Ware, MA
Ray's High School classmates will remember Ray, and we will raise a glass to him when we meet next week.
Peg Lavallee
May 26, 2016 | South Hadley, MA
Mary, My thoughts are with you, I hope you are taking good care of yourself.
Trouble Mandeson
May 26, 2016 | Greenfield, MA
Ray, It's been such a privilege to have known you. Always a gentleman and such an affectionate person. You are going to be missed by so many. Rest in peace my dear friend...
Kristen Kane
May 25, 2016 | Agawam, MA