Timothy Hargrave Obituary - Death Notice and Service Information

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Readington, New Jersey

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Timothy J. Hargrave ‹ known to all as T. J. ‹ started working at age 6 and didn't stop until Sept. 11. As a child, his work was acting: he was in many television commercials, made regular appearances on "Guiding Light" and starred in a made-for-television movie called "The Prince of Central Park."

As an adult, Mr. Hargrave, 38, worked at Cantor Fitzgerald. But most of his prodigious energies went to those close to him: his wife, Patty; the friends they had made as far back as the Wayne, N.J., high school they both attended; his seven older siblings; his three young daughters; and all the girls on the soccer teams he coached.

"He was passionate about everything, and he was an everlasting friend," his wife said. "Once you were in his life, you stayed there. And he was the most devoted father you can imagine. He'd never played soccer a day in his life, but he wanted the girls to be involved in team sports, so he learned. I tell them, 'Some parents have their kids in soccer so they can have some time by themselves, but your father had you in soccer because he wanted to be with you.' "

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I know this is very late in recognizing TJ's passing. I worked with TJ back in 1983 / 1984 at a restaurant in Newark, DE while TJ was attending the University of Delaware for Engineering. I was a cook and TJ was a waiter during this time. He was not only extremely outgoing / friendly but a fierce bottle rocket of energy. When he would speak of his acting years on the Guiding light he gave the impression that they were not always fond memories. I think he just wanted to be a kid. Even...

Tony Stark

April 07, 2025

Happy heavenly birthday, you are never forgotten. <3

Cara

September 28, 2024

I think of you all the time and know that you are watching over your family. It is hard to believe it has been 22 years. Each time we have champagne we toast to you! You told us to drink champagne just to drink champagne, not only for special occasions. Thanks for that advice! RIP, T.J.

Val Davis

September 11, 2023 | Newtown, PA

I haven’t forgotten. I still miss you. Thanks for Nebraska ( Springsteen ) and American Recordings ( Cash ).

Chris Shelley

September 10, 2023 | Hackettstown, NJ | Friend

Anther year has gone by, and the memory of you is still here, never will you be forgotten.

Jeanne Ann Albright

September 11, 2017 | From Nutley, NJ

Rest in peace Every year I listen for your name May ur family have peace ❤ Peace to u Jaimie

Kathy Mini

September 14, 2016 | Brooklyn, NY

Thinking about you while at the 911 Museum and us doing the play lil Abner together.
Dale Mills

Dale Mills

December 07, 2015 | PA

Another year TJ has gone by without you here with your wife and children. The world remembers your name once a year on 9/11 but those who knew you remember your name in their daily prayers. God bless your soul, God bless your family, and may God bless America.

Jeanne Albright

September 13, 2015 | North Charleston, SC

Timmy, I miss you my friend. 14 years, hard to believe.

Joe

September 11, 2015 | NJ

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