Raymond-Bernard-Obituary

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Raymond O. Bernard

South Hadley, Massachusetts

Apr 19, 1958 – Oct 5, 2023

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BORN
April 19, 1958
DIED
October 5, 2023
LOCATION
South Hadley, Massachusetts
CHARITY
St. Jude Children's Research Hospital

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Raymond O. Bernard, 65, entered Eternal Life on October 5, 2023, with his family at his side after a brief illness.  He was born April 19, 1958, in Holyoke to the late Raymond O. and Rita (Guertin) Bernard.  Ray (known as Rusty in his younger years due to his red hair) grew up in Chicopee and attended Williston Academy.  He then earned a Bachelor of Science Business Administration Degree in Finance from Northeastern University in 1982.  Ray worked for Bank of Boston, Ann & Hope and the Toyota Corporation.  Always having an interest in health care, he became a registered nurse with an Associate Degree in Nursing from Springfield Technical Community College in 1993. Ray worked briefly at Baystate Medical Center before his 20-year career working as a correctional head nurse for the State of Connecticut Department of Corrections where he retired in 2013.  He was awarded several Gubernatorial Citations for Preservation of Life in 1995, 2003, 2004, and 2005 and Circle of Merit in 2004 and 2005.  


He was predeceased by his infant daughter Elizabeth M. Bernard in 1994 and his sister Michele R. (Bernard) Asselin in 2021. He is survived by his devoted wife of 31 years Margaret E. (Kelleher) Bernard and his loving son Nicholas R. Bernard. Also saddened by his loss are his sister’s children Mathieu R. Asselin of Somers CT and Margaux R. Lamirande of South Hadley and his brothers-in-law Richard W. Asselin and Timothy J. Kelleher of South Hadley and Patrick J. Kelleher of Marshfield MA and many cousins, nieces and nephews. 


Ray was immensely proud of his family and their achievements.  He was very sociable with a generous heart and had a way of making others feel special. He had wonderful memories and experiences with sports and scouting and passed on his enthusiasm and knowledge to many by his involvement with coaching youth sports and scout leadership. In his retirement Ray enjoyed travel and cruises with his family and a treasured trip to Ireland where he had hoped to return.  


An uncle introduced “Rusty” to fishing as a young boy, and this developed into a passion that only grew through the years.  He became an avid fisherman and enjoyed many vacations in Maine where fishing rarely disappointed.  Locally he treasured Quabbin Reservoir in his retirement.  Great Pond in Maine was truly his happy place and he had returned from a month at Bear Spring Camps just two weeks prior to his illness.  He was proud to recently have a trophy fish (with a story to match) mounted and displayed there securing his legacy. 


Calling hours will be Wednesday October 11th from 4:00 to 7:00pm at the O’Brien Family Funeral Home, 33 Lamb St., South Hadley. Funeral Mass will be Thursday October 12th at 11:00 am in St. Patrick’s Church. For more information or to make online condolences please go to obrienfamilyfh.com. In lieu of flowers Ray would be happy to have any contributions go to St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital.     


 

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Ray made working at HCC fun. That was a hard thing to do. I am so glad he was not quietly working on his pension but rather jokingly talking about the craziness around us. He always talked about his love of fishing with his son and happy times in Maine. He would tell me " You got to go to Maine and I would say I can´t get by Rhode Island." Dear family sorry for your loss.

Marge and Nick - Bear Springs Camp will not be the same without Ray. I am glad to have met him. You are all in my thoughts; I´m so sorry.

Marge and Nick, Sorry for the loss of Ray. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Donna Moran

As a new person to the street Ray welcomed me as if I grew up him. I send All that loved him the dearest sympathies, he was one of the few great men of the world. So when I think of Ray I will smile and I am sure many will do the same. CHEERS, to a great person

Marge & Nick I am so sorry for the loss of Ray. We were neighbors for 25 years and I will always remember the driveway talks or the yard discussions with Ray. If Ray was outside when I was coming or leaving, I knew we would have a talk. He was a friendly and gregarious guy. Knowing you all for 25 years I have many memories that I will keep close to my heart.

Marge, my heart is with you and Nick. I love you, Bestie, and am here if you need me